I used to, but haven’t done much in a few years. ButI just got my bike tuned up, ‘cos I’ve been into the fitness thing lately.

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Oh. You meant…

I, uh, cycle a lot, too, depending on how other things are going in my life. I think it’s pretty normal. Sometimes I just have to put all sex, not just the kinky stuff, out of my mind for a while in order to become more focused on things.

Other times Mrs. Edge and I just aren’t connecting for some reason – usually family stuff. For the last couple of weeks we’re not even going to bed at the same time, which tends to screw with the bonds of intimacy.

Oh, BTW, I take a perverse joy in being vague and confusing. I try to scale it back, but sometimes it’s just too tempting.

I’m actually in the enviable situation of living with a top who is exceptionally understanding and loving and patient. It’s she whom I feel bad for, having to live with me.

Submissive emotional space isn’t always available. And it can be a drain to be attached to a top who feels it should be there all the time no matter what. I love wanting to drop to my knees. But damn if I can help it if other parts of life – work – or, say, biochemistry, don’t let me. I think I’m missing as much as the top.

Sometimes you just have to get through the day, do the needful things. Having to do what is necessary to pay the mortgage or keep the electricity turned on isn’t sexy. But the consequences of inaction aren’t the least sexy. Or submissive.

Indeed, as we learned in marching band…”don’t lock your knees!”

May — well, hang in there anyway, it’ll come back. With a vengance, I’m sure :D

That was an awesome comment. :)

I know I sometimes have times where I don’t feel like domming much. I’ll still fantasise about domsex, but I have little inclination to carry it out.

I think dominance and submission are really quite draining, and probably many people wax and wane a bit.

Since you mention you’ve had an unproductive day at work, maybe you’re just going through a general flat period?

But thanks for the kind words anyways. Those are always very nice.

Then, I read the rest of the post.

Goodness me, yes. I don’t know how long you and Eileen have been together, but of COURSE relationships cycle. Kink IME cycles too. For me it sometimes has to do with hormones — around my period I get all super-sensitive to everything, including smells, pain, and other stimulus. So sometimes what I want or need at those times is different than other times. But sometimes it’s just about what else is going in “IRL.”

Your comment about time really struck home with me, because my libido has been kind of down this past week (it’s so unusual for me that being down for a WEEK is like a “sound the alarms” kind of situation, ’cause I’m jus’ a horndog…), and yeah. I just feel like my very limited time with the boyfriend could be so much better spent talking (jeez, I mean, when was the last time I saw him, yesterday? What’s he been up to?!), just more being together, rather than getting it on. Which would not only cut into that time, but will also cut into my limited sleeping time. So yeah. Just not feeling it this week.

Anyway, hang in there, I’m sure you’ll pull out of that funk. Hopefully RL will slow down a bit and you can get your mind all sexy once more.