The following is a guest post by KinkInExile, originally published at the author’s blog and copied with their permission. I think it’s important enough to republish at and link from a lot of places. So far, however, KinkInExile’s been “frustrated by the systemic disregard for anything that addresses abuse in kink without being itself pre-approved [...]
Archive for the ‘BDSM in the media’ Category
FetLife Alleged Abusers Database Engine (FAADE) mentioned in NY Observer
Last week, the New York Observer published an article by Rachel R. White about the BDSM Scene’s endemic abuse problem. An excerpt: While the [BDSM] scene’s mantra—“safe, sane and consensual”—is heard so often it might as well be translated into needlepoint, violations of these maxims are common. In the last year, hundreds of people have [...]
What porn companies can learn from the Giffords shooting
13 Jan 2011 at 02:49
maymay
BDSM in the media, Community, Erotica and pornography, Fantasy, Politics of sex, Rant
First, a couple important points. I hate Kink, Inc.1 2 That does not mean I want them eradicated—they have been doing a shitty job of it, but I believe have made the world a (slightly) better place on balance—it means I have incredibly negative feelings for them that are far, far stronger than mere disapproval [...]
The BDSM community ghetto, and other cultural problems
02 Dec 2010 at 03:35
maymay
BDSM in the media, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Politics of sex, Writing and blogging
Some months back, while I was still using my sanitized outside voice, Alice Archer contacted me for an article she was doing about “The Changing Face of Female Domination,” slated to be published in Filament Magazine. Now that the article is out (a preview is available if you turn to page 34, and have Flash), [...]
KinkForAll versus Stop Porn Culture: guess who’s filthier!
24 Jun 2010 at 13:04
maymay
BDSM in the media, Kink events, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Vanilla life, Writing and blogging
Over at the Washington City Paper, Amanda Hess wrote about her experiences at KinkForAll Washington DC 2 and Dr. Gail Dines’ Stop Porn Culture anti-porn activist briefing on The Hill last Tuesday. Her column is well worth a read, and exposes the should-be-obvious blatant hypocrisy with which fear-mongering anti-porn crusaders conduct themselves on a regular [...]
Addressing Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks’ concerns over KinkForAll unconferences
27 Mar 2010 at 15:37
maymay
BDSM in the media, Community, Generation gap, Kink events, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Vanilla life
Following Marie’s example, let’s all take a deep breath. Even though I feel defamed by Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks, I want to address the crux of their concerns about KinkForAll unconferences and ask for their advice. Discreetly tucked away at the end of a 6 page personal assault, they wrote: The open and [...]
