Reading sexual writing viscerally pains me these days. For a supposed “sex blogger,” this is a huge problem. In order to write well, I need to read a lot, and when I can’t read others’ sex blogs I’m sharply hamstrung. And why do I have this much trouble? Because the concept of eroticization itself has […]
Archive for the ‘Femdom’ Category
Signal boost: “The Devaluation of Male Submission”
02 Jun 2011 at 15:49
maymay
BDSM psychology, Bitter and jealous, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Politics of sex
The BDSM community ghetto, and other cultural problems
02 Dec 2010 at 03:35
maymay
BDSM in the media, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Politics of sex, Writing and blogging
Some months back, while I was still using my sanitized outside voice, Alice Archer contacted me for an article she was doing about “The Changing Face of Female Domination,” slated to be published in Filament Magazine. Now that the article is out (a preview is available if you turn to page 34, and have Flash), […]
Search for pictures of men being submissive, and you end up seeing pictures of women being dominant
Back in April of 2009, only 1 month after coming back from living in Sydney, Australia, I recorded a pretty long discussion with Axe for his Masocast podcast. (As an aside, it’s a great BDSM podcast, but sadly Axe blatantly sold out his integrity and, despite my helping him cut his podcast costs in half, […]
What will it take for the silent majority to speak up?
24 Jul 2010 at 16:58
maymay
BDSM psychology, D/s dynamics, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex
I am uniquely privileged: because of my relative self-sufficiency, I am loudly, unabashedly out of the closet. This gives me a certain power; I make no bones about wielding it. Unfortunately, not everyone enjoys the ability to be wholly and publicly authentic about who they are because standing up for what you believe in can […]
I, too, kink on BDSM stereotypes
17 Jul 2009 at 04:51
maymay
BDSM psychology, Beginner BDSM, Emotions, Femdom, Male sexuality, Personal history
As sometimes happens, the Internet sends me alerts of things I’ve told it I might find interesting. Tonight, Delilah Wood’s post, Questioning Desires: A place for sissies and worms? splashed onto my radar. Reading the post, I found it heartening to find that there are people, like Delilah, who have been reading me and, even […]
Now I remember why I love and hate New York City’s BDSM scene
01 Apr 2009 at 03:39
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Personal experience, Rant, Stupid dominants, Stupid submissives, Vanilla life
So, this is a complete and utter rant, because that’s just the mood I’m in. Also, it’s my blog. In case you didn’t know, I rant hard (and fast). My first half-week in New York City has been an utter roller coaster. In these few short days after I (mostly) finished regrouping with friends, I […]
