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Comment on Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid by maymay

maymay — Thu, 16 May 2013 18:53:00 +0000

You're in one of many right places for feedback, Burdy.

Just today, it appears the script has updated? Or something. Every time I open okc it urges me to answer more questions – mostly ones I’ve already answered.

Yes. See the PAT-OKC change log, above, for a list of things that have changed. In this case, new questions were added.

Anyway, wanted to point out I (a cisgender female) am being asked to answer the question “Have you made a female have sexual intercourse (putting all or part of your penis in her vagina even if you didn’t ejaculate or come) by using some degree of force or threatening to harm her?” As I do not actually, you know, own a penis, this question is irrelevant but I am unable to skip it?

Have you considered that answering "No." to this question is both accurate and important?

I also have a big issue with the questions concerning consensual BDSM (choking, slapping, etc) but at least there I can offer a comment about my answer, so I can live with that.

I have a big issue with you having a big issue about this, and so I'll direct you to these very important posts on this matter:

Further discussion about these questions will be deleted from this comment thread.

Thanks anyway, great script otherwise – very useful (And wow a lot of guys think no doesn’t always mean no!)

Thanks. And yes, the "wow" moment you're describing was the point of this script. See also: Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it? Part 1 and Part 2.

Comment on Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid by Burdy

Burdy — Thu, 16 May 2013 18:10:36 +0000

Been lead through a series of links to this page whilst trying to find a way to send feedback about this script – hope I’m not in the wrong place?
Just today, it appears the script has updated? Or something. Every time I open okc it urges me to answer more questions – mostly ones I’ve already answered.

Anyway, wanted to point out I (a cisgender female) am being asked to answer the question “Have you made a female have sexual intercourse (putting all or part of your penis in her vagina even if you didn’t ejaculate or come) by using some degree of force or threatening to harm her?”
As I do not actually, you know, own a penis, this question is irrelevant but I am unable to skip it?

I also have a big issue with the questions concerning consensual BDSM (choking, slapping, etc) but at least there I can offer a comment about my answer, so I can live with that.

Thanks anyway, great script otherwise – very useful (And wow a lot of guys think no doesn’t always mean no!)

- Burdy

Comment on Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid by maymay

maymay — Tue, 14 May 2013 16:53:54 +0000

No, vanilla, this is not a fake app. I am also having problems installing the script from the Userscripts.org sources, however, and I've emailed the maintainer of that website to ask them if there is a problem. Thanks for informing me about this issue. In the meantime, you can install the app by installing it using the download PAT-OKC from GitHub link, instead. (Make sure you have Tampermonkey or Greasemonkey installed before you click the link in the previous sentence, though.)

Comment on Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid by vanilla

vanilla — Tue, 14 May 2013 15:12:39 +0000

i’ve been trying to install this on both chrome and firefox, i have tampermonkey and greasemonkey, but the code for PAT-OKC doesn’t seem to actually exist. is this a fake app?

Comment on Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid by Suppose you were a total fucking wanker, and suppose you were a member of the BDSM community who objected to predator awareness; but I repeat myself. | Tales of a Domme

Sat, 11 May 2013 07:00:27 +0000

[...] Maymay, KIE, and Stabbity, all three of whom actually have a history in the meat world bdsm community, have posted recently about a PAT-OKC tool Maymay created to let people using the OKCupid site about possible predators. [...]

Comment on On Letting The World Burn by If I can’t dance… | Kink in exile

If I can’t dance… | Kink in exile — Thu, 09 May 2013 20:53:20 +0000

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Comment on Tracking rape culture’s social license to operate online by Got Consent? Part III: FetLife Doesn’t Get It | Disrupting Dinner Parties

Thu, 09 May 2013 01:16:12 +0000

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Comment on Ready to ditch FetLife? Tools to make the transition easier. by Got Consent? Part III: FetLife Doesn’t Get It | Disrupting Dinner Parties

Wed, 08 May 2013 17:24:16 +0000

[...] Fortunately, there are a number of tools that can help you do just that, mostly desinged by Maymay. Maymay provides an overview of all the tools, but I want to highlight a [...]

Comment on Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid by Got Consent? Part III: FetLife Doesn’t Get It | Disrupting Dinner Parties

Wed, 08 May 2013 14:31:30 +0000

[...] [Note: A tool with a similar purpose, though very different mechanism, has now been developed for OK Cupid (Predator Alert Tool for OK Cupid (PAT-OKC)).] [...]

Comment on Predator Alert Tool for FetLife (formerly the FetLife Alleged Abusers Database Engine, or FAADE) by Got Consent? Part III: FetLife Doesn’t Get It | Disrupting Dinner Parties

Wed, 08 May 2013 14:31:06 +0000

[...] into the breach. Internet activist/hacktivist/muckraker Maymay[2] has created a tool called the FetLife Alleged Abusers Database Engine (FAADE)–now rebranded as the Predator Alert Tool for FetLife (PAT-FetLife), a browser-side script [...]