The following are three replies I wrote to several threads within FetLife that I started regarding my post, FetLife Considered Harmful: The Risks of Sex Ghettoization. They exemplify some of the best and the worst early responses to my presentation, and in many cases perfectly showcase the kind of imbecilic, lazy, self-consoling thinking so common [...]
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FetLife fallout: the best and the worst early responses to “FetLife Considered Harmful”
In which I am an asshole about sexual authoritarianism
01 Feb 2011 at 06:17
maymay
Chastity/Orgasm denial, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Stupid submissives
As I’ve said before, perhaps my favorite bona-fide sex blogger ever is Thumper. Beyond simply being my favorite, he’s also one of, if not the best-known, writer on the fetish of male chastity/orgasm control (linked by mainstream sex-advice columnist Dan Savage),1 which I happen to strongly share with him. However, almost a year ago I started [...]
There Is No BDSM Mecca
18 Aug 2009 at 18:47
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Kink events, Personal experience, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives
In the past month-and-a-bit, I’ve touched down in San Francisco, found a studio apartment to rent, and began looking for some kind of employment. (I’m still looking, actually.) My first BDSM event was a “Peer Rope Workshop” at the SF Citadel that Fivestar, an amazingly talented rigger and self-bondage enthusiast, alerted me to. Amid the [...]
Now I remember why I love and hate New York City’s BDSM scene
01 Apr 2009 at 03:39
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Personal experience, Rant, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives, Vanilla life
So, this is a complete and utter rant, because that’s just the mood I’m in. Also, it’s my blog. In case you didn’t know, I rant hard (and fast). My first half-week in New York City has been an utter roller coaster. In these few short days after I (mostly) finished regrouping with friends, I [...]
CBT? WTF is up with that?
11 May 2008 at 01:33
maymay
BDSM in the media, BDSM psychology, BDSM terminology, Cock and ball torture (CBT), Femdom, Foot worship, Male sexuality, Myths and misconceptions, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives
I just got an email I thought was pretty funny. In it, the sender implies a conspicuous lack of an item from my toy collection: weights. I mean, doesn’t everyone have weights, at least for cock and ball torture? Actually, no, I responded…and why would I? I don’t actually like cock and ball torture that [...]
Wednesday Wanderings #9: Winds of Change
09 Jan 2008 at 12:40
maymay
BDSM psychology, Femdom, Male sexuality, Politics of sex, Stupid submissives, Technology, Wednesday Wanderings
It’s Wednesday, so let’s just dive right in! For a long, long time I wished I had been sent to a Montessori school when I was younger because one of my tried-and-true learning techniques comes from making associations between things other people would not typically realize could be applicable to one another. I made one [...]




