Comments on: What sexuality might taste like if you were a submissive man in 2007 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/ Maymay's pursuit of life, liberty, and sexual freedom. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 05:03:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed › Open Thread: When Educators Are Censors http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-47990 Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed › Open Thread: When Educators Are Censors Thu, 17 Jun 2010 17:46:23 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-47990 [...] no surprise, really. I’ve gone through an incredible transformation from a disgruntled youth to what I believe I can safely describe as a sexual freedom community organizer this year. Merging [...] [...] no surprise, really. I’ve gone through an incredible transformation from a disgruntled youth to what I believe I can safely describe as a sexual freedom community organizer this year. Merging [...]

]]> By: Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed › Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-31445 Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed › Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make Tue, 09 Mar 2010 04:05:54 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-31445 [...] found myself. Yet, despite my incredible access to such resources, it was indescribably difficult (not to mention painful) for me to get to a point where I felt like I can enjoy my sexual submission as a valid part of my [...] [...] found myself. Yet, despite my incredible access to such resources, it was indescribably difficult (not to mention painful) for me to get to a point where I felt like I can enjoy my sexual submission as a valid part of my [...]

]]> By: westfal http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-30606 westfal Thu, 25 Feb 2010 03:48:28 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-30606 ....as another sub guy unfort these perspectives ring both personal and true........my good luck has been to meet some women who i was lucky to catch as their latent Domme-ness first began bubbling ........i also had similar feelings during my NYC days re TES and was heartened to hear that you'ze also had them more recently....my eternal quandry in the life seems to have been that just about all the women i would give my life (almost) to sub to have almost universally craved and begged me to Dom them!!??...oh well....does explain what a Domme remarked on me a while ago= ' boy for a sub you have great sadie topping skills!...fwiw anyways.......like the theme that male subbiness= my identity components though such a god awful burining hot one sometimes. ….as another sub guy unfort these perspectives ring both personal and true……..my good luck has been to meet some women who i was lucky to catch as their latent Domme-ness first began bubbling ……..i also had similar feelings during my NYC days re TES and was heartened to hear that you’ze also had them more recently….my eternal quandry in the life seems to have been that just about all the women i would give my life (almost) to sub to have almost universally craved and begged me to Dom them!!??…oh well….does explain what a Domme remarked on me a while ago= ‘ boy for a sub you have great sadie topping skills!…fwiw anyways…….like the theme that male subbiness= my identity components though such a god awful burining hot one sometimes.

]]> By: kikibug13 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-29702 kikibug13 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:02:10 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-29702 ... am I ever glad that I figure thing out listening to my own reason and common sense, as opposed to relying what any sort of community tells me. I can just say: Whatever your orientation, in any way of the word? ROCK ON. You're your own person, and the way you are, no matter who tells you or expects what. Yes. Even the angry is good. And deserved. <3 … am I ever glad that I figure thing out listening to my own reason and common sense, as opposed to relying what any sort of community tells me.

I can just say: Whatever your orientation, in any way of the word? ROCK ON. You’re your own person, and the way you are, no matter who tells you or expects what.

Yes. Even the angry is good. And deserved. <3

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]]> By: Crown Vic http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-310 Crown Vic Wed, 22 Aug 2007 04:33:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-310 <i>That is not to say that I don't fetch Eileen a drink when she tells me to (or, more likely, before she tells me to)...</i><br/><br/>I can see that as being hot, the problem I had was that there was no warm-up, no flirting, none of the normal things couples do to. I was insecure enough in my identity and then felt this pressure to act as a sort of helper monkey. I suppose I wanted to be recognized as Eileen recognized you. That is not to say that I don’t fetch Eileen a drink when she tells me to (or, more likely, before she tells me to)…

I can see that as being hot, the problem I had was that there was no warm-up, no flirting, none of the normal things couples do to. I was insecure enough in my identity and then felt this pressure to act as a sort of helper monkey. I suppose I wanted to be recognized as Eileen recognized you.

]]> By: maymay http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-300 maymay Tue, 21 Aug 2007 00:25:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-300 Devastating,<br/><br/>"<em>Joscelin and I do a lot more talking and hammering things out than we do playing or having sex, and I think that's the only way it could work for us.</em>"<br/><br/>That's exactly what happens between Eileen and I as well. I think a lot of the acts people put on a) don't just happen in the femdom arena and b) are a sign of misunderstanding, insecurity, or ignorance. Devastating,

“Joscelin and I do a lot more talking and hammering things out than we do playing or having sex, and I think that’s the only way it could work for us.“

That’s exactly what happens between Eileen and I as well. I think a lot of the acts people put on a) don’t just happen in the femdom arena and b) are a sign of misunderstanding, insecurity, or ignorance.

]]> By: devastatingyet http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-299 devastatingyet Mon, 20 Aug 2007 23:24:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/04/what-sexuality-might-taste-like-if-you-were-a-submissive-man-in-2007/#comment-299 The first night I met my lovely submissive now-boyfriend, he was carrying around a list of questions (not annoying ones, btw) for a potential domme. I wasn't a potential domme (in my own estimation) but I had such a great time going over the questions.<br/><br/>I don't understand this thing of dominant women being stern and humorless. (To be fair, only one domme I know of seems to be this way. I know three others, not including myself, who are not.) Is it a strategy? Or are some women dominant because they really are humorless and have to have their own way all the time? Or do they get spoiled by the attentions of submissive men?<br/><br/>I don't know. Sometimes I feel like the whole F/m scene is people putting on different acts trying, in vain, to attrach someone for whatever it is they really want. If somehow we could all drop the acts and just be open about what we're looking for, and maybe <em>then</em> get in role (whatever that role might be - whatever is fun for the people involved), it would be a lot easier.<br/><br/>Joscelin and I do a lot more talking and hammering things out than we do playing or having sex, and I think that's the only way it could work for us. The first night I met my lovely submissive now-boyfriend, he was carrying around a list of questions (not annoying ones, btw) for a potential domme. I wasn’t a potential domme (in my own estimation) but I had such a great time going over the questions.

I don’t understand this thing of dominant women being stern and humorless. (To be fair, only one domme I know of seems to be this way. I know three others, not including myself, who are not.) Is it a strategy? Or are some women dominant because they really are humorless and have to have their own way all the time? Or do they get spoiled by the attentions of submissive men?

I don’t know. Sometimes I feel like the whole F/m scene is people putting on different acts trying, in vain, to attrach someone for whatever it is they really want. If somehow we could all drop the acts and just be open about what we’re looking for, and maybe then get in role (whatever that role might be – whatever is fun for the people involved), it would be a lot easier.

Joscelin and I do a lot more talking and hammering things out than we do playing or having sex, and I think that’s the only way it could work for us.

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