The very awesome thing about knowledge is that it makes things simpler and more complicated at the same time. The more I understand about things, how they work, why they behave the way they do, the less scary and overwhelming things around me become. At the same time, learning something new always makes me feel […]
Archive for the ‘Altered States and Headspaces’ Category
We’re all different: when sex isn’t attractive
17 Dec 2007 at 09:00
maymay
Altered States and Headspaces, BDSM psychology, Communication, Community, Gender fluidity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Sex, Sexism
Flying, the kinky sex orgasm, and the lack thereof
31 Aug 2007 at 14:54
maymay
Altered States and Headspaces, BDSM terminology, Bondage, Emotions, Humor, Personal experience
People often draw analogies between things in kink sex and vanilla sex. They do this sometimes out of necessity and sometimes out of a desire to avoid the overhead of defining every term they use, but mostly they do it (as I’m about to do) because it’s something they’ve heard done before. I’ve never “flown” […]
Where’s the pain?
17 Jul 2007 at 16:35
maymay
Altered States and Headspaces, Cock and ball torture (CBT), Faceslapping, Masochism, Spanking and paddling, Whipping
It is still fascinating to me how differently I react to pain when it is inflicted on the buttocks versus on the back versus on the face versus some other location. So much focus is often placed on the implement causing this pain but it’s always been that the location of the pain has a […]
Thoughts on extended scenes and play headspaces
26 May 2007 at 14:43
maymay
Altered States and Headspaces, BDSM psychology, D/s dynamics, Myths and misconceptions, Relationship, Vanilla life
A lot of people think BDSM is an all-or-nothing sort of arrangement. Either you are my slave and do everything I ask of you, or you are not and shouldn’t be wasting my time. Either I am always, absolutely forever and constantly at your feet and abiding by protocols or whatever, or I am not, […]
Intoxicants in (and as) BDSM
15 May 2007 at 23:19
maymay
Altered States and Headspaces, BDSM safety, Personal experience
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Richard over on Femdom Blogs poses a question that has been on my mind for quite a while now. Specifically, have you ever drunk, done drugs, or otherwise been in an altered state as part of a BDSM scene? If so, did the intoxicant enhance or diminish the experience? Two years ago my answer would […]
