While filling the Conversio Virium calendar with other group’s events to publicize to the CV crowd, I came across a curious meeting topic that DomSubFriends (one of our local NYC BDSM groups) is going to be presenting on shortly. It is a presentation, taught by a dominant man and intended for other men regardless of [...]
Archive for the ‘Stupid submissives’ Category
Three easy steps to meeting and playing with people in BDSM clubs
28 Dec 2007 at 02:38
maymay
BDSM psychology, Beginner BDSM, Communication, Femdom, Fetish, Foot worship, Myths and misconceptions, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives, Vanilla life
On kinky competence
06 Nov 2007 at 11:27
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, BDSM techniques, Bondage, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Myths and misconceptions, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives
Few “bedroom kinky” people I have heard of have ever shown a concerted effort to pick up an anatomy book with a mind towards safer rougher sex—though it’s obvious, even to them, why they might want to consider it. These are the kinds of people I have never found attractive. They never take the time to analyze their own successes or their failures, and consequently sentence themselves to lives of mediocre experiences at best or, more commonly, continuous bewildered failure.
How not to fuck up a D/s relationship
13 Sep 2007 at 17:42
maymay
BDSM psychology, Beginner BDSM, Communication, D/s dynamics, Emotions, Myths and misconceptions, Personal experience, Relationship, Stupid submissives
Tech geekery in both my professional and personal life has kept me away from this blog for a short while, but it was relationship angst that initiated the suspension of my time here. I got upset with Eileen for one reason or another (it doesn’t really matter for this entry). When you’re in a relationship—any [...]
The kink culture of fear
28 Aug 2007 at 17:08
maymay
BDSM psychology, Community, Kink events, Masochism, Myths and misconceptions, Personal experience, Personal history, Spanking and paddling, Strap-ons and dildos, Stupid submissives, Whipping
Where do I start? Do I begin with the retelling of the stories from years now long past, or with this weekend? It’s hard to tell what would be more effective. This weekend, while filled with spectacularly virginal experiences for most people in the realms of play, pain, pleasure, and of course sex, was actually [...]
More men need to cry on the big porn screen
14 Aug 2007 at 23:04
maymay
BDSM in the media, BDSM psychology, Bitter and jealous, Community, D/s dynamics, Erotica and pornography, Exhibitionism, Femdom, Politics of sex, Professional BDSM, Rant, Sex, Stupid submissives
The other day during dinner while hanging out with friends, of course, pornography gets brought up. (I’m sure the waitresses love us. Or hate us. Or love to hate us. (That’s called foreshadowing, by the way. (And this is called Lisp.))) Now, porn gets brought up all the time in conversations with my general social [...]
Pegging gets mainstream attention and kinky porn gets rightfully slapped upside its head
12 Aug 2007 at 21:15
maymay
BDSM in the media, Beginner BDSM, Femdom, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Professional BDSM, Sex, Sex toys, Strap-ons and dildos, Stupid submissives
Just earlier today a friend sent me to this Savage Love article in the Village Voice. It’s about pegging, aka strap-on sex. We’ve all talked about this before, remember. The reason this article stuck out like a bright and red sore thumb in all the otherwise mundane vanilla-oriented sex advice columns was the nugget of [...]
