- Hazards of kinky life: explaining why there are no clasps on your “jewelry.” Radiologist was a good sport, said “Ok we’ll work with it.” #
- @audaciaray @mistressmatisse Thirded. I don’t get the appeal of Halloween as 1 night a year. Why not just do whatever you want all the time? #
- @wendyblackheart If I ever need an MRI then health concerns trump kinky living. However, often an MRI is only one of many diagnosis options. #
- http://tr.im/oyf “Ppl who think gimmicks like discounts make up for disregarding women’s comfort belies stupidity at best, sexism at worst.” #
- OMG moment of the day: I made my first website when I was 12yo = I’ve been doing webdev FOR 12 YEARS! In my defense, I am not entirely sane. #
- RT @SitePointDotCom: “allergic to the term process cuz it implies linearity[…]good design is an emergent outcome.” http://tinyurl.com/6ow6z7 #
- @wendyblackheart That’s what big, strong Firefighters are for. They have these great metal tools that can cut through anything. ::fansself:: #
- @mrsexsmith My first (public) site is still archived: http://maymay.net/bpd/old/ I’ve always been really proud of it (but not for its code). #
- @wendyblackheart Don’t tell, but it’s the black+yellow uniforms & the boots that do it for me. Also, images of their sweaty bodies naked. :) #
- @thepete I’m actually better at sport-cracking than @BloodyLaughter, but she has investments in certain other uses for those whips. As do I. #
- @ryancross I just signed up for http://BarCampSydney.org. I’ve never been to a BarCamp before but offered to present on semantic web anyway. #
- @jdub Your presentation at http://SLUG.org.au was fun+funny! I never knew mutt=vim for email. Everyone listen to http://twit.tv/floss16 FTW! #
- I like Warren Buffett’s “Be fearful when others are greedy, and greedy when others are fearful” cuz it applies to every form of opportunity. #
- @jdub I should admit to not knowing who you were before I listened to that, nor did I realize who I was speaking to when I met Rob Collins…. #
- The difficult thing when things don’t go the way I hoped isn’t that they didn’t work out but how lonely I feel after it’s all said and done. #
- @jdub Here here! I got the same feeling when I went to #WDS08. Made great connections w/ @johnallsopp, @davidseth, & @mattymcg among others. #
- @DaLzz Kinda ditto for me. I typically start late+work late, so at night (like now) I’m in bed playing with iPhone apps instead of sleeping. #
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Audience participation
- maymay on A moment
- Aconite on A moment
- Nameless on Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Favorite HNT of 2008 | Kink Unleashed on Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- maymay on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- Dawn on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- maymay on MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- michael on MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- maymay on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
- subversive_sub on Introducing KinkForAll: A no-limits gender and sexuality unconference
Fresh off the grill… (aka. "Yay! Stalker updates!")
- @fergusb #Google & Best Buy's involvement with hProduct @Microformats development is indeed interesting…. Do you think it will help or hurt? in reply to fergusb 1 hr ago
- @fva I can see value in same-gender #co-working, as long as people don't resort to some kind of misguided isolationism as sometimes happens. in reply to fva 1 hr ago
- Damned illness. It's beautiful this morning yet I feel like total shit, which is kind of putting a damper on the whole birds chirping thing. 1 hr ago
- "[S]imply 'making up new elements' isn’t a solution to how to increase the semantic capacity of HTML," @johnallsopp argues http://tr.im/30i5 10 hrs ago
- Still annoyed at being ill & not getting much written except some paragraphs of craptastic notes for @IgniteSydney. Dinner was good, though. 10 hrs ago
- More updates...
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Recently noted
- Midwest Teen Sex Show
Teen sex education as it should be. 'Nuff said. Brilliant, engaging, and humorous sexuality education for teens and young adults (and many not-so-young adults, too, I'd wager). This is a must see production that is practical and down to Earth. Why can't more people talk about sex this way?
- Yay genderform!
A web form that gives you 925 distinct options for identifying your gener, sex, orientation, or other sexually-related components of identity. In total, this gives you 2.8363×10^278 or 283 unnovemgintillion possible combinations. Apparently that's more than the number of particles in the universe, which may or may not be enough to describe all of humanity's sexual combinations. ;)
- Gay marriage: the database engineering perspective @ Things Of Interest
One of the few written discussions I've ever encountered that discusses how technology might need to change in order to decouple itself from the mass of gender-biased assumptions embedded in most systems today. Worth a look if you're a database geek and you're interested in GLBT rights/social change of any kind.
- GenderAnalyzer - Determine if a homepage is written by a man or woman
This tool analyzes a web page's textual content and tried to discern whether the author is male or female. It is, sadly, limited to a binary view of gender and, unsurprisingly, guessed the gender of many blogs that contain non-heteronormative content I supplied it with completely incorrectly. Nevertheless, it's an interesting use of artificial intelligence and is something I'm very fascinated by seeing appear on the Internet.
- Erika Moen's Comics
A fantastic collection of very poignant and touching webcomics about gender and GLBT issues in general. A highly, highly recommended (and fast!) read.
- Midwest Teen Sex Show
Events of potential interest (back in New York City)-
Stuff in the back of my cage
- ►2008 (211)
- ►December 2008
- ►November 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-11-24
- Stalker update for 2008-11-23
- MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- Stalker update for 2008-11-14
- Stalker update for 2008-11-13
- Stalker update for 2008-11-11
- Stalker update for 2008-11-10
- Stalker update for 2008-11-09
- Stalker update for 2008-11-08
- Stalker update for 2008-11-07
- Stalker update for 2008-11-06
- Stalker update for 2008-11-05
- Stalker update for 2008-11-04
- Stalker update for 2008-11-03
- Stalker update for 2008-11-02
- Stalker update for 2008-11-01
- ►October 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-10-31
- Stalker update for 2008-10-30
- Being someone's fucktoy: Who's objectifying who?
- Stalker update for 2008-10-29
- Wednesday Wanderings: Gendered Semantic Web, Vulcan Sex, and more
- Stalker update for 2008-10-28
- Stalker update for 2008-10-27
- Stalker update for 2008-10-26
- Stalker update for 2008-10-25
- Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- Stalker update for 2008-10-24
- Stalker update for 2008-10-23
- Stalker update for 2008-10-22
- Stalker update for 2008-10-21
- I like feeling like a beginner again
- Stalker update for 2008-10-20
- Stalker update for 2008-10-19
- Stalker update for 2008-10-18
- Stalker update for 2008-10-17
- Stalker update for 2008-10-16
- Stalker update for 2008-10-15
- Stalker update for 2008-10-14
- Stalker update for 2008-10-13
- Stalker update for 2008-10-12
- Stalker update for 2008-10-11
- Stalker update for 2008-10-10
- Stalker update for 2008-10-09
- Stalker update for 2008-10-08
- Stalker update for 2008-10-07
- Stalker update for 2008-10-06
- Stalker update for 2008-10-05
- FetSpank This! WordPress Plugin submits your posts to FetSpank.com
- Stalker update for 2008-10-04
- Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Stalker update for 2008-10-03
- Stalker update for 2008-10-02
- Stalker update for 2008-10-01
- ►September 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-09-30
- Stalker update for 2008-09-29
- Stalker update for 2008-09-28
- Stalker update for 2008-09-27
- Stalker update for 2008-09-26
- Stalker update for 2008-09-25
- Stalker update for 2008-09-24
- Top Ten Tips for Long-Term Male Chastity Device Wear
- Stalker update for 2008-09-23
- Stalker update for 2008-09-22
- Insomnia and pleasant sexual frustration (no relation)
- Stalker update for 2008-09-21
- Stalker update for 2008-09-20
- Stalker update for 2008-09-19
- Stalker update for 2008-09-18
- Stalker update for 2008-09-17
- Stalker update for 2008-09-16
- My latest sex toy review and thoughts at day's end
- Stalker update for 2008-09-15
- Stalker update for 2008-09-14
- Stalker update for 2008-09-13
- An Un-Wednesday Wandering: So-Called "Top" 100 Sex Bloggers
- Stalker update for 2008-09-12
- Stalker update for 2008-09-11
- Stalker update for 2008-09-10
- Stalker update for 2008-09-09
- Stalker update for 2008-09-08
- Stalker update for 2008-09-07
- Stalker update for 2008-09-06
- Stalker update for 2008-09-05
- Stalker update for 2008-09-04
- Stalker update for 2008-09-03
- Stalker update for 2008-09-02
- Stalker update for 2008-09-01
- ►August 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-08-31
- Stalker update for 2008-08-30
- Stalker update for 2008-08-29
- Stalker update for 2008-08-28
- Stalker update for 2008-08-27
- Stalker update for 2008-08-26
- Stalker update for 2008-08-25
- Stalker update for 2008-08-24
- Stalker update for 2008-08-23
- Stalker update for 2008-08-22
- Stalker update for 2008-08-21
- Stalker update for 2008-08-20
- Stalker update for 2008-08-19
- Stalker update for 2008-08-18
- Stalker update for 2008-08-17
- Stalker update for 2008-08-16
- Stalker update for 2008-08-15
- Stalker update for 2008-08-14
- Stalker update for 2008-08-13
- Stalker update for 2008-08-12
- Stalker update for 2008-08-11
- Stalker update for 2008-08-10
- Stalker update for 2008-08-09
- Stalker update for 2008-08-08
- Stalker update for 2008-08-07
- Stalker update for 2008-08-06
- Stalker update for 2008-08-05
- Rocking the Boat. By which I mean I also enjoy a good facial
- Stalker update for 2008-08-04
- Stalker update for 2008-08-03
- Stalker update for 2008-08-02
- Stalker update for 2008-08-01
- Stale and stagnant, also whips
- ►July 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-07-31
- Stalker update for 2008-07-30
- Stalker update for 2008-07-29
- Stalker update for 2008-07-28
- Stalker update for 2008-07-27
- Stalker update for 2008-07-26
- Stalker update for 2008-07-25
- Stalker update for 2008-07-24
- Stalker update for 2008-07-23
- Stalker update for 2008-07-22
- Stalker update for 2008-07-21
- Stalker update for 2008-07-20
- Stalker update for 2008-07-19
- Stalker update for 2008-07-18
- Stalker update for 2008-07-17
- Stalker update for 2008-07-16
- Stalker update for 2008-07-15
- Stalker update for 2008-07-14
- Stalker update for 2008-07-13
- Stalker update for 2008-07-12
- Stalker update for 2008-07-11
- Stalker update for 2008-07-10
- Stalker update for 2008-07-09
- Stalker update for 2008-07-08
- This is not the post you're looking for
- Stalker update for 2008-07-07
- Stalker update for 2008-07-06
- Stalker update for 2008-07-05
- Stalker update for 2008-07-04
- Stalker update for 2008-07-03
- Stalker update for 2008-07-02
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- ►June 2008
- Stalker update for 2008-06-30
- Stalker update for 2008-06-29
- Stalker update for 2008-06-28
- Stalker update for 2008-06-27
- Stalker update for 2008-06-26
- Stalker update for 2008-06-25
- Stalker update for 2008-06-24
- Young people into BDSM are not exceptional
- Stalker update for 2008-06-23
- Stalker update for 2008-06-22
- Stalker update for 2008-06-21
- Call for participation: Hyperfiction and Hypertextual Porn
- Stalker update for 2008-06-20
- Stalker update for 2008-06-19
- Stalker update for 2008-06-18
- Stalker update for 2008-06-17
- Stalker update for 2008-06-16
- Stalker update for 2008-06-15
- Stalker update for 2008-06-14
- Stalker update for 2008-06-13
- Stalker update for 2008-06-12
- Stalker update for 2008-06-11
- Stalker update for 2008-06-10
- Stalker update for 2008-06-09
- Sexism at Large in American Politics: Armed and Dangerous
- Stalker update for 2008-06-08
- Stalker update for 2008-06-07
- Stalker update for 2008-06-06
- Stalker update for 2008-06-05
- Stalker update for 2008-06-04
- Stalker update for 2008-06-03
- Stalker update for 2008-06-02
- Stalker update for 2008-06-01
- ►May 2008
- ►April 2008
- ►March 2008
- ►February 2008
- ►January 2008
- Giving me wings
- The Selfish Highlight Reel: Rhode Island Fetish Flair Flea-market Recap
- Why Orgasm Logger? Well, why not?
- Wednesday Wanderings #9: Winds of Change
- Fantasy Worlds
- Because Submissive is an Orientation
- America's Sexual Sampler Platter: Everything but Me is on the Menu
- One thousand words
- Wednesday Wanderings #8: Mixed Visions for the New Year
- If this is 2008, then I don't have any resolutions
- ►2007 (125)
- ►December 2007
- The Sexism of Politeness
- It doesn't matter if she's got a brain when your dick is in her
- Three easy steps to meeting and playing with people in BDSM clubs
- Harlem, 2 AM, and Group Dynamics
- Merry Christmas, with picture presents!
- Unwelcome: The Emotional Effects of Social Injustice
- The boy next door is also bisexual
- The Sexism of Sex and Smarts
- Wednesday Wanderings: Welcome Back and Fond Farewell
- How an outdated view of masculinity ignores the needs of all men
- Fun with kissing
- We're all different: when sex isn't attractive
- Rope bondage video of the day
- Normal is anything but
- An Exemplar of Conservative Hypocrisy
- Nurture is stronger than you think
- 'Sexually uninhibited' is PC for 'slut'
- Love sex or fear god? That is the question.
- The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong
- Men and masks in porn
- Transgender Basics
- On Friends and Enemies
- Black Rose XX Recap: An Introduction
- ►November 2007
- ►October 2007
- ►September 2007
- Stupid, stupid gay tops are just as bad as other men and women
- When I'm not feeling submissive
- Orgasm Logger source code available
- Hardware rearrangements cause Orgasm Logger to come down
- How not to fuck up a D/s relationship
- Sex is nice and porn is good for your society
- And now for something completely different
- Sex and Technology: How technological innovation pushes the boundaries of human sexuality and vice versa
- ►August 2007
- Flying, the kinky sex orgasm, and the lack thereof
- What almost everybody else doesn't get about bisexuality
- The kink culture of fear
- A moment
- Orgasm Logger is down but I'm in Jersey
- Kink on Tap 7: Tom Allen
- Kink on Tap 6: Sexual Teasing and Denial
- I want to be a pretty boy
- What every big sexuality community web site does wrong
- More men need to cry on the big porn screen
- Pegging gets mainstream attention and kinky porn gets rightfully slapped upside its head
- The first blowjob I've ever bottomed to
- What sexuality might taste like if you were a submissive man in 2007
- Real Ultimate Male Chastity
- Your fantasy is not reality, and you should know better
- ►July 2007
- The case against supremacy
- How to make my space bigger
- There is so little space for me
- Aneros Helix Sex Toy Review
- Quick Thoughts on Blogging, Bisexuality, and Prostate Stimulation (no relation)
- Where's the pain?
- Don't be nice
- (Off Topic) Meme: Random Seven
- Changes are no good, or whatever
- Kink on Tap 5: Bitchy Jones
- Kink on Tap 4: Conversio Virium
- ►June 2007
- ►May 2007
- Thoughts on extended scenes and play headspaces
- Professional Domination is actually Professional, remember?
- Sex Services versus Sex Products
- Kink on Tap 3: Porn and Prejudice
- Kink on Tap 1 and 2: The Big Hard Cock, Kink in Culture
- Intoxicants in (and as) BDSM
- Everyone's a little bit selfish sometimes
- Once in 48 days
- A Truly Belated Wednesday Wanderings
- The Truth About Anonymity
- ►April 2007
- ►March 2007
- Whips and chains may break my bones but words will always hurt more
- On the wonderfulness of thongs and chastity devices
- Marching on: Wednesday Wanderings
- Is submissive intent influenced by orgasms?
- Thoughts and fantasies on guided masturbation
- Wednesday Wanderings for March 21st
- Abandoned, accidental orgasm
- Anticipation in teasing
- Ecstagony's article on safety risks for face slapping play
- Face slapping and my many reactions to it
- Theory: Why subs write more than dom(me)s
- This Week's Wednesday Wandering
- The difference money makes
- Tell me I'm yours and tell me I'm good
- New erotica: Good boy, good pet
- I get off on unfairness
- Avoiding the orgasmic let down by avoiding responsibility?
- BDSM as an emotional sexuality all its own
- First Weekly Wednesday Wandering
- Feminization as the perfect creation
- Strap on vanilla sex and emotions in D/s sex
- Is it possible for a submissive to ever be truly polyamorous?
- Feeling well-trained is emotionally satisfying
- The body as our canvas for expression
- Homeostasis, conditioning, and orgasm denial
- Teasing and denial: you kind of need both parts
- Male chastity devices available today suck
- Is there such a thing as regular sex?
- ►February 2007
- The psychology of conditioning in a D/s relationship
- Breathing as a sexual teasing technique
- Finally a take on D/s that rings true for me
- Does this mean I'm an erotica writer now?
- Teasing, Denial, and Orgasm Control Games on Erotic Humiliation
- Stream of consciousness on BDSM 101
- Ramblings of a boy with a fetish for orgasm control
- Trading for (some) anonymity and publicity
- ►December 2007
- ►2008 (211)
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- BDSM safety (12)
- BDSM techniques (10)
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- Beginner BDSM (17)
- Bisexuality (10)
- Bitter and jealous (11)
- Blowjobs (3)
- Bondage (6)
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