http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/ Because 'kinky' is an adjective, not an activity Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:25:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-206777 Raging Chrysalis: The End of the Mute Submissive Masculine « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:31:28 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-206777 [...] I saw your KinkForAll Providence video,” he started, “I’ve been reading your blog. And I just wanted to say I really [...] [...] I saw your KinkForAll Providence video,” he started, “I’ve been reading your blog. And I just wanted to say I really [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-175081 SsexBbox: Gender is a text field « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed Thu, 30 Jun 2011 20:51:59 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-175081 [...] of ourselves. To our technology, our genders are among our most baffling human properties. The binary coarseness with which our technology encodes this information should serve as a humbling reminder to anyone [...] [...] of ourselves. To our technology, our genders are among our most baffling human properties. The binary coarseness with which our technology encodes this information should serve as a humbling reminder to anyone [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-161357 An Important Public Message « Tales of a Domme (who doesn't take herself too seriously) Fri, 03 Jun 2011 17:35:03 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-161357 [...] What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that to ma... [...] [...] What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that to ma… [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-160878 Signal boost: “The Devaluation of Male Submission” « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed Thu, 02 Jun 2011 22:50:48 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-160878 [...] What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that to ma... [...] [...] What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that to ma… [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-160796 The devaluation of male submission | Delving into Deviance Thu, 02 Jun 2011 20:41:43 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-160796 [...] What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that t... [...] [...] What is it that makes dominant women uncomfortable with femdom? There are a lot of things. One of the biggest is the sexist attitude that is rampant in the BDSM community. It often seems like women have to remain ice queens, untarnished by actually having penile-vaginal intercourse with their male subs. However, if they want to they can become more male, and thus, more dominant by strapping on and becoming – duh duh duh – The Penetrator. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with strapping on (I’m a fan myself), but a sex act does not a Dominant (or a submissive) make and we can’t just superimpose the male-female dichotomy onto Dominant-submissive and expect that t… [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-146121 My unreal experience on the Kink, Inc. Armory Tour « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed Tue, 03 May 2011 01:32:20 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-146121 [...] I questioned my sexual orientation, and then I questioned my gender identity—largely due to my sexually submissive inclinations, no less—intuitively, I knew I was bisexual. [...] [...] I questioned my sexual orientation, and then I questioned my gender identity—largely due to my sexually submissive inclinations, no less—intuitively, I knew I was bisexual. [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-130977 Anti-censorship best practices for the sex-positive publisher – Atlanta Poly Weekend 2011 « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed Thu, 31 Mar 2011 06:58:46 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-130977 [...] be better for business and the environment. Yet American culture’s obsession with essentialism—on dichotomies, which are, briefly, a set of “good” things that are exclusive from an opposing set of [...] [...] be better for business and the environment. Yet American culture’s obsession with essentialism—on dichotomies, which are, briefly, a set of “good” things that are exclusive from an opposing set of [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-118652 March Events and a Segment on Sexploration with Monika « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed Sun, 27 Feb 2011 03:54:57 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-118652 [...] of Design’s Queer Student Association. Readers following KinkForAll closely will recognize the kernel of the seminar from last year’s event in Providence. The RISD seminar will be a long-form discussion of the same material, featuring a [...] [...] of Design’s Queer Student Association. Readers following KinkForAll closely will recognize the kernel of the seminar from last year’s event in Providence. The RISD seminar will be a long-form discussion of the same material, featuring a [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-64353 Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed › Honor thy language: “kinky” is an adjective, not an activity Tue, 05 Oct 2010 07:29:53 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-64353 [...] sand—to draw the speaker’s preferred line in the sand—reify the hegemonic formulation of sex as dichotomized into obscene or decent acts. Emma goes on to say: We know as well about what Kink shouldn’t be – exclusionary, prejudicing. [...] [...] sand—to draw the speaker’s preferred line in the sand—reify the hegemonic formulation of sex as dichotomized into obscene or decent acts. Emma goes on to say: We know as well about what Kink shouldn’t be – exclusionary, prejudicing. [...]

]]> http://maybemaimed.com/2010/02/08/on-dichotomies/#comment-49407 mizztcasa Sun, 27 Jun 2010 22:05:15 +0000 http://maybemaimed.com/?p=1297#comment-49407 thank you for your small acts!!! love the advice as well. thank you for your small acts!!! love the advice as well.

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