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Boiled frogs can’t censor Blog Nine and Three-Quarters

This image is a Tumblr message I received recently and it’s indicative of a problem whose scope I want more people to understand. Here’s the message: fishingforanvils: Thanks for having your own domain name – it helps me get past the school’s proxy servers and read up about rolequeer theory unobstructed! This is particularly timely […]

Why attacking Predator Alert Tools backfire on attackers

What appears at first to be a somewhat understandable request by a woman named Anna Dawn Brecht to be removed from the Predator Alert Tool for FetLife database turns into a desire to shut the system down for everyone, regardless of its benefits for others. With the help of her “Dominant,” a long-time FetLife user who goes by the name CarolyneTiler, but whose legal name is Caroline Tyler and, according to her LinkedIn profile, works as a technologist for medical software company EMIS, the pair launch a denial of service attack against PAT-FetLife, which ultimately results in the further distribution of information they want buried.

In the end, Anna Brecht (aka “MarmiteGirl” or “CarolynesRose” on FetLife) and her cohort of attackers succeed only in proving that trying to take down what is still the only warning tool for rape survivors on FetLife isn’t merely a shitty way for supposed advocates of a “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” so-called “lifestyle” to behave, it also offers an exceptionally reliable indicator—undeniable, even—that those attackers should be included in the Predator Alert Tool’s database itself.

If someone violates your consent, you can report it. Likewise, if someone writes hateful reports about you (like “this person is a whiny drama queen”), and you can guess who did it, report that too. If you see spam reports (like “violated my consent by being hot as hell”) in the database and you think you know who’s doing it, report that too. The more someone tries to misuse Predator Alert Tool, the more information about their misuse is available. In other words, Predator Alert Tool is antifragile; damage and chaos don’t break the system, they help it grow.

This post explains why and how attacking Predator Alert Tools backfire on attackers. It also details this week’s denial-of-service attack against Predator Alert Tool for FetLife, provides a profile of the attackers in question, some information about mitigation strategies, and asks for input from you, the survivor support community, about how to best respond to such attacks in the future.

Read the full post.

Subject: Predator Alert Tool for Tumblr?

Here’s an email I got a few weeks ago that I finally had a moment and the energy to respond to: From: [REDACTED] Date: May 24, 2014 8:54:53 PM PDT To: may may Subject: Predator Alert Tool for Tumblr? Hi maymay, I think a Predator Alert Tool for Tumblr (PAT-Tumblr) should be built. Unfortunately, I […]

“Consent as a Felt Sense” is not about law, so why does everyone keep talking about The Law?

I want to clarify something. But, since every time I speak publicly certain people deem it their personal moral crusade to deliberately misinterpret and decontextualize what I have to say, I’m going to let this other blog post written by this other person clarify for me: My friends Unquietpirate and Maymay wrote this controversy-provoking article, […]

How to make sure sexual violence prevention advocates never get effective tools

To my right are two people being interviewed by a woman with a soundboard connected to a computer as I sit down at my table in the café. A minute later and it’s clear they’re wrapping up an interview of some kind. They’re using words like “oppression” and “microaggression.” Then I hear the interviewer say, […]

The difference between an accident and an assault is what happens next.

The binary consent models only consider two-thirds of the scope of an interaction that involves a withdrawing of consent: everything that leads up to the breach, and the breach. They posit that these are the only determinants of “was it rape?”, not anything that happens afterward. My partner was terrified they’d assaulted me, but everything […]

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