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Stalker Update for 2009-11-01

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@DarthBitsy Not sure what you mean by the you/me in "good at throwing things at you (me)". Altho yeah, I'm not nuts—this is entirely unfair. in reply to DarthBitsy #
Finally #writing that #blog post I've been meaning to. Feels #good. But my 1,000 words have somehow grown to 3,662. Time for an editing run. #
My apt walls are tragically thin. When the #neighbors' child runs, I hear loud thuds. SO unbelievably #annoying. Like nails on a chalkboard. #
@MollyRen Yay! Looking forward to seeing you at #KFADC! Please help us spread the word about it? #Tweeting the URL helps: http://tr.im/kfadc in reply to MollyRen #

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  And it’s kind of sad that I hadn’t actually seen a counter-example before.I know what you mean, C.. Check out MaleSubmissionArt.com for a collection of some more counter-examples.Read more comments by maymay […]
- Stupid Business People Who Don’t Get Business
  Hah! I strongly second your response. I’ve gotten pretty good with that delete button, but I’ve sent my fair share of ranty email replies, too. :) maymay´s last blog ..I celebrated KinkForAll’s 1 year anniversary on the radio! Read more comments by maymay […]
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
  Sorry Maymay, I reject your whole argument.That’s fine with me, Billus, although I’m pretty unconvinced you’ve actually read much of this post, especially since you ask “are we fooling ourselves when we…maintain equality outside of the bedroom” as though you expect me to disagree with you. ;)I do wonder, however, what you actually disagree with, since you do […]
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-07
  I ♥ my server logs, too. ;) ♺ @ConfidentInCali: Checking my server logs, some people read my blog at church! Presbyterians are kinky freaks. #Proud of myself for my Spanish translation at http://SexEdEverywhere.com. I impressed 2 native speakers! Vote to get us even more resources! #♺ @KinkForAll Thinking abt your KinkForAll presentation topic yet? #KFASF #0 […]
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
  I think that part of the problem in discussing submission is that there really isn’t a syntax, a language that makes it clear for the reader or listener.Right, Tom. So, uh, let’s fix that. Without it, we can’t answer your question: are we all event talking about the same thing?, not to mention all the intra-personal and intra-relationship problems that arise […]
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- Crouching in darkness, a man with long hair perches on his fists and the balls of his feet, his hair thrown over his face, covering much of his naked body.
  
  I don’t typically like photographs whose levels have been altered for “artistic effect,” but for some reason this red-toned picture, sent in by John Pickman, appeals to me. John noted that the photograph is by S. E. Rider, and wrote:
  
  This photo was part of an exploration of D/s themes and ideas between my partner at the time (the photographer) and I. I like this one in particular because it seems archetypal, removed from the constraints of any one person or place. Submission isn’t something you do, it’s something you are, and we tried to capture that.
  
  Interestingly, this image doesn’t seem to evoke submissiveness to me, but rather strength, possibly even anger. The curled, almost gorilla-like crouched pose along with the hot red and white coloring brings rebellious, not docile, thoughts to mind. Although it might seem an inappropriate thing to put on a site called “Male Submission Art,” I think it’s crucial for “submissive people” like me to acknowledge when we’re not feeling submissive.
  
  I’m often annoyed by inappropriate expectations of docility many have of me when the only thing they know is that I use the label “submissive” to refer to my sexuality, and I find any formulation of submission that denies me agency repugnant. Articulating sexually submissive desires becomes even more challenging when the language available to discuss them fumbles so gracelessly and without distinction between fantasy and reality. It’s one thing to experience pleasure from a position of “meekness” (one of many synonyms for “submission” by Thesaurus.com), it is quite another to live meekly.
  
  -maymay
  
  03/14/10
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Sunday, November 1, 2009

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