EDITORIAL NOTE: This piece is long because it reiterates important information from prior posts published over the last several months. For those of you who haven’t the time or patience to read this in one sitting, you can use the following mini-Table Of Contents to jump to the subsections of this post: FetLife is selling [...]
Archive for the ‘BDSM safety’ Category
Let’s get practical: Care about Internet privacy because it keeps your loved ones physically safer
There is a key point continually getting glossed over in this whole FetLife disaster that I feel needs to be stated. It is the direct line that connects the dots between FetLife’s silencing of abuse survivors and FetLife’s dishonest communication about security and privacy. The following is cross-posted from Facebook, emphasis added: There are a [...]
FetLife Considered Harmful: The Risks of Sex Ghettoization – KinkForAll Providence 2
20 Mar 2011 at 15:27
maymay
BDSM safety, Community, My Videos, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Technology
Safely fucking anonymous johns with inspiration from TCP/IP
04 Oct 2008 at 21:24
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, BDSM techniques, Bisexuality, Communication, D/s dynamics, Fantasy, Male sexuality, Professional BDSM, Sex, Technology
I can still remember the day when Eileen said to me, somewhat dismayed, “Sometimes it feels like every kinky girl who’s even close to being classically attractive decides to become a pro-domme sooner or later. Why am I the only one who doesn’t?” And of course, when she was offered a job as a pro-domme [...]
Top Ten Tips for Long-Term Male Chastity Device Wear
24 Sep 2008 at 03:19
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, BDSM techniques, Beginner BDSM, Chastity/Orgasm denial, D/s dynamics, Fetish, Male sexuality, Myths and misconceptions, Sexual teasing and control, Training/Conditioning
I’ve had a number of what I’d consider relatively long-term experiences with the CB-3000 (which I think is safe to say is the most popular male chastity device available today). I’ve been able to wear the chastity device for several weeks with no problems, almost 24/7. However, that success did not come easy (no pun [...]
Sexism at Large in American Politics: Armed and Dangerous
09 Jun 2008 at 14:55
maymay
BDSM in the media, BDSM safety, Masculinity, Politics of sex, Sexism, Vanilla life
I’ve never been extremely thorough about pursuing political current events, but I’m finding myself ever more personally withdrawn from American politics now that I’m living in Sydney and no longer living in America. However, I actually feel more knowledgeable about American politics now than I did when I lived in New York City, mostly because [...]





