Knowing that something I’ve done has made it easier for other people to live the sexually fulfilling lives they want is sometimes the only thing keeping me alive these days. So I was more than a little chuffed to read that Thumper drew from a post I wrote in 2007 called “How not to fuck [...]
Archive for the ‘BDSM psychology’ Category
How to maintain a not-fucked-up D/s relationship
28 Oct 2010 at 23:06
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, D/s dynamics, Sex
What will it take for the silent majority to speak up?
24 Jul 2010 at 16:58
maymay
BDSM psychology, D/s dynamics, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex
I am uniquely privileged: because of my relative self-sufficiency, I am loudly, unabashedly out of the closet. This gives me a certain power; I make no bones about wielding it. Unfortunately, not everyone enjoys the ability to be wholly and publicly authentic about who they are because standing up for what you believe in can [...]
A primatologist’s suggestions for happier orgasm control
10 Jul 2010 at 04:23
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM techniques, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Fetish, Multi-Media, Sex, Sexual teasing and control, Training/Conditioning
Y’know, despite all the politics and recent dramas surrounding me and my work, sometimes it is about the sex. Lately, I’ve been wanting to write more about sex but between making rent and bills and the aforementioned dramas, it’s just not that easy. I got to a point where I’ve put myself far enough in [...]
Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
06 Mar 2010 at 00:17
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Sex, Sexism
One of the things that has seriously bugged me for a very long time is how lots of people think about submissiveness, particularly but not necessarily as it relates to male sexuality. It bugs me because for all the lip service paid to respecting submission, very little about the way it’s discussed actually seems to [...]
On Dichotomies that (No Longer) Jail Me – KinkForAll Providence
08 Feb 2010 at 14:37
maymay
BDSM psychology, Communication, D/s dynamics, Kink events, Male sexuality, Masculinity, My Videos, Myths and misconceptions, Personal experience, Politics of sex, Vanilla life
I, too, kink on BDSM stereotypes
17 Jul 2009 at 04:51
maymay
BDSM psychology, Beginner BDSM, Emotions, Femdom, Male sexuality, Personal history
As sometimes happens, the Internet sends me alerts of things I’ve told it I might find interesting. Tonight, Delilah Wood’s post, Questioning Desires: A place for sissies and worms? splashed onto my radar. Reading the post, I found it heartening to find that there are people, like Delilah, who have been reading me and, even [...]
