EDITORIAL NOTE: This piece is long, for which I apologize, but some things cannot be clearly stated without careful attention to detail. For those of you who haven’t the time or patience to read this in one sitting, you can use the following mini-Table Of Contents to jump to the subsections of this post: “Every [...]
Archive for the ‘Personal experience’ Category
It’s foggy today: how BDSM and sex can be emotional self-medication in a cruel world
It was foggy in my (new) hometown of San Francisco today. I like fog. If I were weather I would be, I think, a dense fog. A friendly acquaintance of mine is fond of asking, “How’s your weather?” She does this instead of using the more common, “How are you?” I like her rephrasing because the [...]
March Events and a Segment on Sexploration with Monika
I’m unexpectedly more busy than I know how to handle. Between the theory and excellent commentary my post last week is generating and all that I’m doing, I wake up each morning (or, afternoon as the case may be) and don’t know what I want to engage with first. What an incredible turn-around from last [...]
An appeal for safe intellectual exploration: Touch me thoughtfully
Ever since I became the focus of certain political and legal pressure, I’ve been scared of reflecting too casually on thoughts or feelings filling me. For a time, this blog became more like a broadcast station than a personal journal. I also became guarded because the people closest to me, the ones from whom I [...]
This is me, here, now. And I just wanted you to know.
It may not have appeared this way, but I’ve been pretty guarded in my writing here for quite some time. It’s really hard not to be guarded when one feels unsafe—be it physically, emotionally, or legally—being in public view. And I am pretty unabashed about being in public view. I pored over my words countless [...]
I am no Hercules
15 Nov 2010 at 00:07
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Emotions, Personal experience, Personal history, Politics of sex, Rant
Earlier this evening, I recorded what may be one of the final Kink On Tap shows, Kink On Tap Episode 67. In addition to making that announcement, there were some more things I strongly felt needed saying. I basically sat down and wrote a stream-of-consciousness set of notes from which I based what I wanted [...]
