- Why is the fact that one is not happy when one goes to work not proof enough for that person that ideas of work are wrong? It is for me. #
- The http://livelykernel.sunlabs.com is the most amazing JavaScript & SVG project I’ve seen in some time; SmallTalk-esque world in a browser! #
- First time getting feedback on my tech writing. This makes me realize how much better I’ve gotten accepting and learning from such critique. #
- TOTD: 1. The less you trust someone the fewer reasons they have to be trustworthy. 2. Being productive has nothing to do w/being in control. #
- @lanej0 Wow dude, that sounds like one mean lamp. Might be put to better use keeping a pie warm on your window sill, eh? ;) Okay I’m hungry. #
- If you think this economic crisis is “bad,” you don’t know jack. http://tinyurl.com/6r94m9 Wow. Just wow. Epic epic fail. (via @katebedwell) #
- New tool: “Make a case for not attending meetings and impress your boss with your cost sensitivity.” http://payscale.com/meeting-miser LOVE! #
- @alicam IMHO the Great Australian Firewall will do nothing to protect your children cuz hiding porn from them does not equate to protection. #
- Heh, I keep forgetting that in Australia “to go” orders are called “take away” orders. I think I confused the waitress. #stupidamerican #
- @alicam It’s not NSA spyware that slows USA networks it’s greedy Telecoms. Rather than upgrade infrastructure they’d rather downgrade users. #
- Great posts: 1. No-class markup for better CSS http://tinyurl.com/62b7pq 2. display:table; in CSS for grid layouts http://tinyurl.com/58s77m #
- Sounds fun: “snap pictures of people on the street and then…converting the pictures into accurate naked 3D models” http://tinyurl.com/66qowf #
- Okay by “fun” I meant “totally creepy in a really fascinating way that forces important issues of digital privacy” http://tinyurl.com/6zj73o #
- It bugs me that I see so little activity from my tweeple friends during the day and then there’s lots when I’m headed to bed…damn timezones. #
- @katebornstein :) Yes but I’d rather catch up with you guys than get to work on time. I have enough trouble in the mornings as is. Now, bed. #
- @unspeakableaxe The reason kink/fetish events are cheaper for women is blatantly obvious: sexism. Women are products, men are the consumers. #
- @unspeakableaxe You can’t. Logic: If Axe has a penis & all people w/penises consume, then Axe must be a consumer. I call it “socket method.” #
- @unspeakableaxe People = stupid. What does sex have to do with biology? It’s all politics. See also my entire blog http://tinyurl.com/68a32x #
- Grr. Why does @Twitter make URLs redirects after I post? It doesn’t save me space + bad for web arch. reliability! http://tinyurl.com/2odkkm #
- @unspeakableaxe Quote at will. See my license (attribution, non-commercial, no-derivs.) I found if talking abt sex + let people remix = BAD! #
- @unspeakableaxe Yeah, it’s what I said. :) No need to dbl check. If I fuck up which I will eventually do, I might as well fuck up in public. #
- @girlonetrack Vanilla version of what @unspeakableaxe & I were saying. http://icanhaz.com/sexistwomen Women=spend $ on looking good=products #
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Audience participation
- maymay on A moment
- Aconite on A moment
- Nameless on Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Favorite HNT of 2008 | Kink Unleashed on Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- maymay on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- Dawn on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- maymay on MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- michael on MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- maymay on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- subversive_sub on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
Fresh off the grill… (aka. "Yay! Stalker updates!")
- Sadly true. :( RT @anthonyrstevens: good programmers spend…majority of…time fixing problems created by [bad ones]. http://tinyurl.com/a785sm 24 mins ago
- @katebornstein Thanks Kate. I'm doing my best to inhale as much tea as my sore throat and clogged sinuses will let me handle. Booses on ill! in reply to katebornstein 40 mins ago
- We've semantics in elements, attributes, document pairs, and now even Semantic Style Sheets? Is this good, or bad? http://tinyurl.com/8lroyv 41 mins ago
- @fergusb #Google & Best Buy's involvement with hProduct @Microformats development is indeed interesting…. Do you think it will help or hurt? in reply to fergusb 2 hrs ago
- @fva I can see value in same-gender #co-working, as long as people don't resort to some kind of misguided isolationism as sometimes happens. in reply to fva 2 hrs ago
- More updates...
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Recently noted
- Midwest Teen Sex Show
Teen sex education as it should be. 'Nuff said. Brilliant, engaging, and humorous sexuality education for teens and young adults (and many not-so-young adults, too, I'd wager). This is a must see production that is practical and down to Earth. Why can't more people talk about sex this way?
- Yay genderform!
A web form that gives you 925 distinct options for identifying your gener, sex, orientation, or other sexually-related components of identity. In total, this gives you 2.8363×10^278 or 283 unnovemgintillion possible combinations. Apparently that's more than the number of particles in the universe, which may or may not be enough to describe all of humanity's sexual combinations. ;)
- Gay marriage: the database engineering perspective @ Things Of Interest
One of the few written discussions I've ever encountered that discusses how technology might need to change in order to decouple itself from the mass of gender-biased assumptions embedded in most systems today. Worth a look if you're a database geek and you're interested in GLBT rights/social change of any kind.
- GenderAnalyzer - Determine if a homepage is written by a man or woman
This tool analyzes a web page's textual content and tried to discern whether the author is male or female. It is, sadly, limited to a binary view of gender and, unsurprisingly, guessed the gender of many blogs that contain non-heteronormative content I supplied it with completely incorrectly. Nevertheless, it's an interesting use of artificial intelligence and is something I'm very fascinated by seeing appear on the Internet.
- Erika Moen's Comics
A fantastic collection of very poignant and touching webcomics about gender and GLBT issues in general. A highly, highly recommended (and fast!) read.
- Midwest Teen Sex Show
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Stuff in the back of my cage
- ►2008 (211)
- ►December 2008
- ►November 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-11-24
- Stalker update for 2008-11-23
- MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- Stalker update for 2008-11-14
- Stalker update for 2008-11-13
- Stalker update for 2008-11-11
- Stalker update for 2008-11-10
- Stalker update for 2008-11-09
- Stalker update for 2008-11-08
- Stalker update for 2008-11-07
- Stalker update for 2008-11-06
- Stalker update for 2008-11-05
- Stalker update for 2008-11-04
- Stalker update for 2008-11-03
- Stalker update for 2008-11-02
- Stalker update for 2008-11-01
- ►October 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-10-31
- Stalker update for 2008-10-30
- Being someone's fucktoy: Who's objectifying who?
- Stalker update for 2008-10-29
- Wednesday Wanderings: Gendered Semantic Web, Vulcan Sex, and more
- Stalker update for 2008-10-28
- Stalker update for 2008-10-27
- Stalker update for 2008-10-26
- Stalker update for 2008-10-25
- Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- Stalker update for 2008-10-24
- Stalker update for 2008-10-23
- Stalker update for 2008-10-22
- Stalker update for 2008-10-21
- I like feeling like a beginner again
- Stalker update for 2008-10-20
- Stalker update for 2008-10-19
- Stalker update for 2008-10-18
- Stalker update for 2008-10-17
- Stalker update for 2008-10-16
- Stalker update for 2008-10-15
- Stalker update for 2008-10-14
- Stalker update for 2008-10-13
- Stalker update for 2008-10-12
- Stalker update for 2008-10-11
- Stalker update for 2008-10-10
- Stalker update for 2008-10-09
- Stalker update for 2008-10-08
- Stalker update for 2008-10-07
- Stalker update for 2008-10-06
- Stalker update for 2008-10-05
- FetSpank This! WordPress Plugin submits your posts to FetSpank.com
- Stalker update for 2008-10-04
- Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Stalker update for 2008-10-03
- Stalker update for 2008-10-02
- Stalker update for 2008-10-01
- ►September 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-09-30
- Stalker update for 2008-09-29
- Stalker update for 2008-09-28
- Stalker update for 2008-09-27
- Stalker update for 2008-09-26
- Stalker update for 2008-09-25
- Stalker update for 2008-09-24
- Top Ten Tips for Long-Term Male Chastity Device Wear
- Stalker update for 2008-09-23
- Stalker update for 2008-09-22
- Insomnia and pleasant sexual frustration (no relation)
- Stalker update for 2008-09-21
- Stalker update for 2008-09-20
- Stalker update for 2008-09-19
- Stalker update for 2008-09-18
- Stalker update for 2008-09-17
- Stalker update for 2008-09-16
- My latest sex toy review and thoughts at day's end
- Stalker update for 2008-09-15
- Stalker update for 2008-09-14
- Stalker update for 2008-09-13
- An Un-Wednesday Wandering: So-Called "Top" 100 Sex Bloggers
- Stalker update for 2008-09-12
- Stalker update for 2008-09-11
- Stalker update for 2008-09-10
- Stalker update for 2008-09-09
- Stalker update for 2008-09-08
- Stalker update for 2008-09-07
- Stalker update for 2008-09-06
- Stalker update for 2008-09-05
- Stalker update for 2008-09-04
- Stalker update for 2008-09-03
- Stalker update for 2008-09-02
- Stalker update for 2008-09-01
- ►August 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-08-31
- Stalker update for 2008-08-30
- Stalker update for 2008-08-29
- Stalker update for 2008-08-28
- Stalker update for 2008-08-27
- Stalker update for 2008-08-26
- Stalker update for 2008-08-25
- Stalker update for 2008-08-24
- Stalker update for 2008-08-23
- Stalker update for 2008-08-22
- Stalker update for 2008-08-21
- Stalker update for 2008-08-20
- Stalker update for 2008-08-19
- Stalker update for 2008-08-18
- Stalker update for 2008-08-17
- Stalker update for 2008-08-16
- Stalker update for 2008-08-15
- Stalker update for 2008-08-14
- Stalker update for 2008-08-13
- Stalker update for 2008-08-12
- Stalker update for 2008-08-11
- Stalker update for 2008-08-10
- Stalker update for 2008-08-09
- Stalker update for 2008-08-08
- Stalker update for 2008-08-07
- Stalker update for 2008-08-06
- Stalker update for 2008-08-05
- Rocking the Boat. By which I mean I also enjoy a good facial
- Stalker update for 2008-08-04
- Stalker update for 2008-08-03
- Stalker update for 2008-08-02
- Stalker update for 2008-08-01
- Stale and stagnant, also whips
- ►July 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-07-31
- Stalker update for 2008-07-30
- Stalker update for 2008-07-29
- Stalker update for 2008-07-28
- Stalker update for 2008-07-27
- Stalker update for 2008-07-26
- Stalker update for 2008-07-25
- Stalker update for 2008-07-24
- Stalker update for 2008-07-23
- Stalker update for 2008-07-22
- Stalker update for 2008-07-21
- Stalker update for 2008-07-20
- Stalker update for 2008-07-19
- Stalker update for 2008-07-18
- Stalker update for 2008-07-17
- Stalker update for 2008-07-16
- Stalker update for 2008-07-15
- Stalker update for 2008-07-14
- Stalker update for 2008-07-13
- Stalker update for 2008-07-12
- Stalker update for 2008-07-11
- Stalker update for 2008-07-10
- Stalker update for 2008-07-09
- Stalker update for 2008-07-08
- This is not the post you're looking for
- Stalker update for 2008-07-07
- Stalker update for 2008-07-06
- Stalker update for 2008-07-05
- Stalker update for 2008-07-04
- Stalker update for 2008-07-03
- Stalker update for 2008-07-02
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- ►June 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-06-30
- Stalker update for 2008-06-29
- Stalker update for 2008-06-28
- Stalker update for 2008-06-27
- Stalker update for 2008-06-26
- Stalker update for 2008-06-25
- Stalker update for 2008-06-24
- Young people into BDSM are not exceptional
- Stalker update for 2008-06-23
- Stalker update for 2008-06-22
- Stalker update for 2008-06-21
- Call for participation: Hyperfiction and Hypertextual Porn
- Stalker update for 2008-06-20
- Stalker update for 2008-06-19
- Stalker update for 2008-06-18
- Stalker update for 2008-06-17
- Stalker update for 2008-06-16
- Stalker update for 2008-06-15
- Stalker update for 2008-06-14
- Stalker update for 2008-06-13
- Stalker update for 2008-06-12
- Stalker update for 2008-06-11
- Stalker update for 2008-06-10
- Stalker update for 2008-06-09
- Sexism at Large in American Politics: Armed and Dangerous
- Stalker update for 2008-06-08
- Stalker update for 2008-06-07
- Stalker update for 2008-06-06
- Stalker update for 2008-06-05
- Stalker update for 2008-06-04
- Stalker update for 2008-06-03
- Stalker update for 2008-06-02
- Stalker update for 2008-06-01
- ►May 2008
- ►April 2008
- ►March 2008
- ►February 2008
- ►January 2008
- Giving me wings
- The Selfish Highlight Reel: Rhode Island Fetish Flair Flea-market Recap
- Why Orgasm Logger? Well, why not?
- Wednesday Wanderings #9: Winds of Change
- Fantasy Worlds
- Because Submissive is an Orientation
- America's Sexual Sampler Platter: Everything but Me is on the Menu
- One thousand words
- Wednesday Wanderings #8: Mixed Visions for the New Year
- If this is 2008, then I don't have any resolutions
- ►2007 (125)
- ►December 2007
- The Sexism of Politeness
- It doesn't matter if she's got a brain when your dick is in her
- Three easy steps to meeting and playing with people in BDSM clubs
- Harlem, 2 AM, and Group Dynamics
- Merry Christmas, with picture presents!
- Unwelcome: The Emotional Effects of Social Injustice
- The boy next door is also bisexual
- The Sexism of Sex and Smarts
- Wednesday Wanderings: Welcome Back and Fond Farewell
- How an outdated view of masculinity ignores the needs of all men
- Fun with kissing
- We're all different: when sex isn't attractive
- Rope bondage video of the day
- Normal is anything but
- An Exemplar of Conservative Hypocrisy
- Nurture is stronger than you think
- 'Sexually uninhibited' is PC for 'slut'
- Love sex or fear god? That is the question.
- The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong
- Men and masks in porn
- Transgender Basics
- On Friends and Enemies
- Black Rose XX Recap: An Introduction
- ►November 2007
- ►October 2007
- ►September 2007
- Stupid, stupid gay tops are just as bad as other men and women
- When I'm not feeling submissive
- Orgasm Logger source code available
- Hardware rearrangements cause Orgasm Logger to come down
- How not to fuck up a D/s relationship
- Sex is nice and porn is good for your society
- And now for something completely different
- Sex and Technology: How technological innovation pushes the boundaries of human sexuality and vice versa
- ►August 2007
- Flying, the kinky sex orgasm, and the lack thereof
- What almost everybody else doesn't get about bisexuality
- The kink culture of fear
- A moment
- Orgasm Logger is down but I'm in Jersey
- Kink on Tap 7: Tom Allen
- Kink on Tap 6: Sexual Teasing and Denial
- I want to be a pretty boy
- What every big sexuality community web site does wrong
- More men need to cry on the big porn screen
- Pegging gets mainstream attention and kinky porn gets rightfully slapped upside its head
- The first blowjob I've ever bottomed to
- What sexuality might taste like if you were a submissive man in 2007
- Real Ultimate Male Chastity
- Your fantasy is not reality, and you should know better
- ►July 2007
- The case against supremacy
- How to make my space bigger
- There is so little space for me
- Aneros Helix Sex Toy Review
- Quick Thoughts on Blogging, Bisexuality, and Prostate Stimulation (no relation)
- Where's the pain?
- Don't be nice
- (Off Topic) Meme: Random Seven
- Changes are no good, or whatever
- Kink on Tap 5: Bitchy Jones
- Kink on Tap 4: Conversio Virium
- ►June 2007
- ►May 2007
- Thoughts on extended scenes and play headspaces
- Professional Domination is actually Professional, remember?
- Sex Services versus Sex Products
- Kink on Tap 3: Porn and Prejudice
- Kink on Tap 1 and 2: The Big Hard Cock, Kink in Culture
- Intoxicants in (and as) BDSM
- Everyone's a little bit selfish sometimes
- Once in 48 days
- A Truly Belated Wednesday Wanderings
- The Truth About Anonymity
- ►April 2007
- ►March 2007
- Whips and chains may break my bones but words will always hurt more
- On the wonderfulness of thongs and chastity devices
- Marching on: Wednesday Wanderings
- Is submissive intent influenced by orgasms?
- Thoughts and fantasies on guided masturbation
- Wednesday Wanderings for March 21st
- Abandoned, accidental orgasm
- Anticipation in teasing
- Ecstagony's article on safety risks for face slapping play
- Face slapping and my many reactions to it
- Theory: Why subs write more than dom(me)s
- This Week's Wednesday Wandering
- The difference money makes
- Tell me I'm yours and tell me I'm good
- New erotica: Good boy, good pet
- I get off on unfairness
- Avoiding the orgasmic let down by avoiding responsibility?
- BDSM as an emotional sexuality all its own
- First Weekly Wednesday Wandering
- Feminization as the perfect creation
- Strap on vanilla sex and emotions in D/s sex
- Is it possible for a submissive to ever be truly polyamorous?
- Feeling well-trained is emotionally satisfying
- The body as our canvas for expression
- Homeostasis, conditioning, and orgasm denial
- Teasing and denial: you kind of need both parts
- Male chastity devices available today suck
- Is there such a thing as regular sex?
- ►February 2007
- The psychology of conditioning in a D/s relationship
- Breathing as a sexual teasing technique
- Finally a take on D/s that rings true for me
- Does this mean I'm an erotica writer now?
- Teasing, Denial, and Orgasm Control Games on Erotic Humiliation
- Stream of consciousness on BDSM 101
- Ramblings of a boy with a fetish for orgasm control
- Trading for (some) anonymity and publicity
- ►December 2007
- ►2008 (211)
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- BDSM psychology (51)
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- BDSM techniques (10)
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- Beginner BDSM (17)
- Bisexuality (10)
- Bitter and jealous (11)
- Blowjobs (3)
- Bondage (6)
- Chastity/Orgasm denial (33)
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