Imagine my pleasant surprise when my Internet radar picked up a great post by a thoughtful new feminist BDSM blogger. FeministSub has a thing or two (or three) to say about the phrase “good girl” worth pointing out: “Good girl.” I don’t think there’s anything that captures my mixed feelings about submission like that phrase. [...]
Archive for March, 2011
“Good boy,” and other kinds of complicated sex
31 Mar 2011 at 12:54
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM terminology, Beginner BDSM, D/s dynamics, Politics of sex, Sexism
Anti-censorship best practices for the sex-positive publisher – Atlanta Poly Weekend 2011
29 Mar 2011 at 03:06
maymay
Community, My Videos, Politics of sex, Polyamory, Technology, Writing and blogging
FetLife fallout: the best and the worst early responses to “FetLife Considered Harmful”
The following are three replies I wrote to several threads within FetLife that I started regarding my post, FetLife Considered Harmful: The Risks of Sex Ghettoization. They exemplify some of the best and the worst early responses to my presentation, and in many cases perfectly showcase the kind of imbecilic, lazy, self-consoling thinking so common [...]
FetLife Considered Harmful: The Risks of Sex Ghettoization – KinkForAll Providence 2
20 Mar 2011 at 15:27
maymay
BDSM safety, Community, My Videos, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Technology
It’s foggy today: how BDSM and sex can be emotional self-medication in a cruel world
It was foggy in my (new) hometown of San Francisco today. I like fog. If I were weather I would be, I think, a dense fog. A friendly acquaintance of mine is fond of asking, “How’s your weather?” She does this instead of using the more common, “How are you?” I like her rephrasing because the [...]
Why self-harm has nothing to do with BDSM
Of the many questions that often come up when discussing BDSM are questions concerning the distinction between consensual sadomasochism and self-harm, or self-mutilation. This is not surprising because, from the perspective of an onlooker and especially when taken out of context, many masochistic behaviors like knife play look similar to arguably unhealthy behaviors such as [...]
