I don’t know what it’s like to be bound to most bondage furniture. But I do know what it’s like to be bondage furniture. I was reminded of this when I showed up as a volunteer for Mark’s Dungeon Crew, part of the group who had offered to help set up the Portland Leather Alliance’s […]
Archive for the ‘Bitter and jealous’ Category
On Being Bondage Furniture
04 Dec 2011 at 16:09
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Emotions, Personal experience, Personal history, Politics of sex
Signal boost: “The Devaluation of Male Submission”
02 Jun 2011 at 15:49
maymay
BDSM psychology, Bitter and jealous, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Politics of sex
Reading sexual writing viscerally pains me these days. For a supposed “sex blogger,” this is a huge problem. In order to write well, I need to read a lot, and when I can’t read others’ sex blogs I’m sharply hamstrung. And why do I have this much trouble? Because the concept of eroticization itself has […]
Story of How to Improve the Future: Always Hate The Status Quo
19 May 2011 at 09:48
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Personal experience, Personal history, Politics of sex
[A]ll of life is punctuated by stories, some more beneficial than others. At every stage narratives can prepare people for the future or steel them to bear the troubles and routines of the present. Moreover, these stories can disclose other folkways or recall past events that otherwise would be denied or forgotten. —Anne M. Wyatt-Brown, […]
We are all victims, even the revolutionaries
What are little boys made of? What are little boys made of? Frogs and snails And puppy-dogs’ tails, That’s what little boys are made of. What are little girls made of? What are little girls made of? Sugar and spice And everything nice, That’s what little girls are made of. —Early nineteenth century nursery rhyme […]
Community? Fuck the community. This isn’t for them, anyway.
That word gets bandied around a lot: “community.” It’s a stupid word. It doesn’t mean anything unless you define it, and since everyone has a different definition of what it means, you always have to define it. Which means you can’t ever use it and trust that what you say is what other people hear. […]
I am no Hercules
15 Nov 2010 at 00:07
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Emotions, Personal experience, Personal history, Politics of sex, Rant
Earlier this evening, I recorded what may be one of the final Kink On Tap shows, Kink On Tap Episode 67. In addition to making that announcement, there were some more things I strongly felt needed saying. I basically sat down and wrote a stream-of-consciousness set of notes from which I based what I wanted […]
