It’s Thursday and all and I’ve not posted for too long. Australia is keeping me busy, but I’ve had these photos in store for this blog ever since I was packing, and I figure there’s no better time than the present. A while back, Mischief made a pact with Switch and Boy to bare their [...]
Archive for the ‘BDSM safety’ Category
On Friends and Enemies
05 Dec 2007 at 18:31
maymay
BDSM safety, Bitter and jealous, Community, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Kink events, Personal experience, Stupid dominants
Early Monday morning before dawn, back at home from Black Rose and in Eileen‘s arms, I was crying because I felt lonely and invisible. Moments before, out of bitterness and jealousy, I had just said that the people I like were not my friends in scene (kink) spaces. A little while later, I told Eileen [...]
On kinky competence (epilogue)
My prior post, On kinky competence, generated a few really good replies in the comments, and across the blogosphere. Perhaps even more are yet to appear. One short piece in particular by Dev so perfectly represented most of the reactions to my post that as I began writing a comment to her I realized it [...]
On kinky competence
06 Nov 2007 at 11:27
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, BDSM techniques, Bondage, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Myths and misconceptions, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives
Few “bedroom kinky” people I have heard of have ever shown a concerted effort to pick up an anatomy book with a mind towards safer rougher sex—though it’s obvious, even to them, why they might want to consider it. These are the kinds of people I have never found attractive. They never take the time to analyze their own successes or their failures, and consequently sentence themselves to lives of mediocre experiences at best or, more commonly, continuous bewildered failure.
Kink on Tap 6: Sexual Teasing and Denial
22 Aug 2007 at 16:43
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, BDSM techniques, Beginner BDSM, Chastity/Orgasm denial, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Femdom, Fetish, Kink on Tap, Personal experience, Sexual teasing and control
Subscribe to Kink on Tap in iTunesDownload MP3 directly In lieu of the fast-approaching Floating World convention, rather than do a Kink on Tap roundtable as I’m (trying) to do regularly, I thought this time I’d share some of the fun around for those of you unlucky enough not to be able to attend. SaraEileen [...]
Intoxicants in (and as) BDSM
Richard over on Femdom Blogs poses a question that has been on my mind for quite a while now. Specifically, have you ever drunk, done drugs, or otherwise been in an altered state as part of a BDSM scene? If so, did the intoxicant enhance or diminish the experience? Two years ago my answer would [...]
