Comments on: The first blowjob I’ve ever bottomed to http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/ Because 'kinky' is an adjective, not an activity Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:25:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: maymay http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-29655 maymay Tue, 09 Feb 2010 14:44:37 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-29655 <blockquote cite="#comment-29445">There are some nice ideas here, honestly. Sadly, none for lesbians…</blockquote> I suppose that could be true, <a href="#comment-29445" rel="nofollow">Carola</a>. I'm a man, not a lesbian. :) Then again, an idea can be as applicable as you make it. Do you know about <a href="http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/03/cock-confidence-and-the-kinkforall-conference/" rel="nofollow">Sinclair Sexsmith's awesome writings about "Cock Confidence"</a>? Perhaps something there might be more what you're looking for. Good luck and have fun!

There are some nice ideas here, honestly. Sadly, none for lesbians…

I suppose that could be true, Carola. I’m a man, not a lesbian. :) Then again, an idea can be as applicable as you make it. Do you know about Sinclair Sexsmith’s awesome writings about “Cock Confidence”? Perhaps something there might be more what you’re looking for. Good luck and have fun!

]]> By: Ari http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-29639 Ari Tue, 09 Feb 2010 08:01:22 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-29639 Carole's comment got my attention. It's not my thing personally, but there's a whole universe of dyke [strap-on] cock out there. There's also playing with pre/non-op trans female lovers. That the cocks are made of polymers with no nerve endings does not seem to be a big problem for their enthusiasts. Carole’s comment got my attention.

It’s not my thing personally, but there’s a whole universe of dyke [strap-on] cock out there. There’s also playing with pre/non-op trans female lovers.

That the cocks are made of polymers with no nerve endings does not seem to be a big problem for their enthusiasts.

]]> By: Carola Anne Caiafa http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-29445 Carola Anne Caiafa Sat, 06 Feb 2010 04:25:31 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-29445 There are some nice ideas here, honestly. Sadly, none for lesbians... There are some nice ideas here, honestly.

Sadly, none for lesbians…

]]> By: Adrian http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-19996 Adrian Sun, 06 Sep 2009 09:34:37 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-19996 Somehow I've never seen giving a blowjob as a necessarily submissive act. I mean, hello, teeth (sans a ring gag of course). There's an example in fiction that I can't resist mentioning, even if the receiver of the mentioned blowjob quite clearly didn't like it on any level; The Lies of Locke Lamora by Scott Lynch. The novel is set in the criminal underground of a city. There's a small story told for why the prostitutes are independent rather than being controlled by the other factions; during a regular visit I think around five of the girls held the leader of another faction at knife-and-teeth-point until he promised to let them run their own affairs. Somehow I’ve never seen giving a blowjob as a necessarily submissive act. I mean, hello, teeth (sans a ring gag of course).

There’s an example in fiction that I can’t resist mentioning, even if the receiver of the mentioned blowjob quite clearly didn’t like it on any level; The Lies of Locke Lamora by Scott Lynch. The novel is set in the criminal underground of a city. There’s a small story told for why the prostitutes are independent rather than being controlled by the other factions; during a regular visit I think around five of the girls held the leader of another faction at knife-and-teeth-point until he promised to let them run their own affairs.

]]> By: For the Love of Whatever « beyond the hills http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-11566 For the Love of Whatever « beyond the hills Sun, 19 Apr 2009 13:25:41 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-11566 [...] Giving oral sex is not an inherently submissive act. Seriously. Honestly and truly. [...] [...] Giving oral sex is not an inherently submissive act. Seriously. Honestly and truly. [...]

]]> By: maymay http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-261 maymay Mon, 13 Aug 2007 17:13:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-261 Sierra:<br/><br/><i>Sucking cock can be what you want it to be.</i><br/><br/>Heeeellllllll yes!<br/><br/><br/>Almost:<br/><br/><i>I think the moments when I've felt the most dominant and sexy at the same time were when I was giving blowjobs.</i><br/><br/>Well, I think <i>that's</i> quite hot. :)<br/><br/>Richard:<br/><br/><i>Top or bottom, vanilla or kinky I've always wanted to be the giver of pleasure.</i><br/><br/>I second that feeling; even when I'm the one being stimulated (which of course I enjoy immensely) it does very little for me if it's not being enjoyed. Sierra:

Sucking cock can be what you want it to be.

Heeeellllllll yes!

Almost:

I think the moments when I’ve felt the most dominant and sexy at the same time were when I was giving blowjobs.

Well, I think that’s quite hot. :)

Richard:

Top or bottom, vanilla or kinky I’ve always wanted to be the giver of pleasure.

I second that feeling; even when I’m the one being stimulated (which of course I enjoy immensely) it does very little for me if it’s not being enjoyed.

]]> By: Richard Evans Lee http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-253 Richard Evans Lee Sun, 12 Aug 2007 22:40:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-253 Top or bottom, vanilla or kinky I've always wanted to be the giver of pleasure. And outside of D/s have a strong need to set the pace.<br/><br/>So actually being the fellator was a rare pleasure. (Rare because most of my sex life has been gay and vanilla and I always attracted "total bottoms" - sigh ... Top or bottom, vanilla or kinky I’ve always wanted to be the giver of pleasure. And outside of D/s have a strong need to set the pace.

So actually being the fellator was a rare pleasure. (Rare because most of my sex life has been gay and vanilla and I always attracted “total bottoms” – sigh …

]]> By: almost http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-252 almost Sun, 12 Aug 2007 17:20:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-252 That's really quite hot. And I quite agree. <br/><br/>I think the moments when I've felt the most dominant and sexy at the same time were when I was giving blowjobs. That’s really quite hot. And I quite agree.

I think the moments when I’ve felt the most dominant and sexy at the same time were when I was giving blowjobs.

]]> By: Sierra http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-248 Sierra Sun, 12 Aug 2007 09:45:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-248 The idiot who came up with the notion that sucking cock was only a submissive act needs to be found and strung up.<br/> <br/>Sucking cock can be what you want it to be.<br/> <br/>That’s something I learned really well when I use to switch. I could see it as a dominant act when I was with my sub and then not even an hour later I could see it as submissive when I was with my dom. All it took was just changing my mindset to accept it as such.<br/><br/>The brain plays such a major part in sex, I just wish some people knew how to use it. The idiot who came up with the notion that sucking cock was only a submissive act needs to be found and strung up.

Sucking cock can be what you want it to be.

That’s something I learned really well when I use to switch. I could see it as a dominant act when I was with my sub and then not even an hour later I could see it as submissive when I was with my dom. All it took was just changing my mindset to accept it as such.

The brain plays such a major part in sex, I just wish some people knew how to use it.

]]> By: maymay http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-246 maymay Fri, 10 Aug 2007 23:55:00 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/2007/08/10/the-first-blowjob-ive-ever-bottomed-to/#comment-246 Also, more generally, what is inherently submissive about giving sexual stimulation at all? A lot of people's (especially submissive men's) mindsets about (especially female) dominance is, as you've written about numerous times, about avoiding sex at all costs. And that is stupid, and not sexy. Also, more generally, what is inherently submissive about giving sexual stimulation at all? A lot of people’s (especially submissive men’s) mindsets about (especially female) dominance is, as you’ve written about numerous times, about avoiding sex at all costs. And that is stupid, and not sexy.

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