• Fuck you, #Verizon. 6hrs w/ your tech support did less than 1 hour on Google to solve my #3G #Internet issues. Get your techs to use Google! #
  • @tomcapote No, it’s an acct issue: my temporary solution is use a different device w/2nd account. THAT worked, 1st acct w/same config fails. in reply to tomcapote #
  • OH @SoraiLaFey: “It seems to me like an unconference is just as stressful as a real conference.” True…I’m exceptionally invested in #KFANYC. #
  • @misscalico I hope so…we’ve yet to see if my hairbranined scheme will work, but if it will we’ll have Wi-Fi. That said, we’ll have to share. in reply to misscalico #
  • @SaraEileen is doing essential comms at #KFANYC. Touched on timeframe, technical issues, thankful to sponsors @viviane212 & @audaciaray. :D #
  • #KFANYC off to a great start. So relieved. Have so many awesome people here. @echomikeromeo starts us off w/ “Politicization of the Closet.” #
  • @echomikeromeo: “Who’s job is it to be fighting for legal reform or social reform?” Great questions; speaking w/ maturity well beyond years. #
  • @echomikeromeo’s great great discussion of what is appropriate or not regarding outness. Personal topic, of course…it’s such a murky issue…. #
  • Gah! Trying to keep #KFANYC network up. Seeing lotsa disconnections from remote side. Clearly this 3G is straining already. :( Keep trying…. #
  • Ranat of http://beyondthehills.wordpress.com. “Markers & Presentation for Dominant Women.” She references @mrsexsmith’s blog as inspiration. #
  • “Most obvious marker for kinky people in general is coming out verbally.” Ranat says, “Let’s get away from only latex & high heels.” #KFANYC #
  • At #KFANYC @misscalico says, as a woman “it doesn’t matter how I dress.” People will see what they want. Others in here nod in agreement. :\ #
  • #KFANYC Ranat says, “In every space I’ve been, I’ve always been read as submissive because of age, sex, and shape. But that’s not who I am.” #
  • #KFANYC @misscalico “Best way to get people to think you’re top is to bring your own toys. They still ask me, ‘do you know how to use that’? #
  • @selinafire “It’s reflective of society as a whole. This whole thing, you’re a sub is really ‘you’re a woman.'” #KFANYC Yes, BDSM=microcosm. #
  • @stacycat begins to discuss “Stigma and STI” at #KFANYC. “I’m really upset at how we treat STIs, especially in the BDSM community.” #
  • @stacycat #KFANYC “I did a survey…most people are afraid of HIV & herpes but only 1 person was actually tested for herpes!” Must must test! #
  • @StacyCat says at #KFANYC, most surveyed would not START a relationship if a partner had an STI, but would continue one if contracted later. #
  • I’m a little frustrated at the loudness in the hallways that are coming from NOT our #KFANYC group. Making huge effort to be good neighbors. #
  • #KFANYC @recursivekink: “Am I stigmatizing ppl w/ STIs if I’m simply restricting what I’ll do with them?” @ammre suggests using gloves, etc. #
  • #KFANYC @stacycat “Yes there’s a risk. It’s worth it for a romantic relationship. Often psychological toll is MORE damaging than STIs.” Wow. #
  • Power of No session has all us walking around trying to get ppl to collect “no” answers from the rest of folk in the room. Novel! #KFANYC :D #
  • #KFANYC “Power of No” seems to have seamlessly transitioned to communication+feedback exercise for making getting to “yes” comfortable—Nice. #
  • “By saying what I want I’m worried I’m changing what they want to do.” Pertinent for issues outside #KFANYC as well as in BDSM, play, other. #
  • #KFANYC “If I ask you…I have to be okay getting a no, but I also have to be prepared if you say yes.” “We’re often afraid to get a yes.” Hm. #
  • #KFANYC: If you mean no say no—not maybe. You’re not only giving yourself power you’re releasing person who’s asked to go somewhere else. :) #
  • @yarnivore Thank you! I wish you were back as well. Next time, right? :) I really, really want to see your storage technology+porn preso. :D in reply to yarnivore #
  • @misscalico That’s precisely what http://conversiovirium.org/wiki is designed to help prevent negative consequences of—knowledge GENERATION. in reply to misscalico #
  • #KFANYC Youth Leadership talk preso is already 15 min into lunch break. Justen: “Difficult to maintain !GLBT safe space plus inviting het….” #
  • Skipping lunch in order to prepare for my own presentation: Gender and Technology, expanded from the one I did for @IgniteSydney. #KFANYC :D #
  • @raquelita You can still come! We have half a day left and lots more presentations. Plus, we have SO MUCH FOOD—it’s been generously donated. in reply to raquelita #
  • I’m up at #KFANYC in 5min doing my @IgniteSydney talk—I won’t be watching the 3G connection so apologies in advance if it goes down then. :\ #
  • @audaciaray speaks #KFANYC “If you speak to anyone in the mainstream media, you should have an agenda. They have an agenda, you should too!” #
  • Was very interesting to hear the questions after my #KFANYC Gender & Technology (and community) presentation—different than the techie’s Qs. #
  • Reminders that my outness isn’t typical. Ranat: “When you come out, people want to be supportive…but then they freak out 2mo later.” #KFANYC #
  • Does social networking make outness harder? Naomi: “It’s not just me outing myself—it’s my entire @Facebook network.” Hm good point! #KFANYC #
  • EXCELLENT POINT! #KFANYC @audaciaray “Just because you’re out about your sexuality doesn’t mean there’s no such thing as sexual harassment.” #
  • @MajaMajaMaja now speaking on “Projected Self-Confidence” @ #KFANYC. Discussing trouble in being physically so much smaller than her bottom. #
  • @MajaMajaMaja: “Ideas of status can help you channel power.” #KFANYC Reference to earlier years when she played “The Queen” in school plays. #
  • Status != social, education or monetary status. It’s interpersonal interaction; e.g. street chicken—who moves to avoid pedestrians? #KFANYC #
  • @MajaMajaMaja: “I need to be in a situation where it’s ok for me not to ask for what I want, but state what I want.” Top headspace…? #KFANYC #
  • @stacycat Ha! You tell us. What the fuck is gender identity? ;) #KFANYC Glad you can reach my Wi-Fi signal wherever you are—yay for Webz! :D in reply to stacycat #
  • Clarisse Thorn’s now discussing BDSM public outreach. First tip advice is good: “Know your mission. Make a mission statement FIRST.” #KFANYC #
  • http://clarissethorn.wordpress.com uses sex-positive film festival to promote mission statement even with tangentially related films #KFANYC #
  • Clarisse Thorn: “FREE is very important—the sex-positive community is overwhelmingly white, overwhelmingly privileged.” Yes yes yes! #KFANYC #
  • Clarisse Thorn: “Very important to get people who don’t already think about sex-positive stuff all the time to do so!” Yes again. :) #KFANYC #
  • “It shouldn’t matter whether we’re hardwired [to be kinky or not], we should be allowed to do what we want w/our bodies.” Hear hear! #KFANYC #
  • Use flyers+physical media promotion cuz it gets people to come who wouldn’t if they got an email or saw it online. #KFANYC #
  • Angel’s #KFANYC preso on trans: BDSM/fetish community fetishizes trans people. That’s okay but it It really sucks if that’s the only option. #
  • Sad to miss @SaraEileen’s #KFANYC presentation downstairs but it is LITERALLY packed and spilling out the door. Congrats Sara, well done. :) #
  • @echomikeromeo It’s about who’s here. I’m excited to see interest in @KinkForAll from Toronto, D.C., San Francisco—won’t be same as #KFANYC. in reply to echomikeromeo #
  • Watching Blaise ask for Angel’s card. This is exactly the kind of thing I was hoping would happen at #KFANYC: invest, connect, celebrate. :D #
  • The room is beginning to fill rapidly as @urbantantrika readies herself for her #KFANYC presentation, a “Sex Magic Quickie.” Gonna be great. #
  • @urbantantrika invites everyone at #KFANYC to close eyes for a “magical 20min.” (I’m opting to tweet this out instead+already a shout out….) #
  • Visualize what you want—for yourself, your community, for the world—not DON’T want. Visualize peace, not war if you want to stop it. #KFANYC #
  • Just being in a room where everyone is relaxed and breathing deeply is a special experience when @urbantantrika is guiding everyone. #KFANYC #
  • At #KFANYC @urbantantrika is egging everyone on, encouraging sexy noises, “Come on, give me more—I thought you were a hot crowd!” Fantastic. #
  • After climactic breathing @urbantantrika says “Now be ready to receive. Download whatever comes, including emptiness. Just receive.” #KFANYC #
  • Personal reflection: I’m always happy about sex magic stuff but never felt connected to it. I’ve tried, but…it’s not my way. That’s okay. :) #
  • @SaraEileen Ooh, you’ll have to tell me about that. Neither radical or novel ideas are always received positively. This is called change. :) in reply to SaraEileen #
  • Phew! Taking a moment to decompress and catch up with the rest of cyberspace during Jason’s “What Can’t You Do with Vet Wrap” #KFANYC preso. #
  • Jumping on board the http://CoverItLive.com liveblog for #KFANYC in an effort to cover as much as possible. Sometimes 140chars is rly tough. #
  • @mrsexsmith’s #KFANYC audience says “Confidence doesn’t happen in a vacuum. You need to have positive experiences to build that confidence.” #
  • Thank you to everyone doing #KFANYC today! I’m going to be cleaning/shutting down, so am done for the day—I’ll be back in NYC in 2wks. Love! #