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Thursday, December 10, 2009

Stalker Update for 2009-12-10

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Ok, I'm thoroughly pooped. Sorry to have missed 1st http://DeviantsOnline.com workshop, but glad to have @KinkOnTap 19 published. BED. TIME. #
@sarahdopp OMG, you have NO IDEA. Well, now you do. :) Post-processing @KinkOnTap #audio's the single best thing I've done for my speech. ;) in reply to sarahdopp #
Gutsy college student asks #Obama to consider legalizing #prostitution, non-violent crime to aid #economy: http://ur1.ca/heoh cc @misscalico #
It's astonishing even to me how much difference "doing things right" makes. So much more productive today working w/clean #CSS code. #webdev #
Hiding out in our browser testing room all day, but only partly cuz I'm doing cross-browser testing. Mostly, it's just WARM in here. :) Brr! #
Next-gen #Ajax called #WebSockets released in Chrome, WebKit obsoletes #HTTP GETs from old #JavaScript code. http://bit.ly/63EbL2 ♺ @rgaidot #
@alevin @cashel That happens due to La Niña. Past few years have been cooler than warmer El Niño years & public #opinion is stupidly fickle. in reply to alevin #
I'm unconvinced picking kid's #gender is inherently bad but it IS #tech BEGGING for abuse in sexist world: http://bit.ly/7c78ug ♺ @psychderm #
Can you start an article about #masculinity or #sex-positive culture? Visit http://tr.im/sexposwikistickies for ways to help! #WikiWednesday #
@schmutzie From your blog, I feel like you'd like this #TEDTalk re the #Internet & #kindness, if you haven't seen it yet: http://ur1.ca/cc8i in reply to schmutzie #
♺ @KinkOnTap: Want a sneak-peak at upcoming #KinkOnTap #topics? View our notes: http://bit.ly/7Ar1Mc Subscribe to them: http://bit.ly/5rMQVL #
Good #quote: "People speak of "sexual morality," but that's a misleading expression. There is no special #morality for #sex." —Jens Bjørnboe #

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- @ac "The Ning of #Twitter quot;? Do you mean http://Status.net? I guess it might be more like a @WordPressDotCom of Twitter but close. #StatusNet in reply to ac 18 hrs ago
- @fleshvine Oh, I'm intimately familiar with lack of respect submissive men get. It's what prompted me to start http://MaleSubmissionArt.com. in reply to fleshvine 21 hrs ago
- Crudely discussed, but positive. ♺ @fleshvine: Interesting article on #male #submission. "Male Subs Gaining Respect" http://vb.ly/25t4 #BDSM 22 hrs ago
- "Get your shameful message the hell away from our #youth esp. our daughters." http://ur1.ca/qmhe #BrownSW is a jewel. Speak out in support. 22 hrs ago
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- Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed
  And it’s kind of sad that I hadn’t actually seen a counter-example before.I know what you mean, C.. Check out MaleSubmissionArt.com for a collection of some more counter-examples.Read more comments by maymay […]
- Stupid Business People Who Don’t Get Business
  Hah! I strongly second your response. I’ve gotten pretty good with that delete button, but I’ve sent my fair share of ranty email replies, too. :) maymay´s last blog ..I celebrated KinkForAll’s 1 year anniversary on the radio! Read more comments by maymay […]
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
  Sorry Maymay, I reject your whole argument.That’s fine with me, Billus, although I’m pretty unconvinced you’ve actually read much of this post, especially since you ask “are we fooling ourselves when we…maintain equality outside of the bedroom” as though you expect me to disagree with you. ;)I do wonder, however, what you actually disagree with, since you do […]
- Stalker Update for 2010-03-07
  I ♥ my server logs, too. ;) ♺ @ConfidentInCali: Checking my server logs, some people read my blog at church! Presbyterians are kinky freaks. #Proud of myself for my Spanish translation at http://SexEdEverywhere.com. I impressed 2 native speakers! Vote to get us even more resources! #♺ @KinkForAll Thinking abt your KinkForAll presentation topic yet? #KFASF #0 […]
- Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
  I think that part of the problem in discussing submission is that there really isn’t a syntax, a language that makes it clear for the reader or listener.Right, Tom. So, uh, let’s fix that. Without it, we can’t answer your question: are we all event talking about the same thing?, not to mention all the intra-personal and intra-relationship problems that arise […]
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- Crouching in darkness, a man with long hair perches on his fists and the balls of his feet, his hair thrown over his face, covering much of his naked body.
  
  I don’t typically like photographs whose levels have been altered for “artistic effect,” but for some reason this red-toned picture, sent in by John Pickman, appeals to me. John noted that the photograph is by S. E. Rider, and wrote:
  
  This photo was part of an exploration of D/s themes and ideas between my partner at the time (the photographer) and I. I like this one in particular because it seems archetypal, removed from the constraints of any one person or place. Submission isn’t something you do, it’s something you are, and we tried to capture that.
  
  Interestingly, this image doesn’t seem to evoke submissiveness to me, but rather strength, possibly even anger. The curled, almost gorilla-like crouched pose along with the hot red and white coloring brings rebellious, not docile, thoughts to mind. Although it might seem an inappropriate thing to put on a site called “Male Submission Art,” I think it’s crucial for “submissive people” like me to acknowledge when we’re not feeling submissive.
  
  I’m often annoyed by inappropriate expectations of docility many have of me when the only thing they know is that I use the label “submissive” to refer to my sexuality, and I find any formulation of submission that denies me agency repugnant. Articulating sexually submissive desires becomes even more challenging when the language available to discuss them fumbles so gracelessly and without distinction between fantasy and reality. It’s one thing to experience pleasure from a position of “meekness” (one of many synonyms for “submission” by Thesaurus.com), it is quite another to live meekly.
  
  -maymay
  
  03/14/10
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