Comments on: What every big sexuality community web site does wrong

By: Playing hard, and hard to get « Kink in exile

Playing hard, and hard to get « Kink in exile — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 07:09:54 +0000

[...] the other hand, I did feel respected when a fellow attendee approached me and asked for my opinions regarding TES’s web site (and others) because he had heard people mention my name in conversation about the topic. Likewise, I also felt [...]

By: maymay

maymay — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 21:44:28 +0000

May, if it weren’t black & red, then how would people know it’s a BDSM group?

I think all the pictures of people in stupid looking outfits would be my first clue. ;) Fucking fetish fashion. ::grump::

By: Tom Allen

Tom Allen — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 12:45:25 +0000

All that said, I still really wish it wasn’t a black-and-red color scheme.

:laughs:

May, if it weren’t black & red, then how would people know it’s a BDSM group?

By: maymay

maymay — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 17:06:52 +0000

I’d be interested to know what you think of http://www.fetlife.com

I think FetLife is very much its own class of web site. It’s not a sexuality community web site, it’s a sexuality social network. It enables one to build communities, which is different. It does what it does very well, and I commend the FetLife crew for their vocal and obvious efforts to prevent the site from being useful for ALT.com-style personals dating (such as the way they limit capabilities for searching for individual people), as well as for their efforts to make the site “friendly” to the majority of “non-lifestyle” people. So good on them for all that.

All that said, I still really wish it wasn’t a black-and-red color scheme.

By: Kai Dani

Kai Dani — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 10:22:01 +0000

I’d be interested to know what you think of http://www.fetlife.com

By: A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › The Pen Is The Tongue Of The Mind

A Place To Draw Blood Laughing › The Pen Is The Tongue Of The Mind — Mon, 12 May 2008 15:44:57 +0000

[...] throat of a young, beautiful, bound woman is thankfully no longer getting under my skin, because Maymay is a computer genius. I asked him to make sure that picture never shows when I load the home page, he fiddled a bit, [...]

By: Mz. Carmen

Mz. Carmen — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 22:22:57 +0000

you might as well either do a pod cast on this or present it in a bdsm function. BTW Very insightfull and educational. Kudos.

By: maymay

maymay — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 18:25:00 +0000

Random note of hilarity I just gleaned from my server logs: Conversio Virium's web site is now the number one Google hit for the phrase "TES meeting". After CV's hits, DSF's calendar shows up, then some Finnish site and a MySpace page, followed by the AppleMunch's (new Google) Calendar, followed by (at last) TES's own (outdated) FAQ page.

By: maymay

maymay — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 00:14:00 +0000

Hi Ropenuts,

"Hey May absolutely well said on the technical side and modus operandi of the existing webstite for TES.
But missing a lot in history Lolita filled in a nice chunk but really only skimmed the surface.

[…]

Sadly the real culprit in the TES website saga has been the boards involvement which has chased away anyone willing to volunteer and put the time in."

Thanks, and I'm sure I missed quite a bit of history. It's such a shame that this history is undoubtedly filled with battles of ego rather than battles for web site hits. Not only do they discourage volunteer efforts, as you mentioned, but what amazes me further is their obvious utter inability to get anything substantive accomplished on their own.

The TES board has long since been a largely dysfunctional mess of stupid political infighting, but that is kind of off topic and is best left to another post entirely.

"Give me a call sometime"

Well, I might do that if I knew who you were. I have an educated guess but no proof. Why don't you email me instead? :)

By: Ropenuts and other canards

Ropenuts and other canards — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 21:59:00 +0000

Hey May absolutely well said on the technical side and modus operandi of the existing webstite for TES.
But missing a lot in history Lolita filled in a nice chunk but really only skimmed the surface.

Kens responses, well I hate to say but you have nailed it on the head.

Give me a call sometime and I can fill you in on the history and problems of running the site as long as I did.

Sadly the real culprit in the TES website saga has been the boards involvement which has chased away anyone willing to volunteer and put the time in.