Back in April of 2009, only 1 month after coming back from living in Sydney, Australia, I recorded a pretty long discussion with Axe for his Masocast podcast. (As an aside, it’s a great BDSM podcast, but sadly Axe blatantly sold out his integrity and, despite my helping him cut his podcast costs in half, [...]
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How to maintain a not-fucked-up D/s relationship
28 Oct 2010 at 23:06
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, D/s dynamics, Sex
Knowing that something I’ve done has made it easier for other people to live the sexually fulfilling lives they want is sometimes the only thing keeping me alive these days. So I was more than a little chuffed to read that Thumper drew from a post I wrote in 2007 called “How not to fuck [...]
What will it take for the silent majority to speak up?
24 Jul 2010 at 16:58
maymay
BDSM psychology, D/s dynamics, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex
I am uniquely privileged: because of my relative self-sufficiency, I am loudly, unabashedly out of the closet. This gives me a certain power; I make no bones about wielding it. Unfortunately, not everyone enjoys the ability to be wholly and publicly authentic about who they are because standing up for what you believe in can [...]
A primatologist’s suggestions for happier orgasm control
10 Jul 2010 at 04:23
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM techniques, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Fetish, Multi-Media, Sex, Sexual teasing and control, Training/Conditioning
Y’know, despite all the politics and recent dramas surrounding me and my work, sometimes it is about the sex. Lately, I’ve been wanting to write more about sex but between making rent and bills and the aforementioned dramas, it’s just not that easy. I got to a point where I’ve put myself far enough in [...]
Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
06 Mar 2010 at 00:17
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Sex, Sexism
One of the things that has seriously bugged me for a very long time is how lots of people think about submissiveness, particularly but not necessarily as it relates to male sexuality. It bugs me because for all the lip service paid to respecting submission, very little about the way it’s discussed actually seems to [...]
