I may very well never get invited to The Armory again. You see, I was invited to visit after I wrote this scathing indictment of a Cybernet Entertainment, LLC press release (the company behind Kink.com and which I’ll here thereafter refer to as Kink, Inc., for brevity and rhetorical purpose) and the blogosphere’s response. A [...]
Archive for the ‘Communication’ Category
This is me, here, now. And I just wanted you to know.
It may not have appeared this way, but I’ve been pretty guarded in my writing here for quite some time. It’s really hard not to be guarded when one feels unsafe—be it physically, emotionally, or legally—being in public view. And I am pretty unabashed about being in public view. I pored over my words countless [...]
How to maintain a not-fucked-up D/s relationship
28 Oct 2010 at 23:06
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, D/s dynamics, Sex
Knowing that something I’ve done has made it easier for other people to live the sexually fulfilling lives they want is sometimes the only thing keeping me alive these days. So I was more than a little chuffed to read that Thumper drew from a post I wrote in 2007 called “How not to fuck [...]
Now you know why I’m angry; here’s why you need to be, too
In my last post, I wrote that I am angry at the pervasive culture of fear, particularly surrounding sexuality. Like any culture, this one is no accident. It began in Victorian social strictures, has been engendered by the public schools, sustained by mass-market media, and is furthered by judgmental people enthralled to their fears. And [...]
Femquake Fallout: Feminism, the Internet and Boobquake (and Brainquake)
27 Apr 2010 at 15:39
maymay
Communication, Community, Personal experience, Politics of sex, Sexism, Vanilla life, Writing and blogging
Boobquake was hilarious. Above all else, the joke turned media frenzy turned factional feminist debate taught me that the Internet is like a giant game of telephone. No matter what someone says, someone else will misconstrue it as something totally different. And y’know what? That’s not so terrible. Here’s why. The Internet is like a [...]
Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
06 Mar 2010 at 00:17
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Sex, Sexism
One of the things that has seriously bugged me for a very long time is how lots of people think about submissiveness, particularly but not necessarily as it relates to male sexuality. It bugs me because for all the lip service paid to respecting submission, very little about the way it’s discussed actually seems to [...]
