Archive for the ‘BDSM in the media’ Category

It’s not about you: beyond “kink-shaming” (via FeministCurrent)

feministcurrent: Let’s just start by saying this: I really don’t care about ‘kink’ or about ‘kinky people’. It just doesn’t interest me. I don’t give a shit about your leather fetish. Really. But because I recently dared to suggest that RCMP officer Jim Brown’s sadomasochistic behaviour might, just might, be related to the fact that […]

Guest post: National BDSM organization’s own survey admits a consent crisis in BDSM Scene

The following is a guest post by KinkInExile, originally published at the author’s blog and copied with their permission. I think it’s important enough to republish at and link from a lot of places. So far, however, KinkInExile’s been “frustrated by the systemic disregard for anything that addresses abuse in kink without being itself pre-approved […]

FetLife Alleged Abusers Database Engine (FAADE) mentioned in NY Observer

Last week, the New York Observer published an article by Rachel R. White about the BDSM Scene’s endemic abuse problem. An excerpt: While the [BDSM] scene’s mantra—“safe, sane and consensual”—is heard so often it might as well be translated into needlepoint, violations of these maxims are common. In the last year, hundreds of people have […]

What porn companies can learn from the Giffords shooting

First, a couple important points. I hate Kink, Inc.1 2 That does not mean I want them eradicated—they have been doing a shitty job of it, but I believe have made the world a (slightly) better place on balance—it means I have incredibly negative feelings for them that are far, far stronger than mere disapproval […]

The BDSM community ghetto, and other cultural problems

Some months back, while I was still using my sanitized outside voice, Alice Archer contacted me for an article she was doing about “The Changing Face of Female Domination,” slated to be published in Filament Magazine. Now that the article is out (a preview is available if you turn to page 34, and have Flash), […]

KinkForAll versus Stop Porn Culture: guess who’s filthier!

Over at the Washington City Paper, Amanda Hess wrote about her experiences at KinkForAll Washington DC 2 and Dr. Gail Dines’ Stop Porn Culture anti-porn activist briefing on The Hill last Tuesday. Her column is well worth a read, and exposes the should-be-obvious blatant hypocrisy with which fear-mongering anti-porn crusaders conduct themselves on a regular […]

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