Submissive person: I’m really intrigued by the notion of having sex tied up in some way. BDSM person: You should totes join us, then! We’ll show you the ropes. We’ll even teach you to like stuff you didn’t know you liked! Submissive person: That sounds…interesting…but…I’d rather just do this stuff I know I like, first. […]
Archive for the ‘Beginner BDSM’ Category
Dominants are rapists.
25 Oct 2013 at 11:14
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM safety, Beginner BDSM, Communication, D/s dynamics, Politics of sex, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives
KinkInExile has a short and to the point post up replying to a post by Ferns that bemoans what she sees as changing attitudes towards dominance and submission among younger BDSM practitioners. Ferns wrote: [M]ostly, what young people are doing is Really Good Stuff. They are, for the most part, smart and thoughtful and considerate […]
Submissive people don’t need dominants. Period.
“[W]hile the truncheon may be used in lieu of conversation, words will always retain their power. Words offer the means to meaning, and for those who will listen, the enunciation of truth. And the truth is, there is something terribly wrong with this country, isn’t there? Cruelty and injustice, intolerance and oppression. And where once […]
Never, ever assume you need permission from a dominant person to speak to a submissive person
16 Jul 2012 at 15:20
maymay
Beginner BDSM, D/s dynamics, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Rant, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives
This one’s easy and yet the difficulty with which most people who participate in the BDSM Scene get this wrong speaks volumes about their ignorance and complicity in oppression culture. So easy, this whole post could’ve just been the title: Never, ever assume you need permission from a dominant person to speak to a submissive […]
“Good boy,” and other kinds of complicated sex
31 Mar 2011 at 12:54
maymay
BDSM psychology, BDSM terminology, Beginner BDSM, D/s dynamics, Politics of sex, Sexism
Imagine my pleasant surprise when my Internet radar picked up a great post by a thoughtful new feminist BDSM blogger. FeministSub has a thing or two (or three) to say about the phrase “good girl” worth pointing out: “Good girl.†I don’t think there’s anything that captures my mixed feelings about submission like that phrase. […]
