Imagine my pleasant surprise when my Internet radar picked up a great post by a thoughtful new feminist BDSM blogger. FeministSub has a thing or two (or three) to say about the phrase “good girl” worth pointing out: “Good girl.” I don’t think there’s anything that captures my mixed feelings about submission like that phrase. [...]
Archive for the ‘Sexism’ Category
“Good boy,” and other kinds of complicated sex
31 Mar 2011 at 12:54
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM terminology, Beginner BDSM, D/s dynamics, Politics of sex, Sexism
Yes, men can be feminist leaders.
30 Apr 2010 at 04:09
maymay
Myths and misconceptions, Personal experience, Politics of sex, Sexism, Vanilla life
I don’t claim clairvoyance and I work pretty hard to unpack the privilege I know I have as a white man. But I can also identify with a collective experience of being oppressed—and this is not unique to anyone reading, regardless of your biology or psyche. I believe every inequality oppresses the oppressors as well [...]
Femquake Fallout: Feminism, the Internet and Boobquake (and Brainquake)
27 Apr 2010 at 15:39
maymay
Communication, Community, Personal experience, Politics of sex, Sexism, Vanilla life, Writing and blogging
Boobquake was hilarious. Above all else, the joke turned media frenzy turned factional feminist debate taught me that the Internet is like a giant game of telephone. No matter what someone says, someone else will misconstrue it as something totally different. And y’know what? That’s not so terrible. Here’s why. The Internet is like a [...]
Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
06 Mar 2010 at 00:17
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Sex, Sexism
One of the things that has seriously bugged me for a very long time is how lots of people think about submissiveness, particularly but not necessarily as it relates to male sexuality. It bugs me because for all the lip service paid to respecting submission, very little about the way it’s discussed actually seems to [...]
Please read poignant commentary on Hope Witsell’s suicide
This morning, I woke up and followed a link to some incredibly poignant commentary about Hope Witsell’s suicide, a topic I tried and failed to talk about the way I wanted to on the most recent Kink On Tap episode. Thankfully, I now have Sylvia’s words to put to my feelings. In What happened to [...]
Don’t you fret, sexism is alive and well in BDSM
02 Oct 2009 at 18:17
maymay
Beginner BDSM, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Sexism, Stupid dominants
One of the most frustratingly ignorant arguments for why BDSM is a Bad Thing comes from self-proclaimed feminists who view women who enjoy a submissive sexuality as traitors. My understanding is that such feminists believe that an imbalance of sexual power, most of which they see as being in the hands of men (while annoyingly [...]
