Few “bedroom kinky” people I have heard of have ever shown a concerted effort to pick up an anatomy book with a mind towards safer rougher sex—though it’s obvious, even to them, why they might want to consider it. These are the kinds of people I have never found attractive. They never take the time to analyze their own successes or their failures, and consequently sentence themselves to lives of mediocre experiences at best or, more commonly, continuous bewildered failure.
Archive for the ‘BDSM techniques’ Category
On kinky competence
06 Nov 2007 at 11:27
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, BDSM techniques, Bondage, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Myths and misconceptions, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives
Kink on Tap 7: Tom Allen
22 Aug 2007 at 23:43
maymay
BDSM techniques, Beginner BDSM, Chastity/Orgasm denial, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Femdom, Kink on Tap, Relationship, Sex, Sex toys, Sexual teasing and control, Training/Conditioning, Vanilla life
Subscribe to Kink on Tap in iTunesDownload MP3 directly This Kink on Tap is kind of an extended addendum to our previous episode where we talk about and introduce the topic of sexual teasing and denial and chastity play. If you haven’t listened to that episode already, I strongly urge you to do so. The [...]
Kink on Tap 6: Sexual Teasing and Denial
22 Aug 2007 at 16:43
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, BDSM techniques, Beginner BDSM, Chastity/Orgasm denial, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Femdom, Fetish, Kink on Tap, Personal experience, Sexual teasing and control
Subscribe to Kink on Tap in iTunesDownload MP3 directly In lieu of the fast-approaching Floating World convention, rather than do a Kink on Tap roundtable as I’m (trying) to do regularly, I thought this time I’d share some of the fun around for those of you unlucky enough not to be able to attend. SaraEileen [...]
The first blowjob I’ve ever bottomed to
10 Aug 2007 at 12:39
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM techniques, Blowjobs, Chastity/Orgasm denial, D/s dynamics, Femdom, Personal experience, Politics of sex, Relationship, Sex, Sexual teasing and control
This morning a friend asked me to give her an image that turns me on, followed by an image that is iconic of a “top” or a “domme” and then to determine whether the answers to those two questions share any key visual elements. Yes, this friend’s really smart, by the way. In response, I [...]
Breathing as a sexual teasing technique
db over on Tantalism.org writes: I’ve blogged before about that type of touch, the type of attitude, that I have found best for teasing: one that is soothing yet arousing, makes you beg for relief yet makes you comfortable with not having it. And I’ve noticed that it is always accompanied by a particular pattern [...]
