Knowing that something I’ve done has made it easier for other people to live the sexually fulfilling lives they want is sometimes the only thing keeping me alive these days. So I was more than a little chuffed to read that Thumper drew from a post I wrote in 2007 called “How not to fuck [...]
Archive for October, 2010
How to maintain a not-fucked-up D/s relationship
28 Oct 2010 at 23:06
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, D/s dynamics, Sex
My Beautiful Kind Profile: “Sex, like a bright candle, has no innate morality”
Over the summer of 2010, Kendra (aka The Beautiful Kind), asked me for a brief email interview to make a profile for her column “You Are The Beautiful Kind.” Recently, however, it had vanished from her website and over email she told me she decided to take down the entry with the answers she solicited [...]
Wednesday Wanderings: On Aliens and Strip Clubs (but not Alien Strip Clubs)
Innately, I seek out information from a variety of sources. This is because I truly believe that multiple perspectives are necessary to understand one thing. With Kink On Tap, I’ve been able to turn my media consumption routine into a media production routine, but sometimes I find things that are more fitting to put here [...]
It’s not changing the world that’s hard
13 Oct 2010 at 02:40
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Emotions, Male sexuality, Masculinity, My Videos, Personal experience, Politics of sex
Honor thy language: “kinky” is an adjective, not an activity
Since I was a boy, I have been confronted with the maddening reality of being told to second-guess myself, that due to who I am (a person diagnosed with bipolar disorder) I can’t trust my own thoughts or feelings. Then I grew up and I learned that certain words do not mean to others what [...]
I’m not out just for me, I’m also out for you.
A couple months ago, a short guide to blogging about BDSM “safely” was published by an anonymous blogger. The main point she made was that, “With all the myths about BDSM out there, being involved in this lifestyle could get you fired or disinherited or make you lose custody of your children,” and so BDSM [...]
