Back in April of 2009, only 1 month after coming back from living in Sydney, Australia, I recorded a pretty long discussion with Axe for his Masocast podcast.
(As an aside, it’s a great BDSM podcast, but sadly Axe blatantly sold out his integrity and, despite my helping him cut his podcast costs in half, he chose to stay sponsored by EdenFantasys for “a new microphone,” which is a severe blow to the respect I would otherwise accord him. I donated to his podcast before he was sponsored by them. I’ll never donate to a podcast sponsored by EF. And I’ll probably never donate to Axe again, either.)
Anyway, there were two main topics we talked about on his podcast. He edited the discussion down to two sections. One topic was KinkForAll, which he then released. The other was about Male Submission Art, which he never released. But I did ask for and he did give me the audio. And fuck it, I’ve been sitting on this for over a year and it’s probably time to talk more about Male Submission Art.
So here you go: a slightly-edited but mostly uncut recording of me talking about Male Submission Art.
by Byrdie
05 Dec 2010 at 23:18
Good evening, May —
I’ve been going through your blog, a few Kink on Tap episodes and even — by your recommendation — the Denying Thumper blog a fair amount lately. A few minutes ago, it occurred to me that I could get permission from the artist to send you images from some art I picked up after last year’s Seattle Erotic Arts Festival. I’d gone through the event specifically looking for pieces that reflected me: a fat, black, dominant woman; and was surprised to have found a few. I have two pieces from the same artist hanging on the wall in my new home, and thought that they’d be great for Male Submission Art until i really stopped and thought about it.
Looking at the pictures again after reading some of your rants about Femme Domme art I realized that as loving and intimate as the pictures looked, the male submissive is wearing a domino mask. It’s not horrid, as I can tell that he’s in some sort of thrall as his dominant leans over him; but it’s a mask nonetheless.
Thank you for getting me thinking about this situation. I don’t often search for pornographic pictures outside of FetLife, and thus I’m not sure that I would have recognized the discrepancy otherwise.
I hope that you’re doing well.
– Byrdie
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