Back on May 3rd, 2005, a bit after 4 AM in the morning, I came home from an evening out at one of TES‘s “College Night” parties at New York City’s local BDSM club, Paddles. A little over a month earlier, I had first met Eileen at Conversio Virium, but it had been significantly less [...]
Archive for the ‘Personal history’ Category
One night, I fell in love
06 Feb 2008 at 04:17
maymay
BDSM psychology, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Faceslapping, Femdom, Knife play, Male sexuality, Personal experience, Personal history, Relationship
Why Orgasm Logger? Well, why not?
10 Jan 2008 at 14:28
maymay
BDSM in the media, BDSM psychology, BDSM techniques, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, D/s dynamics, Humor, Myths and misconceptions, Orgasm Logger, Personal history, Politics of sex, Sex, Sexual teasing and control, Technology
This is majorly cool: Viviane linked Orgasm Logger in her Links for January 4th, 2008 post and it’s since been picked up by Boinkology, and a few higher-profile bloggers are beginning to display Orgasm Logger counters on their sites, too, like Tom Paine. A few months ago, a search for “Orgasm Logger” revealed only a [...]
Because Submissive is an Orientation
07 Jan 2008 at 17:45
maymay
BDSM psychology, Beginner BDSM, D/s dynamics, Male sexuality, Myths and misconceptions, Personal history, Sex
Why are kinky people kinky? If you’re kinky, can you tell me why you are that way? Ask a kinky person this and I bet the most likely answer you’re going to get is “I don’t know; I just am.” Interestingly, ask a gay person why they’re gay, and you’ll get the same answer. Conclusion? [...]
The Sexism of Sex and Smarts
20 Dec 2007 at 18:56
maymay
Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Personal history, Politics of sex, Sexism
Sex and smarts have always been at odds with each other culturally for some reason I haven’t been able to identify yet. Everyone is aware of this fact and yet, despite my many inquiries into the subject, no one I’ve talked to seems to fully understand this odd relationship. That makes me feel at once [...]
The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong
12 Dec 2007 at 03:41
maymay
BDSM psychology, Bisexuality, Bitter and jealous, Communication, D/s dynamics, Gender fluidity, Myths and misconceptions, Personal history, Politics of sex, Sexism
When I was a little boy, I was uncomfortable in social situations. My mother has a VHS videocassette of me in kindergarten. In it, I am sitting on one of my teachers’ lap while all the other girls and boys are sitting in a circle. “Don’t you want to sit with the other kids?” you [...]
Stupid, stupid gay tops are just as bad as other men and women
I realize this is very old news but I wanted to share this little gem of a message I receieved the other day on the piss-poor web site ALT.com. For fairness (and because it’s funnier that way), I’ll quote the thing in full without breaks: Master has attached a copy of his profile.It may be [...]
