- If you don't like the #Twitter posts in my maybemaimed.com #blog's #RSS feed, re-subscribe to this feed: http://maybemaimed.com/feed/?cat=-1 #
- @nikolasco Yeah, I'm not particularly interested in using their service, either. I'd use TOR or something if at all. Thankfully no need—yet. in reply to nikolasco #
- @DarthBitsy Sure, but how does optional #homeschooling (heavily stigmatized in reality BTW) address the issue I see w/"mandatory" schooling? in reply to DarthBitsy #
- @joyynpayne RealTouch.com isn't intended for ppl w/o a penis. Point is they're not serving their INTENDED audience as well as they could be. in reply to joyynpayne #
- Lovely to start my day w/an #HTML5 presentation by @BladeBronson. I feel like I understand #header & "document contexts" better now. Thanks! #
- @splicer No. #Youth should be free to choose how they learn. I don't think opting out of #education is the same as opting out as #school. :) #
- @helio_girl @jamesbcarp What? I think that's silly. Even #youth who hate #school learn all the time. :) It's human nature. Why make it #law? in reply to helio_girl #
- @helio_girl @jamesbcarp Over-legislating is like overcooking. It results in suboptimal results that few feel good about. #youth #school #law in reply to helio_girl #
- @helio_girl Disagree. "Attacking" only 1 part, #law or #youth engagement, isn't a fix. BOTH problem yet there's severe lack of focus on law. in reply to helio_girl #
- Ugh. This is some of the messiest code I've seen in a while. Since when should #CSS have a PHP dependency? I'm getting really frustrated. :( #
- @jamesbcarp Red herring. That's true but NOT an argument for opposing change. My suggestion for "viable model" is currently a 1 word change. in reply to jamesbcarp #
- @helio_girl Good! You fight your battle, I'll fight mine. That's the main point I'm making here—I'm not disagreeing w/you re #school reform. in reply to helio_girl #
- @jamesbcarp Blindly?!? The more forceful #school gets, the fewer are successfully educated there. Removing compulsion encourages persuasion. in reply to jamesbcarp #
- I'm calling it. No sense in throwing more time after #code that's going to need to get rewritten anyway. I've got off-the-clock #work to do. #
- @stacycat Might find Not Your Usual #BDSM & #Abuse Story interesting: http://ur1.ca/hdzt My summary: hard to respect self-disrespecting ppl. in reply to stacycat #
- @jamesbcarp Removing bad laws don't necessitate adding any new ones. Removing govt mandates over personal choices is itself a valid purpose. in reply to jamesbcarp #
- @DarthBitsy Precisely why I'm a huge proponent of informed homeschooling. However "allowing" is NOT the same as "supporting"—not even close. in reply to DarthBitsy #
- Unsurprised so many I know disagree w/my #education and #school ideas—most in my circle are highly educated & products of the system I left. #
- @jamesbcarp Another philosophical divide—changing #law changes other things, including culture. You said it: law of unintended consequences. in reply to jamesbcarp #
- @jamesbcarp That's why I'm supportive of @helio_girl wanting to reform #school. This isn't a linear process, it SHOULD BE a parallel effort. in reply to jamesbcarp #
- Reminds me of science #test I once took. I had a similar answer to this one involving the Ninja Turtles: http://ur1.ca/he4p (via @Aminhotep) #
- Interested to see http://BlackBoxRepublic.com compared w/FetLife. Unhappy re gender skew in intro vid: http://bit.ly/5CH8J3 via @SamLawrence #
- OH FUCK. I totally forgot about http://DeviantsOnline.com tonight. DAMN IT, SELF! I really wanted to go. :( I bet it's too late now, though. #
- @Mollena @sarahdopp Damnit, I so didn't want to miss Deviants Online tonight, and yet it totally slipped my mind until I saw your notice. :( in reply to Mollena #
- @misscalico @avatarkoo I met both @SamLawrence & @aprilblackbox.. They seemed good folks doing good work. Unsure what happened to intro vid. in reply to misscalico #
- Exploring BlackBoxRepublic.com in-depth w/my "founder" acct. Feels solid, slick, but I'm noticing more+more gender-skewed design choices. :( #
- BlackBoxRepublic.com makes a distinction btw "following" & "friending." That's how it should be. @Facebook gets this wrong. /cc @SusanMernit #
- BlackBoxRepublic.com has sliders for one's #GLBT orientation, number of partners (!poly), but a slider for #gender is conspicuously missing! #
- BlackBoxRepublic.com has interesting implementation regarding #Internet #privacy, sharing. I might be "too out" for this site. cc @sarahdopp #
- Reported 3 bugs to BlackBoxRepublic.com w/their thankfully traditional feedback link. No more expanding tabs floating on viewport side, pls. #
- BlackBoxRepublic.com's #privacy options default to 100% private, not public. That's what all #social #media sites' defaults should start as. #
- @avatarkoo I don't think so. BlackBoxRepublic prevents anonymity due to service fee, which no free site does. cc @SamLawrence @AprilBlackbox in reply to avatarkoo #
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KinkForAll is an ad-hoc unconference on sexuality for anyone and everyone. Anyone with the desire to learn in an open environment or with something to contribute is welcome and invited to participate.
Hear me, hear me!
Audience participation
- Wendy Blackheart on Anti-porn is pro-censorship, even if they say they’re not
- What We’re Expected to Be « beyond the hills on Young people into BDSM are not exceptional
- maymay on What will it take for the silent majority to speak up?
- Ranat on What will it take for the silent majority to speak up?
- What We’re Expected to Be « beyond the hills on Ramblings of a boy with a fetish for orgasm control
- What We’re Expected to Be « beyond the hills on Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
- Naked on the Internet, take II « on Online reputation management for sex bloggers; when a tweet won’t do
- OrlandoC on KinkForAll versus Stop Porn Culture: guess who’s filthier!
- This Is My Brain On Disney « beyond the hills on A primatologist’s suggestions for happier orgasm control
- Ranat on A primatologist’s suggestions for happier orgasm control
Fresh off the Grill…
- "Sexuality…like dreaming…connects us to parts of ourselves we don't…have words for." -@MissLoreleiLee http://ur1.ca/0xrcr /via @ReidAboutSex 10 mins ago
- Anti-porn logic would censor #antiporn websites http://tumblr.com/xgcekpxxj #Censorship would apply to #proporn & maybe you http://3.ly/3g4q 1 hr ago
- So @Porn_Harms says websites linking to websites linking to #porn should be removed? http://youtu.be/_7Co9JWEK5s Read comments very closely. 2 hrs ago
- I finally posted @MaleSubmission again but the Disney movie film frame's not exactly #porn or is it? http://ur1.ca/0x173 #proporn #antiporn 12 hrs ago
- ♺ @mcfuckingduff: @maymaym If health was a human right people in government would have to start pretending to give a shit about poor people. 22 hrs ago
- More updates...
Kink On Tap Community Links Feed- China Seeks End to Public Shaming of Suspects – NYTimes.com"According to the state-run media, the Ministry of Public Security has ordered the police to stop parading suspects in public and has called on local departments to enforce laws in a 'rational, calm and civilized manner,'" Andrew Jacobs reports. Chinese police are under scrutiny with increasing civil unrest being expressed online. "L […]
- ‘I was scared to sleep’: LGBT Youth Face Violence Behind Bars | The Nation"Many judges in rural Louisiana still conflate sex offenses with sexual orientation and gender identity," says Wesley Ware of the Juvenile Justice Project of Louisiana in an article by Daniel Redman. "50 percent of the gay youth picked up for nonviolent offenses in Louisiana in 2009 were sent to jail to await trial, while less […]
- Law.com – Atlanta Lawyer Takes on Botched Circumcision Claims Nationwide"I didn't set out to be a circumcision lawyer; it just sort of happened," said David J. Llewellyn of his legal practice suing doctors, hospitals, and medical supply makers around the United States. Llewellyn recently won a $10.7 million default judgment "against Mogen Circumcision Instruments, claiming one of its devices severed the head […]
- Whuuuuut? Is Bill O'Reilly LEFT of #Obama on #DADT: http://bit.ly/bWJqVO /via @gaycivilrights #KinkOnTap #GLBTWhuuuuut? Is Bill O'Reilly LEFT of #Obama on #DADT: http://bit.ly/bWJqVO /via @gaycivilrights #KinkOnTap #GLBT […]
- U.S. and U.K. gay men differ in definitions of having ‘had sex’: IU News Room: Indiana UniversityBrandon Hill, a lead researcher at the Kinsey Institute, reminds doctors and public health officials: "It is important for researchers and clinicians not to assume that their definition of 'sex' is shared by their participant or patient, and to use behaviorally specific criteria when conducting sex-behavior assessments, especially when assessi […]
- China Seeks End to Public Shaming of Suspects – NYTimes.com
Interesting Tidbits from Others- wikiangela: Is #MediaWiki more secure than #WordPress? Read Tim's blog post at http://techblog.wikimedia.org/?p=970
- RicciLevy: Today's Terry Gross on NPR - gotta hear this! http://shar.es/mL181
- solidadrocks: RT @al3x: Rob Pike explains what's gone wrong w programming languages over past 25 yrs in about ten minutes. Worth it: http://bit.ly/bBuyu8
- iamcuriousblue: #antiporn: #GailDines @NECN TV interview: http://vb.ly/necn. Good intro to her talking points and framing of issues.
- sexgenderbody: Polyamory, Job Protection, and the Trouble With “Sexual Orientation” http://ff.im/-nPg8u
- HiOhMegan: Must watch: protecting sexual free speech. Want 2 promote American spirit? Support sexual freedom. Thank u @reasontv http://j.mp/ausMwt
- audaciaray: Only Rights Can Stop the Wrongs: Guide to HIV & Sex Work by @GlobalSexWork includes regional voices & what SWs want http://bit.ly/asGCOS
- echomikeromeo: @KinkOnTap Have you seen this story about sexuality in Russia? http://nyti.ms/auIQaY They have kinky sex ed too!
- iamcuriousblue: If anybody has broad knowledge of sexuality, incl scientific studies, and has energy to cleanup, I have your back: http://vb.ly/asus
- iamcuriousblue: #Wikipedia article w/ *buttload* of inaccurate sexual info & abstinence ed propaganda: http://vb.ly/asus....
Comments on Other Blogs by MaymayLatest from MaleSubmissionArt.com

A clothed man is bound to a heavy chair with long locks of hair, his wrists pulled to the chair’s armrests and his ankles spread at the chair’s legs.
This unlikely image was sent in by Ashitaka, who had this to say:
I grabbed this frame from the trailer of an upcoming Disney movie titled, “Tangled.” This scene made me squirm in my seat. In it, the heroine uses her unusually long hair to bind the hero to a chair against his will. I’m sure Disney will claim that there is nothing inherently erotic about a scene in which a strapping hunk is restrained helplessly and forced to submit to a beautiful princess, but we all know better than that. This trailer reminds me of my fantasies of other Disney characters when I was a kid. Oh Ariel, you were so much sexier with legs….
Disney’s re-imagining of Rapunzel, on which Tangled is based, could certainly be interesting. The increasingly common notion of feminine protagonists who possess strength enough to overpower male leads is a welcome change from previous generations of Disney flicks in which women were largely helpless unless they, themselves, were villains. This fact has major implications for the future.
Recently, Ranat wrote:
I grew up on a lot of Disney movies. A lot. And me being the little unsuspecting sadist and dominant I was, you can probably guess which were my favorite parts. Yes, in Disney movies. […] Even though I’ve been aware of a lot of this my entire life, it was kind of shocking to add it all up. It’s been a surprising antidote for my residual sexual shame, because, dude, if I was three and getting off on this stuff, I ain’t corrupted.
As Ranat points out, imagery like this can offer people, including children, a healthy sexual self-affirmation. It’s not the case that children view this material as inherently sexual, but it’s also not the case that the material can be inherently sexual or not. The “sexual nature” of an image is itself subjective, following the same rules as the distinctions for beauty.
Any perceived dangers of an image like this has nothing to do with this image and everything to do with the context that it’s presented in. Change the context, and you can change the nature of the image without touching the picture itself. Concerns over sexualization frequently lack context grounded in reality, speciously suggesting that censorship is the only “appropriate” course of action.
Events of potential interest (back in New York City)-
Stuff in the back of my cage
- ► 2010 (127)
- ► July 2010
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- Anti-porn is pro-censorship, even if they say they're not
- What will it take for the silent majority to speak up?
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-13
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-12
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-11
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-10
- A primatologist's suggestions for happier orgasm control
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-09
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-08
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-07
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-06
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-05
- ► June 2010
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- KinkForAll versus Stop Porn Culture: guess who's filthier!
- Stalker Update for 2010-07-04
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-22
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-21
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-20
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-19
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-18
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-17
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-16
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-15
- Stalker Update for 2010-06-14
- ► May 2010
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- Stalker Update for 2010-06-13
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-28
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-27
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-26
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-25
- Edenfantasys's unethical technology is a self-referential black hole
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-24
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-16
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-15
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-14
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-13
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-12
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-11
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-10
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-09
- On the Importance and Lack Thereof of Sexual Intercourse
- Certain Unalienable Rights: Freedom of Expression and Sexuality in the Name of Liberty
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-08
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-07
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-06
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-05
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-04
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-03
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-02
- Stalker Update for 2010-05-01
- ► April 2010
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- Yes, men can be feminist leaders.
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-30
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-29
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-28
- Femquake Fallout: Feminism, the Internet and Boobquake (and Brainquake)
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-27
- Femquaker: Shanna Katz, Sex-Positive Sexuality Educator
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-26
- Breasts AND brains are good for humanity & deserve respect! Introducing: Femquake
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-25
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-24
- Free and Open to the Public Panel at Brown University: When Educators Are Censors (May 4th)
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-23
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-19
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-18
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-17
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-16
- Stalker Update for 2010-04-15
- My opinions on youth at KinkForAll unconferences
- Stand Against Stigma: Don't Succumb to a Fear of Sex, Sexual Speech, or Sexual Freedom
- ► March 2010
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- Stalker Update for 2010-04-14
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-31
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-30
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-29
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-28
- Addressing Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks' concerns over KinkForAll unconferences
- The Salvation Army incites personal attacks against me; a blog reply
- Community Organizing for Great Justice!
- I celebrated KinkForAll's 1 year anniversary on the radio!
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-27
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-08
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-07
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-06
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-05
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-04
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-03
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-02
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-01
- ► February 2010
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- Stalker Update for 2010-02-28
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-27
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-26
- Open Thread: When Educators Are Censors
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-25
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-22
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-21
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-20
- Announcing Sex Education Everywhere: Because We Learn More Than What They Teach
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-19
- On Dichotomies that (No Longer) Jail Me - KinkForAll Providence
- Celebrate Sexual Freedom in Rhode Island! Come to KinkForAll Providence!
- Published Strap-on Sex Essay; Financial Support not Financial Compensation
- ► January 2010
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- On Talking to Children and Adolescents about BDSM and Sex
- Stalker Update for 2010-02-18
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-27
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-26
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-25
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-24
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-23
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-22
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-21
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-20
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-19
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-18
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-17
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-16
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-15
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-14
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-13
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-12
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-11
- The Internet made me a sexual freedom activist in 2009. Now it's your turn.
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-10
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-09
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-08
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-07
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-06
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-05
- Stalker Update for 2010-01-04
- ► 2009 (188)
- ► December 2009
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- Stalker Update for 2009-12-29
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-28
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-27
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-26
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-25
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-24
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-23
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-22
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-21
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-20
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-19
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-18
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-16
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-15
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-14
- Please read poignant commentary on Hope Witsell's suicide
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-13
- My impressions on the new "sex-positive social network" Blackbox Republic
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-12
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-11
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-10
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-09
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-08
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-07
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-06
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-05
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-04
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-04
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-03
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-02
- Stalker Update for 2009-12-01
- ► November 2009
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- Stalker Update for 2009-11-30
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-29
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-28
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-27
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-26
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-25
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-24
- Sexual Adultism at KinkForAll Washington DC
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-23
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-22
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-21
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-20
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-19
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-18
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-16
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-15
- Online reputation management for sex bloggers; when a tweet won't do
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-14
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-13
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-12
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-11
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-10
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-09
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-08
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-07
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-06
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-06
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-05
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-04
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-03
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-02
- Stalker Update for 2009-11-01
- On Youth, Sexuality, Education, and Your Fears
- ► October 2009
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- Stalker Update for 2009-10-31
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-30
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-29
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-28
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-27
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-26
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-25
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-24
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-23
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-22
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-21
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-20
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-19
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-18
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-17
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-16
- My latest project: Kink On Tap is reinventing smart sexuality netcasts
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-15
- Stalker Update for 2009-10-14
- Don't you fret, sexism is alive and well in BDSM
- ► September 2009
- ► August 2009
- ► July 2009
- ► June 2009
- ► May 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-05-15
- Stalker update for 2009-05-15
- Stalker update for 2009-05-14
- Stalker update for 2009-05-13
- Stalker update for 2009-05-12
- Stalker update for 2009-05-11
- Stalker update for 2009-05-10
- Stalker update for 2009-05-09
- Stalker update for 2009-05-08
- Stalker update for 2009-05-07
- Stalker update for 2009-05-06
- Stalker update for 2009-05-05
- Stalker update for 2009-05-04
- Stalker update for 2009-05-03
- BDSM versus Kink: Nobody but your sex partner cares how you fuck
- Stalker update for 2009-05-02
- Stalker update for 2009-05-01
- An Extended Recording of KinkForAll on the MasoCast
- ► April 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-04-30
- Stalker update for 2009-04-29
- Stalker update for 2009-04-28
- Stalker update for 2009-04-27
- Stalker update for 2009-04-26
- Stalker update for 2009-04-25
- Stalker update for 2009-04-24
- Stalker update for 2009-04-23
- Stalker update for 2009-04-22
- Stalker update for 2009-04-21
- Stalker update for 2009-04-20
- Stalker update for 2009-04-19
- Stalker update for 2009-04-18
- Stalker update for 2009-04-17
- Stalker update for 2009-04-16
- Stalker update for 2009-04-15
- Stalker update for 2009-04-14
- Stalker update for 2009-04-13
- Stalker update for 2009-04-12
- Stalker update for 2009-04-11
- Stalker update for 2009-04-10
- Stalker update for 2009-04-09
- Stalker update for 2009-04-08
- Stalker update for 2009-04-07
- Stalker update for 2009-04-07
- Stalker update for 2009-04-06
- Stalker update for 2009-04-05
- Stalker update for 2009-04-04
- Stalker update for 2009-04-03
- Stalker update for 2009-04-02
- Stalker update for 2009-04-01
- Now I remember why I love and hate New York City's BDSM scene
- ► March 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-03-31
- Stalker update for 2009-03-30
- Stalker update for 2009-03-29
- Stalker update for 2009-03-28
- Stalker update for 2009-03-27
- Stalker update for 2009-03-26
- Stalker update for 2009-03-25
- Stalker update for 2009-03-24
- KinkForAll and the Evolution of Sexuality Communities
- Stalker update for 2009-03-23
- Stalker update for 2009-03-22
- Stalker update for 2009-03-21
- Stalker update for 2009-03-20
- Stalker update for 2009-03-19
- Stalker update for 2009-03-18
- Stalker update for 2009-03-17
- Stalker update for 2009-03-16
- Stalker update for 2009-03-15
- Stalker update for 2009-03-14
- Stalker update for 2009-03-13
- Stalker update for 2009-03-12
- Stalker update for 2009-03-11
- Stalker update for 2009-03-10
- KinkForAll New York City: Rest and Recovery and Then We Do It All Over Again
- Stalker update for 2009-03-09
- Stalker update for 2009-03-08
- Stalker update for 2009-03-07
- Stalker update for 2009-03-06
- Stalker update for 2009-03-05
- Stalker update for 2009-03-04
- Stalker update for 2009-03-03
- Stalker update for 2009-03-02
- Stalker update for 2009-03-01
- ► February 2009
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- Stalker update for 2009-02-28
- Jane Says We're Quality and Original, So I Built Her A Plugin
- Stalker update for 2009-02-27
- 8 Things Submissive Men Want From A Dominant Partner
- Stalker update for 2009-02-26
- Stalker update for 2009-02-25
- Stalker update for 2009-02-24
- Stalker update for 2009-02-24
- Stalker update for 2009-02-23
- Stalker update for 2009-02-22
- Stalker update for 2009-02-21
- Stalker update for 2009-02-20
- Stalker update for 2009-02-19
- Stalker update for 2009-02-18
- ► 2008 (211)
- ► December 2008
- ► November 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-11-24
- Stalker update for 2008-11-23
- MaleSubmissionArt.com or Why I Am Crowdsourcing My Own Pornography
- Stalker update for 2008-11-14
- Stalker update for 2008-11-13
- Stalker update for 2008-11-11
- Stalker update for 2008-11-10
- Stalker update for 2008-11-09
- Stalker update for 2008-11-08
- Stalker update for 2008-11-07
- Stalker update for 2008-11-06
- Stalker update for 2008-11-05
- Stalker update for 2008-11-04
- Stalker update for 2008-11-03
- Stalker update for 2008-11-02
- Stalker update for 2008-11-01
- ► October 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-10-31
- Stalker update for 2008-10-30
- Being someone's fucktoy: Who's objectifying who?
- Stalker update for 2008-10-29
- Wednesday Wanderings: Gendered Semantic Web, Vulcan Sex, and more
- Stalker update for 2008-10-28
- Stalker update for 2008-10-27
- Stalker update for 2008-10-26
- Stalker update for 2008-10-25
- Equating passivity with sexual submissiveness is a stupid mistake
- Stalker update for 2008-10-24
- Stalker update for 2008-10-23
- Stalker update for 2008-10-22
- Stalker update for 2008-10-21
- I like feeling like a beginner again
- Stalker update for 2008-10-20
- Stalker update for 2008-10-19
- Stalker update for 2008-10-18
- Stalker update for 2008-10-17
- Stalker update for 2008-10-16
- Stalker update for 2008-10-15
- Stalker update for 2008-10-14
- Stalker update for 2008-10-13
- Stalker update for 2008-10-12
- Stalker update for 2008-10-11
- Stalker update for 2008-10-10
- Stalker update for 2008-10-09
- Stalker update for 2008-10-08
- Stalker update for 2008-10-07
- Stalker update for 2008-10-06
- Stalker update for 2008-10-05
- FetSpank This! WordPress Plugin submits your posts to FetSpank.com
- Stalker update for 2008-10-04
- Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
- Stalker update for 2008-10-03
- Stalker update for 2008-10-02
- Stalker update for 2008-10-01
- ► September 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-09-30
- Stalker update for 2008-09-29
- Stalker update for 2008-09-28
- Stalker update for 2008-09-27
- Stalker update for 2008-09-26
- Stalker update for 2008-09-25
- Stalker update for 2008-09-24
- Top Ten Tips for Long-Term Male Chastity Device Wear
- Stalker update for 2008-09-23
- Stalker update for 2008-09-22
- Insomnia and pleasant sexual frustration (no relation)
- Stalker update for 2008-09-21
- Stalker update for 2008-09-20
- Stalker update for 2008-09-19
- Stalker update for 2008-09-18
- Stalker update for 2008-09-17
- Stalker update for 2008-09-16
- My latest sex toy review and thoughts at day's end
- Stalker update for 2008-09-15
- Stalker update for 2008-09-14
- Stalker update for 2008-09-13
- An Un-Wednesday Wandering: So-Called "Top" 100 Sex Bloggers
- Stalker update for 2008-09-12
- Stalker update for 2008-09-11
- Stalker update for 2008-09-10
- Stalker update for 2008-09-09
- Stalker update for 2008-09-08
- Stalker update for 2008-09-07
- Stalker update for 2008-09-06
- Stalker update for 2008-09-05
- Stalker update for 2008-09-04
- Stalker update for 2008-09-03
- Stalker update for 2008-09-02
- Stalker update for 2008-09-01
- ► August 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-08-31
- Stalker update for 2008-08-30
- Stalker update for 2008-08-29
- Stalker update for 2008-08-28
- Stalker update for 2008-08-27
- Stalker update for 2008-08-26
- Stalker update for 2008-08-25
- Stalker update for 2008-08-24
- Stalker update for 2008-08-23
- Stalker update for 2008-08-22
- Stalker update for 2008-08-21
- Stalker update for 2008-08-20
- Stalker update for 2008-08-19
- Stalker update for 2008-08-18
- Stalker update for 2008-08-17
- Stalker update for 2008-08-16
- Stalker update for 2008-08-15
- Stalker update for 2008-08-14
- Stalker update for 2008-08-13
- Stalker update for 2008-08-12
- Stalker update for 2008-08-11
- Stalker update for 2008-08-10
- Stalker update for 2008-08-09
- Stalker update for 2008-08-08
- Stalker update for 2008-08-07
- Stalker update for 2008-08-06
- Stalker update for 2008-08-05
- Rocking the Boat. By which I mean I also enjoy a good facial
- Stalker update for 2008-08-04
- Stalker update for 2008-08-03
- Stalker update for 2008-08-02
- Stalker update for 2008-08-01
- Stale and stagnant, also whips
- ► July 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-07-31
- Stalker update for 2008-07-30
- Stalker update for 2008-07-29
- Stalker update for 2008-07-28
- Stalker update for 2008-07-27
- Stalker update for 2008-07-26
- Stalker update for 2008-07-25
- Stalker update for 2008-07-24
- Stalker update for 2008-07-23
- Stalker update for 2008-07-22
- Stalker update for 2008-07-21
- Stalker update for 2008-07-20
- Stalker update for 2008-07-19
- Stalker update for 2008-07-18
- Stalker update for 2008-07-17
- Stalker update for 2008-07-16
- Stalker update for 2008-07-15
- Stalker update for 2008-07-14
- Stalker update for 2008-07-13
- Stalker update for 2008-07-12
- Stalker update for 2008-07-11
- Stalker update for 2008-07-10
- Stalker update for 2008-07-09
- Stalker update for 2008-07-08
- This is not the post you're looking for
- Stalker update for 2008-07-07
- Stalker update for 2008-07-06
- Stalker update for 2008-07-05
- Stalker update for 2008-07-04
- Stalker update for 2008-07-03
- Stalker update for 2008-07-02
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- Stalker update for 2008-07-01
- ► June 2008
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- Stalker update for 2008-06-30
- Stalker update for 2008-06-29
- Stalker update for 2008-06-28
- Stalker update for 2008-06-27
- Stalker update for 2008-06-26
- Stalker update for 2008-06-25
- Stalker update for 2008-06-24
- Young people into BDSM are not exceptional
- Stalker update for 2008-06-23
- Stalker update for 2008-06-22
- Stalker update for 2008-06-21
- Call for participation: Hyperfiction and Hypertextual Porn
- Stalker update for 2008-06-20
- Stalker update for 2008-06-19
- Stalker update for 2008-06-18
- Stalker update for 2008-06-17
- Stalker update for 2008-06-16
- Stalker update for 2008-06-15
- Stalker update for 2008-06-14
- Stalker update for 2008-06-13
- Stalker update for 2008-06-12
- Stalker update for 2008-06-11
- Stalker update for 2008-06-10
- Stalker update for 2008-06-09
- Sexism at Large in American Politics: Armed and Dangerous
- Stalker update for 2008-06-08
- Stalker update for 2008-06-07
- Stalker update for 2008-06-06
- Stalker update for 2008-06-05
- Stalker update for 2008-06-04
- Stalker update for 2008-06-03
- Stalker update for 2008-06-02
- Stalker update for 2008-06-01
- ► May 2008
- ► April 2008
- ► March 2008
- ► February 2008
- ► January 2008
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- Giving me wings
- The Selfish Highlight Reel: Rhode Island Fetish Flair Flea-market Recap
- Why Orgasm Logger? Well, why not?
- Wednesday Wanderings #9: Winds of Change
- Fantasy Worlds
- Because Submissive is an Orientation
- America's Sexual Sampler Platter: Everything but Me is on the Menu
- One thousand words
- Wednesday Wanderings #8: Mixed Visions for the New Year
- If this is 2008, then I don't have any resolutions
- ► 2007 (125)
- ► December 2007
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- The Sexism of Politeness
- It doesn't matter if she's got a brain when your dick is in her
- Three easy steps to meeting and playing with people in BDSM clubs
- Harlem, 2 AM, and Group Dynamics
- Merry Christmas, with picture presents!
- Unwelcome: The Emotional Effects of Social Injustice
- The boy next door is also bisexual
- The Sexism of Sex and Smarts
- Wednesday Wanderings: Welcome Back and Fond Farewell
- How an outdated view of masculinity ignores the needs of all men
- Fun with kissing
- We're all different: when sex isn't attractive
- Rope bondage video of the day
- Normal is anything but
- An Exemplar of Conservative Hypocrisy
- Nurture is stronger than you think
- 'Sexually uninhibited' is PC for 'slut'
- Love sex or fear god? That is the question.
- The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong
- Men and masks in porn
- Transgender Basics
- On Friends and Enemies
- Black Rose XX Recap: An Introduction
- ► November 2007
- ► October 2007
- ► September 2007
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- Stupid, stupid gay tops are just as bad as other men and women
- When I'm not feeling submissive
- Orgasm Logger source code available
- Hardware rearrangements cause Orgasm Logger to come down
- How not to fuck up a D/s relationship
- Sex is nice and porn is good for your society
- And now for something completely different
- Sex and Technology: How technological innovation pushes the boundaries of human sexuality and vice versa
- ► August 2007
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- Flying, the kinky sex orgasm, and the lack thereof
- What almost everybody else doesn't get about bisexuality
- The kink culture of fear
- A moment
- Orgasm Logger is down but I'm in Jersey
- Kink on Tap 7: Tom Allen
- Kink on Tap 6: Sexual Teasing and Denial
- I want to be a pretty boy
- What every big sexuality community web site does wrong
- More men need to cry on the big porn screen
- Pegging gets mainstream attention and kinky porn gets rightfully slapped upside its head
- The first blowjob I've ever bottomed to
- What sexuality might taste like if you were a submissive man in 2007
- Real Ultimate Male Chastity
- Your fantasy is not reality, and you should know better
- ► July 2007
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- The case against supremacy
- How to make my space bigger
- There is so little space for me
- Aneros Helix Sex Toy Review
- Quick Thoughts on Blogging, Bisexuality, and Prostate Stimulation (no relation)
- Where's the pain?
- Don't be nice
- (Off Topic) Meme: Random Seven
- Changes are no good, or whatever
- Kink on Tap 5: Bitchy Jones
- Kink on Tap 4: Conversio Virium
- ► June 2007
- ► May 2007
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- Thoughts on extended scenes and play headspaces
- Professional Domination is actually Professional, remember?
- Sex Services versus Sex Products
- Kink on Tap 3: Porn and Prejudice
- Kink on Tap 1 and 2: The Big Hard Cock, Kink in Culture
- Intoxicants in (and as) BDSM
- Everyone's a little bit selfish sometimes
- Once in 48 days
- A Truly Belated Wednesday Wanderings
- The Truth About Anonymity
- ► April 2007
- ► March 2007
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- Whips and chains may break my bones but words will always hurt more
- On the wonderfulness of thongs and chastity devices
- Marching on: Wednesday Wanderings
- Is submissive intent influenced by orgasms?
- Thoughts and fantasies on guided masturbation
- Wednesday Wanderings for March 21st
- Abandoned, accidental orgasm
- Anticipation in teasing
- Ecstagony's article on safety risks for face slapping play
- Face slapping and my many reactions to it
- Theory: Why subs write more than dom(me)s
- This Week's Wednesday Wandering
- The difference money makes
- Tell me I'm yours and tell me I'm good
- New erotica: Good boy, good pet
- I get off on unfairness
- Avoiding the orgasmic let down by avoiding responsibility?
- BDSM as an emotional sexuality all its own
- First Weekly Wednesday Wandering
- Feminization as the perfect creation
- Strap on vanilla sex and emotions in D/s sex
- Is it possible for a submissive to ever be truly polyamorous?
- Feeling well-trained is emotionally satisfying
- The body as our canvas for expression
- Homeostasis, conditioning, and orgasm denial
- Teasing and denial: you kind of need both parts
- Male chastity devices available today suck
- Is there such a thing as regular sex?
- ► February 2007
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- The psychology of conditioning in a D/s relationship
- Breathing as a sexual teasing technique
- Finally a take on D/s that rings true for me
- Does this mean I'm an erotica writer now?
- Teasing, Denial, and Orgasm Control Games on Erotic Humiliation
- Stream of consciousness on BDSM 101
- Ramblings of a boy with a fetish for orgasm control
- Trading for (some) anonymity and publicity
- ► 2010 (127)
Stuff I have opinions about
- Altered States and Headspaces (5)
- BDSM in the media (26)
- BDSM psychology (58)
- BDSM safety (12)
- BDSM techniques (11)
- BDSM terminology (6)
- Beginner BDSM (22)
- Bisexuality (10)
- Bitter and jealous (13)
- Blowjobs (3)
- Bondage (6)
- Chastity/Orgasm denial (35)
- Cock and ball torture (CBT) (4)
- Communication (31)
- Community (58)
- Cuckolding (4)
- D/s dynamics (53)
- Emotions (35)
- Erotic hypnosis (1)
- Erotica and pornography (14)
- Exhibitionism (4)
- Faceslapping (5)
- Fantasy (10)
- Femdom (49)
- Feminization and cross-dressing (5)
- Fetish (12)
- Foot worship (3)
- Gender fluidity (12)
- Generation gap (10)
- Humor (6)
- Kink events (27)
- Kink on Tap (7)
- Knife play (4)
- Male sexuality (29)
- Marks (7)
- Masculinity (17)
- Masochism (9)
- Masturbation (7)
- Myths and misconceptions (41)
- Orgasm Logger (5)
- Personal experience (60)
- Personal history (15)
- Pet play (1)
- Pic Post (7)
- Politics of sex (59)
- Polyamory (7)
- Professional BDSM (12)
- Puppy play (3)
- Rant (9)
- Relationship (26)
- Religious Evil (3)
- Reviews (6)
- Satire (1)
- Sex (38)
- Sex toys (10)
- Sexism (20)
- Sexual teasing and control (27)
- Spanking and paddling (3)
- Strap-ons and dildos (6)
- Stupid dominants (9)
- Stupid submissives (11)
- Technology (29)
- Torture and abuse (1)
- Training/Conditioning (6)
- Uncategorized (445)
- Vanilla life (60)
- Wednesday Wanderings (14)
- Whipping (9)
- Writing and blogging (34)
Random bits of interest- Cross-post: Edenfantasys’s unethical technology is a self-referential black hole
- What if the Ten Commandments were affirmative instead of negative?
- Cross-post: Announcing Sex Education Everywhere: Because We Learn More Than What They Teach
- What Kind of World
- Crosspost: My impressions on the new “sex-positive social network” Blackbox Republic
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