As I’ve said before, perhaps my favorite bona-fide sex blogger ever is Thumper. Beyond simply being my favorite, he’s also one of, if not the best-known, writer on the fetish of male chastity/orgasm control (linked by mainstream sex-advice columnist Dan Savage),1 which I happen to strongly share with him. However, almost a year ago I started […]
Archive for the ‘Masculinity’ Category
In which I am an asshole about sexual authoritarianism
01 Feb 2011 at 06:17
maymay
Chastity/Orgasm denial, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex, Stupid submissives
The BDSM community ghetto, and other cultural problems
02 Dec 2010 at 03:35
maymay
BDSM in the media, Community, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Politics of sex, Writing and blogging
Some months back, while I was still using my sanitized outside voice, Alice Archer contacted me for an article she was doing about “The Changing Face of Female Domination,” slated to be published in Filament Magazine. Now that the article is out (a preview is available if you turn to page 34, and have Flash), […]
It’s not changing the world that’s hard
13 Oct 2010 at 02:40
maymay
Bitter and jealous, Community, Emotions, Male sexuality, Masculinity, My Videos, Personal experience, Politics of sex
What will it take for the silent majority to speak up?
24 Jul 2010 at 16:58
maymay
BDSM psychology, D/s dynamics, Femdom, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex
I am uniquely privileged: because of my relative self-sufficiency, I am loudly, unabashedly out of the closet. This gives me a certain power; I make no bones about wielding it. Unfortunately, not everyone enjoys the ability to be wholly and publicly authentic about who they are because standing up for what you believe in can […]
On the Importance and Lack Thereof of Sexual Intercourse
08 May 2010 at 19:08
maymay
Male sexuality, Masculinity, Personal experience, Politics of sex, Sex, Sexual teasing and control
When I look back on the past two years of my life, I’m taken aback at the incredible amount of change. I’ve written about much of this change, from my shifting professional aspirations, to my blossoming activism, to my personal struggles. But one thing I almost totally stopped writing about ever since Eileen and I […]
Orgasm Denial Does Not Submissive Men Make
06 Mar 2010 at 00:17
maymay
BDSM psychology, Chastity/Orgasm denial, Communication, Male sexuality, Masculinity, Myths and misconceptions, Sex, Sexism
One of the things that has seriously bugged me for a very long time is how lots of people think about submissiveness, particularly but not necessarily as it relates to male sexuality. It bugs me because for all the lip service paid to respecting submission, very little about the way it’s discussed actually seems to […]
