(Note: This post is a republication of my original post from February, 2012.) Last night, I attended Matriarchy at The RACK Room in Denver, Colorado, at the gracious invitation of the venue’s owners, Jeff and Headmistress Saskia. The event bills itself as: [O]pen to ALL women (sub, slave, top, mistress, cis, trans, female-identified, etc.) and [...]
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FetLife iCalendar: Hate FetLife, but want to know what’s going on in your Scene? There’s an App For That.
Hi folks! I imagine that we would be likely to have a conversation that goes something like this: ME: “FetLife is shit.” YOU: “I know, I hate FetLife. But it’s where I learn about what’s going on in my community!” ME: “You mean like for events and stuff?”YOU: “Yeah.” ME: *sigh.* I get it. Like [...]
Guest post: National BDSM organization’s own survey admits a consent crisis in BDSM Scene
The following is a guest post by KinkInExile, originally published at the author’s blog and copied with their permission. I think it’s important enough to republish at and link from a lot of places. So far, however, KinkInExile’s been “frustrated by the systemic disregard for anything that addresses abuse in kink without being itself pre-approved [...]
The privacy information FetLife doesn’t want you to read
EDITORIAL NOTE: This piece is long because it reiterates important information from prior posts published over the last several months. For those of you who haven’t the time or patience to read this in one sitting, you can use the following mini-Table Of Contents to jump to the subsections of this post: FetLife is selling [...]
The BDSM Scene is an abusive social institution; let their world burn (they’re doing it already)
The following is cross-posted from Male Submission Art. Four lists, arranged in columns, describe traits commonly associated with “men,” “women,” “dominants” and “submissives,” respectively. The column labeled “Act like a man” bears striking similarities to the column “Act like a dominant,” while the column labeled “Act like a woman” closely resembles the items in the [...]





