Hey Professor,

In short: yes. The Internet is largely one-sided and very skewed towards a heterosexual dominant male viewpoint, but that much was obvious already.

As for filling this void (don’t make the awful pun, may, now’s not the time…) I don’t know who or exactly how to do it. As I mentioned on Devastating’s entry on this topic, I can’t say for certain I’d enjoy the circumstance if put into the situation myself, but I also can’t say the thought hasn’t appealed to me on numerous occasions. Part of what I see about it that is so erotically charged is expressing the surrender that comes with that kind of abuse. And I use the word abuse carefully, but deliberately. I don’t know what that says about me, but I do know that it is a very empowering feeling, being willing and able to fight, then lose and surrender, and then to still be okay. That, perhaps narcissistically, turns me on. But I’ve only done this with people who love me, and I may not be able to recover so well if I felt abused in this way (even in this way I wanted) by people who didn’t care for me.

I really need to blog about shame.

ahahahaha! How did I miss this fabulous sentence the first time around?

Lord, man, you have my number. I needed a glass of water just reading that. :)

“Is that *my* throne? Oh, thank you so much. Very comfy. Now bring in the dancing studly men please.”

(they don’t have to cry, but I’m not opposed to it, should the reaction arise)

hugs, E

You rule, Elizabeth. Here is your scepter and here is your crown. Now do some hurtybadwrongthings with that scepter, preferably with an objectifying bent pretty, pretty please? :)

And by the way, your comment on your own post today was so fucking right-on that I hope you’ll forgive the blatant re-post of it here:

“See, and I’ve never had a struggle with p0rn being degrading to women, even though so much of it *is* about degrading women.

I just want my fair share of degrading men! Is that so wrong?“

Not that porn is ever too far from most kinky people’s brains, I think.

I’ll disagree with my BFF BJ on Men in Pain. I like the site enough to pay for it.

Is it a *compromise*? Sure, I have to squint a lot to block out stuff that doesn’t work for me, but Claire and Total Euro are worth the price of admission. I just skip over the scenes where the director has him hooked to some weird contraption.

All porn that’s available to me is a compromise. Gay porn has good points to it, so does M/f. (In the right mood, I can do some elaborate mental gynamistics on M/f to float my boat.)

The reason most femdom porn can’t work for me is that objectification is one of my biggest kinks. Most if not all femdom porn objectifies the female, not the male….

FWIW, women who don’t identify as dominant have given more positive reaction to the faux porn on my blog than I would have imagined. More than one has said something like this, which is a near quote, “I never thought about spanking a man until I saw it on E’s blog, and now I think about it all the time.”

Small service I offer, upping the numbers of potential female partners for you guys, no extra charge. ;)

E

“There appear to actually be plenty with men. How many feature crying or would be up to your standards, I can’t say. But my pro domme friend is not a ponytail-wearing barbie, at least.”

Yeah, I’ve seen a good number of femdom/malesub videos I’d call pretty decent, too. I guess one of the points I was trying to get at in my post is that there’s an incredibly skewed representation of just about every form of sex in mainstream porn, but it’s especially apparent when it comes to gender and orientation combinations. I think equal representation might not be such a bad thing for the sex industry, or our sex lives.

Also, the other reason I posted this was to get more links to porn sites I might like. ;)

Bitchy and Calico:

Isn’t James Mogul starting LeatherDaddy.com for Kink now, too…?