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Attention Rolequeers: First they ignore us. Then they laugh at us. Then they fight us. Then we win.

rivai-lution: Lmfao @ these vanilla ass bitches calling themselves fucking ~*~rolequeer~*~ are you fucking kidding me rn  If you’re not into BDSM then see yourself the fuck out of the community and stop making cute lil posts about your dumbshit opinions on tumblr and confusing everyone with your pointless bullshit.  It’s cool if you’re not […]

Turning discussions about anti-violence tools into discussions about their toolmaker is harmful. Please stop.

The other day, LifeHacker featured Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid on its homepage. Today, I received an email from the post’s author, stating that “the Predator Alert Tool post [is] doing well, but as you warned, some people have descended on it with comments and accusations about you specifically.” The email then detailed several accusations, […]

When “sex-positive” is a euphemism for “male gaze”

(Note: This post is a republication of my original post from June 11, 2011. To the best of my knowledge, the problematic issues with the Mission Control venue in San Francisco described below have not been addressed, much less resolved.) I had been wanting to attend an event at Mission Control for a while now. […]

On Being Bondage Furniture

I don’t know what it’s like to be bound to most bondage furniture. But I do know what it’s like to be bondage furniture. I was reminded of this when I showed up as a volunteer for Mark’s Dungeon Crew, part of the group who had offered to help set up the Portland Leather Alliance’s […]

Raging Chrysalis: The End of the Mute Submissive Masculine

A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it a superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason. —Thomas Paine Kink, in exile: There has been an explosion around the topic of male submission. […]

Story of How to Improve the Future: Always Hate The Status Quo

[A]ll of life is punctuated by stories, some more beneficial than others. At every stage narratives can prepare people for the future or steel them to bear the troubles and routines of the present. Moreover, these stories can disclose other folkways or recall past events that otherwise would be denied or forgotten. —Anne M. Wyatt-Brown, […]

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