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Software Development as Direct Action

22 Jul 2015 at 19:36

maymay

Community, My Videos, Myths and misconceptions, Personal history, Politics of sex, Technology

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Dear Lori Adorable, regurgitating sex-positive cliches is cowardly denialism of abusive BDSM

23 Mar 2015 at 11:29

maymay

Community, Politics of sex, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives

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theotherside-205 asked: (1 of 2) I want to say thank you for your commentary on the post pathologizing survivors who engage in kink. I started following you yesterday because I’d been triggered by a lot of posts on my dash about how kink is inherently problematic, sometimes adding, “But I guess I don’t hate survivors […]

Invasion of the Spicy Vanillas

27 Feb 2015 at 17:49

maymay

Community, Politics of sex, Stupid dominants

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rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: I am dying with laughter. Wasteland, Europe’s biggest fetish party that advertises as ‘the wildest party on earth’ halted the sale of tickets for their 2015 party to keep out ‘housewives in jeans who read Fifty Shades of Grey’. Their public statement that their party is about ‘a lifestyle’ that […]

Boiled frogs can’t censor Blog Nine and Three-Quarters

27 Feb 2015 at 01:07

maymay

Communication, Community, Technology, Writing and blogging

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This image is a Tumblr message I received recently and it’s indicative of a problem whose scope I want more people to understand. Here’s the message: fishingforanvils: Thanks for having your own domain name – it helps me get past the school’s proxy servers and read up about rolequeer theory unobstructed! This is particularly timely […]

The theory of BDSM as parody [where it’s flawed and where it’s not]

24 Oct 2014 at 02:10

maymay

Community, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex

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notfuckingcishet: I was very disappointed today to pick up a reader on queer sexuality, skipping quickly to the chapter on kink, to find yet another article that accepted uncritically the theory that BDSM is a parody of oppression. For those of you unfarmiliar with the theory, this is the idea that BDSM parodies real oppression […]

“Submission lies at the heart of what makes sex good. It’s possible to have sex without domination.”

29 Aug 2014 at 18:04

maymay

Beginner BDSM, Community, D/s dynamics, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex

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If Alice uses Bob for her sexual gratification, there is nothing she can do to make that objectification right. Bob and Bob alone has that power. In my mind, submission isn’t just some kink that some people have. Submission is the voluntary use of one’s own power to become the means to someone else’s end. […]