A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it a superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason. —Thomas Paine Kink, in exile: There has been an explosion around the topic of male submission. […]
Archive for the ‘Male sexuality’ Category
Raging Chrysalis: The End of the Mute Submissive Masculine
02 Sep 2011 at 19:20
maymay
Emotions, Male sexuality, Personal experience, Personal history, Politics of sex
Signal boost: “The Devaluation of Male Submission”
02 Jun 2011 at 15:49
maymay
BDSM psychology, Bitter and jealous, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Politics of sex
Reading sexual writing viscerally pains me these days. For a supposed “sex blogger,” this is a huge problem. In order to write well, I need to read a lot, and when I can’t read others’ sex blogs I’m sharply hamstrung. And why do I have this much trouble? Because the concept of eroticization itself has […]
In which I am an asshole about sexual authoritarianism
01 Feb 2011 at 06:17
maymay
Chastity/Orgasm denial, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Stupid submissives
As I’ve said before, perhaps my favorite bona-fide sex blogger ever is Thumper. Beyond simply being my favorite, he’s also one of, if not the best-known, writer on the fetish of male chastity/orgasm control (linked by mainstream sex-advice columnist Dan Savage),1 which I happen to strongly share with him. However, almost a year ago I started […]
The BDSM community ghetto, and other cultural problems
02 Dec 2010 at 03:35
maymay
BDSM in the media, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Politics of sex, Writing and blogging
Some months back, while I was still using my sanitized outside voice, Alice Archer contacted me for an article she was doing about “The Changing Face of Female Domination,” slated to be published in Filament Magazine. Now that the article is out (a preview is available if you turn to page 34, and have Flash), […]
Search for pictures of men being submissive, and you end up seeing pictures of women being dominant
Back in April of 2009, only 1 month after coming back from living in Sydney, Australia, I recorded a pretty long discussion with Axe for his Masocast podcast. (As an aside, it’s a great BDSM podcast, but sadly Axe blatantly sold out his integrity and, despite my helping him cut his podcast costs in half, […]
My Beautiful Kind Profile: “Sex, like a bright candle, has no innate morality”
Over the summer of 2010, Kendra (aka The Beautiful Kind), asked me for a brief email interview to make a profile for her column “You Are The Beautiful Kind.” Recently, however, it had vanished from her website and over email she told me she decided to take down the entry with the answers she solicited […]
