Like Kitty said, you’re not too young to know what you’re interested in, especially not because you’re a girl. There are quite a few people at my local munch who are 18 or 19, and I’m pretty sure that a switch didn’t suddenly flip in their heads when they turned 18.

Please try not to take what your mother says to heart – she probably just doesn’t understand kink and is worried about your safety. People worry far more about women who bottom because if you don’t understand BDSM, an awesome scene where everyone has fun looks a lot like domestic violence.

In terms of information resources, I really like reading people’s blogs. They aren’t necessarily as informative as a site like scarleteen, but I find them a lot easier to relate to. It took me a long time to get into kink because I didn’t relate to the stereotypes at all, but once I started reading forums, I found out that kinky people are actually not that weird :)

I have kicked it’s arse, so please try again.

Oh, and if you are on twitter, you can also send me a DM there (Ferns__).

Ferns

Thanks for helping (and the rest of you too) I really appreciate it.

I also had a question: I tried to click “email” on your blog, but it says I don’t have the something something installed correctly so it won’t let me. Any suggestions? Sorry if I’m a nuisance.

Thanks again.

I think many of us have been there, and in fact your comment has prompted me to write a post about what we do to help young people who are essentially kept out of all the places where there might be resources and information that will help them to find support and others ‘like them’.

I have a booklist on my blog if you are interested to take a look and I am more than happy to lend an ear if you want to email with someone who is old enough to be your mother (my contact email is in my blogger profile).

Ferns

Edited by maymay to include a link to Ferns’ post so readers can follow whatever comes of that thread there, too.

I don’t come across as somebody you’d expect to be possibly kinky if you met me in person, so I’m sure there are other people out there like me who may seem shy, or innocent, or such, when in reality they aren’t.

You sound pretty much exactly like me! Including the being there at 16 bit. I don’t have any particular “great” resources, but I’m now 21 and still kinky and having a lot of fun — being out of state at school most of the time has helped with the parents thing, although most of my BDSM community experience was over a summer when I lived at home.

If you want to find good, kinky, written porn, I suggest exploring fanfiction. Some of it doesn’t even require knowledge of the source material. Kink Bingo on Dreamwidth is a good place to start — they have a lot of good stuff, tagged by kinks. If you like an author, click on their journal to read more. Hopefully Dreamwidth/LJ aren’t caught in your filters somewhere, but you might still use incognito mode in Chrome to keep history clear.

Hah, I used to use my SquiggleWriggleWriter and tie myself up with my blankie!

@Hannah

This was one of my favourite resources- http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html

Take it with a grain of salt, but it’s got a lot of interesting, though-provoking reading. I don’t agree with all of it, but it’s still good reading.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Even just that made me feel so much better.

I’ve had my mom catch me googling stuff before (hence the heavy parental controls) and she’s only said enough to yell at me/say she’s disgusted, and then put stronger controls, or take the computer away, etc.

I really just wanted some honest answers or information or just support, really. Thanks again.