- I make an effort to look decent: white button down, nice jeans, product in my hair. If only I had breasts, I could get away with murder. #
- If it’s not obvious by my scowling at my desk, I have a VERY short fuse. It’s a weakness I try to turn into a strength, but beware it today. #
- @Kioma I’d need to shave before a padded bra would do me any good. On an unrelated note, what’s http://Footprints-RPG.org in your own words? #
- Who’s planning to attend the $60 weekend computer security conference http://RUXCON.org.au hosted at UTS? I’d go if I’ll know someone there. #
- Gotta watch my temper more closely. Nearly went off on a rant expressing frustration at coworkers slow pace picking up iterative practices. #
- @wendyblackheart To train boys well you need to understand them first. If you don’t, your training regime and tactics won’t be as effective. #
- @wendyblackheart Cosmo’s advice is entirely about training GIRLS, not boys, & it’s not even good. I thought that was obvious from its cover. #
- @wendyblackheart I guess my last tweet admitted I’ve looked at Cosmo covers recently…for the articles! I really should get back to work now. #
- Overheard: “Since it’s really important that we fix some bugs in this iteration, maybe we should treat them with a little more respect….” :D #
- @sanbeiji Awesome+congrats! Wish I had progressed on Ch 2 but alas, I haven’t. Things are hard cuz we’re not iterating fast. Let’s fix that? #
- @jnau Agile can’t work when done piecemeal. Gotta be “all of it, all together, all at once” See Mike Cohn http://icanhaz.com/agiletransition #
- @gregdwyer Might be too slow, but you could try using http://TORproject.org which lets you choose exit nodes based on geo-location, I think. #
- @jnau I’ve never seen Agile done well either but its ideas resonate w/me so I apply what I can myself. Screw others & their wastefulness. :) #
- Okay, ew. Usually ModFetish has hawt stuff but this literally made me cringe in disgust http://tinyurl.com/5lmxm7 (NSFW!) I like teh curves. #
- Confession time…sometimes I go through my “Sent Mail” folder just to reread emails I’ve sent to friends that I miss (like @ProblmLikeMaria). #
- @katebornstein Fuck, was going to tweet but then saw yours and thought maybe they want a third. Now can’t remember what I was going to type. #
- O ya! Was gonna say I’m disappointed in myself for not having completed more writing+am angry at world+job for exploding at such bad timing. #
- Love @ work. Me: “Me making the bed makes you feel like an adult?” @BloodyLaughter: “Yup! That’s the kind of adult I want to be!” Me: “Wow.” #
- @katebornstein I’ll try to remember Catlin’s words, then. It just feels difficult to feel productive when I don’t have a word count, though. #
- @katebornstein @Kioma The pic disgusted me cuz it’s meant to be erotic & I know more than 1 person who likely thinks it is, including an ex. #
- @ProblmLikeMaria @majamajamaja I like making the bed because @BloodyLaughter thinks I’m all servile and sexy when I do it. No complaints! ;) #
- @BloodyLaughter Yes, write more pr0n. @raquelita thinks it’s fit enough to print. Not sure why you never liked erotic lit @conversiovirium. #
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Audience participation
- maymay on A moment
- Aconite on A moment
- Nameless on Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Favorite HNT of 2008 | Kink Unleashed on Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- maymay on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- Dawn on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- maymay on MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- michael on MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- maymay on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- subversive_sub on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
Fresh off the grill… (aka. "Yay! Stalker updates!")
- "[S]imply 'making up new elements' isn’t a solution to how to increase the semantic capacity of HTML," @johnallsopp argues http://tr.im/30i5 7 hrs ago
- Still annoyed at being ill & not getting much written except some paragraphs of craptastic notes for @IgniteSydney. Dinner was good, though. 8 hrs ago
- @Stranahan I'm impatient & we both believe poly people like us shouldn't have to wait for "freedom." I need to eat—thx for the post+chat. :) in reply to Stranahan 11 hrs ago
- @Stranahan Granted, but doesn't nature of problem suggest its solution: unravel inappropriate conflations. Admittedly, I'm an INTJ engineer. in reply to Stranahan 11 hrs ago
- @Stranahan Well, if you want to talk about blurring lines I can't think of a better example than mixing contract law with evolving morality. in reply to Stranahan 11 hrs ago
- More updates...
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Recently noted
- Midwest Teen Sex Show
Teen sex education as it should be. 'Nuff said. Brilliant, engaging, and humorous sexuality education for teens and young adults (and many not-so-young adults, too, I'd wager). This is a must see production that is practical and down to Earth. Why can't more people talk about sex this way?
- Yay genderform!
A web form that gives you 925 distinct options for identifying your gener, sex, orientation, or other sexually-related components of identity. In total, this gives you 2.8363×10^278 or 283 unnovemgintillion possible combinations. Apparently that's more than the number of particles in the universe, which may or may not be enough to describe all of humanity's sexual combinations. ;)
- Gay marriage: the database engineering perspective @ Things Of Interest
One of the few written discussions I've ever encountered that discusses how technology might need to change in order to decouple itself from the mass of gender-biased assumptions embedded in most systems today. Worth a look if you're a database geek and you're interested in GLBT rights/social change of any kind.
- GenderAnalyzer - Determine if a homepage is written by a man or woman
This tool analyzes a web page's textual content and tried to discern whether the author is male or female. It is, sadly, limited to a binary view of gender and, unsurprisingly, guessed the gender of many blogs that contain non-heteronormative content I supplied it with completely incorrectly. Nevertheless, it's an interesting use of artificial intelligence and is something I'm very fascinated by seeing appear on the Internet.
- Erika Moen's Comics
A fantastic collection of very poignant and touching webcomics about gender and GLBT issues in general. A highly, highly recommended (and fast!) read.
- Midwest Teen Sex Show
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Stuff in the back of my cage
- ►2008 (211)
- ►December 2008
- ►November 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-11-24
- Stalker update for 2008-11-23
- MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- Stalker update for 2008-11-14
- Stalker update for 2008-11-13
- Stalker update for 2008-11-11
- Stalker update for 2008-11-10
- Stalker update for 2008-11-09
- Stalker update for 2008-11-08
- Stalker update for 2008-11-07
- Stalker update for 2008-11-06
- Stalker update for 2008-11-05
- Stalker update for 2008-11-04
- Stalker update for 2008-11-03
- Stalker update for 2008-11-02
- Stalker update for 2008-11-01
- ►October 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-10-31
- Stalker update for 2008-10-30
- Being someone's fucktoy: Who's objectifying who?
- Stalker update for 2008-10-29
- Wednesday Wanderings: Gendered Semantic Web, Vulcan Sex, and more
- Stalker update for 2008-10-28
- Stalker update for 2008-10-27
- Stalker update for 2008-10-26
- Stalker update for 2008-10-25
- Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- Stalker update for 2008-10-24
- Stalker update for 2008-10-23
- Stalker update for 2008-10-22
- Stalker update for 2008-10-21
- I like feeling like a beginner again
- Stalker update for 2008-10-20
- Stalker update for 2008-10-19
- Stalker update for 2008-10-18
- Stalker update for 2008-10-17
- Stalker update for 2008-10-16
- Stalker update for 2008-10-15
- Stalker update for 2008-10-14
- Stalker update for 2008-10-13
- Stalker update for 2008-10-12
- Stalker update for 2008-10-11
- Stalker update for 2008-10-10
- Stalker update for 2008-10-09
- Stalker update for 2008-10-08
- Stalker update for 2008-10-07
- Stalker update for 2008-10-06
- Stalker update for 2008-10-05
- FetSpank This! WordPress Plugin submits your posts to FetSpank.com
- Stalker update for 2008-10-04
- Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Stalker update for 2008-10-03
- Stalker update for 2008-10-02
- Stalker update for 2008-10-01
- ►September 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-09-30
- Stalker update for 2008-09-29
- Stalker update for 2008-09-28
- Stalker update for 2008-09-27
- Stalker update for 2008-09-26
- Stalker update for 2008-09-25
- Stalker update for 2008-09-24
- Top Ten Tips for Long-Term Male Chastity Device Wear
- Stalker update for 2008-09-23
- Stalker update for 2008-09-22
- Insomnia and pleasant sexual frustration (no relation)
- Stalker update for 2008-09-21
- Stalker update for 2008-09-20
- Stalker update for 2008-09-19
- Stalker update for 2008-09-18
- Stalker update for 2008-09-17
- Stalker update for 2008-09-16
- My latest sex toy review and thoughts at day's end
- Stalker update for 2008-09-15
- Stalker update for 2008-09-14
- Stalker update for 2008-09-13
- An Un-Wednesday Wandering: So-Called "Top" 100 Sex Bloggers
- Stalker update for 2008-09-12
- Stalker update for 2008-09-11
- Stalker update for 2008-09-10
- Stalker update for 2008-09-09
- Stalker update for 2008-09-08
- Stalker update for 2008-09-07
- Stalker update for 2008-09-06
- Stalker update for 2008-09-05
- Stalker update for 2008-09-04
- Stalker update for 2008-09-03
- Stalker update for 2008-09-02
- Stalker update for 2008-09-01
- ►August 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-08-31
- Stalker update for 2008-08-30
- Stalker update for 2008-08-29
- Stalker update for 2008-08-28
- Stalker update for 2008-08-27
- Stalker update for 2008-08-26
- Stalker update for 2008-08-25
- Stalker update for 2008-08-24
- Stalker update for 2008-08-23
- Stalker update for 2008-08-22
- Stalker update for 2008-08-21
- Stalker update for 2008-08-20
- Stalker update for 2008-08-19
- Stalker update for 2008-08-18
- Stalker update for 2008-08-17
- Stalker update for 2008-08-16
- Stalker update for 2008-08-15
- Stalker update for 2008-08-14
- Stalker update for 2008-08-13
- Stalker update for 2008-08-12
- Stalker update for 2008-08-11
- Stalker update for 2008-08-10
- Stalker update for 2008-08-09
- Stalker update for 2008-08-08
- Stalker update for 2008-08-07
- Stalker update for 2008-08-06
- Stalker update for 2008-08-05
- Rocking the Boat. By which I mean I also enjoy a good facial
- Stalker update for 2008-08-04
- Stalker update for 2008-08-03
- Stalker update for 2008-08-02
- Stalker update for 2008-08-01
- Stale and stagnant, also whips
- ►July 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-07-31
- Stalker update for 2008-07-30
- Stalker update for 2008-07-29
- Stalker update for 2008-07-28
- Stalker update for 2008-07-27
- Stalker update for 2008-07-26
- Stalker update for 2008-07-25
- Stalker update for 2008-07-24
- Stalker update for 2008-07-23
- Stalker update for 2008-07-22
- Stalker update for 2008-07-21
- Stalker update for 2008-07-20
- Stalker update for 2008-07-19
- Stalker update for 2008-07-18
- Stalker update for 2008-07-17
- Stalker update for 2008-07-16
- Stalker update for 2008-07-15
- Stalker update for 2008-07-14
- Stalker update for 2008-07-13
- Stalker update for 2008-07-12
- Stalker update for 2008-07-11
- Stalker update for 2008-07-10
- Stalker update for 2008-07-09
- Stalker update for 2008-07-08
- This is not the post you're looking for
- Stalker update for 2008-07-07
- Stalker update for 2008-07-06
- Stalker update for 2008-07-05
- Stalker update for 2008-07-04
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- ►June 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-06-30
- Stalker update for 2008-06-29
- Stalker update for 2008-06-28
- Stalker update for 2008-06-27
- Stalker update for 2008-06-26
- Stalker update for 2008-06-25
- Stalker update for 2008-06-24
- Young people into BDSM are not exceptional
- Stalker update for 2008-06-23
- Stalker update for 2008-06-22
- Stalker update for 2008-06-21
- Call for participation: Hyperfiction and Hypertextual Porn
- Stalker update for 2008-06-20
- Stalker update for 2008-06-19
- Stalker update for 2008-06-18
- Stalker update for 2008-06-17
- Stalker update for 2008-06-16
- Stalker update for 2008-06-15
- Stalker update for 2008-06-14
- Stalker update for 2008-06-13
- Stalker update for 2008-06-12
- Stalker update for 2008-06-11
- Stalker update for 2008-06-10
- Stalker update for 2008-06-09
- Sexism at Large in American Politics: Armed and Dangerous
- Stalker update for 2008-06-08
- Stalker update for 2008-06-07
- Stalker update for 2008-06-06
- Stalker update for 2008-06-05
- Stalker update for 2008-06-04
- Stalker update for 2008-06-03
- Stalker update for 2008-06-02
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- ►May 2008
- ►April 2008
- ►March 2008
- ►February 2008
- ►January 2008
- Giving me wings
- The Selfish Highlight Reel: Rhode Island Fetish Flair Flea-market Recap
- Why Orgasm Logger? Well, why not?
- Wednesday Wanderings #9: Winds of Change
- Fantasy Worlds
- Because Submissive is an Orientation
- America's Sexual Sampler Platter: Everything but Me is on the Menu
- One thousand words
- Wednesday Wanderings #8: Mixed Visions for the New Year
- If this is 2008, then I don't have any resolutions
- ►2007 (125)
- ►December 2007
- The Sexism of Politeness
- It doesn't matter if she's got a brain when your dick is in her
- Three easy steps to meeting and playing with people in BDSM clubs
- Harlem, 2 AM, and Group Dynamics
- Merry Christmas, with picture presents!
- Unwelcome: The Emotional Effects of Social Injustice
- The boy next door is also bisexual
- The Sexism of Sex and Smarts
- Wednesday Wanderings: Welcome Back and Fond Farewell
- How an outdated view of masculinity ignores the needs of all men
- Fun with kissing
- We're all different: when sex isn't attractive
- Rope bondage video of the day
- Normal is anything but
- An Exemplar of Conservative Hypocrisy
- Nurture is stronger than you think
- 'Sexually uninhibited' is PC for 'slut'
- Love sex or fear god? That is the question.
- The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong
- Men and masks in porn
- Transgender Basics
- On Friends and Enemies
- Black Rose XX Recap: An Introduction
- ►November 2007
- ►October 2007
- ►September 2007
- Stupid, stupid gay tops are just as bad as other men and women
- When I'm not feeling submissive
- Orgasm Logger source code available
- Hardware rearrangements cause Orgasm Logger to come down
- How not to fuck up a D/s relationship
- Sex is nice and porn is good for your society
- And now for something completely different
- Sex and Technology: How technological innovation pushes the boundaries of human sexuality and vice versa
- ►August 2007
- Flying, the kinky sex orgasm, and the lack thereof
- What almost everybody else doesn't get about bisexuality
- The kink culture of fear
- A moment
- Orgasm Logger is down but I'm in Jersey
- Kink on Tap 7: Tom Allen
- Kink on Tap 6: Sexual Teasing and Denial
- I want to be a pretty boy
- What every big sexuality community web site does wrong
- More men need to cry on the big porn screen
- Pegging gets mainstream attention and kinky porn gets rightfully slapped upside its head
- The first blowjob I've ever bottomed to
- What sexuality might taste like if you were a submissive man in 2007
- Real Ultimate Male Chastity
- Your fantasy is not reality, and you should know better
- ►July 2007
- The case against supremacy
- How to make my space bigger
- There is so little space for me
- Aneros Helix Sex Toy Review
- Quick Thoughts on Blogging, Bisexuality, and Prostate Stimulation (no relation)
- Where's the pain?
- Don't be nice
- (Off Topic) Meme: Random Seven
- Changes are no good, or whatever
- Kink on Tap 5: Bitchy Jones
- Kink on Tap 4: Conversio Virium
- ►June 2007
- ►May 2007
- Thoughts on extended scenes and play headspaces
- Professional Domination is actually Professional, remember?
- Sex Services versus Sex Products
- Kink on Tap 3: Porn and Prejudice
- Kink on Tap 1 and 2: The Big Hard Cock, Kink in Culture
- Intoxicants in (and as) BDSM
- Everyone's a little bit selfish sometimes
- Once in 48 days
- A Truly Belated Wednesday Wanderings
- The Truth About Anonymity
- ►April 2007
- ►March 2007
- Whips and chains may break my bones but words will always hurt more
- On the wonderfulness of thongs and chastity devices
- Marching on: Wednesday Wanderings
- Is submissive intent influenced by orgasms?
- Thoughts and fantasies on guided masturbation
- Wednesday Wanderings for March 21st
- Abandoned, accidental orgasm
- Anticipation in teasing
- Ecstagony's article on safety risks for face slapping play
- Face slapping and my many reactions to it
- Theory: Why subs write more than dom(me)s
- This Week's Wednesday Wandering
- The difference money makes
- Tell me I'm yours and tell me I'm good
- New erotica: Good boy, good pet
- I get off on unfairness
- Avoiding the orgasmic let down by avoiding responsibility?
- BDSM as an emotional sexuality all its own
- First Weekly Wednesday Wandering
- Feminization as the perfect creation
- Strap on vanilla sex and emotions in D/s sex
- Is it possible for a submissive to ever be truly polyamorous?
- Feeling well-trained is emotionally satisfying
- The body as our canvas for expression
- Homeostasis, conditioning, and orgasm denial
- Teasing and denial: you kind of need both parts
- Male chastity devices available today suck
- Is there such a thing as regular sex?
- ►February 2007
- The psychology of conditioning in a D/s relationship
- Breathing as a sexual teasing technique
- Finally a take on D/s that rings true for me
- Does this mean I'm an erotica writer now?
- Teasing, Denial, and Orgasm Control Games on Erotic Humiliation
- Stream of consciousness on BDSM 101
- Ramblings of a boy with a fetish for orgasm control
- Trading for (some) anonymity and publicity
- ►December 2007
- ►2008 (211)
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- Beginner BDSM (17)
- Bisexuality (10)
- Bitter and jealous (11)
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