- A "you can't please every1" mindset can be a pathetic copout used as an excuse to stay willfully ignorant. I don't respect many who have it. #
- The worst pains are unexplainable pains. Tonight I feel hurt, #sad & alone. Tonight reminded me how small a space I have: http://ur1.ca/gxi1 #
- I'm not smiling enough today. My body might be at work, but apparently my brain isn't. I couldn't even get the date right on some paperwork. #
- Learning about PPOs & HMOs. In a nutshell: they are fuckers. Since I wasn't covered last year I probably have a pre-existing condition. #hcr #
- @apgwoz I propose adding #JS as an alias for #JavaScript. Seems like it's unused and it's much, much shorter. :) Happy holidays, by the way. #
- IE's #AlphaImageLoader filter: big rendering speed diffs btw 100, 1k & 10k times but only milliseconds reported by #JavaScript. Why? #webdev #
- Survey finds 6% of men admit to #rape if & only if survey questions don't include "R word." http://tr.im/GlPH #feminism (via @clarissethorn) #
- Definitely having a bad day. I can't understand why a recursive grep totally skipped a directory w/o reason. #WTF, universe? It's not funny. #
- "As more ppl make content online, what noncommercial use is important to understand." @CreativeCommons study: http://ur1.ca/gz4n via @sannse #
- Y'know what I'm rly sick & tired of? People agreeing w/me privately but remaining silent in public discussions. You're NOT helping that way. #
- @EssinEm This time it's my remarks about @DarkOdyssey's website: http://bit.ly/4DaUC7 I don't grok diff btw "discussion" and "just updates." in reply to EssinEm #
- @Jaspamaster With this much of a fuss over pointing out 100% male gaze by http://ur1.ca/gzai I can only imagine what @filamentmag went thru. in reply to Jaspamaster #
- New NY State law forces anyone registered as #sex offender to divulge social network username. Facebook boots 3533 accts: http://ur1.ca/gzao #
- @EssinEm Grok is geek for "understand" or "comprehend." I think it comes from Heinlein. :) More info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grok in reply to EssinEm #
- Racing the clock to put the finishing touches on Sunday's @KinkOnTap episode. Hopefully I'll be able to publish it in 1 hour or so, tops. :) #
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KinkForAll San Francisco is a free sexuality unconference happening on March 21st, at the Women's Building in the Mission! Sign up for an ad-hoc unconference on sexuality for anyone and everyone. Anyone with the desire to learn in an open environment or with something to contribute is welcome and invited to participate.
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Audience participation
- I’m in chastity, not in-capacitated « The Edge of Vanilla on Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
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Fresh off the Grill…
- @jamesbcarp I recommend hosting provider w/ a 1-click @WordPress install. @Dreamhost has this. Use my email as referral code? /cc @sarahdopp in reply to jamesbcarp 13 hrs ago
- Just uploaded my #KFASF photos. Check out this awesome group pic we took during Closing Communications: http://ur1.ca/r0o8 Whee, cool folks! 13 hrs ago
- So, @KinkOnTap after #KFASF was…uh…silly. :) But fun! But silly. But FUN! Now it's time to CHILL (the fuck) OUT! Soo #exhausted after today. 13 hrs ago
- Starting a @KinkOnTap recording w/ the most ad-hoc we've ever done. :) Right after #KFASF with a few live viewers. http://Live.KinkOnTap.com 15 hrs ago
- Just gave totally spontaneous talk called "Just DO it!" with @helio_girl highlighting SexEdEverywhere.com & urging others to Do Good. #KFASF 17 hrs ago
- More updates...
Comments on Other Blogs by Maymay- Maybe Maimed but Never HarmedAnd it’s kind of sad that I hadn’t actually seen a counter-example before.I know what you mean, C.. Check out MaleSubmissionArt.com for a collection of some more counter-examples.Read more comments by maymay […]
- Stupid Business People Who Don’t Get BusinessHah! I strongly second your response. I’ve gotten pretty good with that delete button, but I’ve sent my fair share of ranty email replies, too. :) maymay´s last blog ..I celebrated KinkForAll’s 1 year anniversary on the radio! Read more comments by maymay […]
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men MakeSorry Maymay, I reject your whole argument.That’s fine with me, Billus, although I’m pretty unconvinced you’ve actually read much of this post, especially since you ask “are we fooling ourselves when we…maintain equality outside of the bedroom” as though you expect me to disagree with you. ;)I do wonder, however, what you actually disagree with, since you do […]
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-07I ♥ my server logs, too. ;) ♺ @ConfidentInCali: Checking my server logs, some people read my blog at church! Presbyterians are kinky freaks. #Proud of myself for my Spanish translation at http://SexEdEverywhere.com. I impressed 2 native speakers! Vote to get us even more resources! #♺ @KinkForAll Thinking abt your KinkForAll presentation topic yet? #KFASF #0 […]
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men MakeI think that part of the problem in discussing submission is that there really isn’t a syntax, a language that makes it clear for the reader or listener.Right, Tom. So, uh, let’s fix that. Without it, we can’t answer your question: are we all event talking about the same thing?, not to mention all the intra-personal and intra-relationship problems that arise […]
- Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed
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Crouching in darkness, a man with long hair perches on his fists and the balls of his feet, his hair thrown over his face, covering much of his naked body.
I don’t typically like photographs whose levels have been altered for “artistic effect,” but for some reason this red-toned picture, sent in by John Pickman, appeals to me. John noted that the photograph is by S. E. Rider, and wrote:
This photo was part of an exploration of D/s themes and ideas between my partner at the time (the photographer) and I. I like this one in particular because it seems archetypal, removed from the constraints of any one person or place. Submission isn’t something you do, it’s something you are, and we tried to capture that.
Interestingly, this image doesn’t seem to evoke submissiveness to me, but rather strength, possibly even anger. The curled, almost gorilla-like crouched pose along with the hot red and white coloring brings rebellious, not docile, thoughts to mind. Although it might seem an inappropriate thing to put on a site called “Male Submission Art,” I think it’s crucial for “submissive people” like me to acknowledge when we’re not feeling submissive.
I’m often annoyed by inappropriate expectations of docility many have of me when the only thing they know is that I use the label “submissive” to refer to my sexuality, and I find any formulation of submission that denies me agency repugnant. Articulating sexually submissive desires becomes even more challenging when the language available to discuss them fumbles so gracelessly and without distinction between fantasy and reality. It’s one thing to experience pleasure from a position of “meekness” (one of many synonyms for “submission” by Thesaurus.com), it is quite another to live meekly.
Events of potential interest (back in New York City)-
Stuff in the back of my cage
- ► 2010 (51)
- ► March 2010
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- Community Organizing for Great Justice!
- I celebrated KinkForAll's 1 year anniversary on the radio!
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-08
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-07
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-06
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-05
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-04
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-03
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-02
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-01
- ► February 2010
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- Stalker Update for 2010-02-28
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-27
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-26
- Open Thread: When Educators Are Censors
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-25
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-22
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-21
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-20
- Announcing Sex Education Everywhere: Because We Learn More Than What They Teach
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-19
- On Dichotomies that (No Longer) Jail Me - KinkForAll Providence
- Celebrate Sexual Freedom in Rhode Island! Come to KinkForAll Providence!
- Published Strap-on Sex Essay; Financial Support not Financial Compensation
- ► January 2010
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- On Talking to Children and Adolescents about BDSM and Sex
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-18
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-27
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-26
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-25
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-24
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- Stalker Update for 2010-01-14
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-13
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-12
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-11
- The Internet made me a sexual freedom activist in 2009. Now it's your turn.
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-10
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-09
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-08
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-07
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-06
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- Stalker Update for 2010-01-04
- ► 2009 (188)
- ► December 2009
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- Stalker Update for 2009-12-29
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-28
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-27
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-26
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-25
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- Stalker Update for 2009-12-18
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-16
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-15
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-14
- Please read poignant commentary on Hope Witsell's suicide
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-13
- My impressions on the new "sex-positive social network" Blackbox Republic
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-12
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-11
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-10
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-09
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-08
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-07
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-06
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- Stalker Update for 2009-12-03
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-02
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-01
- ► November 2009
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- Stalker Update for 2009-11-30
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-29
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-28
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-27
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-26
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-25
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-24
- Sexual Adultism at KinkForAll Washington DC
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-23
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-22
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-21
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-20
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-19
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-18
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-16
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-15
- Online reputation management for sex bloggers; when a tweet won't do
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-14
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-13
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-12
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-11
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-10
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-09
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-08
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-07
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-06
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-06
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-05
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-04
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-03
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-02
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-01
- On Youth, Sexuality, Education, and Your Fears
- ► October 2009
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- Stalker Update for 2009-10-31
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-30
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-29
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-28
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-27
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-26
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-25
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-24
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-23
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-22
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-21
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-20
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-19
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-18
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-16
- My latest project: Kink On Tap is reinventing smart sexuality netcasts
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-15
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-14
- Don't you fret, sexism is alive and well in BDSM
- ► September 2009
- ► August 2009
- ► July 2009
- ► June 2009
- ► May 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-05-15
- Stalker update for 2009-05-15
- Stalker update for 2009-05-14
- Stalker update for 2009-05-13
- Stalker update for 2009-05-12
- Stalker update for 2009-05-11
- Stalker update for 2009-05-10
- Stalker update for 2009-05-09
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- Stalker update for 2009-05-07
- Stalker update for 2009-05-06
- Stalker update for 2009-05-05
- Stalker update for 2009-05-04
- Stalker update for 2009-05-03
- BDSM versus Kink: Nobody but your sex partner cares how you fuck
- Stalker update for 2009-05-02
- Stalker update for 2009-05-01
- An Extended Recording of KinkForAll on the MasoCast
- ► April 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-04-30
- Stalker update for 2009-04-29
- Stalker update for 2009-04-28
- Stalker update for 2009-04-27
- Stalker update for 2009-04-26
- Stalker update for 2009-04-25
- Stalker update for 2009-04-24
- Stalker update for 2009-04-23
- Stalker update for 2009-04-22
- Stalker update for 2009-04-21
- Stalker update for 2009-04-20
- Stalker update for 2009-04-19
- Stalker update for 2009-04-18
- Stalker update for 2009-04-17
- Stalker update for 2009-04-16
- Stalker update for 2009-04-15
- Stalker update for 2009-04-14
- Stalker update for 2009-04-13
- Stalker update for 2009-04-12
- Stalker update for 2009-04-11
- Stalker update for 2009-04-10
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- Stalker update for 2009-04-08
- Stalker update for 2009-04-07
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- Stalker update for 2009-04-06
- Stalker update for 2009-04-05
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- Stalker update for 2009-04-03
- Stalker update for 2009-04-02
- Stalker update for 2009-04-01
- Now I remember why I love and hate New York City's BDSM scene
- ► March 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-03-31
- Stalker update for 2009-03-30
- Stalker update for 2009-03-29
- Stalker update for 2009-03-28
- Stalker update for 2009-03-27
- Stalker update for 2009-03-26
- Stalker update for 2009-03-25
- Stalker update for 2009-03-24
- KinkForAll and the Evolution of Sexuality Communities
- Stalker update for 2009-03-23
- Stalker update for 2009-03-22
- Stalker update for 2009-03-21
- Stalker update for 2009-03-20
- Stalker update for 2009-03-19
- Stalker update for 2009-03-18
- Stalker update for 2009-03-17
- Stalker update for 2009-03-16
- Stalker update for 2009-03-15
- Stalker update for 2009-03-14
- Stalker update for 2009-03-13
- Stalker update for 2009-03-12
- Stalker update for 2009-03-11
- Stalker update for 2009-03-10
- KinkForAll New York City: Rest and Recovery and Then We Do It All Over Again
- Stalker update for 2009-03-09
- Stalker update for 2009-03-08
- Stalker update for 2009-03-07
- Stalker update for 2009-03-06
- Stalker update for 2009-03-05
- Stalker update for 2009-03-04
- Stalker update for 2009-03-03
- Stalker update for 2009-03-02
- Stalker update for 2009-03-01
- ► February 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-02-28
- Jane Says We're Quality and Original, So I Built Her A Plugin
- Stalker update for 2009-02-27
- 8 Things Submissive Men Want From A Dominant Partner
- Stalker update for 2009-02-26
- Stalker update for 2009-02-25
- Stalker update for 2009-02-24
- Stalker update for 2009-02-24
- Stalker update for 2009-02-23
- Stalker update for 2009-02-22
- Stalker update for 2009-02-21
- Stalker update for 2009-02-20
- Stalker update for 2009-02-19
- Stalker update for 2009-02-18
- ► 2008 (211)
- ► December 2008
- ► November 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-11-24
- Stalker update for 2008-11-23
- MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- Stalker update for 2008-11-14
- Stalker update for 2008-11-13
- Stalker update for 2008-11-11
- Stalker update for 2008-11-10
- Stalker update for 2008-11-09
- Stalker update for 2008-11-08
- Stalker update for 2008-11-07
- Stalker update for 2008-11-06
- Stalker update for 2008-11-05
- Stalker update for 2008-11-04
- Stalker update for 2008-11-03
- Stalker update for 2008-11-02
- Stalker update for 2008-11-01
- ► October 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-10-31
- Stalker update for 2008-10-30
- Being someone's fucktoy: Who's objectifying who?
- Stalker update for 2008-10-29
- Wednesday Wanderings: Gendered Semantic Web, Vulcan Sex, and more
- Stalker update for 2008-10-28
- Stalker update for 2008-10-27
- Stalker update for 2008-10-26
- Stalker update for 2008-10-25
- Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- Stalker update for 2008-10-24
- Stalker update for 2008-10-23
- Stalker update for 2008-10-22
- Stalker update for 2008-10-21
- I like feeling like a beginner again
- Stalker update for 2008-10-20
- Stalker update for 2008-10-19
- Stalker update for 2008-10-18
- Stalker update for 2008-10-17
- Stalker update for 2008-10-16
- Stalker update for 2008-10-15
- Stalker update for 2008-10-14
- Stalker update for 2008-10-13
- Stalker update for 2008-10-12
- Stalker update for 2008-10-11
- Stalker update for 2008-10-10
- Stalker update for 2008-10-09
- Stalker update for 2008-10-08
- Stalker update for 2008-10-07
- Stalker update for 2008-10-06
- Stalker update for 2008-10-05
- FetSpank This! WordPress Plugin submits your posts to FetSpank.com
- Stalker update for 2008-10-04
- Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Stalker update for 2008-10-03
- Stalker update for 2008-10-02
- Stalker update for 2008-10-01
- ► September 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-09-30
- Stalker update for 2008-09-29
- Stalker update for 2008-09-28
- Stalker update for 2008-09-27
- Stalker update for 2008-09-26
- Stalker update for 2008-09-25
- Stalker update for 2008-09-24
- Top Ten Tips for Long-Term Male Chastity Device Wear
- Stalker update for 2008-09-23
- Stalker update for 2008-09-22
- Insomnia and pleasant sexual frustration (no relation)
- Stalker update for 2008-09-21
- Stalker update for 2008-09-20
- Stalker update for 2008-09-19
- Stalker update for 2008-09-18
- Stalker update for 2008-09-17
- Stalker update for 2008-09-16
- My latest sex toy review and thoughts at day's end
- Stalker update for 2008-09-15
- Stalker update for 2008-09-14
- Stalker update for 2008-09-13
- An Un-Wednesday Wandering: So-Called "Top" 100 Sex Bloggers
- Stalker update for 2008-09-12
- Stalker update for 2008-09-11
- Stalker update for 2008-09-10
- Stalker update for 2008-09-09
- Stalker update for 2008-09-08
- Stalker update for 2008-09-07
- Stalker update for 2008-09-06
- Stalker update for 2008-09-05
- Stalker update for 2008-09-04
- Stalker update for 2008-09-03
- Stalker update for 2008-09-02
- Stalker update for 2008-09-01
- ► August 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-08-31
- Stalker update for 2008-08-30
- Stalker update for 2008-08-29
- Stalker update for 2008-08-28
- Stalker update for 2008-08-27
- Stalker update for 2008-08-26
- Stalker update for 2008-08-25
- Stalker update for 2008-08-24
- Stalker update for 2008-08-23
- Stalker update for 2008-08-22
- Stalker update for 2008-08-21
- Stalker update for 2008-08-20
- Stalker update for 2008-08-19
- Stalker update for 2008-08-18
- Stalker update for 2008-08-17
- Stalker update for 2008-08-16
- Stalker update for 2008-08-15
- Stalker update for 2008-08-14
- Stalker update for 2008-08-13
- Stalker update for 2008-08-12
- Stalker update for 2008-08-11
- Stalker update for 2008-08-10
- Stalker update for 2008-08-09
- Stalker update for 2008-08-08
- Stalker update for 2008-08-07
- Stalker update for 2008-08-06
- Stalker update for 2008-08-05
- Rocking the Boat. By which I mean I also enjoy a good facial
- Stalker update for 2008-08-04
- Stalker update for 2008-08-03
- Stalker update for 2008-08-02
- Stalker update for 2008-08-01
- Stale and stagnant, also whips
- ► July 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-07-31
- Stalker update for 2008-07-30
- Stalker update for 2008-07-29
- Stalker update for 2008-07-28
- Stalker update for 2008-07-27
- Stalker update for 2008-07-26
- Stalker update for 2008-07-25
- Stalker update for 2008-07-24
- Stalker update for 2008-07-23
- Stalker update for 2008-07-22
- Stalker update for 2008-07-21
- Stalker update for 2008-07-20
- Stalker update for 2008-07-19
- Stalker update for 2008-07-18
- Stalker update for 2008-07-17
- Stalker update for 2008-07-16
- Stalker update for 2008-07-15
- Stalker update for 2008-07-14
- Stalker update for 2008-07-13
- Stalker update for 2008-07-12
- Stalker update for 2008-07-11
- Stalker update for 2008-07-10
- Stalker update for 2008-07-09
- Stalker update for 2008-07-08
- This is not the post you're looking for
- Stalker update for 2008-07-07
- Stalker update for 2008-07-06
- Stalker update for 2008-07-05
- Stalker update for 2008-07-04
- Stalker update for 2008-07-03
- Stalker update for 2008-07-02
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- ► June 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-06-30
- Stalker update for 2008-06-29
- Stalker update for 2008-06-28
- Stalker update for 2008-06-27
- Stalker update for 2008-06-26
- Stalker update for 2008-06-25
- Stalker update for 2008-06-24
- Young people into BDSM are not exceptional
- Stalker update for 2008-06-23
- Stalker update for 2008-06-22
- Stalker update for 2008-06-21
- Call for participation: Hyperfiction and Hypertextual Porn
- Stalker update for 2008-06-20
- Stalker update for 2008-06-19
- Stalker update for 2008-06-18
- Stalker update for 2008-06-17
- Stalker update for 2008-06-16
- Stalker update for 2008-06-15
- Stalker update for 2008-06-14
- Stalker update for 2008-06-13
- Stalker update for 2008-06-12
- Stalker update for 2008-06-11
- Stalker update for 2008-06-10
- Stalker update for 2008-06-09
- Sexism at Large in American Politics: Armed and Dangerous
- Stalker update for 2008-06-08
- Stalker update for 2008-06-07
- Stalker update for 2008-06-06
- Stalker update for 2008-06-05
- Stalker update for 2008-06-04
- Stalker update for 2008-06-03
- Stalker update for 2008-06-02
- Stalker update for 2008-06-01
- ► May 2008
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- ► March 2008
- ► February 2008
- ► January 2008
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- Giving me wings
- The Selfish Highlight Reel: Rhode Island Fetish Flair Flea-market Recap
- Why Orgasm Logger? Well, why not?
- Wednesday Wanderings #9: Winds of Change
- Fantasy Worlds
- Because Submissive is an Orientation
- America's Sexual Sampler Platter: Everything but Me is on the Menu
- One thousand words
- Wednesday Wanderings #8: Mixed Visions for the New Year
- If this is 2008, then I don't have any resolutions
- ► 2007 (125)
- ► December 2007
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- The Sexism of Politeness
- It doesn't matter if she's got a brain when your dick is in her
- Three easy steps to meeting and playing with people in BDSM clubs
- Harlem, 2 AM, and Group Dynamics
- Merry Christmas, with picture presents!
- Unwelcome: The Emotional Effects of Social Injustice
- The boy next door is also bisexual
- The Sexism of Sex and Smarts
- Wednesday Wanderings: Welcome Back and Fond Farewell
- How an outdated view of masculinity ignores the needs of all men
- Fun with kissing
- We're all different: when sex isn't attractive
- Rope bondage video of the day
- Normal is anything but
- An Exemplar of Conservative Hypocrisy
- Nurture is stronger than you think
- 'Sexually uninhibited' is PC for 'slut'
- Love sex or fear god? That is the question.
- The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong
- Men and masks in porn
- Transgender Basics
- On Friends and Enemies
- Black Rose XX Recap: An Introduction
- ► November 2007
- ► October 2007
- ► September 2007
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- Stupid, stupid gay tops are just as bad as other men and women
- When I'm not feeling submissive
- Orgasm Logger source code available
- Hardware rearrangements cause Orgasm Logger to come down
- How not to fuck up a D/s relationship
- Sex is nice and porn is good for your society
- And now for something completely different
- Sex and Technology: How technological innovation pushes the boundaries of human sexuality and vice versa
- ► August 2007
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- Flying, the kinky sex orgasm, and the lack thereof
- What almost everybody else doesn't get about bisexuality
- The kink culture of fear
- A moment
- Orgasm Logger is down but I'm in Jersey
- Kink on Tap 7: Tom Allen
- Kink on Tap 6: Sexual Teasing and Denial
- I want to be a pretty boy
- What every big sexuality community web site does wrong
- More men need to cry on the big porn screen
- Pegging gets mainstream attention and kinky porn gets rightfully slapped upside its head
- The first blowjob I've ever bottomed to
- What sexuality might taste like if you were a submissive man in 2007
- Real Ultimate Male Chastity
- Your fantasy is not reality, and you should know better
- ► July 2007
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- The case against supremacy
- How to make my space bigger
- There is so little space for me
- Aneros Helix Sex Toy Review
- Quick Thoughts on Blogging, Bisexuality, and Prostate Stimulation (no relation)
- Where's the pain?
- Don't be nice
- (Off Topic) Meme: Random Seven
- Changes are no good, or whatever
- Kink on Tap 5: Bitchy Jones
- Kink on Tap 4: Conversio Virium
- ► June 2007
- ► May 2007
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- Thoughts on extended scenes and play headspaces
- Professional Domination is actually Professional, remember?
- Sex Services versus Sex Products
- Kink on Tap 3: Porn and Prejudice
- Kink on Tap 1 and 2: The Big Hard Cock, Kink in Culture
- Intoxicants in (and as) BDSM
- Everyone's a little bit selfish sometimes
- Once in 48 days
- A Truly Belated Wednesday Wanderings
- The Truth About Anonymity
- ► April 2007
- ► March 2007
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- Whips and chains may break my bones but words will always hurt more
- On the wonderfulness of thongs and chastity devices
- Marching on: Wednesday Wanderings
- Is submissive intent influenced by orgasms?
- Thoughts and fantasies on guided masturbation
- Wednesday Wanderings for March 21st
- Abandoned, accidental orgasm
- Anticipation in teasing
- Ecstagony's article on safety risks for face slapping play
- Face slapping and my many reactions to it
- Theory: Why subs write more than dom(me)s
- This Week's Wednesday Wandering
- The difference money makes
- Tell me I'm yours and tell me I'm good
- New erotica: Good boy, good pet
- I get off on unfairness
- Avoiding the orgasmic let down by avoiding responsibility?
- BDSM as an emotional sexuality all its own
- First Weekly Wednesday Wandering
- Feminization as the perfect creation
- Strap on vanilla sex and emotions in D/s sex
- Is it possible for a submissive to ever be truly polyamorous?
- Feeling well-trained is emotionally satisfying
- The body as our canvas for expression
- Homeostasis, conditioning, and orgasm denial
- Teasing and denial: you kind of need both parts
- Male chastity devices available today suck
- Is there such a thing as regular sex?
- ► February 2007
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- The psychology of conditioning in a D/s relationship
- Breathing as a sexual teasing technique
- Finally a take on D/s that rings true for me
- Does this mean I'm an erotica writer now?
- Teasing, Denial, and Orgasm Control Games on Erotic Humiliation
- Stream of consciousness on BDSM 101
- Ramblings of a boy with a fetish for orgasm control
- Trading for (some) anonymity and publicity
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