Comments on: Thoughts and fantasies on guided masturbation

By: Heliotrope

Heliotrope — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:28:47 +0000

This is a gorgeous post. We should do this one day, soon.
(P.S. I am hanging around your archives, spying on your past.)

By: maymay

maymay — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 15:19:25 +0000

@thumber: No. As technically-minded as I am, I've never been inclined to write contracts for things like sex because my emotions are simply too cyclical for me to feel comfortable with some kind of written record of these things. It's not that I mind the written record, it's that I'm too anal to let a written record that isn't 100% stand so rather than have any sex I'd just end up updating the written any contracts. Meh. I'd rather with the talking and the play than the writing.

By: thumper

thumper — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 15:13:57 +0000

“When I’m not around her, I want to masturbate to fantasize about being with her and being controlled by her, but when she is around, I find that I don’t tend to start masturbating unless I ask her for permission first, *even though I don’t have to by our rules*.”

Maymay, I’m wondering if you have those rules written down somewhere. I’d assume, since you’re usually so good about linking to your previous posts (which is crucial to my enjoyment of your writings) that if they were online, you’d have linked to them. In either event, I’m curious if you have a contract or anything similar or if it’s all just verbal understandings. Thanks!

By: M.T.

M.T. — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 19:01:00 +0000

I enjoyed them a lot. Thanks!

By: maymay

maymay — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 18:18:00 +0000

Tam, if you haven't already read her writings yet, I think you may find Ms. Rika's opinions on the joy of orgasm denial interesting. They are certainly spot-on for me, no pun intended. ;)

By: Tam

Tam — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 17:34:00 +0000

I don't usually "guide" him (except that he asks before he comes, and I often say no), but I often have my boyfriend masturbate for me. I joke that I am having my beautiful slave bring him off. He's good at it and it's very sexy to watch. It helps that the way he touches himself looks very tender to me.

I was able to devise this fun game from his masturbation once, which I can't wait to play again. That really was kind of like using him as porn, or at least as a straight-up masturbatory aid. Yay!

By: maymay

maymay — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 18:27:00 +0000

I love the way she is using you as porn. Maybe you don't like that description, but I get a big kick out of it.

It's funny you should mention that specifically, because that is precisely the sensation I get when we play sometimes. Eileen has remarked on a few occasions how she enjoys creating situations that make me essentially a pornographic display for her to get off to, turning me into "real live porn", and everytime she partakes of that pleasure I really, really enjoy it. So no, I don't simply not mind that description, I love it

I truly adore the way you write about your partner.

::blush:: Thanks....

By: Bitchy Jones

Bitchy Jones — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 17:24:00 +0000

I love that last little story. I love the way she is using you as porn. Maybe you don’t like that description, but I get a big kick out of it.

I truly adore the way you write about your partner.

By: maymay

maymay — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 07:31:00 +0000

Thanks, Ms. Reciprocity. I’m glad you enjoyed this post. I agree, there is not a whole lot of information on guided masturbation, except in the case of the Peter Files web site I mentioned in my post. I was surprised to have found it, and I enjoyed finding it. ;)

I’m eager to see where such explorations may possibly take me under the guidance of my girlfriend.

By: Ms. Reciprocity

Ms. Reciprocity — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 05:48:00 +0000

I’ve always enjoyed guided masturbation; it’s so sexy for one, to watch a man masturbate and then to control how he does so while I watch…I might have to take a cold shower now. I’ve not found much about it online, so thanks for sharing your thoughts. It gives me some ideas for playing with my long distance pet.