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10/26/2012 22:51:561716784maymaySevereThis person has made a social gathering place a hostile environment, repeatedly, by non-consentually and repeatedly dragging private information out into the public eye. He is the rapist equivalent of a mass murerer. He cares so little for anyone else's rights or privacy, and yet, calls foul whenever there is a hint that his own abuses might be shown to the world. He repeatedly violates the rules and social conventions of that space. I do hope, someday he becomes aware of how many people he has hurt, how many people he has chased away from possible education, and understanding, crippling them, as he claims to be crippled as a child.fet liferepeatedly, daily
10/27/2012 7:57:591617545maymaySevereHe has repeatedly gone out of his way to make a social environment hosile to me and mine by taking things that are or should be private, and dragging them nonconsensually into the greater public eye. He violates my consent, on a global basis, like the rapisr equivalent of a mass murderer.fet liferepeatedly, daily
10/27/2012 12:17:13149561Abacus_TsukeiModerateBullied his way into joining the BDSM student group at his university, causing many female and FAAB members to drop out from discomfort; had a reputation for non-BDSM-related consent violations and for being a sexual predator on campus, including groping female students while they were intoxicated or unconscious and giving underage prospective students alcohol to get them drunk and then propositioning them for sex. Annapolis, MD2011-2012
10/27/2012 23:35:30573595hephaestus829SevereWhen I was new to the scene, I briefly had a relationship with hephaestus829. During that relationship, he pressured me into having kinds of sex and play that I did not enjoy. He had unprotected sex with others without my knowledge.When I discovered this, he gaslit my concerns about my boundaries and my health. After I ended the relationship, he sexually assaulted me while we were both sleeping over at a mutual friend's house. He got into the bed I was sharing with a female friend and put his hands under my pajamas, touching my back and genitals nonconsensually. He thought I was sleeping. I later found out that I wasn't the first person he abused this way; I met another one of his victims at a national kink convention. Their story was remarkably similar to mine. Private residence, Baltimore, MDSeptember 2011
10/29/2012 18:18:39555665SirRonCModeratenonconsensual anal sex that caused bleedingBaltimore MDNovember 2011
10/29/2012 18:22:2758297LawDogModerateattempted to penetrate without a condom twice even after asking him to use one then had to physically fight him off when I resisted private residential dungeon in DC2009ish
10/31/2012 9:52:59173562Ozme52MinorYelled at me at a munch. Not that there's an acceptable reason to yell at someone at a munch, but he yelled at me for no reason. I no longer attend local munches because of this.

At the same munch he also did that acupressure squeeze thing on another attendee's thumb-webbing without her permission. Ostensibly he was trying to help her with a headache but he never asked to touch her, & the acupressure squeeze hurt her, she wasn't expecting it, & he didn't seem to care about her feelings (or mine) in the slightest.

I sent an email to a friend immediately after this incident. Here's the text c-&-p'ed:
Mar 12

So, Oz yelled at me the other night.

I went to the game night / munch. Was talking to M___ about diet stuff & Oz interjected himself into the convo to tell her she needed to take a folate supplement for her high blood pressure, doing the dismissive no-no-no thing to my suggestion that she could just eat more fruits & veggies. When I tried to rebut his shut down about the fruits & veggies he roared at me, can I just get one word in edgewise, or something similar. I was shocked. Nobody seemed to notice. I was icy towards him the rest of the night.

That was a line crossed. I'll not willingly share the same social space with him anymore ...

I've never seen him yell before, it was really strange, like sudden onset dementia that vanishes just as fast. But I recognized that it was abusive behavior. It was definitely the kind of boundary testing stuff that abusers use to figure out who they can get away with what when & how. I also think that he may have finally figured out I have him blocked on Fet & this may have been his indirect / subconscious communication about that?

Anyways, yeah. &. I don't particularly feel like making a fuss about this to the locals, tho' on the off chance he should show up at something I'm organizing I'll kick his ass out & be very clear that he's made himself anathema to me . .. .

& in a sorta unrelated note, later at the party, this other woman (& it felt like Oz didn't like her to begin with, frankly, he kept directing a certain amount of annoyance at her) was having a headache. Oz insisted she give him her hand (not asking, I carefully note, insisting). Then he did that accupressure bit between the thumb & forefinger, but it hurt her & she made a big fuss. I pointed out to him that I have arthritis in my thumb joints so bad that if he'd've done it to me, I'd've punched him, & I'm hip to that acupressure thing, use it all the time.

He's a little out-of-control.

Plus he was doing that I'm-the-dom-running-everything-&-having-to-be-the-center-of-attention-all-the-time thing.
Chico, CAevening of March 12, 2012
11/4/2012 12:22:00942215TaisdealachMinorWhen my friend was having a panic attack, told her he was acting on the authority of her Mistress to take care of her, which he wasn't. Repeatedly tried to get her to kiss him, despite her clear insistence that she didn't want to. The Fires of Lughnasadh (in Redmond)July, 2012
11/6/2012 14:26:4391219GreywolfeMinorGreywolfe feels entitled to the bodies and servitude of others. He is one of those who feels that all women are submissive and all submissives must be submissive towards him. He has repeated made pass on myself and others who have told him repeatedly that we don't like it and don't want it.

He has told myself (a switch) that I have no authority because of my enjoyment of submission on occasion. Further, he has told female dominants in the community that they look nicer at his feet. I have yet to hear of a case where he has been anything more than pushy, manipulative, and creepy, but he sends out all sorts of red flag vibes. Just be careful.
Windsor, OntarioOngoing
11/7/2012 19:15:42654112TheRiggerModerateFailed to discuss boundaries and limits before engaging in BDSM with a vulnerable individual who he knew was new to BDSM. Mislead the individual as to his intentions and encouraged them into a restrained position, then took the situation to a level that had not been agreed upon. Agreeing to one activity =/= blanket consent.

Later exploited the newness of another individual to get away with non-consensually acting upon the fantasies this individual had admitted to having. Expressing a fantasy =/= consent.
11/7/2012 19:21:05191485MayaTeklaModerateTouched my exposed breasts without asking, and without having any reason to believe I had consented to it. Generally poor with personal space and personal boundaries. Can be very presumptive as to acceptable levels of physical contact. UK2011-2012
11/7/2012 19:29:25185000_MibMinorSeeks to exert dominance over women who identify as submissive (or who he perceives to be submissive women) that he is not involved with. Often patronising and uses diminutive terms such as 'girl' to refer them. UK2011-2012
11/8/2012 12:05:591716784maymaymMinorViciously attacks anyone who disagrees with him or criticizes him on the internet. If they annoy him badly enough, he outs them and says they deserve to be outed because they weren't understanding what it was he was trying to say.

Refuses to listen to what anyone else has to say unless it fits his specialized agenda and perspective. Has a particular grudge against female sex workers and male dominants. DO NOT ENGAGE.
the internetrecurring
11/8/2012 18:15:37185000_MibSeverehave witnessed him punch his sub fill in the face at a club in a chill out area because she didnt want needle play .. preys on the vulnerable unsafe needle player birmingham2011
11/8/2012 18:16:581031400OlivanderSeverehas been convicted of a sexual case involving a minor which he has served a prison sentence for BuckinghamshireDecember 2011
11/8/2012 18:18:52654112TheRiggerSeveremade a total newbie throw up at his munch ( that he openly states is for him to pick up new subs) when he tied her up and then non consentually put a hitachi on her pubic bone MKFNsept 2011
11/8/2012 18:21:45191485MayaTeklaMinorvery free with his hands has overstepped the line with several women groping them when not invited MKFN and Kinks 2011/2012
11/9/2012 10:31:541716784MaymaymSevereUses stalker and intimidation tactics against at least one former sex partner.OnlineOngoing.
11/9/2012 11:17:131234515shutupjustshutupSevereHe was my boyfriend at the time. He had known for months that I had a severe anxiety disorder and sometimes needed to take prescription Ativan/Lorazepam to the point that I was almost completely sedated. I had a severe panic attack one evening and took enough of these (at least 3 MG) that I could hardly move or talk. While I was waiting for this effect to kick in and crying my ass off on his couch, he actually seemed sympathetic and seemed to be trying to make me feel better. Obviously I assumed that I would be fine sleeping it all off in his bed at his apartment (I did not live there). But, he decided that since I was unable to consent or fight back, and he may have also thought I wouldn't realize what was happening (I was 100% aware of what was happening, but I was hardly able to speak or move as I said), he came in and sexually assaulted me. He flat out took advantage of me while he figured he could get away with it. Luckily there was no vaginal penetration, but he was sitting on top of me during this and I remember CLEARLY that I DID muster up enough energy to tell him to STOP numerous times, and that I COULDN'T FUCKING BREATHE. He just ignored me and continued on until he was done, and I was gasping for air through the whole ordeal (I'm a frail, average sized girl, he is much bigger and heavier than me and was sitting right on my mid section and my arms were also pinned at my sides I think). Afterwards when I was finally able to get up and talk clearly, I told him that he assaulted me and he tried to act like I was the one in the wrong. Two excuses he used were "I couldn't control myself so you can't blame me" and also tried to turn the tables by saying something like "how do you think I feel!? Don't you know how bad I feel about this!?". Unfortunately, there were no witnesses and I never bothered to file a report... I was fairly in shock/denial, and this scumbag constantly barraging me with "it's not a big deal, I said I was sorry, it's all better now, you're overreacting" did NOT HELP. I had seen my psychiatrist shortly after this incident, and I was so in denial that I didn't even tell her exactly what happened, but she would actually have the exact date in her notes and that I was obviously distraught.

I don't expect this guy to use fetlife in the future (hasn't logged in in a long time), but just in case, please know he is apparently a misogynist psycho. He is belligerent and will come up with any insane thing to make him feel like he isn't accountable for his actions. I was so afraid of him after that, when I dumped him, I had to get some things of mine from his apartment with a friend accompanying me. I honestly thought it was dangerous for me to go back to his apartment alone.
Halifax, Nova ScotiaWinter 2012
11/9/2012 13:34:5912938StricturismSevereThere are many incidents of consent violation that I can report (including those of other FetLifers) but I will post the most personal and severe. When we were in a relationship, he asked me to have sex. I clearly and repeatedly stated that I did not want to have sex because him, his (then) wife, and I agreed not to have sex for a specific amount of time. He then asked if we could at least watch a movie in the nude together. Before I agreed, I very specifically stated that I would only do it if it would not include sex or any other sexual contact. Shortly after we begin spooning to watch the movie, he pins me down and began to fondle my genitals, even after I clearly and repeatedly told him stop and no. Periodically while he touched me, he would ask me, "How about now?" To which I continued to reply no and stop. (At one point, I even said, "What about <Wife's name>?" To which he replied, "But what about what I want?" Eventually, he stopped asking me and told me to shut up. He tried to penetrate me but I would physically inch away from him (I could barely move. He was much heavier and stronger than me. I don't know what stopped him from penetrating me. Perhaps because he knew it would escalate what he was doing from a lesser charge to a RAPE charge if I decided to report it to the authorities. But the why isn't really relevant.) He is a TNG group leader. I informed my local community leaders and the most prominent and active groups unanimously and independently asked him to step down in the best interest of the community. When he refused, they agreed to exclude HIM from community functions and his group is no longer sanctioned as a safe place by the community leaders (and a new TNG group has been started). None of the local presenters will participate in his group either. When all was said and done, 7 independent women came forward with reports of unsafe play and/or consent violations (sexual and otherwise).Private residenceApril 2010
11/10/2012 7:50:2538110MsUnlimitedSevereA rape that occurred in her home while playing. Victim was passed out, husband was not home at the time. Consent was unable to be revoked due to drugs that had been given to the victim by the rapist.Columbus, OH2011
11/11/2012 7:13:5038110MsUnlimitedSevereWhen playing, she began calling me "Dad" and saying things like "this is what you get" before hitting and drawing blood. Her husband was away so no one heard me yell my safe word. She had this distant look on her face the whole time. A few days later she told me she had blacked out and didn't remember a thing.Columbus, OH2012
11/11/2012 22:39:32ff121241Philip_the_FooleSeverePhilip_the_Foole put his hand over my mouth as I was tied up and he and a friend were punching me in the ribs. I kept safewording, but he would say things like"I'll interpret for you; is that the best you can do, you wuss?"

The other man was a photographer, by the name of Jim, but it was Philip who would not let me speak and held me while I was punched by both of them.

My ribs were cracked and I was in bed several days, unable to take care of my children or work.
Sanctuary for the Lifestyle Arts, Dallas, TexasFebruary,2005 at night
11/15/2012 17:09:33152476thenaturalkingSevereStalking, not honoring boundaries, mental abuse , harrassment Providence , RIOn going to many different people
11/16/2012 15:17:161621MasterDamienModerateMasterDamien groped my ass, thighs and genitals without my consent while I was getting anally penetrated on his fuck machine, in his "dungeon room" at his home.Moncton, NB9/17/2011
11/17/2012 20:29:031951213creepyguySevereAaaaaa!!!!902101977
11/19/2012 19:52:1431515SunshineloveSevereSunshine and her accomplice took naked pics of myself and a friend of mine that were supposed to be private and posted them to google without our consent. Her and her accomplice gloated over this misuse of private information. I and my friend could have easily lost our job because of this. There was no reason for it.googleJuly 2012
11/20/2012 6:39:29232876ErnestGreeneSevereErnestGreene is well known serial rapist. He has used his connections in the film industry to lure in a number of women, including a very close friend of mine. When asked about it, he will tell people that he never raped anyone, that it was something he was doing for a movie. Luckily, he is getting to old to continue doing this, but one should still be aware that he is a dangerous person. Do no allow him to tie you up.Los Angelasabout 3 years ago
11/22/2012 20:30:09517349KaargSevereThis man has been convicted by the Norwegian government for having sex with his then foster daughter. He was convicted in 2010, and sentenced to two years in prison. That might not sound like much, but by Norwegian standards this is a relatively harsh punishment.

It should be noted that the foster daughter was an adult when they started having sex, and that the sex was consensual. According to her testimony she had sex with him because she was grateful to have found a good foster home, and because she was afraid of losing the good relationship she had with her foster family.
11/23/2012 8:39:031305DarkAngel_64SevereHe lied and ripped of $30,000 from the Ontario Community Made promises about his camping convention that he didn't keep. The worse one being there would be flush toilets...there wasn't. The portapotties he did supply were only cleaned every 2 days..shit piled so high, if you say down, you sat in someones else's shitLondon, Ontario2009
11/23/2012 20:01:59575863MYuSevereAttempted rape during a three hour paid massage/acupunture/mentoring session, ~summer 2010. I'm a top, there was absolutely no reason for him to have thought this was OK. He was staying at a hotel in town to try and raise money to get out from under his supposedly abusive ex-girlfriend; I believed he was sincere about being afraid of her and was glad to help as well as benefit from his skill. Whispernet says he has a history of seeing what he can get away with (to the point where he is considred a serial rapist) once someone's tied up or in subspace that's gone on at least as far back as when he lived in Austin.Seattle, WASummmer 2010
11/26/2012 22:18:08121241Philip_the_FooleSeverePhilip_the_Foole held me and he and an acquaintance were he punching me in the ribs. I kept safewording, saying "STOP" but he clapped his hand over my mouth and said that he was "interpreting."

He would say things like"I'll interpret for you; is that the best you can do, you wuss?"

The other man was a photographer, but it was Philip who would not let me speak and held me while I was punched by both of them.

I was injured by his impulsive, non-consensual actions. My ribs were cracked and I had to stay in bed several days.
Sanctuary, Dallas, TexasFebruary, 2005 at night
12/2/2012 19:55:5212141Philip_the_FooleSeverePredator Alert (UPDATE) Please Read!!!!!

I received this e-mail from another group leader about a potentially dangerous individual; he has been banned from their group and will not be allowed into ours.

I want to pass along information on a predator to you. Phillip the Foole has come back to this area. He is an older gentleman, is very charming, manipulative, and dangerous. He has put people in the hospital, attacked people at play parties, and is sociopathic. He was banned from the previous Wichita Falls group years ago and until recently, has stayed away. The Dallas scene is "onto him" and so he came back. He has recently been banned from all the Wichita Falls groups(his hometown) and will no doubt be trying to find another place to look for victims. We think he will try your group, possibly OKC and then Austin as well. I am just trying to get the word out to as many people as I can. He is dangerous and uncontrollable. He is so very good at what he does. This is an honest plea to you: To keep your group safe, please keep this man away.

He is an older man, wears glasses, and has a distinct hearing problem and uses it to draw in potential victims.. Almost deaf so there will be lots of repeating going on. He could change his name, but his ego will not let him. Here is a link to a shot of him on his profile:

He usually prefers older women who are alone, but he is bi and will prey on anyone he thinks he can charm. He is very intelligent and as I said before: charming.

Thank you for taking this seriously and be careful.

Be careful! This is one of the reasons to be in a group, not only for being social, but for safety.
Wichita Falls, Texas 2005 to 2012
12/7/2012 8:50:411889861MasterSailor345Severe

This guy raped me the other night. I’m just now able to sit down without any type of pain and I’ve stopped bleeding.
I know his name is something like WilliamTravis Kimble (he told me his name was Travis, but I saw his military ID).
He’s in the navy, stationed on base in Everett, Washington.
Any and all information you can get me is more than appriciated.
Please help. I refuse to be a fucking victim.

DON’T trust this man.

I’m looking for help. His number is 918-935-7479. He’s 22.

His name on fetlife is mastersailor345

His full name is William Travis Kimble, originally from Oklahoma. He is in the Navy.
Everett WADec 5-6
12/7/2012 16:03:31277648Mr_DazSevereAs barely a teenager, this man groomed, abused and raped me over an extended period of 3 years. He would force himself on me, convince me that no one else loved me or cared about me, and that he would kill himself and his children if I were to try and escape. If I ever refused he would physically abuse me until I complied with his wishes. It came to my attention over a year later through a visit from the police that he had admitted to sleeping with three minors and had been charged with it. This was only 4 years ago.Manchester and Stockport, UKOctober 4th, 2004 until April 2007
12/9/2012 20:10:331661939Nuts4daBPDguySeverejoined group under fake profileHelmand,Afghanistan5 moths ago
12/10/2012 11:17:501097970leftoutMinorSent random friend request, neglected to read profile before sending request.Online12/10/2012
12/10/2012 18:44:29871350Lasghand-Jinxy81SevereAnimal abuse. Animal crush. Non-consent. Alamo, Texas, USAOngoing.
12/10/2012 18:48:331631340forgottenjewelSevereAnimal abuse and live animal crush. Non consent. USAOngoing.
12/10/2012 18:50:521539144MilindaMascaroSevereAnimal abuse. Live animal crush. Non-consent. USAOngoing.
12/10/2012 19:12:391540447TarraEveansSevereLive animal crush. Animal abuse. USAOngoing.
12/10/2012 20:28:551094397NylonFeet4MyMeatSevereProfile contains live animal crush images. Animal abuse. USAOngoing.
12/11/2012 12:43:1511258d_k_SevereThinking FAADE is a great example of the worst of the bdsm communityInternationallyAs soon as he found out about this pathetic idea
12/11/2012 13:07:4611258d_k_SevereIt just happenedNew YorkTomorrow
12/11/2012 13:08:5811258d_k_SevereHe took one of my chocolate pop-tarts and took over 24 hours to replace it!!!! UK2 weeks ago
12/11/2012 13:09:5711258d_k_SevereLaughed at my pain over him stealing my pop-tartMy Lounge1 min ago
12/11/2012 13:11:061JohnBakuSevereWhy not?Why not?Why not?
12/11/2012 13:31:061158090Tai-DachiMinorbeing to dam good with a whip!spacein space
12/11/2012 13:43:0811258d_k_SevereSet up a campaign to break FAADE thinking it one of the worst ideas ever.the end of the couchright now
12/11/2012 14:52:0425432pigtails_32Severehaving stupid pigtailsFetlifeanytime
12/11/2012 14:52:301087361DomiguySevereI don't even want to talk about it.Chicago's most famous gloryholeOctober
12/11/2012 14:54:06388590anguissette_diaSevereConstantly distracts people with tight corsets and fantastic titsmany placesnot often enough
12/11/2012 14:54:551588388talltemptationSevereShe is too damn sexy!! My housetonight
12/11/2012 14:58:2025432pigtails_32Severebeing cooler than me and taking the words out of my mouth, so i don't get to say the snarky thingsAnywhereConstantly
12/11/2012 14:58:2340417O_3ModerateHE TOUCHED MY BUTT BEFORE I SIGNED THE GODDAMN RELEASE FORMinternethe's still touching it right now
12/11/2012 15:02:461007875fiestysub68Moderatefiesty scared the crap out of me when she drove off the edge of a car park, where the car ended up having to bounced off the ledge.Bedford, UK20/09/12 17:35
12/11/2012 15:03:421588388talltemptationSevereAnd having lovely boobies!!Whever she wantsYes please
12/11/2012 15:03:421087361DomiguySeverelikes wearing pigatilsFetlifeanytime
12/11/2012 15:04:31654112TheRiggerSevereFor being too hairy......have a shave you scruffy bugger! lolHis houseLater hopefully :)
12/11/2012 15:04:481358815ChocomelSevereReported me before I could report himOnlineToday
12/11/2012 15:05:1539387GreatWhiteSnarkSevereLikes cats a bit too much. And he is funnier than mejust now!?
12/11/2012 15:07:571358815ChocomelSevereShe has boobsdwdwdq
12/11/2012 15:08:081358815ChocomelMinorTelling me to report a consent violation before I consented to being asked to do anything for herfetliferight now
12/11/2012 15:09:05130186submischievousSevereshe's too nice to me today6pm
12/11/2012 15:09:591053286MissBehaviour13SevereTouched Mel's poop!wdewdwdwd
12/11/2012 15:12:37130186submischievousSevereThis redheaded lady keeps trying to turn me into a lesbian. I told her more than once that I was not interested...she still tries. onlinesince i've been on fetlife
12/11/2012 15:15:191053286MissBehaviour13Severemade my straight girl vagina wet all the time all the time
12/11/2012 15:18:501158090Tai-DachiModeratehas a huge weapon of mass distraction...united kingdomnovember 30th 2012
12/11/2012 15:21:1437287Helen_BackSevereFor being too much of a bird and flirting with me. Everytime we meetAll the time
12/11/2012 15:23:4437287Helen_BackModerateThis should be noticed about this person that she makes one great hostess at the Bedford munch, that happens every third Thursday of the the Barley Mowevery second thursday of the month
12/11/2012 15:31:1937287Helen_BackSevereopps the mnch is on the third Thursday of the montBedford, UKevery third Thursday of the month
12/11/2012 15:33:16297919foriSevereThinks consent violations are funnyFetLife3:30pm 12/11/12
12/11/2012 15:33:2625432pigtails_32ModerateGeneral disdainOn the interwebzDaily
12/11/2012 15:34:561JohnBakuSevereLoving photos on the daily that are honestly so-soCunukistanDaily, usually in the evening (probably by his girlfriend)
12/11/2012 15:42:55192953ghostpuppySevereSTEALING MY HEARTtime/space continumToo often to count
12/11/2012 15:46:421671461Princess_GnorgaSevereShe has nice tits and nonconsensually makes me look at them every day.In my house.Every fucking day.
12/11/2012 16:07:5425432pigtails_32SevereThinks consent violations are "awesome."

LOOK OUT PEOPLE, PIGTAILS_32 IS THE WORST KIND OF "PERSON." Only a monster would think that the violation of someone else's consent is "awesome" or hilarious. This is the kind of person that takes glee in the misfortune of others and obviously has NO CONSCIENCE WHATSOEVER. People who don't understand empathy for other people are the most likely people to become SERIAL KILLERS. I urge those in her local community to stay away from this potentially dangerous sociopath.
12/11/2012 16:33:3711258d_k_SevereKeeps buying my pets on the Tagged game "Pets"!Tagged WebsiteConstantly
12/11/2012 16:37:0340417O_3SevereHe beat me at Scrabble and hurt my soul.Albuquerque, NMEvery day
12/11/2012 16:39:171007875fiestysub68SevereShe is slimmer than me. I did NOT consent to this. I demand she stops this instant.In photosToday
12/11/2012 16:44:591265161twiggleSevereHas a HUGE fluffy bunny that takes up half of the bedroom floorspaceher bedroomToday
12/11/2012 16:47:051265161twiggleSeverenot only does hse have the large one, but several more of varying size that always seem to be in the wayEVERYDAMNWHERE!ALLTHEFREAKINTIME
12/11/2012 16:49:361339661da-kitteh-thiefSevereAnnoying as all bloody fuckEverywhereFetlife
12/11/2012 17:03:50349096HaysModerateHe writes better than I do and has better taste in music than me. This monster must be stopped.FetlifeAt least once a week
12/11/2012 17:06:2525432pigtails_32SevereThinks that ^^^ is pretty funnyOn her profile12/11/2012
12/11/2012 17:32:36437043AlethiometerSevereMade my brain hurt with trying to comprehend levels of stupidity outside of my normal range.FetlifeTo traumatised to be sure
12/11/2012 17:38:15799555PariliaSevereHe has a tendency to prey on the very naive, inexperienced and young (18-19 age bracket, younger than his own children) who enter the fetish sceneUKongoing
12/11/2012 17:42:35799555PariliaSevereHas his wife act as his pimp to lure in unsuspecting submissives, so he can engage in sexual intercourse, Cock rules his head. Don't believe him if he states he is in a stable relationship with his wife. You may end up with baggage.UKongoing
12/11/2012 17:45:22799555PariliaSevereWas witnessed play with someone at a local play event. When they went into subspace he failed to put in the correct aftercare and left the person hanging from the cross like apparatus. Others had to come to her rescue. Not a safe player Local eventEarly 2012
12/11/2012 21:00:2732337JefffSevereHas a penis. Obvious abuser.EverywherePatriarchy
12/11/2012 21:02:20555314IAMDUMPLYNModerateSays she is a DUMPLYN, isn't really. False advertising.fetlifeforever
12/11/2012 21:03:18981386Sydney_UniversitySevereNonconsensually stealing peoples' personal information for research purposes.Sydney UniversityOngoing
12/11/2012 21:22:302011413DUCKYPOOPModerateHe touched my poop!FetlifeJust now
12/11/2012 23:40:421840785Cain_n_AbelSevereHis brother violated my pussy!in the backyard25 years ago
12/12/2012 1:17:52654112TheRiggerSevereTo who ever made the above abuse accusations, would be interested in see what evidence you have to prove your accusations. Looking at the date of the said accusations it seems you have something festering about something I seem to have done to you. I am prepared to offer you an opportunity to be an adult come discuss this with me face to face, rather than play the school playground game. Lets have a chat to put some closure on what ever is bugging you. The alternative is to allow this to continue festering in you and destroy your soul, on my part I am not going to give this "rent free" space in my head.

To all that know me if you wish to believe above accusations - hey ho
UKongoing at time this was published
12/12/2012 10:13:021722024little_samiSevereIs so short I get a sore neck looking at hereverywhere she goesconstantly
12/12/2012 11:22:321722024little_samiSeverePosted pic of one girl one cone that I first noticed just before eatingon da internetzwhen i wanted my supper
12/12/2012 15:24:33435389pipkinModerateThis pippish kin queefed in my direction and never apologized. FetlandBetween 1873 and 2078
12/12/2012 15:37:56715251darkangels66669SevereThis "man" goes through the newer subs of both sexes, as well as convincing the newest Dom/mes that they are not good enough without his mentoring. He likes to act like he knows everything about everything, but he consistently violates the most basic ideas, like cleaning toys properly, rigging people properly for their weight, and sleeping with his mentees.

He sleeps his way through the newest female subs, uses people until they drift away jaded with the lifestyle, and tells everyone it is never his fault

His relationship with his wife is never stable, even if they say it is. Every couple of months they will have a huge problem, they'll unfruend each other, and then a week later be all back to normal.

Worst of all, they have had their kids in the house during a play party, awake and screaming, with guests circulating throughout the house unobserved. I saw this for myself. Appalling. When I brought it up, I was told I was stirring shit and asked to not come back.

They don't give a shit about consent, respect, or even exchanging ideas. They only care about sex, looking good, and fronting for their "playparties".
"The Schoolhouse" GF, NDEvery month for the past year.
12/12/2012 18:35:051927355VelveteenRabidModerateShe non-consensually farted on a Cybermat.Just outside the TARDIS.1972
12/13/2012 6:49:261619687ClanSnarkyPantsSeverebeing entirely too ropy and clannish also TARTANFetlifeongoing
12/13/2012 17:47:29407945beginagainSevereMakes my mouth water for his cockIn my fuck hole mouthso so often
12/14/2012 10:24:46654112TheRiggerSevereHe was part of the MKFN crew and made an awesome first birthday happen.Pink Punters13.12.12
12/14/2012 10:27:591588388talltemptationSevereSeriously smoking hot. She made my knees go wobbly. I'm pretty sure I didn't consent to fancying her. ;)pink punters13.12.12
12/14/2012 22:23:43608jakeskajiraSeverephotoshopfetlifeongoing
12/14/2012 23:19:12574399maymaySevereThis person constantly has shit coming out of their mouth. Someone could easily be injured by the speed at which the shit is spewing forth. NYevery day
12/15/2012 10:25:20191485MayaTeklaModerateMayaTekla is, frankly, a bit of a sex pest. He coerced me into sleeping with him, he refused to wear a condom and ended up getting me pregnant!! And since I'm a man I can only conclude that he has some pretty powerful spunk!! Also he ruined me for other men...Uknot long ago...
12/15/2012 17:23:112020303GoddessVeniceModerateCrossposting amongst many many groups on Fetlife, in violations of the TOU, looking for online dominance, and based on her profile (Assuming she doesn't edit it) ProDomme situations.

12/15/2012 18:59:42350672OhMarieSevereFalse Claims of Rape, a serious coke habit. She has been a pretty serious coke-whore, going to the lengths of arranged to be the center piece of numerous gang bangs. After she has comes down, she has made claims of being raped by several people. She has even gone as far as detailing her harrowing "rapes" on fetlife in one of her writing posts. When she has been encouraged to get the police involved, she has adamantly refused, Even to the point of ending friendships with people who have attempted to confront her accused rapists. Steer clear of her. Very little of the hard luck story she gives you has any truth to it at all. Numerous PlacesCurrent
12/16/2012 3:42:35654112TheRiggerSevereI think you will find that the person that threw up on that occasion, has thrown up at other events on more than one occasion.Milton KeynesSeptemberish 2011
12/16/2012 13:48:13980235-BACON-SevereDude made me fat and clogged my arteries. Bastard!My Kitchen mostlyEver since I realised I could eat -BACON- whenever I wanted.
12/17/2012 2:05:461112488SphvinxMinorShe is just too yummy and nice. I want to play with her forever.Mainly between her boobs.When?
12/17/2012 2:11:4449781T5TartModerateI have witnessed several violations by this man including leaving an unconscious girl in the middle of a club - no aftercare.Milton KeynesLast year.
12/17/2012 3:01:481158090Tai-DachiMinorDid you put the other two on yourself? That has to be some sort of offense?Milton KeynesNow!!
12/17/2012 8:41:20901509WinkieSevereIn this man there is too much niceness for one person.UKongoing
12/17/2012 8:44:37191324Rachel-MTSevereHer baking will make you put on weight - she is one good cake makerUKall the time
12/17/2012 8:54:58315314AdrianneSpringSevereShe is DANGER to other road users - especially those driving - she will distract you with her sexinessVancouver2012
12/17/2012 12:31:561113438powergen-italiaSevereFor having such rough and rampant sex that he knocks non-consenting radiators off the wall!!!The BedroomA while ago
12/18/2012 18:46:3021490Noctra_CorvusSevereHe raped me.

we'd dated twice - maybe three times - and hadn't negotiated anything. A little kissing, which wasn't particularly good... a bit of camming... I went to his house to get something back I let him borrow, and he threw me on the bed. When I begged him to stop, he accused me of topping from the bottom; when I begged him to use a condom, he said he'd already stuck it in so it didn't matter anyway. DO NOT BE ALONE WITH THIS MAN.
portland, OregonJune 2008
12/18/2012 23:40:552017556CattusCestriaeMinorLikes to spam inboxesFetLife12/18/2012
12/19/2012 19:59:551048810KyleStylezSevereunfathomable stupidityfetlifeongoing
12/24/2012 7:35:1612938StricturismSevereStricturism uses his bigness and blackness to attract women and then ties them up, has his way with them, and sends them home with a smile ;)His houseRepeatedly!
12/25/2012 9:06:02532802ObsydianSevereHe attempted to hijack a sausage ball from my plate on Christmas. ON CHRISTMAS!!!! This is definitely a severe abuse of my plate and hunger.HERE12/25/2012
12/26/2012 15:20:57532802ObsydianSevereHe ate all the brownies!!!In my KitchenJust YESTERDAY!!!
12/27/2012 9:53:241380KayLovelaySevereKay routinely accuses people she has been in past relationships with as "horrible abusers" when they break up with her. I know of at least one person who is taking her to court because of lies she has told to the community.OnlineHSe has been lying for quite some time.
12/29/2012 3:53:42955170CoffeeStainSevereThis person threatened to "Out me to the community for misconduct" if I did not do favors for her. After refusing to placate her I later found out she was going behind my back to event staff trying to have me exiled.Las VegasApril 2012
12/29/2012 3:58:48385524par_tgirlSevereUser tried forcing their sexuality on me in public. I was almost outed to my vanilla peers which could have cost me my job and respect in my casual social life. When confronted about this she blocked me and refused to acknowledge any wrong doing on the matter. Las Vegas, NVMay 2012
12/29/2012 4:23:57650726EmeraldCityAliceSevereRepeatedly harassed me through my email and on the forums. This person is well known for her power hungry nature. Many people have mentioned privately that she is incompetent to hold a position of leadership. Someone is going to get into a lot of trouble because of her incompetence if more people do not start speaking up.Las Vegas, NVApril 2012
12/29/2012 4:38:58894412StrangestAngelSevereUser harassed me outside of PT's. I asked her to calm down but she than proceeded to have an outrage telling everybody I was out to get her. Nobody I knew of took her seriously but I later found out she was gossiping to other members behind my back. She is highly suggestible and easily manipulated, I suggest any other users keep their conversations online where you can keep a record of what gets said.Las Vegas, NVMarch 2012
12/29/2012 5:02:56809240JunicandySevereTried to incite problems among fellow community members after I said a simple hello. TexasSummer 2012
12/29/2012 5:26:141568915The_Beat_LabSevereCauses drama, over reacts, gullible as the day they were born. These people should be kept in check, period.Las Vegas, NVSummer 2012
12/29/2012 6:16:411486686CuriousgirllvSevereUser resorted to spreading drama after becoming paranoid over trivial discussion. This user has shown herself to be gullible and easily controlled by those willing to be less than honest with others.Las Vegas, NVJuly 2012
12/29/2012 6:25:491625089tasteytreat22SevereUser threatened to libel me if I came forward about their rude behavior as well as their mistreatment of my friends. I showed nothing but kindness and respect when she moved here but that did not seem to matter to her. I chose to grin and bear it but in the end she only spread more problems as a result.Las Vegas, NVSeptember 2012
12/29/2012 6:28:44601229katH20Severeshould not be allowed to post pictures as she is to dam sexyon fetlifewhen posted last picture
12/29/2012 6:38:491603279MeZnDSevereUser practiced unsafe practices at one of their prior events and created escalating conflict with several of the other members present. Thankfully I have not introduced this user to anyone I know. I advise against sharing anything about your real life with this person.Las Vegas, NVSummer 2012
12/29/2012 6:50:0876480DaddydominvegasSevereUser became hostile over a simple complement on their profile. This person also has a big mouth and a real lack of common sense.Las Vegas, NVSeptember 2012
12/29/2012 7:10:22675610The_Sex_ManSevereUser spread malicious rumors which could have ruined my reputation had they not been caught in time. This was most likely an attempt to get laid which thankfully did not work for this... person.

Watch him like a hawk
New YorkOctober 2012
12/29/2012 7:18:38449252Cordial_CherrySevereUser proceeded to spread rumors after a dispute on logistics too place on the site. She made a haphazard attempt to sully my reputation which, THANKFULLY failed to work.TexasOctober 2012
12/29/2012 7:50:211864529Lil-peachSevereCreated drama among her peergroup after responding to a classified posting. Play it safe and save any dirty talk for when of if you exchange numbers.WashingtonNovember 2012
12/29/2012 15:26:28130981DarkricoModerateHe is not safe to play with. He lies about consent, and will harass you if given enough infomation. Boise IdahoJuly Aug 2012
12/29/2012 18:48:121787929sweetsinner12SevereI have a stalker: <--- Do not believe anything this woman says!! The more you do for her, the more cruel and hateful she gets. I took care of her son and helped support her and tried to get her help for her pills/alcohol. Now she says I was a con man and is following me around fetlife writing crazy things.

She almost killed myself and her son while hopelessly altered on God knows what on several occasions. She even tried to kill herself a couple of times. She repeatedly threw things at me and tried to punch/kick/hit me and now says that I was "abusive". When ever she is altered she thinks it's funny to tell you she's going to go and commit sexual indiscretions with the neighbor in exchange for drugs(and sometimes actually does). If it's not that, you'll have to all but physically restrain her in order to stop her from taking her little son into the automobile at 3am while loaded out of her mind.

If all of that was not enough, she tried to have me jailed and then did a sexual favor for someone in return for him coming to my hotel and trying to cause trouble with me. Thankfully, there were five of us and he left without incident, but wow.

When ever this woman ever claims to be sorry for something, she's just buying her way back any way she can in order to have an opportunity to inflict more pain or cause more problems. Any time she manages to cause an issue for you she will laugh in your face about it because she's a sociopath (literally).

She is also a pathological liar - after all of her lying, cheating, stealing and abuse of myself and her son - she is CONVINCED that I lied to her, stole from her and that I was abusive to her. It is how she lives with being what she is, as far as I can tell it is more convenient than facing down her inner demons and admitting to her abhorable behavior.


She's a professional victim and knows how to make herself look innocent. I spoke with her for six months for hours at a time nearly every day and had no idea of what she was. I have NEVER been played by a female, before. If she can get me she can get anyone.
Cane Island Apartments in Kissimmee FloridaAugust 2012
12/30/2012 17:15:3112141Philip_the_FooleSevereThis event occurred on a night in March, 2008, just prior to Easter.

My slave, husband and I were invited by the leader of the Wichita Falls group to travel from Dallas be presenters at a Wichita Falls Meeting.

I am a well-respected Domme in the Dallas community and the head of our household. During the party afterwards, Philip non-consensually took me down to the floor and would not let me up. I was very clearly and loudly telling him to get off of me.

I have a lung condition and his violation of consent put me in danger.

It took two men to forcefully pull him off of me, when he refused to let me up.

He was immediately asked by the Owner of the home to leave after this assault, and not to return.

He was clearly "out of control" and unresponsive when it was made clear to him that this was completely unacceptable.

He is a dangerous, impulsive predator and will never be allowed at any venue over which we have the ability to intervene.
Wichita Falls, Texas at a private residence, with many witnessesMarch, 2008
1/1/2013 13:22:171619680themonkfishkidMinorPretends to be scary but is just very cuddly and amazingly nice In the ukAll the time..
1/1/2013 20:17:421380005stretch_me_outSevereWill steal your check book and take your belongings, was convicted of 5 counts of grand theft and forgery. Boise, ID April 2012
1/2/2013 1:39:511930111SweetCarnalSugarMinorDoes not set emotional boundaries. Does everything she can to cause victim to acquire feelings she has absolutely no intention of reciprocating. Emotional user.HereDec 2012 to Jan 2013
1/2/2013 17:23:26121241Philip_the_FooleSevereReposted as the initial post with 12141 was incorrect as the FetLife ID number.

This post is about "Philip the Foole"

This event occurred on a night in March, 2008, just prior to Easter.

My slave, my husband and I were invited by the leader of the Wichita Falls group to travel from Dallas be presenters at a Wichita Falls BDSM Meeting.

I am a well-respected Domme in the Dallas community and the head of our household. During the party afterwards, Philip non-consensually took me down to the floor and would not let me up. I was very clearly and loudly telling him to get off of me.

I have a lung condition and his violation of consent put me in danger.

It took two strong men to forcefully pull him off of me, when he continued to refuse to let me up. He retaliated by assaulting both of them.

He was immediately asked by the owner of the home and hostess of the event to leave after this assault, and not to return, ever.

He was clearly "out of control" and unresponsive while pinning me down with his full and substantial weight on me, when it was made clear to him that this was completely unacceptable and that he needed to cease immediately.

He is a dangerous, impulsive predator and will never be allowed at any venue in which we have the ability to intervene.
Wichita Falls, Texasaround March, 2008 at 7PM
1/3/2013 3:46:511544191MaxMyersSevereHe repeatedly messaged me wanting to meet up. When I told him I would be available if a friend came with me, he became irritated and rejected my request which was red flag #1. He told me to meet him at his home, another red flag. I was beginning to get uncomfortable about how persistent he was, so I stopped answering. A couple of days later he flooded my inbox saying that "real slaves do not ignore dominants" and other nonsense. When I told him I was uninterested, he verbally abused me, calling me a bitch and a worthless whore. He accused me of being fake since I did not want to meet, then said I was too rude to be a slave and that I deserved punishment. He warned that if I came to a play party in the area he was going to beat me for it. I instantly blocked him, and I want to spread the word to keep this abuser away from the community.Richmond, VANovember 22nd, 2012
1/3/2013 3:48:521845567SirRonRVASevereRaped me in his personal dungeon and I later found out that he filmed it without my knowledge.Richmond, VAAugust 15th, 2012 at 4pm
1/3/2013 8:02:54217929JorranSevereHe is so cute :) , possibly the cutest person ever everywhereAll the time..
1/3/2013 9:20:5512938StricturismSevereSo we were playing and I was tied up and he was doing this thing where he used a stick to make the chest harness tighter by twisting it, it hurt like fuck! When I screamed and bucked against the ropes he slapped me on the cunt HARD. I looked at him and smiled. He was like “oh! U like that bitch!?” LOL, I tried to sit up and say something but I was tied down too good. FUCK I hate that he is so damn sadistic with rope! When I couldn’t get up he laughed and shoved his thumb in me. Started playing with my clit, right when I was about to cum I was like “STOP!, wait!” and that fucker just stopped cold! It took me a min to even realize it because I was about to cum a second ago and when I didn’t get to my cunt was all swollen! I was like NO! Don’t stop, please I am about to come so fucking hard! He was like “but I thought you said stop…” I needed to come so hard I was sobbing and I was lke PLEASE! So he slapped me and said “Make up your mind bitch!” I got scared and even more wet but I was like I NEED TO CUM! So he started fingering me and when I came I squirted all over that vest he’s so damn proud of! LOL. Las Vegas2012
1/4/2013 12:17:5329164SinCityVixenSevereAfter many years of using her position in the small, local Las Vegas scene to lie, cheat, and spread rumors about anyone who wont allow her to run events and/or groups SinCityVixen has been sued in court! Ask her, and then ask the people who are suing her again. She has a long history of misleading new people into becoming part of her "with us or against us" / "gang" mentality and bullying community members into keeping silent when she lies. She threatens them with being "kicked out of the scene" by tricking them into thinking that she has some control over who plays with who. She is a vicious, sad woman. DO NOT TRUST HER!Las VegasAt least 10 years.
1/6/2013 11:03:25314461birddocSevereIs currently stalking a local Domme. He's been stalking her for several years now and has outed her at work, has contacted her family, and has contacted the family of anyone connected to her. She does annual conferences at her dungeon/grounds, and he's sent friend requests to all the presenters she's had out.

"birddoc". Very bad news. Very persistent stalker.
Richfield, Minnesota,Now
1/9/2013 5:03:00121241"Philip the Foole"SeverePhilip the Foole is ranting that the Domme in his last report did not file it.

1. Is he denying that he held her down, in a non-consensual takedown, against her will, at a party with at least 10-15 people observing, with NO negotiations whatsoever, and that she was screaming and kicking, tell him to get off of her?

2. Is he denying that she has a condition that made it difficult for her to breathe?

3. Is he denying that his glasses were broken, his back and arms scratched and bleeding as the Domme's other two partners yelled at him and had to physically pull him off of her when he refused to listen to her safewording?

4. Is he denying that he was told to leave the party as a result of this bad behavior and told not to return?

5. Is his often declared "radical honesty" dealing with the facts that he violated this woman's consent with MANY people watching it happen?

"Philip the Foole" has a long and consistent history of violating consent and causing injury. I don't think the women that he victimized are saying, "Gosh, THAT was fun!"

It's all "smoke and mirrors" and what magicians call "distraction" from the FACTS.

He has an often repeated phrase about magicians that bears repeating.
He brags about being a magician.

Wichita Falls, Texas at a party at a private residence, part of the Wichita Falls Grouparound March, 2008 at 7PM
1/11/2013 8:23:5429581DaddyOMinordoesnt care about my or friends' comfort, pushy questions, pushy about playing, constant bugging me

No physical groping or threats tho. I do not feel scared of him hes just pushy
wednesday munchsummer 2012
1/11/2013 19:20:161258979Sterling_Archer4SevereAccused of murder:, Ontario12/31/2012
1/11/2013 19:20:471226649Lana_CaineSevereAccused of murder:, Ontario12/31/2012
1/12/2013 7:57:30406901EvilWizardSevereThis guy considers himself a "mad scientist" and manufactures a wide array of intoxicating, inebriating and illegal substances. He likes to "test" his creations by serving them to uninformed people with either insufficient consent or no consent at all. He lists himself as in a "complicated" relationship with one of his younger users who is now deceased. A second user jumped off a building while undergoing a negative reaction to one of his concotions. Be very careful about accepting drinks from him. Various locations, Ottawa OntarioVarious times
1/12/2013 11:15:322010118-kitten-elf-ModerateThis is a test on a sock puppet account, so I know how this system works. :)My silly brainmeatsEVERY DAY OMG.
1/12/2013 11:19:49718063ROBOCOP-SERLINGModerateOuts people to their work and families. Slanders FetLife users. Stalking. Cyber-harassment. Continually changes user name to avoid reputation. Former usernames include: StopLeft, ROBOTS, MONSTERS, and possibly others.Asheville, NC2012
1/12/2013 12:11:58710657Rigger_GMinorWithout announcing himself and without prior permission, Rigger_G came up from behind and hugged an event attendee. When reproached for this action, Rigger_G brushed it off as "just a hug," despite explanation that Rule One of the community is "Don't touch without permission."Submission 2July, 2012
1/12/2013 17:37:11658457DomCat4uSeverebeing a pratliverpooltonight
1/13/2013 15:17:16351219indigolaughterSevereThis person drove her boyfriend at the time (Kimball Karlson-Martini) to hunt down his other girlfriend, then watched him repeatedly batter that girlfriend with a closet rod over the course of an hour. She and Kimball kidnapped the girlfriend to their shared home in Tacoma when the girlfriend's roommate interrupted them, then watched as Karlson-Martini humiliated, battered, and raped the victim several times. She then proceeded to cover up for the boyfriend for several months until they brought her in. Suddenly pled "mental illness" from which she instantaneously recovered.

Karlson-Martini was charged with kidnapping, assault, and rape. He pled guilty to lesser charges.
Seattle, Tukwila, and Tacoma, Washington4/30/2010
1/14/2013 4:59:58946880captainseanSevereCaptainsean and I dated for several months. At one point in early 2012 (I'm sorry; I've blocked out the date) we were hanging out at his apartment, and he asked me if I felt like having sex. I responded 'no, not at the moment'. He ignored this and climbed on top of me and proceeded to vaginally rape me. I was afraid of making him angry, plus I didn't, at the time, want to acknowledge what was really happening, so I lay there until it was over. It was on a Saturday, if I recall correctly, around midday, in the bedroom of his apartment.

This was not the only consent violation perpetrated against me by captainsean. I had made it clear from the first time we met that any form of breath play was a hard limit for me. During sex one night (and I'm sorry; I did my best to forget this and cannot recall when it happened), without asking, consulting or warning me, he pinched my nose and covered my mouth so that I was unable to breathe.
Northbridge, Perth, Western Australia and Osborne Park, Western AustraliaEarly 2012. Apologies for vagueness with dates.
1/16/2013 14:16:271302857lily221Severelily221 has a severe problem with outing people in the kink community. I have witnessed her out no fewer than 4 people in under two months, primarily because she thrives on nothing but gossip. Beware the information you share with her, and avoid her if you want your business, and name, to remain private.Butte CountySummer 2012
1/17/2013 16:18:03814952kitkat_cupcakeSevereBeing amazing at sucking cock and a very naughty brat!Various locations2012
1/20/2013 9:36:5196978KnightCASevereConvicted of felony molestation of a minor child in 2005. She was 14 at the time; he was 31. Has repeatedly claimed that the victim was at fault for telling him that she was of legal age, when in fact she made no such claim. Has been blacklisted from several annual events as a result of his crime/conviction.Marin County, CA2004
1/25/2013 12:35:562010080misshilightSevereThis profile is false the pictures used belong to a close friend of mine who is outraged over this she can be contacted on

And will confirm what i have told you. She would like the page removed and if possible get the user banned as the profile is impersonating her/
Dublin25th January 2013
1/26/2013 11:13:53980235-BACON-Severenon-consensual killing of pigsall over the worldall the time
1/27/2013 12:10:11194782LexFrostSevereLex approached me on his social networking site. We began interacting via e-mail and he made it very clear that his intent was for us to interact via email, then phone conversations, then he would fly me out for several get togethers and see if we remained interested in a romantic relationship. If we did, I was going to move to his home in Plano, Texas. He went out of his way to present himself as single. He never mentioned his girlfriend initially, had no wedding ring and was listed as single on social networking sites. He also goes out of his way to tell any woman interested in him that “due to his being so well known” he requires his privacy and does not want them discussing any interactions he has with them. Two months into our interactions together a mutual acquaintance feared I was his “type” and he might approach me. Thus she warned me having no idea that I was already involved with him. He friend requested me here on fetlife. I went to his profile and noticed he had broken up with someone not less than several hours ago. I have since been told it is common for him to leave the person he is with (without them even being aware he has an issue with them) for someone he is newly interested in. I asked him about her and he stated he was seeing EveningKiss but she was not offering him the type of relationship dynamic he wanted so he dumped her. I chose to continue to interact with him only to find out that he was still in a relationship with her. He presented to me that they were now in a poly relationship (The type of relationship he WAS looking for) and wanted to know if I would be interested in being in a long term relationship with both of them. I chose to stay and see how things went.

As my relationship with both of them developed, he asked me to be celibate as a commitment to them. I agreed though they did not make the same agreement. He told me this was due to my being so far away that his girlfriend didn’t think things would work out initially, until we began interacting. Hence, she wanted to meet women at clubs to see if they hit it off. After that he simply denied that they were considering anyone else.To my knowledge they pursued three other people, two of whom were on fet for an exclusive romantic relationship during this time. Lex went so far as to state that he did not know anyone by the name of Nicole when I inquired about his interest in her. According to what he told others she is/was in fact a long term friend from high school. She, as per the pattern, was writing loving comments on every post he made and talking about how excited she was to be going out to spend time with them. She dropped out of site after the visit and has had nothing more to do with him (at least publicly she moved on to get into a relationship with someone else). He also lied to me when he stated that his now wife knew about our prior interactions. I found out from her that she had no such knowledge. I offered to give her evidence (and it would hold up in a court of law) but either he or she messaged me stating they weren't concerned about it. She knows it she just cannot accept it so pretends I am lying. Lex utilizes deception, as indicated by repeatedly lying(bald face lies, half truths, contextual lies, lying by omission and minimization) about even minor, seemingly unimportant things, use of aliases, and conning others for personal profit or pleasure.And he can be very convincing.

Most of this occurred while they are supposedly in an open poly relationship where his wife now states she doesn’t care who he sees. He doesn’t cheat and lie because women won’t give him the freedom he wants. He cheats and lies because he does not respect nor care about any of his partners. The warning I was given by our mutual acquaintance is that" he lies to women and tells them whatever they want to hear to get what he wants. When they confront him on this he twists things around to confuse them, making them feel like they are the bad guy for not believing his lies and deceit." I didn't listen as I didn't know her very well. If you are considering being in a relationship with him or them ask yourself the question I failed to ask myself;

If he’ll lie to his committed life partner, what makes you think he’ll be honest with you or anyone else? Lies have been his way of life for a long time now. With his past girlfriends, his prior wife (he cheated on her not the other way around...ask her) and now his current wife. If someone in a relationship with you is willing to accept that level of dishonesty in his relationships, what does that say about his sense of integrity and honesty?


If someone will lie to you and cheat on you even when the supposed obstacles preventing him from living the life he wishes to live have been removed, then they will likely violate your consent, too. Aside from the risks of a ticking time bomb drama fest, an unknown third, fourth, or fifth party STD vector whom you can't ask directly about their history, and the ethical issues, the automatic inability to trust that a cheater isn't lying to you and you are helping to hurt someone so deeply that they may never be able to get over it; yourself, his wife (she can’t consent to everything and he lies about what she consents to),and whomever else he cheats on/with.

I have a general distaste of sneaky and unethical behavior and the implicit acceptance of it. What I did was WRONG. It is the first and last time I will ever make such a mistake. What he is doing is wrong and I am generally saddened by how many people know that he has been doing this for so many years and respond with tacit acceptance of it. I understand the reasons why but that doesn’t make it right. Not hurting people without very just cause is usually considered ethical. It matters to me whether, when I look in the mirror, I feel like an ethical person is looking back. I didn’t feel that way about myself when I was involved with him. I do care about having a personal code of ethics which involves treating other people the way I would like to be treated. And I don’t want to tacitly stand by while he continues to lie and cheat on his wife, other women and whoever else he wishes to use for his own profit at their expense.

You are not responsible for another person's behavior. You are responsible for your own. You can't decide whether he's going to cheat and lie, or not. You can only decide whether he is going to cheat or not with you. And how you feel about that choice.

I guarantee if you get involved with him it will permanently change your ability to trust in intimate relationships. It may not happen immediately, it may take years but at some point he will make a mistake and you will become painfully aware that you are living inside a lie. It won’t destroy your relationships with others altogether, but it is impossible to return to a state of perfect confidence, in any partner, once you have trusted someone absolutely and been wrong absolutely. You don’t have to do that to yourself, his wife or anyone else. Nor do you HAVE to believe me. The only thing I would ask if you are reading this is to at the very least consider what I have said and don’t let him isolate you before looking into this with anyone you choose. I have years of evidence to back up what I am saying. There is a breadcrumb trail of women all over the internet with the same stories about him. You have to dig due to the threats and intimidation but the stories are there. Talk to myself or any of them before you LET HIM ISOLATE YOU so that you can make an informed decision. There is a reason his voice is the only voice his wife hears or will listen to and it speaks of places you don’t want to go and I won't discuss here.

I am not posting the evidence of our interactions here as it is several years worth. I wouldn't know where to start. Nor will I be returning here to read any comments. I am not interested in listening to his few remaining friends who have had no romantic interactions with him and thus no knowledge of how he treats women in these situations. I am only here to urge any women considering getting romantically involved with him to listen to the voice that brought you to this page to begin with. Trust your instincts and do your research. I WILL reply to direct messages from women who are/have been or are considering becoming romantically involved with him/them at the following email address:

[email protected]

long distance relationshipOct 2009- Dec 2012
1/28/2013 20:54:4290947ScaryBenSevereDisregarded safeword, inflicted very severe bite wounds, verbal abuse. Wounds took 2+ months to heal.BrooklynJune 2012
2/7/2013 6:44:0319791SoulhuntreSevereSoulhuntre is so awesome it made me feel very bad about myself. When I specifically asked him to be less awesome to save my feelings he continued to be awesome.EverywhereMy whole life
2/9/2013 2:58:591720901LittleGirlLost83Severeafter sending messages back and fourth to a dom
consenting to play
but then after play posting a blog that she never consented to non of it
and causing the dom nothing but grief
this girl needs be left alone
2/9/2013 5:20:591901485bartdjSeverehe has a very offensive wepeon
its a plank of woooodddddddddddddd
run for your lives
2/10/2013 9:48:121112436Jpherr77SevereAbout a week after we started dating, I moved out of my parents' house into a hotel for a week, and then to an apartment that a couple of friends had in Albany. While in the hotel, he visited twice, and both visits involved sex.
Neither visit involved condoms, against my wishes.
Neither visit involved consent.
Neither visit took into account that I don't like anal, even though he was aware of that.

The first involved him deciding to jump into the shower with me, when I said I wanted to be alone, and refusing to leave after I asked.
He then dragged me to the bed, threw me down, and began fucking me. No condom, no consent, no heeding when I told him to stop.
Rinse and repeat that part for his second visit.

Once I moved in with the two guys I lived with until this past summer, he began hitting me. Hard.
"Don't do that" had no effect, other than making him hit harder. Same with "Get off me", "No", "That's too hard!" and various other things that a DECENT human being - even a Master - should take to mean that they've crossed the line. He never brought up safewords, though I doubt he would have listened even if I had used one.
I began trying to limit the time I spent with him.
And he hit harder when he saw me, because I was avoiding him.

Again, this was supposedly a poly relationship, but he was never upfront that he was going to meet other girls.
He outright denied having sex with people I know now for a fact that he did.
And, the last straw, he had sex with someone I said "no" about, after secretly meeting them.

When he told me and I expressed my displeasure, he told me that my reasons for saying no were completely illogical, and rather than talking to me about them, he was just going to ignore them.

He assured me that he had used a condom with her, but based on the history I already had with him, I wasn't inclined to believe it.
He said that every other person knew about me. Considering the girl he was dating broke up with him very shortly after I had looked at her OkCupid profile (and she looked back - and therefore probably saw that I linked to him in my profile), I wasn't inclined to believe that, either.
Holiday Inn, Nott Terrace, Schenectady, NY, SUNY Schenectady County, 78 Washington Ave, Schenectady, NY 12305September 27, 2011-October 22, 2011
2/10/2013 14:00:221886828phyxatedSevereCyber-stalking. He put my Fetlife name into Twitter, then put that name into Google in order to try and find me everywhere on the internet. I rarely feel genuinely afraid for my safety and security in this community, but this guy made me really quite glad that I hide everything I possibly can from random strangers on Facebook.Fetlife, Facebook11/5/2012
2/11/2013 18:30:4020297RopePleasuresSeveredid not reveal that there were children in a room beside the dungeon in a play party after telling the people that there would not be children at the play partyprince george vaseptember of 2010
2/11/2013 18:37:061JohnBakuSeverehis penis is larger than minewhen he was bornwhere he was born
2/11/2013 18:41:0836753gwendollynSeverenon consensually being cuter than a fucking buttonall the fucking timeall the fucking place
2/11/2013 18:46:422012565GothicLizardManSevereself reported that he had relations with a 15 year old when he was 30new york city2008
2/11/2013 18:49:341845567SirRonRVASeveredrugged me and made me have sex with a dog while filming ithis dungeon2012
2/11/2013 20:57:021801769nsfwneutroniumSevereSelf reported stalking and harassing a female member of my munch. Proceeded to locate my OKCupid account, which is not connected to my Fetlife and uses a different username. Threatened to show up at my workplace. Was banned from local munch, but still shows up at parties elsewhere in the area. Be careful. College Park, MDNovember 2012
2/12/2013 14:02:3126900vabreezecoupleSeveregossiping ... and lies... bold faced important lies, whatever she thinks will move things her way.all the timeeverywhere
2/13/2013 9:14:14851376zeboSeveredoing an unconsented cutting on several female and males
back who are now scared for life because of this disgusting disturbed man
2/14/2013 7:43:23863669Iste_MaledictusSevereused me for money, made me hate myself, made me uncomfortable in the community, lied to me, lied about me, lied to his other partnersrichmond2012
2/15/2013 18:57:0712938StricturismSevereSeveral women (including myself) have claimed rape/nonconsent by this "man." He raped me (I said no, my Dom at the time said no) in front of my 18-month-old son. North Las Vegas, NV 89031Late February/Early March 2012
2/17/2013 6:41:37253797dubacoMinorContinually makes posts of a derogatory nature against members of the community with unfounded accusations of harassment, bullying and persecution. Has not responded to multiple people attempting to address these concerns in a non-confrontational manner.GlasgowFebruary 2013
2/17/2013 8:55:301777020justrobicSevereBeing an absolutely sadistic baker of odd cupcakes. Then inflicting them on the good people of the Bedford munch.

Especially the Marmite cupcakes and Marmite truffles
Bedford Munch.December 2012
2/18/2013 21:59:54625300Lil_ElzSevereYears after one break up he continues to stalk and harass his ex girlfriend, proposition her for sex, threaten to out her to friends, family and work, and to intervene in her future relationships.

After another break-up has made threats of physical violence ("If I see [her] again I will stab her in the face.") and used his military training as an attempt of intimidation towards her friends.

He is unstable and violent.
Chico, CA2012
2/19/2013 8:38:44178334Rubby71SevereBEING AN UTTER FLUFFY
2/24/2013 3:12:09298901Willow_WyntreSeverespreads herpes like wild firesince 2010to everyone dumb enough to fuck her without protection
2/24/2013 9:34:4611258d_k_Severefor being a total dick head who thinks he knows everything to do with bdsm
and who likes to beat the crap out of girls and walk away from them
2/26/2013 1:51:32113811i_love_hoodiesSevereaka velveteenhoodrat is one of the two elderly-abusing criminals described in this article: She subsequently plea-bargained her way to a shorter sentence for turning state's witness against her partner, kind of like Karla Homolka. She's extremely paranoid he will want revenge and kill her, but does nothing to minimize her exposure on social networks and tells people about her past at the drop of the hat because she loves the attention and the pity.Palatine1996-1998
2/26/2013 8:43:27411098Deus_Ex_DeimosSevereD was my on again off again Dom for 8 years. I first met him when I was 14 and he was 21. He introduced my into BDSM and sex in general. We "dated" for a year. He was emotionally and verbally manipulative during this time and tried (some times successfully) to get my other teenage girl friends involved for 3somes. We got back together when I was 21, he was actually upset that I was taller and filled out and didn't look like a little girl anymore, his girlfriend/slave at the time did look like a little girl. He used sex and physical contact as a weapon in our poly relationship. He was allowed "unquestioned" sexual contact with whomever he chose but L and myself weren't even allowed to touch each other. He would use us financially and whatever possessions we had were up for grabs (my laptop was suddenly off limits to my and L wasn't allowed to use her car if he needed it). He would use her car to "just hang out" with some some two girls who hung around his shop (13 and 16 y.o).
He wanted to train me to enjoy pain more but did it by only using pain to punish me and going beyond my pain tolerance ignore or pushing past my safe word. When I broke my foot in his house he ignored it and I didn't get medical attention till 2 days later from a worried friend. He threw temper tantrums if he wasn't waited on hand and foot (we weren't 24/7) and manipulated and intimidated us in order to get what he wanted. He is an abuser.
Sarasota Fl and Orlando Fl2004-2012
2/26/2013 14:39:0393614SilkModerateThreats of outing and attacking someone who he felt was not giving him enough attention. Emotional and verbal abuse for not submitting to him. Bad mouthing, rumors and lies spewed about those who he doesn't like.

When confronted and called out on his behavior, he threatened to ruin the reputation and relationships of the person who confronted him.
Baltimore area2012
2/26/2013 16:21:28369747H20_FUNModerateThis user will 'out you' without your consent if you cross him. He has at least one documented case of it, and has threatened others to out them if he didn't get his way.Idaho2011
2/27/2013 21:10:282369ScootahSevereIs neither 22, nor female, nor submissive. FAKE!Fetlife2/28/2013
2/27/2013 21:16:442369ScootahSevereDoes not reply to very polite emails. Saw mutually compatible fetishes on our profiles and wanted to enquire about her interest in pursuing those interests together. Sent back very rude reply. Mocked the size of my penis.Fetlife1/10/2013
2/27/2013 21:27:232369ScootahSevereUses the Abuse Reporting system to make dumb jokes. Thinks the abuse reporting system is a terrible idea that will cause more harm than it prevents. The intarwebs2/28/2013
2/28/2013 8:04:111JohnBakuMinorHe fucked up and apologized!Canadayesterday
2/28/2013 11:02:411494600seanmwMinorRepeatedly asked for sexual play, despite being told multiple times that it wasn't on the table. Became verbally abusive when I didn't respond to a text message he sent me. Washington DC2012
3/1/2013 10:40:07296822T-GunnerMinorHe lacks originality. He sends me the exact same sexually harassing e-mail he sends out to every other girl and then blocks me when I bother to respond to him positively.

He also can not spell, which tells me this 6'2 fit silver fox is not well endowed in the education department.
Sonoma, CAFebruary 2012
3/1/2013 10:44:3047946NinjaMikeModerateThis person fragrantly lies about his relationships, in order to say whatever will make his current interest comfortable about engaging in play, sex, or relationships with him. He has a very long history of cheating, even in poly relationships, and the sticky part is that he does it because he doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make anyone uncomfortable. Users should know that if you are in any sort of relationship with him (even just play partners), that he will frequently break his poly agreements with you or his other partners, if it means he can have what he wants in the moment. I highly suggest not engaging in sex or play with him, because you never know who you or he may be inadvertently hurting by doing so.

He has initiated long term, power dynamic relationships with people without informing his other partners. He has had sexual contact with people without informing his other partners. He has lied about getting tested when his partners request him to do so. He has lied about test results (saying he is negative for things he is positive for - like HSV).

In general, he will do or say whatever it takes to get what he wants.
Maryland, and at events on the East CoastHe cheated on his first wife somewhere around 2001/2 (or at least, that's the only cheating he got *caught* doing, which ended in divorce.) He cheated on his second wife all throughout their marriage, with it ending in 2012 after they learned about a secret power dynamic relationship that was going on for over 2 years.
3/1/2013 16:41:561229084Wicked_MenagerieModerateThis is a dummy account for a party called Wicked Menagerie. When I attended this party, I was appauled at the unchecked underage drinking, the naked older men staring at younger, clothed women, and a lot of other skeevy behavior that made myself and my partner not only uncomfortable, but unsafe.

Someone tried to ask my partner for play, but they were so stinking drunk I wouldn't even let her out of my sight with them, much less play.

I feel these parties are unsafe, especially for women.
Rockville, MD4/2012
3/3/2013 11:57:27513372ReadCTSevereOn October 23, 2012, a girl met ReadCT for dinner at the Arboretum. While there he pushed her to the ground compressing her between a bag and the ground restricting oxygen. He let her up after she stated she could not breathe. He then threw a drink in her face. Afterwards, he went behind her and held her against her will twice. Both times she told him "NO, STOP, Don't touch me". After the second time, he left and went to her car. If you read back through his posts, you can see where he apologizes online for throwing a drink in her face.

Class C misdemeanor charges were filed with the City of Dallas.
Dallas, TX10/23/2012
3/4/2013 16:11:5947776DallasKinkModerateDallasKink told me after we slept together that he has herpes.Dallas, TX2012
3/5/2013 6:09:54513372ReadCTSevereHe was drunk and from what I have gathered high at Disturbathon. He did not secure the play space so when I was waiting in line, I was hit with a flogger by someone in another scene. When I told Read, he told me to just move. While I was on the Sybian, he was telling my Daddy to make me count my orgasms and screaming in my face (this was not negotiated). He was kicked in the nuts for bad behavior and left. Dallas, TXOctober 2012
3/5/2013 20:39:061190729picturegirlSevereHas genital herpes, does not inform sex partners and refuses to use protection. Also threatens to out anyone who objects to being given an incurable VD.Greenville, SCongoing
3/6/2013 18:39:171432073OniSithModerateThis person has posted pictures and my posts from Fetlife on other social media sites without my permission. Furthermore, he exposed a whole private monthly party via a Google Review on the internet so that anyone searching for the building the party was held in could read about all the kink and sex that went on there. He currently skulks around various Philadelphia parties and never plays, but always has a smart phone handy for recording and taking pictures.Philadelphia, PAJust after New Years
3/9/2013 1:00:572124545jamethSevereThis user created a sock account to out me in a friend's status, using my real last name and alluding to my profession, neither of which I have ever used on FL. Fetlife3/9/2013
3/11/2013 23:16:2847946NinjaMikeModerateHe never told his girlfriend he cheated on her. He cheated on her for two years, and she found out from other people, and more than eight months later and he has still refused to sit down with her and have a conversation about what happened. He's a lying douchebag and an unrepentant cheater. I pity anyone who gets roped in by his "I'm a guardian" bullshit; he's a guardian when it gets him attention and praise, but not when the chips are down; and he never hesitates to hurt the ones he claims to love the most. Also, his new girlfriend is a bitch.MarylandHe started cheating on his girlfriend in 2011, and still hasn't told her (althoguh she knows now)
3/11/2013 23:25:04332119girl_aliSevereThis person has reported to several event producers that presenters she does not like, or approve of, are on the Sexual Offenders Registry. Even when it is made clear that they are not, in fact, nor have they ever been accused of a crime, she continues to tell people that she is right.

When I attended the GKEII, she was a DM, and her boyfriend was her boss. She touched my submissive without asking either her or my permission, in the middle of a scene. Later, she sat and watched a friend of mine play, and practically yelled comments about how my friend was "doing it wrong" (which she wasn't) and that if my friend didn't change the scene, she was going to throw my friend out. When I complained to her boss (her boyfriend), he told me she was in her rights. I went to Jeff Mach, who told me that he had several, several complaints about the two of them and how they ran the dungeon, and that he would be talking to them in the future. I do not plan on returning to a JM event if they are on staff; even if it's something like the Steampunk World's Fair, I can't be assured that he won't instruct his security team that touching someone, especially someone half-dressed, is NOT OKAY without that person's permission.

Geeky Kink Event, NJNov 2012
3/11/2013 23:30:595453JeffMachSevereI have been to two of Jeff Mach's events, and both times, I was touched inappropriately by someone on his staff. The first time, it was at a Wicked Faire, and a security person grabbed my ass without asking or even warning me. The second time, I was at GKE and a female DM stepped into the middle of a scene with my boyfriend, interrupting, because she didn't approve of the way we were playing. She touched me several times, while I was naked. After the first time, I quietly asked her not to do it again, but she told me she was an EMT and a DM. My boyfriend complained to Jeff, but was told 'well, that DM's boss is her boyfriend, and I've been getting a lot of complaints." That's it?

I do not feel that his events are a safe place for anyone who isn't okay with random groping, touching, or disrespect. It's scary to have a security person harass you, because who do you turn to? Other security people?

I tell all my friends not to go to JM events anymore. It's scary and I haven't been able to go to another public kinky event since.
Somerset, NJ2011 and 2012
3/13/2013 7:39:16673677mark-CalgaryMinorI did not take communications with this guy past the interview stage because red flags kept coming up. 1) he wanted to meet alone, at my place to play for the very first meeting. 2) he refused my suggestions of safety (for him to speak with my other play partners to make sure I am a safe player) 3) he refused to negotiate on what his limits were, stating that a true slave does not have limits 4) when I stated My limits he pushed them (he would not meet my husband before playing, he would not meet in person as equals to negotiate before playing. 5) he would not meet at public events 6) he could not give references for me to speak to about His being a safe player. 7) he seems to not want to be a slave or sub, but rather have a specific and detailed fantasy of his played out to his specifications. Giving youtube videos as his reference to what he believes a true slave is, and what a true mistress acts like. 8) he disregards any experience that does not line up with what He believes to be "true" M/s.

This thought behaviour could have escalated past minor, if I had been naive enough to meet with him in person as he wanted.
Calgary - skype conversations saved2013, March 5-12
3/18/2013 16:19:341948040ApocalypseBaileyModerateI lived with him for 4 months in that time when I tried to leave he tried to commit suicide if I tried to leave 3 times and had server paranoia that I was cheating

would go through messages and have serious mental episodes
would make up new accounts saying he was a therapists offering people help with mental health problems ..saying people broke into his house to clean it and freaking out at 5 in the morning crying mumbling on the floor like a small child and then driving iraticly off to come back five mins later saying it was because I did not cuddle him in his sleep

than it got aggressive at the end when I caught him going through my fet messages again to the point I had to leave

this guy has serious problems and serious insecurity's and self confidence issues

and he lies about silly things

there were quite a few off the wall odd moments where he was just seriously unbalanced saying he was a privet investigator by fouls fet accounts saying sorry for splitting me up but the company had to do it to stop him from getting married because of inheritance but I new this was just another odd episode he had con cockted in his head to make me think it was not him it was some one else splitting us up he used 3accounts so far that I know off usernames Therightchoice
Subspanker and Apocalypsebailey but likes to close the accounts and re open them with new names just be careful
at his home in sloughjan 13 to april 13
3/20/2013 5:58:491597126KingKaijuSevereKingKaiju a hateful, hate filled cock monkey, and a sodomizer of goats and the elderly. He has a personality like a sock full of severed testicles and an attitude reminiscent of nails on a chalk board/a Justin Bieber concert. Avoid at all costs.Fetlife1/10/2013
3/20/2013 15:24:31237675chrissyhbcModerateBLOCK THIS ASSHAT! CHRISSYHBC This sock puppet account is used by a regular abusive person and cyber bully. The real profile he/she uses is unknown. Stalking, harassment, and trolling is a regular activity for this user.US2011-2013
3/20/2013 15:26:21602240dinodModerateThis sock puppet account is used by a sometimes abusive person that participates in cyber bullying groups on FetLife. The real profile he/she uses is unknown. Harassment by group is a regular activity for this user.US2011-2013
3/20/2013 15:27:1160029RubbermanSevereBLOCK THIS ASSHAT! RUBBERMAN! This sock puppet account is used by a regular abusive person and cyber bully. The real profile he/she uses is unknown. Stalking, harassment, and trolling is a regular activity for this user.US2011-2013
3/20/2013 15:45:1658297LawdogModerateThis user clearly does not understand FetLife TOU. He posts pictures and posts in forums content that is clearly not allowed. He is argumentative, fights with CareTakers. I would not be surprised to see this user bounced from the FetLife site. US2013
3/20/2013 15:48:3912938StricturismMinorAn Anti-REAPs hate group member, known for harassing other members on FetLife.AntiReaps GroupMarch 2013
3/20/2013 16:59:45400589VampyredemonModerateAIDS STALKERs and PREDATORS. This woman portrays herself as a resource to "help" others that are being stalked or harassed. In reality she partakes in the harassment in some cases confirmed. Her groups have many sock puppet profiles. She maintains a sock puppet profile herself CONJUREONE to circumvent users that have blocked her.USMarch 2013
3/20/2013 17:01:34558241ConjureoneSevereBLOCK THIS PROFILE This is a sock puppet profile used by Vampyredemon to circumvent blocking. Profile known in aiding others stalking and harassing on the FetLife website.FetLifeMarch2013
3/20/2013 17:07:04463297MsNesMinorLIKELY SOCK PUPPET PROFILE - This is very likely a sock puppet profile for Vampyredemon.. who aids STALKERs and PREDATORS. FetLife Online2011-2013
3/20/2013 17:11:241123125THEREVERENDBLACKSevereViolates patient confidentiality! Be cautious and involvement with this individual and his pro Domme girlfriend. Major drama. Immature, and vindictive. Philadelphia, PA2012
3/20/2013 17:14:4255058GoddessDestinyModerateMAJOR Drama. Stalking, Harassing behavior reported. An accomplished proDomme, however very immature, and drama stirrer. Woulnd not session with her or give her any personal information. Involved in a civil and criminal lawsuit with others on FetLife. Evidence of her "Outing" others she does not like or has had conflict with exists.The Avary Philadelphia, PA2012
3/20/2013 17:16:201395746Lucifer_elgatoMinorSOCK PUPPET PROFILE for TheReverendBlack Major drama, outing, violation of patient confidentiality. Involved in criminal and civil suits other members of FetLife.FetLife Online2012
3/20/2013 17:20:031332045Anon_e_MouseModerateSOCK PUPPET PROFILE. Recommended BLOCK. Will post and share confidential information without your consent of private conversations. A drama stirrer. An active member of hate group Anti-Reaps. Obnoxious and persistent. Ample time on his hands to harass others on line.FetLife Online2012
3/20/2013 17:22:161526014YazzzzzzzzMinorFAKE PROFILE. Recommended BLOCK. Will post and share confidential information without your consent of private conversations. A drama stirrer.FetLife Online2012
3/20/2013 17:24:38214838MaillerPhongMinorMember of HATE Group REAPs. Annoying, persistent.FetLife Online2013
3/20/2013 17:26:30214838MaillerPhongMinorViolates trust. Posts private conversations, disregards FetLife TOUFetLife Online2013
3/20/2013 17:29:33237675chrissyhbcMinorBLOCK THIS LOSER He violated my consent in sharing with others private information publicly. He participated in outing and harassing me. Uses multiple alias profiles. Ad blatant as 'socky'USA2011
3/20/2013 17:32:4014954croweMinorThis person supports predators who actively violate your trust and share personal information without your consent.
Fetlife CYBER2012
3/20/2013 17:34:35779071DieKoniginMinorCan be an abusive - not in a good way - person.
Will reveal personal information with others.
Very immature individual.
3/20/2013 17:36:08900558FootAndHeelLoverMinorSPAMMER!!! Block this asshat.. And ban him from your groups if you can before he spams your members and your group.FetLife Online2011-2013
3/20/2013 17:37:01620901louisryeMinorSPAMMER!!! Block this asshat.. And ban him from your groups if you can before he spams your members and your group.FetLife2011-2013
3/20/2013 17:41:031155392239SevereThis person is stalking others on FetLife as of March 2013, She has threatened to "Out" and extorted a family for money. Threatening to display private photos if she was not given money. We don't know her real profile, or if there is another one. Hightstown, NJMarch 2013
3/20/2013 17:42:331378493LordDarkRaven32SevereSOCK PUPPET PROFILE FOR A STALKER that has been banned from this websiteOnline2012
3/22/2013 14:08:082247717TherightchoiceSeverenothing doingIver1/3/2013
3/22/2013 22:20:231Meitar Moscovitz (maymay)SevereThis person posted a private conversation that included my home phone number and bank account numbers on his website. This could have been very serious and cost me my livelihood.

He seems to not care about how he might hurt anyone around him. Please avoid him at all costs.
New York3/21/2013
3/29/2013 19:34:34650726EmeraldCityAliceSevereI have seen this user libel unsuspecting people for rape as well as censor anyone who speaks against her. I STRONGLY suggest carrying a recording device in the presence of this person. She is unqualified to be in any position of authority over anyone else.Las Vegas, NV United States2012
3/29/2013 19:39:2112938StricturismSevereDisregard every claim that has been posted. He has already taken this to court and they were told to drop this. These posters are well aware that there are penalties for continued harassment such as this and are abusing the anonymity of this feature.Las Vegas2012
3/29/2013 19:42:4629164SinCityVixenSevereThe same thing as above has happened to me as well. This user threatened to claim that I either sexually assulted or stalked people when I questioned her authority. Depending on your venue, remember THEY HAVE CAMERAS!Las Vegas, NV United States2012
3/31/2013 17:26:221107653CPetroniusModerateI had negotiated with a scene with this man's wife and had already begun when he insisted on hopping in. I made my discomfort with such known and he chose to ignore it. I was then placed in the situation of being expected to either end the scene I was enjoying or walk off and quit topping for the night. I just felt so used and disgusting afterwards that I wanted to puke, like, geez, what kind of asshat impinges on a young domme figuring herself out?Gainesville, FloridaFebruary 2012 Gainesville Trinity Party
3/31/2013 20:19:291869170sexy-shadowSevereHe physically forced me to perform oral sex on him, even though I specifically said I was not interested AND physically resisted him. He stopped forcing me and pressuring me to go down on him only when I removed myself from his immediate location. He has blatantly ignored my attempts to get him to apologize & rectify his behaviors, and refuses to respond to me in any capacity on the matter. Baltimore, MDFebruary 2013
3/31/2013 22:19:39861460YggycatModerateCame to visit me for a weekend, was supposed to be a kinky weekend. Instead he just sat and played Final Fantasy 11 at me the whole time. When I finally got fed up with it, he left and started spreading false rumors about me online.At my apartmentJune, 2009
4/1/2013 11:31:371889389GreenteaandlimeModerateCheek bastard 1 2013 @ 11:03AM
4/1/2013 11:31:431889389GreenteaandlimeModerateCheeky bastard 1 2013 @ 11:03AM
4/2/2013 15:17:182208589taste_meSeverecheats and spreads std'stamworth uknov '12 to march '13
4/3/2013 12:06:50926803dabatSeveresexually assaulted a woman after getting her drunk at a party; had harassed her for two years prior to incidentcolumbusmay 2012
4/4/2013 22:08:221852672awolfamongsheepModerateThis guy reeks of crazy. Defines a man by ability to copulate and capacity for violence. Lots of strange religious and inadequacy issues. He's a serious creeper. on the interwebs4/3/2013
4/7/2013 21:20:092584nbatSeveredrugged and raped a under age friend of mine. cis female.Auckland, New Zealand.2012
4/8/2013 3:33:2899930DvsVMinorrepeatedly ignored requests to stop tapping my cane on my behind during a event, repeatedly followed me around the event even when i told him to leave me alone.Auckland, New Zealand.2011
4/8/2013 3:37:12119784rodjnzMinorViolated the privacy of the Auckland BDSM community by allowing into his club the media who filmed on site, without alerting at all any person within the establishment of media presence. Actively tried to hide this behaviour.Auckland, New Zealand.2012
4/8/2013 3:39:251873902DrFangsSevereRaped a woman by force at a party. Continues to deny this despite witnesses coming forward. Auckland, New Zealand.2011
4/8/2013 4:39:0444360Sir_LCMinorWhen approved with news that his friend was an abuser, claimed that he is sad that 'she changed her mind after the fact' even though both his friend and her admitted that it was rape.FetlifeJuly 2012
4/8/2013 4:40:2617379HopefulOneMinorWhen their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that "i'm sure it wasn't assault"FetlifeJuly 2012
4/8/2013 4:41:35209700DuchessCorsetSevereWhen their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that "sounds like this woman just wants attention so is taking any little thing she can and blowing it up also if it was sexually abuse why has she failed to report it hmm.Sounds like she just wants to make drama for you best advice put her on block"FetlifeJuly 2012
4/8/2013 4:43:1872443cherished_slaveMinorWhen their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that =
Personally i think she probably now wishes she might have pushed herself harder to try & create a better perhaps deeper relationship with you back then & this is somehow a way (although a sleazy to in her own mind create some reason as to why she didn't & it helps her to supposedly justify her own feelings for you. Anyway that's how it pretty much appears to me & i think you should try to just let her shit slide on by you & don't be so hard on yourself anymore.
FetlifeJuly 2012
4/8/2013 4:44:031507440emi__MinorWhen their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted a woman, they responded that =
that woman is disgusting
FetlifeJuly 2012
4/8/2013 4:46:081507440emi__SevereWhen their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that =
'who cares if anyone believes her'
FetlifeJuly 2012
4/8/2013 4:50:101563075zetamcccMinorWhen their acquaintance publicly admitted they assaulted someone, they responded that =
[in response to her making allegations] she's a manipulator
FetlifeJuly 2012
4/10/2013 18:02:00121241Philip_the_FooleSevereAs far as what I have witnessed, I have watched him cover submissive's mouths at the first sign that they were going to stop him. I have heard him over and over telling people that HE knows best what they want and they should just let him. I've seen him get angry in a flash at people who weren't even talking to him. I have watched him scare and threaten subs into doing things they did not want to do. He also likes to take over scenes from other tops. I have watched him walk into scenes and completely remove the actual top that was running the scene. He is just so sneaky.

This man is dangerous. He's charming, and he's knowledgeable so it makes him soooo cunning. He knows exactly how to exploit submissives weaknesses and how to lure them in. I admit he is fun at first.

This is a predator who just wants to hurt people and quite honestly, the LESS they want it, the more he enjoys it. He doesn't want negotiated forced actions, he wants the real thing from someone unwilling and truly frightened. He has seriously hurt me and I'm not even a submissive. I have watched him harm others, and I have very close friends who have horror stories of their own at his hands. I would not allow him in our group, and I would encourage all other groups to ban him as well. Whatever knowledge this man could bring is not worth the devastation he leaves in wake. In my opinion, someone is going to die eventually.

So there is my story. I hope it helps you. I will be MORE than happy to speak with anyone who needs to fact check or if they just want to make sure I'm a real person. I have no problem at all with that. I hope this helps keep someone safe.

(Posted with author's permission)
Dallas;Wichita Falls, Texas 2005-2006
4/13/2013 21:11:08682350Domi_NatSevereInsulted me. Made sexist comments.fetlife3/12/2013
4/21/2013 8:47:1215760MrDawsModerateTook advantage, lack of negotiation, pushing of boundaries, unsafe coercive sex, emotional abuse.britainsome time ago
4/21/2013 13:50:52140535TakinSevereAt a private party (not a play party, just a wine and cheese social gathering at a private home) in 2007, "Takin" a/k/a Tim was passing out business cards to promote his BDSM club, OKC Kink. He flirted with me repeatedly at the party. I had too much wine and could not get home, so the person in whose home the party was held let me crash on the sofa in the living room after most of the party attendees had left for the night. After seeing that everyone had left, those who were staying at the home (notably, "Master--R" and Mistress Collette, both from New York) went upstairs. Some time later, they came downstairs to discover "Takin" having oral sex with me while I was unconscious. He insisted that I had been awake and had consented, but I have no memory of even knowing he was there after I laid down; I was obviously too intoxicated to consent even if I had awakened (which I do not believe I did). They were disturbed because they had checked the house and locked the doors before going upstairs, leading them to believe that he had intentionally hidden in the house with the intent to violate me. Several members of the local community, including "makalove", met with me, Master--R and Mistress Collette the next day to discuss the matter. I was humiliated and appalled and begged them not to spread any information about the violation, to which they reluctantly agreed. "makalove", however, spoke about it with another prominent local dominant (with my permission) with whom she had an ongoing play relationship. He proceeded to do everything he could to make excuses for Tim's behavior and to blame me for the incident, which caused "makalove" to break off their relationship. Because of this incident, I have avoided the local BDSM community ever since.Private home, Norman, Oklahoma USAlate night April 28, 2007 or early morning April 29, 2007
4/21/2013 14:30:521927899_flame_Severebringing another sites drama to this site continued harassment and liesin Emailabout the march 25th
4/23/2013 19:45:3217256JakiGriotSevereJaki and I were married for many years. Over the course of the relationship, Jaki repeatedly violated my consent during sex, including forcing a strapon into me while asleep more than once, screaming at me when I was not into sex, and making me stay in the upstairs bedroom and not come out at times when yo wanted to have another partner over. Jaki also threatened to kill me if I ever left yo. I left Jaki on 7/14/2012, and on 7/15/2012 went back to get some of my things. While trying to get the Playstation 3, my back was turned to Jaki. Two witnesses (Tex Topa and Andrea Wood, both of whom were in a relationship with Jaki at the time as well) saw Jaki try to punch me in the back of the head while I did so; Tex intervened and got between Jaki and I. This was at 2010 Letitia Avenue, Baltimore MD, 21230.

Jaki also stalked me afterwards through the phone, and attempted to get me thrown out of the safe place I was staying, attempted to force yo's way into the place, and has shown no remorse and made no apology for what has happened.

Jaki continues to be invited to leadership conferences and to put yoself forward as an abuse advocate despite being my rapist and abuser for years. Yo continues to be offered opportunities to teach classes, attend events and hurt people again.
2010 Letitia Avenue Baltimore MD 212307/14/2012 3 pm; also many other times throughout our relationship history
4/23/2013 19:48:5817256JakiGriotSevereJaki and I were married for many years. Over the course of the relationship, Jaki repeatedly violated my consent during sex, including forcing a strapon into me while asleep more than once, screaming at me when I was not into sex, and making me stay in the upstairs bedroom and not come out at times when yo wanted to have another partner over. Jaki also threatened to kill me if I ever left yo. I left Jaki on 7/14/2012, and on 7/15/2012 went back to get some of my things. While trying to get the Playstation 3, my back was turned to Jaki. Two witnesses (Tex Topa and Andrea Wood, both of whom were in a relationship with Jaki at the time as well) saw Jaki try to punch me in the back of the head while I did so; Tex intervened and got between Jaki and I. This was at 2010 Letitia Avenue, Baltimore MD, 21230.

Jaki also stalked me afterwards through the phone, and attempted to get me thrown out of the safe place I was staying, attempted to force yo's way into the place, and has shown no remorse and made no apology for what has happened.

Jaki continues to be invited to leadership conferences and to put yoself forward as an abuse advocate despite being my rapist and abuser for years. Yo continues to be offered opportunities to teach classes, attend events and hurt people again.
2010 Letitia Avenue Baltimore MD 212307/14/2012 3 pm; also many other times throughout our relationship history
4/23/2013 21:38:48161480XsSevereExtensive history of consent violations with more than one of his ex partners. Has outed several people as well. Has been banned from TNG and other kink groups. In a kink culture that often silences victims and rarely bans anyone, he has actually managed to be so blatant in his consent violations, lack of safety and lack of concern for others that he's been banned from multiple groups that, if anything, let too many abusers remain.More than one instance, more than one victim2008
5/2/2013 14:16:23919877Sweetnsexy810SevereStalking.Dallas, TxOngoing
5/4/2013 2:39:45513372ReadCTSevereRead Kerr sleeps with strippers and whores. He can be found on multiple websites like,,, and under ReadCT, ReadTX or SlapnTickle. He cheated on his wife on their honeymoon. He cheated on his affair while in Costa Rica. He is currently charged with assaulting his last girlfriend. He is cheating on his current girlfriend.

Dallas Texas2005 on
5/9/2013 20:11:28113811velveteenhoodieSevereaka velveteenhoodrat is one of the two elderly-abusing criminals described in these articles:

She subsequently plea-bargained her way to a shorter sentence for turning state's witness against her partner, kind of like Karla Homolka. She's extremely paranoid he will want revenge and kill her, but does nothing to minimize her exposure on social networks and tells people about her past at the drop of the hat because she loves the attention and the pity.
5/11/2013 11:24:281484866MizzUltraVioletSevereMizzUltraViolet fist raped my puppy. Now it just cowers in a corner whimpering.west yorkshireEvery thursday since december.
5/15/2013 20:38:581294925famluvr40ModerateHe repeatedly touched me without my consent on the night of April 20th 2013 at a BBN event. I gave consent to another male and Famluvr40 assumed he also had permission to touch. He played with my nipples and touched my butt, and I had to have my friends intervene at three separate times throughout the night.Rockville, Maryland4/20/2013
5/19/2013 21:04:391716784maymaymMinorPublicly posted links to my profiles on various sites, along with private information from those sites.OnlineSunday, May 19, 2013
5/21/2013 20:37:2997385HedonistPoetMinorDo not date this person unless you are comfortable being outed. He gossiped about my love life to people who did not know me well on repeated occasions, including outing me to a homophobic colleague while I was in the room. All the incidents I am aware of took place in Madison, Wisconsin. I heard about most of the gossip secondhand. The "outing" in front of my colleague took place in the UW-Madison computer lab in 2006. This occurred many years after I broke up with this person. Madison, WI2005-2006
5/22/2013 22:54:2913064AedanSaintSevereDuring sex in a private residence, he stripped off the condom and came in me without my knowledge or consent. I tested positive for a bacterial STI as a result, though he claimed to be "clean."Canada2009
5/24/2013 0:19:222061850LolaVanModerateHer and her husband, Boss_Luci coerced me into participating in slave training which I was not ready for. They used Gorean brainwashing techniques under the guise of teaching me "high protocol". For at least a week before I was approached, they went around the local community saying that I was a "actually a submissive" and that I "just needed the right dom" to show me that. During a pain training session(which I consented to, though we hadn't discussed specific details of where it was and was not okay to cause pain to my body) they ended up caning the bottoms of my feet, the most sensitive part of my body(including sexual bits). I am still fairly new to the community and after only a week spent with them I was nearly scared away from partaking at all and am still very wary of everyone I meet who is involved in it now. I have also been told that they, even after I told them that I was done and did not wish to continue with the slave training with them ever again, were going around the community saying that they still wished to take me on as a slave again in the future, still insisting that I was "just a submissive".Kansas City, MOEnd of January
5/24/2013 0:22:412061943Boss_LuciModerateHim and his wife, LolaVan(Previously TheGodessLola) coerced me into participating in slave training which I was not ready for. They used Gorean brainwashing techniques under the guise of teaching me "high protocol". For at least a week before I was approached, they went around the local community saying that I was a "actually a submissive" and that I "just needed the right dom" to show me that. During a pain training session(which I consented to, though we hadn't discussed specific details of where it was and was not okay to cause pain to my body) they ended up caning the bottoms of my feet, the most sensitive part of my body(including sexual bits). I am still fairly new to the community and after only a week spent with them I was nearly scared away from partaking at all and am still very wary of everyone I meet who is involved in it now. I have also been told that they, even after I told them that I was done and did not wish to continue with the slave training with them ever again, were going around the community saying that they still wished to take me on as a slave again in the future, still insisting that I was "just a submissive".Kansas City, MOEnd of January 2013
5/24/2013 8:05:56363055BydarraSeverelikes to prey on younger, damaged women. violates limits and will do things that weren't negotiated. he teaches in the BASICS group in Austin and does classes elsewhere. never play alone with him.Austin, Texas2011-2012
5/25/2013 18:33:391856257Marquis_of_CSevereWe played at a club. Not only did he make it impossible to say a safe word by gagging me when we have never played and beat me more than we agreed on (claiming he was just 'so caught up in it'), he was supposed to give me a lift home and instead took me to his house. When I refused he promised he would sleep on the couch and was just too tired to drive me home. Finally giving in, I was awoken to him raping me and claiming I just begged for it and wanted it. I had said no sex at the club, in the car, before the club even, and when we got in the house as well. I even told him on and get off when he started to rape me but he didn't care and said I was begging for it.OttawaMay 2013
5/25/2013 18:39:50293392MasterVoxSevereBefore we even played he was creepy, claiming he didn't want anything but just to photograph me. He was pushy about using toys on me, even during the photography and always hinting at wanting to fuck me when he was supposed to be professional.
One of my biggest hard limits is Anal or anal play. Not only did he gag me but he put in an anal toy that really hurt and told me to just deal with it.
Doesn't respect boundaries, very creepy and pushy.
OttawaNovember 2010
5/29/2013 2:55:232429969BusterTheDOGSevereNon-consensually licked a wound.on fetlifetoday
5/29/2013 20:08:256634CharmingPeteModerateTook photos/video of me without my consent.
Used my full name when introducing me to a stranger at a kink event.
(Half apologised when confronted, but also told me I was overreacting.)
LondonSeptember/October 2012
5/31/2013 15:22:392263402KaldorDraigoModerateThis guy is a serious creeper. Not only is he really only looking for sex and have no real interest in either Kink/BDSM or the people he takes to, he often blames others for that fact that he can not get a partner. He is stalkerish, rude, ignorant and only wants to talk about sex, no matter who or how often you try to turn the subject away.Ottawa, Online, FetlifeAll the time
6/6/2013 19:33:08942925CumpdumperModerateThis man friends women and then adds them as his slaves without their knowledge. He has been caught doing it with 5 different women to date. None were aware that he had done this.OnlineOngoing
6/8/2013 12:32:511158090Tai-DachiMinorYeah seriously, WTF dude. This tool is to alert people to massive problems in our community, not something to troll. Though the fact you think it's funny to do so tells me quite a lot about you.Online6/8/2013
6/11/2013 22:04:17608jakesemmaMinorSeriously? Someone did a consent violation for "photoshop"? Show me a photographer who doesn't edit his/her images lol.fetlifenever did
6/17/2013 12:03:175959PantherProwLsSevereSodomized multiple times orally and anally and raped multiple times (vaginally).Near San Francisco, CA. and multiple other locationsMultiple times over 3 years starting in 2002 until 2006.
6/17/2013 20:56:451427535Chris_23SevereSurreptitiously filmed sex with multiple women without those women's knowledge. Two women have come forward so far. There are possibly more. He started out by claiming that he didn't know it was wrong because no one had ever mentored him. Now he's claiming that actually the women knew and they were asking for it. Since this is Fetlife, he's able to sling shit at the women who accused him, but they can't say a damn thing back. Baltimore, MD2012-2013?
6/19/2013 8:45:321535875Sir_SapiosexualSevereI played with him and his then-wife at his place twice. He pushed past my limits on multiple occasions and disregarded my use of the term 'red.' Additionally, he incorporates forms of beastiality sometimes in his play. He is manipulative and dangerous to young women. He is not as active in the scene but if you happen upon him, do not trust him even if he seems nice. He is a scary person/stay away from him.Manassas, VAOctober 2012
6/21/2013 15:24:201181060TriEquisSevere

Charge: Woman raped after beating, kidnapping by lover

A Tacoma man is in King County jail on allegations that he kidnapped his long-term girlfriend from her Tukwila home after beating her and forcing her to crawl around the house.

King County prosecutors contend Kimball G. Karlson-Martini, 29, attacked the woman -- his partner of six years with whom he was in an open relationship -- after she was with another man at a swingers club.

"The defendant brutally beat the victim with a deadly weapon and then secreted her to his home in Tacoma where he sexually assaulted her," Senior Deputy Prosecutor Jimmy I. Hung told the court, adding that he "fully anticipates that additional charges" will be filed in Pierce County.

In late April, according to police statements, Karlson-Martini arrived at a sex club looking for the woman, who had been seen at the club the night before with another man. The woman later told detectives she believed Karlson-Martini was jealous of what had transpired at the sex club.

Speaking with Tukwila detectives after the April 30 incident, the woman said she and Karlson-Martini had been in an open relationship for six years and were members of a swingers club. She told officers their relationship had always been "vanilla" but that Karlson-Martini practiced domination over another woman living with them.

Having failed to find the woman at the sex club, Karlson-Martini went to a Tukwila home where the woman had been staying and attacked her with a thick wooden dowel, according to charging papers. Karlson-Martini head-butted her in the forehead, then forced her onto the bed, where he hit her about 30 times with the dowel.

Another woman came to the Tukwila house and found the woman, stripped to the waist with her back bleeding, kneeling in front of Karlson-Martini, Tukwila Detective Philip Glover said in court documents.

"Karlson-Martini told (her) he was 'sorting out' (the woman)," Glover told the court. "Afterwards, Karlson-Martini continued to order (her) to crawl around the house on her hands and knees in order to 'learn her lesson.'"

The second woman told police she went to sleep, the detective continued. She said she awoke to find Karlson-Martini, the alleged victim and Karlson-Martini's other girlfriend gone.

Writing the court, Glover said Karlson-Martini and his girlfriend took the woman to a Tacoma house where she was forced to write a letter stating that she "should be beaten" and that "Karlson-Martini's word is law."

King County prosecutors allege Karlson-Martini then bound and raped the woman. That allegation is being investigated by authorities in Pierce County.

The woman began to lose consciousness at some point, prompting Karlson-Martini and his girlfriend to take her to Tacoma General Hospital.

Questioned by police at the hospital, the woman denied any attack, Glover said. Karlson-Martini said her injuries -- an apparent concussion -- may have been caused by "stick fighting."

Tacoma police remained suspicious but did not arrest Karlson-Martini at the time. The woman detailed her ordeal when she spoke with Tukwila police two days later after her release from the hospital.

Speaking with detectives late last month, Karlson-Martini's girlfriend affirmed part of what the woman had told police and said Karlson-Martini had threatened to kill her. She continued, the detective told the court, asking that Karlson-Martini remain jailed "as she was deathly afraid of him and certain that he would seek her out and kill her."

Detectives arrested Karlson-Martini on June 23, according to charging documents. During a search of the Tacoma home that followed they located several items described by the woman as having been used against her.

Asking that Karlson-Martini be held on $350,000 bail, Hung, the deputy prosecutor, asserted that Karlson-Martini had been planning to attack the woman again.

"The state has grave concerns for the safety of the victim and witnesses in this case," Hung told the court. "According to one of the defendant's partners, the defendant … had been planning to abduct, torture and kill the victim, her daughter and other associates."

According to court documents, King County Superior Court Judge Mary Roberts set Karlson-Martini's $400,000 higher than requested by prosecutors. He remains confined at King County Jail on charges of first-degree kidnapping and second-degree assault.
Tacoma and Tukwila Washington2010
6/23/2013 13:49:21574038CovguyModeratePrivate play at dom's home, no witnesses. Re-started play post-aftercare without negotiation, which I didn't want but was too headspaced to refuse. When I asked afterwards to be taken home, he implicitly held ride home to ransom for yet more play, then ignored (reluctantly agreed and clearly stated) activity and timescale limits for that play, demanding further sexual services in "gratitude".Coventry, UKJanuary 2012
6/25/2013 1:40:101JohnBakuSevereDoes whatever the credit card companies require, but does not personally take a hard stance on bestiality. CanadaIt continues.
6/25/2013 6:11:332416598Jean_RenoSevereEmotionally abusive and manipulative.

Ex-school teacher who groomed and abused his pupils.

Controlling and jealous and emotionally abusive towards me over a 5 -year relationship.

Raped me on 24th January 2013 at his home.

Continued to harass and stalk me until April, when he was arrested.
Godalming, Surrey, UKJanuary 24th 2013
6/25/2013 6:22:00713459puppetcircusSevereAssaulted me with a metal pinwheel with no prior discussion, negotiation or consent.

Spiked a friend's drink with Class A drugs without telling them.
Online harassment and abuse towards me.

Spoke to my abusive, rapist ex (Jean_Reno) about things she was asked not to, leading to further abuse towards me from him.
Bristol, UKAugust 2012- Jan 2013
6/25/2013 18:40:061073501BacktobadnessModerateJohnny is not very forthcoming to subs about the existence of his marriage. Also, he seems to think that shibari in the woods is a good first meeting activity, particularly with people new to fetlife. Victoria, AustraliaNovember, 2011
6/25/2013 23:37:34131161ShazzaMinorWhat a wanker! Worse violations I don't want to report.Auckland, NZIt continues.
6/25/2013 23:39:031278095MisssugarkittySevereHot as fuck!Victoria, AustraliaAll the goddam time!
6/26/2013 13:21:482404018JollyJayhawkSevereDoes not respect limits, safewords or signals, doesn't understand no means no, bullies you into having his own way. Cares nothing for the emotions or needs of those serving him and is nothing more than a child with a flogger posing as a Top/Dom.Shawnee, KSMay/June 2013
6/26/2013 22:55:16167036_Hammer 50MMinorInappropriately tweaked a friend's nipple at event, possibly while drunk. His apology is here:, Australia2012
6/27/2013 2:35:421811340PomfinkMinorHe's a newbie and a pretentious wanker who thinks it's all love and rainbows, and will assist him to get laid cos all girlies are all OPEN and PROMISCUOUS and besides, he thinks he is a dom bloke, cos OMG he could NOT BEAR to submit to anyone cos that would threaten his shaky self esteem.

he's all about perving the girlies
and getting laid

and it's all WONDERFUL and blah blah
Victoria, Australia2013
6/28/2013 23:30:122058735ElaineaMinorVery new to the scene, promptly went on to stick cactus needles in a submissive who had expressed needles as hard limits.Victoria, AustraliaNovember 2012
7/9/2013 17:01:01654529UntamedHarleyMinorBoring snob.motime
7/14/2013 13:08:471495193RigaldoModerateThis guy sexually assaulted me in his apartment while I was on a larger than normal amount of my anxiety meds at the time. I was incapacitated and weak, I could hardly move, but I squeeked "no" more than once, he kept badgering me to say yes while he was climbing on top of me anyway. He inserted his penis into my mouth and I believe he ejaculated onto me while sitting on my chest so I couldn't breathe. I told him multiple times I couldn't breathe while wheezing. He had the "decency" to lift up very briefly every so often so I wouldn't, oh, you know, pass out and die. I think he to this day believes his own lies about what happened. He does not think he is accountable, and always insisted it wasn't his intention to take advantage of me. I don't believe him seeming as before this assault, he had previously "tested the waters" while observing me on my medication to see how docile I was and what he could get away with. Also, we were NOT in any kind of BDSM relationship. This guy also knew I had a fairly intense fear of not being able to breathe, and knew I had been sexually abused as a child. I think he's just a dangerously selfish person who will do what he wants and then make up any insane legitimization for it to make himself look like the "real victim".Halifax, Nova Scotia1/22/2012
7/15/2013 17:28:07927099aquacaeruleaSevereThis user repeatedly coerced me into sexual acts and assaulted me in a kink club by bullying me into submitting and trying to drill it into me that I was a switch reallyManchester, UK2011
7/17/2013 2:55:04510889SlaveProtectorSevereAfter an hour long discussion about how I didn't want to have unprotected sex with him, he then managed to slip the condom off when I wasn't looking, violating my consent.Sydney, AustraliaMid June, 2010
7/17/2013 20:41:561930908GentlemanAndDomSevere- Does not negotiate scenes before play.
- Unsafe practices regarding breathplay, including choking to the point of passing out his partner. Did this multiple times without negotiation.
- Does not adhere to stated limits and boundaries, including visible marks and physical harm.
- Will tell others about your activities without permission.
- Misled a submissive into believing he wanted an exclusive relationship in order to obtain sex.
- Will suggest collaring, tattooing, and other forms of possession without the intention of actual ownership.
- Will jump into and push for edgeplay.
- Maintained several online and kik relationships secretly and simultaneously.
- Punched a submissive in the face within minutes of meeting in person and left visible bruising without consent and against an established set by the submissive to not leave visible marks.
- Asked for anal sex during scene without pre-negotiation.
- Will ask for different acts and for pushing boundaries while the submissive is in subspace, avoiding pre-negotiation out of scene.
- Will lie about his experience level in order to practice. He has zero experience or personal knowledge of safe breathplay, whips, impact play, bondage, and anything else that requires advanced skill. He is a beginner who is after sex and getting his kinks off. He is not the confident, experienced dom looking for a long term partner that he presents himself to be.
- Abandoned a submissive mid-scene, an intense physical beating with coerced anal after a night and day of domestic service, without aftercare. Sent the submissive driving home in tears and texted that she have no contact with him again.
Sacramento, CA6/22/2013
7/19/2013 12:10:00546051cheekycupcakeModerateFailed to disclose what STDs she had before we had sex.Dallas, TXOctober 2012
7/20/2013 4:03:332158577Dark_AspectsModerateUses the fuck or pass game to bait women for sex. When women reject him he gets very nasty.
Also uses images from fetlife to send to "partners" to provoke jealousy.

The following posts are about his behavior:
Australian (Melbourne, Victoria) Personal AdsOngoing
7/21/2013 2:25:28929560EzaelSevereInvited my girlfriend and I to his home one day, said his wife would be there but when we got there she wasn't. While there he smoked a lot of pot and was constantly blowing it in my face as well as my girlfriend's face. Against my better judgement I went back into his bedroom with him for some play where he tried to put a small baseball bat in my ass after telling him no twice. after I ended the scene I went to take a shower and my girlfriend was in the bathroom with me, he lured her out and forced her to suck his cock at knife point and told her that if she told me, he would tell me it was her idea. A few weeks later my girlfriend and I both experienced some burning and went to the DR. and found out we had both contracted gonorrhea. As he was the only other person either of us had any contact with in the last year, I called him and told him we got gonorrhea from him. he told us he knew and had already been treated. I was fucking pissed and asked him why he didn't inform us when he found out, he was like, it's just gonorrhea get treated and no biggie. In addition, found out later that he'd never told his wife about us. This guy is a fucking douche on every level. Winchester, VAJanuary 2012
7/21/2013 6:59:081975335Sadist_GentlemanSevereThis user has been prosecuted twice for sex offenses relating to child porn, see link, he attended the local munch in Aberdeen and has abused several girls in the area. He seems to be very good at manipulating and isolating girls, he is potentially very dangerousAberdeenshire2013
7/21/2013 23:34:311908354TwistedCupcakeModeratenot truthful about STD history before we playedDallasFebruary 2013
7/22/2013 18:16:12187018Mz_MSevereA complete sociopath! Pretends to be very sweet online but in private is rude, angry and horrible to people. Beware of her lies about people for her own benefit. She has run many users out of the local community.Honolulu, HIAll the time.
7/23/2013 13:19:13636812DeleeriousModerateIgnored a safeword (claimed not to hear it) and on several occasions pushed established boundaries (asked to explain why a given physical boundary existed, if the reason wasn't good enough for him, he would argue about it.) Oregon2011/2012
7/29/2013 10:41:2926646MasterSadiSevereThis guy is fucking dangerous. I went to a play party of his a few months ago and was viciously beaten and raped. There is an ongoing investigation against him by Charlestown, WV police.

He offered my partner and I a rope scene since I had very limited experience with it. He asked that my partner leave so he could get into his "head space". Apparently this is a common place for him? Weird rule if you ask me. He then did the rope as planned. After I was totally bound he threw me onto his bed and started to beat me with a whip even though I screamed red over and over. He smashed my iphone on his hard wood floor so that I couldn't somehow contact 911 or my partner. He then proceeded to rape me twice. By the time my partner got back, he had ran off. We called the police and reported him. As far as I know, he has still not been apprehended by police.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do NOT attend this man's "pool parties". They will get you raped and emotionally scarred for life.
Charlestown, WV and Winchester AreaMay 2013
7/29/2013 10:47:2026646MasterSadiSevereI thought I was the only person!!!!!! I had almost the exact experience as the user above and reported him to Fetlife. I hope his account is disabled soon!!!!!Winchester, VA2013
7/30/2013 1:18:081021618DaffAttackSevereShe is basically a prostitute... online today... july 29th 2013
7/30/2013 11:17:201975335Sadist_GentlemanSevereHe was manipulative and violated multiple limits during the time I was involved with him. His play was dangerous, especially with bondage - leaving me alone while crying and begging to be let out because he'd hurt me in order to phone friends. He got angry when I tried to stop him doing things I was uncomfortable with, and would scare me into allowing him to do things I did not want.

I did not feel that I had any right to say 'no' in the relationship - any occasion where I did, I would be shouted down, quite literally, until I felt trapped and had to let him do whatever he wanted.

He isolated me from those attending Aberdeen munches in order to stop me talking about what he did.

He says he wants to only ever date girls who have been raped/abused so he can 'cure' them by 'play' raping them in exactly the same way they have been before, whether they want it or not.
Aberdeen, Scotland2013
8/4/2013 22:43:18985561Mourn1Severe"My relationship with Mourn was extremely abusive-verbally, emotionally, and physically. He always used his bipolar disorder as a crutch and an excuse. I understand that he's sick, but it's not a good excuse for grabbing me hard by the hair and throwing me against the wall, especially since he refused to listen to the advice given to him by his therapist and others regarding how to control himself. He would terrorize me and then say "oh, it's not my fault." He especially terrorized me about my weight, screaming at me about my size if I ate foods he didn't approve of, and I was literally scared to eat around him. One day, when we were on our way to a party in Frederick, I told him about this. He started screaming at me, calling me a "cunt" and a "parasite" and screaming about how "all bitches are the same." He pulled the car over and tried to yank me out, threatening to leave me there, an hour away from home. I was terrified that he was going to hit me (thankfully he didn't). During the party, when he was being tied up, his neck got hurt. He ordered me to leave, and then the verbal abuse started again, this time worse than before. This sort of thing happened frequently. He would break things, or grab me by the hair. He also loved to try to make me feel bad about the fact that I grew up in a family with money. And whenever he was in a bad mood and I encouraged him to try to snap out of it, he claimed I was just being unsupportive, and the abuse would start. He just never wanted to make any effort, and he treated me like garbage when I refused to enable him.

Here's what happened the night I was forced out of Baltimore: I came home from work, and Mourn and I were supposed to go see a movie together. He started complaining about his work hours (which he did frequently, and would then take it out on me and his family) and how miserable he was. I tried to encourage him to snap out of it (I know what it's like to be depressed, and I know that it's hard, but I also no that it's possible to fight it if you're willing to make a real effort), and he started treating me like garbage, and so naturally I got frustrated and we got into it. I eventually went downstairs to call my family in Cincinnati and let them know about what was happening to me. Eventually Mike flew down the stairs in one of his rages, screaming at his parents that I had to leave the house. I called my parents, and thankfully they were extremely supportive and agreed to pick me and my things up two days later, and they put me in a hotel until then because I feared for my safety. I have no doubt that if I had stayed, the physical abuse would have gotten much worse over time. Even now I sometimes get harassing phone calls from him in which he tries to tell me (with polite words, but a mean voice) to be quiet about what happened.

So here I am. No one has ever treated me as badly as he did, and words can't describe the damage that his abuse has done to me and my self-esteem. Thankfully,my family has been amazingly supportive; I'm closer to them now than I've ever been. I've been seeing a therapist, and she has helped me to understand what happened to me and to heal. This experience, as horrible as it was, has made me a better and stronger person. I'm doing a lot more work for the charity I co-founded, and I've applied to volunteer with an organization that helps abused women who aren't as fortunate as I have been. I also plan to go back to school next fall and get my Master's Degeee in criminal justice. I'm working with a nutritionist to deal with my weight so that I can rebuild my self-esteem. And, best of all, I've already started attending events and making connections in the local kink scene (and I plan to do even more), and I've already managed to set up photoshoots. The bottom line is, even though I've been put through hell by someone I loved and trusted who turned out to be a terrible, abusive man, I'm strong, and I'm going to be okay. Thank you to everyone who has supported me through this."

Quoted from Fetlife journal entry before the carebears could take out names.
Baltimore and Frederick, MD2012-2013
8/5/2013 13:36:301567976AutumnreignMinorThis person enjoys the sport of mocking other people, and starts threads specifically to do that. Beware, something is very wrong with this person!N/A8/5/2013
8/10/2013 15:29:59948218tapout415Minortapout is a troll. He states his home is in SF and he comes through the Sacramento area often and trolls for hookups here. When I responded, we exchanged phone numbers and arranged lunch via text.

He told me how he wanted me to dress, i.e., with short skirt and no panties. I'm clearly identified as a switch and was offended at his arrogance--I'm not his and he has no right to tell me what to do. I canceled the date--politely of course--and he went off on me in a tirade that ended when I told him three times to "leave me the fuck alone." Among other charming things he said, he threatened me with arrest for harassing him (?!)

A couple of weeks later he RSVPd to a femDomme meeting in Sacramento even though he is clearly identified as a male Dom. I had already RSVPd, and although I had blocked him on fetlife, he could see that I was planning to attend the meeting. He did not shpw up, but I believe that he RSVPd to harass me.
Sacramento CAJuly 2013
8/15/2013 4:11:5465347MisterTornSevereThis man is a manipulative and dangerous person. I assumed from some of his appearances that he was legitimate. I was interested in talking with him, and his sweet talk made it easy to trust him initially. Soon after meeting him, I was forced into sexual relations through coercion and what seemed like underlying threats.

He smelled of alcohol during the encounter, which ended in the third time I have been raped. I really don't want to go into much more detail about it than that.

The worst part about it, is that he knew about my sexual abuse history from our previous talks. I feel like this man seeked me out due to knowing that I haven't reported any of my abuse to authorities. And sadly, I still don't feel comfortable doing so at this time.

Please be careful around this man.
San FranciscoAugust 2013
8/15/2013 4:17:0265347MisterTornSevereThis man is a manipulative and dangerous person. I assumed from some of his appearances that he was legitimate. I was interested in talking with him, and his sweet talk made it easy to trust him initially. Soon after meeting him, I was forced into sexual relations through coercion and what seemed like underlying threats.

He smelled of alcohol during the encounter, which ended in the third time I have been raped. I really don't want to go into much more detail about it than that.

The worst part about it, is that he knew about my sexual abuse history from our previous talks. I feel like this man seeked me out due to knowing that I haven't reported any of my abuse to authorities. And sadly, I still don't feel comfortable doing so at this time.

Please be careful around this man.
San FranciscoAugust 2013
8/19/2013 10:36:462037bestbondModerateI seen his profile online and his pictures of his rope work looked really good. He hosts the local pub munch so surely he must be well respected.
We got chatting via messages then text as he asked for my number.
He would send messages about once a week asking when were we going to meet up at a coffee house. Finally i gave in and asked him was it just for coffee?

He said that yes but the offer is their to go back to his to try rope work. Then i recieved messages stating that prehaps would like to play before we even met face to face. he mentioned about his magic wand and fucking machine and he wanted at least a blowjob.

I was freaked out.

He runs the local munch in the area and I dont know why he is a predator plain and simple.
Via Text But In Gloucestershire UKJune 2012
8/21/2013 11:27:13Not specNot specModerateMalignant narcissist who over the last 18 months has gone mental on at least 6 different people in increasingly disturbing circumstances. Real tough guy when it comes to women. Too risky to name but will out himself sooner or later as he always goes nuts on his 'friends' before long, by which time, he's usually found some new 'friends' to protect him from the last lot.West YorkshireMultiple occasions
8/23/2013 10:45:382055782DisciplinarianUKSevereUsing subs and Pro Dommes for his own financial gainonline2008
8/23/2013 20:14:21991551LordAlyan_PaPModerateUser has threatened non-consensual restraint, flogging, whipping/lashing of another in a public forum. User has also demonstrated statements and ideology in public forum that would raise a strong concern and risk that he would engage in non-consensual activity and abuse.Sacramento8/22/2013
8/26/2013 9:42:42530514Dom1inCoMoSevereMarried and attempts to be secretive about his identity, likely to stop any reports of abuse. Though he has been an internet lurker for years, he seems extraordinarily inexperienced in real life. He demanded several acts from me that made me uncomfortable and when I refused, violated a hard limit that I had repeatedly given him (including just earlier that day), which is to say: I told him no anal, yet he proceeded. He got me in a position so I could not get up, penetrated me anally, was very quick about it, then hung about, as if nothing had happened. I had never had a partner so willingly abuse limits, especially in the first session, so I was confused and upset, but tried to address the issue over email. I was ignored. I see him as a predator acting out destructive fantasies, as he admits his home and sex life are lacking. Columbia, MOAugust 2010
8/26/2013 9:59:15303462Living_ParadoxSevereIf you have been a victim, report it to the police. Your report will not be the only one on file and maybe if enough racket is made, justice will be served.

A predator who hides behind the concept of BDSM and the idea that submissives will not report his crimes, as it would be an admission of things the victims would not want publicized. Has sexually assaulted more than one person, which has included attempts to physically overpower partners, ignoring ("not hearing") safewords being screamed, attempts to make his partners say things that sound like consent so he can claim confusion (such as "I just want to hear you say [it] (examples: 'I want you to fuck me in the ass,' 'I want you to fuck me,' etc.), I won't actually do it").

He may be involved in lengthy negotiations, but will willfully violate them and not stop no matter if the partner is resistant, struggles, cries, or attempts to safeword. He will follow through, then attempt to cuddle and be friendly with the victim, even going so far as to contact them repeatedly afterwards as a "friendly" gesture (fits the profile of "gentleman rapist," which you can Google). One method he is fond of is to attempt to force a partner's head into his crotch (no matter if this is the first meeting, she is sleeping, or any other idea that maybe this is way too forward), and claims to misread signals, feigning apologies so he might try again.

He attempts to ruin the reputations of his victims to protect himself and avoid the severity of the situation and will willingly talk about any such past partners as if they were at fault. He lies about former partners openly, his own past, and his current status. He has a criminal record in Florida for several violent/destructive crimes (arson, domestic abuse, etc.), so BDSM seems to be a way for him to continue his anti-social behavior without fear of recourse.

If you have been a victim, report it to the police. Your report will not be the only one on file and maybe if enough racket is made, justice will be served.
Columbia, MONovember 2010
9/2/2013 2:46:30853313ThePerfectKittenMinorrude and quick to tell a white guy she wants black cockfetlifeseptember 1st
9/4/2013 1:00:22999387DomosmoothestMinorPersistently hurls verbal abuse at every user who crosses his path. Best avoided.Online2013
9/8/2013 6:46:212584nbatModerateInitiated oral sex with me repeatedly after we'd agreed not to do it because it was triggering for me. Joked about and dismissed past abuse that I experienced. Performed sexual acts on me that I had listed as hard limits after whining and cajoling, without warning, because he "knew I'd like it".

Engaged in a D/s relationship with a minor.
His home, Auckland, New Zealand2010
9/8/2013 6:55:281152493GrucillaMinorActively attempts to protect the reputation and social standing of abusive friends. Falsely claimed to be mediating a restorative justice/accountability process in order to misrepresent the victim's wishes and shut down discussion of her friend's sexually predatory behaviour.Auckland, New Zealand8/8/2012
9/8/2013 7:03:501070170Sinister_JadeSevereSeveral different women have privately told their partners or friends that Jade forcibly raped them. I don't currently have any further details, but all of the women concerned made the same accusations separately, without contacting eachother and in private, so be careful.Auckland, New Zealand2011
9/8/2013 7:08:19674413nithhoggSevereSexually assaulted a drunk minor. Routinely gropes/grabs women at parties. Auckland, New Zealand2009
9/8/2013 8:23:331490268evilpepeSevereHas been charged with assaulted for smashing someone in the face with a bottle, causing injuries.King's Arms Tavern, Auckland, New Zealand2013
9/8/2013 8:24:581490268evilpepeSevereRaped his ex partner while she was sleepingAuckland, New ZealandUnknown
9/11/2013 22:01:252395278MrCrazyNZMinorhe suggested a roleplay situation to me, i declined saying 'nah not intrested thanks' and here is his reply=

"Jeez. Go fuck yourself. Whiny stupid cunt. Waste of space.
Cant spell either. Dumb cunt as well as sexually fucked in the head. Drug user too. Of course."
9/12/2013 23:47:10795638Mistress-BBModerateUnsafe and unclean top. Clearly mentally ill with some sort of paranoid thing going on. Equipment was dirty. Was fucking terrified when she talked to people who were not there while doming.ManchesterTuesday 2nd July 2013
9/14/2013 15:03:12x1187162LadyGodiva110MinorThis is a very sick and dangerous person, beware!N/AN/A
9/16/2013 1:37:001013062The_Caretaker_SevereHe and I meet.

He and I smoke a joint..which is usual..He and I start drinking straight vodka.. (Absolut Rasp..which is my fave) lil miss with anxiety likes liquid courage, and drank waaay too much..I guess I liked the confidence...I dont remember much..but I woke up in a park in Kew..which is 2 hours from where I live.

I lost my phone, a wallet filled with lots of cash, my shoes, my orthotics, my puma sports bag and personal items such as ID and bank cards..I found my way back to said him and he briefed me on what happened..except it was extremely brief.

I dont know why we drank a whole bottle of vodka...and he wont really talk to me. and I cant let it go until someone says 'its done, or I cant hang out with you anymore'..and hes actually a pretty mean person..but because I dont remember what happened, its like it didnt happen :(

He only keeps me keen because he treats me mean ..although mean is now an understatement.
Victoria, AustraliaSeptember 2013
9/16/2013 1:39:112494594makhismoSevereNew account for an Indian-descent man named Vinny that needed a restraining order from two girls to back off. Offers money (financial domination), foot worship and spankings.

Recent Reports:

t out reports to confirm its Vinny behind the account:


Right, so this guy pissed me off pretty quick
He started talking to me while I was still with ******* an clearly had that stated on my profile in the D/s relationship part but didn't speak to him first which kind of tells me that he either didn't give a shit I was with someone or didn't bother to take the time to look at anything other than my photo.
Second thing he did to piss me off was he went straight for a play offer rather than trying to get to know me first, when I confronted him about it he said he was desperate. Which is a massive turn off me.
He also kept demanding pics of my face and my phone number which made me worry.
I realise I can be over sensitive about people online but I don't like him.


Yeah I don't know him in real life. He messaged me randomly asking to bottom to findom & foot fetish play. I said ok lets me and he proceeded to make a fool of himself. (I will be posting the conversation with personal details removed to protect the stupid at some point when I have time.) I heard he might be trouble and took some caution, nice to have it confirmed that he is that Vinny.
Victoria, Australia2012-2013
9/18/2013 9:50:241144327THE_KING_R_o_bModerateArgumentative, abusive fucktard. Spews threats of physical violence at the slightest provocation. Best avoided.FLInternet
9/20/2013 21:15:5565347MisterTornMinorAny person that knows Mister Torn should be able to spot several details below that make it apparent this ludicrously vague story is also completely false.

Just another example of PAT-Fetlife being abused by an asshole.
FetlifeAugust 2013
9/20/2013 21:18:1065347MisterTornSevereAny person that knows Mister Torn should be able to spot several details below that make it apparent this ludicrously vague story is also completely false.

Just another example of PAT-Fetlife being abused by an asshole.
FetlifeAugust 2013
9/21/2013 9:40:202012924Mistress-BBModerateI met this 'lady' and I use that term loosely in Manchester, her place was a shiot tip, there was rubbish everywhere and discarded needles. I had a really bad experience that is too awful to go into.Manchester, EnglandAugust
9/22/2013 15:18:1488960DustyHowlerMinorHe's trouble! He acts like he's spiritual and drama free but is just the opposite.Los Angeles9/1/2013
9/24/2013 17:52:331427535DarthVaporSevereDarthVapor is Chris_23. See the entry on Chris_23 for more details. Baltimore, MD2012-2013?
9/24/2013 23:58:29779570boyvertSevereReports on Boyvert/Makhismo/Vin

I got to know him when he was hounding two 20 year olds last year. Went all the way to court for a restraining order. There's no proof of money.


Right, so this guy pissed me off pretty quick
He started talking to me while I was still with ******* an clearly had that stated on my profile in the D/s relationship part but didn't speak to him first which kind of tells me that he either didn't give a shit I was with someone or didn't bother to take the time to look at anything other than my photo.
Second thing he did to piss me off was he went straight for a play offer rather than trying to get to know me first, when I confronted him about it he said he was desperate. Which is a massive turn off me.
He also kept demanding pics of my face and my phone number which made me worry.
I realise I can be over sensitive about people online but I don't like him.


Yeah I don't know him in real life. He messaged me randomly asking to bottom to findom & foot fetish play. I said ok lets me and he proceeded to make a fool of himself. (I will be posting the conversation with personal details removed to protect the stupid at some point when I have time.) I heard he might be trouble and took some caution, nice to have it confirmed that he is that Vinny.


I talked to him over the phone. He was definitely weird. Got a really off vibe from him. He was very cocky. Felt like he deserved the world and insanely self involved. He wanted to pay for everything including school tuition, housing etc because "let's face it, women are materialistic".

There were long pauses and he seemed to think he was so superior because he had a right sided brain and I had a left. And no great artist (left brainer) would succeed without successful right Rainer behind them :/


Vin may have started out being 'normal', professing maturity and respect etc but the crazy leaked out soon enough. He kept asking how he could be my boyfriend and my live-in slave and even though I said 'That is never going to happen.' on multiple occasions. Each time I said it only seemed to strengthen his resolve that there must be some special order, some way of doing things... magic words, if you will, that would change my mind.

After I told him our wants were in no way compatible and he should look to other Dommes for a long term / serious arrangement if that's what he was after, I believe he blocked me on Skype. He unblocked me a few times to have another 'go' at changing my mind a few times, has sent me 2 sporadic messages on here ("Would love an opportunity to serve!!!" "Looking forward to serving you!!!") as well as requesting, cancelling and re-requesting a FetLife friendship multiple times. Just in case I didn't see it the first time, you know? eye roll

That said I haven't heard from him in over a month so he's probably found someone new.

Victoria, Australia2012-ongoing
9/25/2013 0:00:362494594makhismoSevere

I talked to him over the phone. He was definitely weird. Got a really off vibe from him. He was very cocky. Felt like he deserved the world and insanely self involved. He wanted to pay for everything including school tuition, housing etc because "let's face it, women are materialistic".

There were long pauses and he seemed to think he was so superior because he had a right sided brain and I had a left. And no great artist (left brainer) would succeed without successful right Rainer behind them :/


Vin may have started out being 'normal', professing maturity and respect etc but the crazy leaked out soon enough. He kept asking how he could be my boyfriend and my live-in slave and even though I said 'That is never going to happen.' on multiple occasions. Each time I said it only seemed to strengthen his resolve that there must be some special order, some way of doing things... magic words, if you will, that would change my mind.

After I told him our wants were in no way compatible and he should look to other Dommes for a long term / serious arrangement if that's what he was after, I believe he blocked me on Skype. He unblocked me a few times to have another 'go' at changing my mind a few times, has sent me 2 sporadic messages on here ("Would love an opportunity to serve!!!" "Looking forward to serving you!!!") as well as requesting, cancelling and re-requesting a FetLife friendship multiple times. Just in case I didn't see it the first time, you know? eye roll

That said I haven't heard from him in over a month so he's probably found someone new.
Victoria, Australia2012-ongoing
9/25/2013 13:23:1350738BartSideOTheMoonMinorRenegotiated mid-scene by refusing to use a condom even when requested beforehand.

Consistently exaggerates, gossips and outs other people.
Club Sesso, Portland OregonJuly 2012
9/25/2013 13:27:019013BossBondageSevereWent around the victim's Protector's back to have sex and did not negotiate or use a condom. After pregnancy occurred refused to pay for the abortion.November 2011Beaverton, Oregon
9/25/2013 13:33:211478277MoonshineMinorHas an air of entitlement about her which has led to many unwanted touches and flippant remarks. She whines to get her way and the community obliges. Local Portland Munches2012-2013
9/25/2013 13:36:1682985JennMinorHas outed innocent people who she simply doesn't like. Does not wish to get all sides to a story. Is reactionary and relentless.Portland Oregon, BOTI House2011-current
9/25/2013 13:39:2980778VeryGudGirlMinorUsually keeps to herself but when angered can fly off the handle and produce a huge tirade where non-consensual hitting occurs. Local Portland Munches2012
9/25/2013 13:47:421485861Urbain_FabreModerateUses mind control techniques to hypnotize his already susceptible victim into believing alternate versions of their life events so he can be seen as her "knight in shining armor." In creating these alternate versions of reality, other people become villains and their reputations and honor are compromised. Portland Oregon2012
9/25/2013 13:51:03533768MoeciferSevereA known wife beater. Uses violence to intimidate. Also it quick to admit to having "had problems" though he claims to be cured, he is not. He likes to put down others to make himself look better.Vancouver, Washington2011
9/25/2013 14:05:252186091SylvermouseSevereThis man is a convicted sex offender and pedophile. I am not going to give his real name, because that would be a violation of consent on my part, but once you know it, look him up in court records and match it against the registry.McMinneville OregonVarious times, see court records
9/29/2013 4:11:10Miss_CondaMiss_CondaSevereLikes to make things up about what others has supposedly done to her
to make her look the victim
9/29/2013 7:42:07464436EverybodySevereBDSM is illegal in most places. Even when both parties consent, a third party can press charges because one cannot legally consent to assault. Also, even if some action (sex, impact, touching) is consented to, if the one being fucked, hit or touched is to later regret it, then consent can be withdrawn after the fact and completely change things. Therefore the intent of the alleged predator is deemed irrelevant. To outsiders the behavior is all that matters. So if you look at the behavior of WIITWD, then ALL BDSM is predatory, abusive, non-consensual behavior. Screaming "no" while being "forced" to do things. Being beaten. Tied up. Restricted and restrained. When all a person needs to do to be labeled a "predator" is to have someone go on a "report a predator" program and type their hearsay and opinion, everyone is indeed eligible for "predatory" status. And what is a "predator" anyway? Apparently if someone is too "pushy" or is "always asking to play" they can be considered a predator. Well, those who feel this way need to learn to say the words "sorry, I am not interested" and "no" as well as to learn safewords rather than using defamatory and vague gossip to slander and libel. Yes it is a sad world when the ones who do not even consider explaining the concepts of consent use a newbies ignorance to take advantage of another. But to fall victim to someone else changing their mind about a scene they later regret makes EVERYBODY a predatory, abuser and rapist.Everywhere in the worldSince the beginning of time
9/29/2013 10:29:091895133onlinedomMinorHe is a lying liar. He messages new sub girls who post in the Novices & Newbies Introduction thread, tells him he can "teach them some things", gains their trust enough to get them to perform on video chat, then makes up some story about why he can't talk to them anymore (he told me his girlfriend caught him on Fetlife, I doubt he even has a girlfriend).Online, SkypeAugust 9th - September 6th, 2013
9/29/2013 22:29:141895133onlinedomMinorAmendment to original report above:

This man contacted me after I posted in the Novices & Newbies "Introduce yourself" thread. He asked if I would like some advice, and for him to "teach me some things". Exact words. Of course, you know what happened, he got me on video, we did the whole mutual masturbation thing (no not the very first time, he gained my trust first, I'm pretty sure that's part of the game for him), then he didn't speak to me for almost a week, although I sent him a message both on Fetlife and on the video chat service we used (I reported him for abuse there, too!).

He finally contacted me after nearly two weeks of wondering wtf, and told me the girlfriend story. HE NEVER TOLD ME HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND. I don't like being made an "other woman" without my knowledge. He told me he was going to have to try and go vanilla to patch things up with said girlfriend. I believed him. I had no reason not to (I was a little leery, I admit, because he told me all this over text, when he said he preferred video chat, but what could I do?). I expressed some disappointment at never being able to talk to him again, and he said he would make sure we still got to talk sometimes. HAHAHA...

He didn't take me off his friends list on Fet, and he didn't exactly "quit", but his activity did diminish. Then there was almost two weeks without any activity at all. During this time I was logging onto the outside chat service everyday and not seeing him online. I thought, OK, he must be telling the truth, and things are going well with gf. Good for him, I guess.

Then the Friday before I made this report I saw him add a friend. I was curious and clicked on her profile. It looked like she'd just joined less than week ago. I looked all the way through her activity and saw that she had also posted in the N&N intro thread. I messaged her and asked her about him. She told me he had messaged her and given her the "I can teach you some things" line. SO MANY ALARM BELLS. Today he added another girl to his friends list that was on Fet for less than a day and also posted in the N&N intro thread. I neglected to write her name down before I blocked him.

I have a feeling he likes it when girls beg for his attention, although he doesn't tell them this is what's going on. I knew a man like that once and it nearly destroyed my will to live. You think you're doing something wrong, when in fact you are doing everything right...for the abuser.

Since he is there fraudulently, he's technically violating the TOU, but I don't doubt Fetlife will just give him a warning and send him on his merry way, so I knew I had to let people know some other way. I wrote a post about him, but of course I can't name him in that, so I also wanted to make sure to get it up here.

Sorry this was so damn long!
Online, ALWAYS onlineAugust 9th - September 6th, 2013
9/30/2013 14:16:501276730Daddy_Knight_ModerateBecame enraged, rude, and abusive when I refused to agree to call him daddy upon our 3rd phone call. Same for when I refused to send him photos of me in his favorite position (lying on my stomach facing the camera).

He has also plagiarized others writings, and then makes numerous posts linking to and bragging about "his" writings making it to "Kinky & Popular".

I have researched him more and see other women with similar stories going back at least a year ago. And another recent victim with similar encounters with him. He apparently has left a trail of victims in his wake. Watch out for this one!
New York NYJune 2013
10/3/2013 22:05:192352242EagerSub23ModerateThis little fuckbucket likes to prey on women in committed relationships, and won't take no for an answer.The herpes clinic10/4/2013
10/4/2013 17:41:24147435angelxxxSevereUttered threats to publicly humiliate me with lies if I ever attended a public fetish event. has history of badmouthing people and manipulating people.Hamilton, Ontario, Canadaoctober
10/5/2013 1:39:011895893KuzoSeverehe keeps inviting me to ranked league games after i said no. no means no.on the interbuttnow
10/6/2013 12:09:322807188fifi454MinorThis user is misrepresenting himself. He lies about everything. Just looking to get laid. Not a true Dom. Asked to KIK so I did. His Fetlife profile says he's 40. While texting told me 27. Then said 35. I asked how long he had been a Dominant, said 5 years. Then 12 by text. He was very pushy by text message and just wanted to see pictures of me. I said no. He wouldn't stop texting me on KIK. Had to block him. Just be weary.OttawaOctober 6, 2013 at 3pm
10/8/2013 13:01:23152411LovingMaster45MinorHe has severe issues with accepting others kinks to the point of becoming rude and abusive and rationalizes and justifies his poor treatment of others based on his judgment of their kinks.

I witnessed him openly disparaging a man because of his poor English skills. He then ridiculed and disparaged the same man for being an exhibitionist. When I called him on his poor behavior, he then lashed out at me like a small child with anger issues.

He made comments such as, if I was to defend someone, at least it should have been a woman. This indicated that he seems to only be a decent person if it can get him some pussy. And then only if the person has good English skills and their kinks meet his standards.

Wilmington, North Carolina10/4/2013
10/10/2013 16:32:152226366lovesheelsguyModerateThis guy is an abusive, idiot with no respect, manners or skill... a real wannabe loser his pcoct 11th
10/11/2013 2:54:331949211Eris_StrifeMinorShe angers easily and without provocation. Lashing out without any reason. When asked what angers her she retreats and does not give reason. Has a lot of unprotected sex. No STDs that I am aware of, but due to her unprotected sex it is only a matter of time.Munch in PortlandOctober 2013
10/11/2013 2:55:571743644JillybeansMinorShe makes very derogatory statements about others and spreads gossip.SE Portland Munch10/10/2013
10/12/2013 17:41:531427535DarthVaporSevereHe has changed his Fetlife name, privately messaged individuals at the TNG council in order to blame his victims, played on the "I'm new, I didn't know this was wrong, nobody taught me" card, but has yet to take any responsibility, accept a ban of any sort, or reach out to his victims to apologize and fix issues with them. He has showed himself repeatedly to be only concerned with how he is shamed or disciplined, not with the very real effects his actions have had on his multiple victims. In addition, just look at his profile. He mentions murdering someone and raping their corpse. Abuse red flags all over.MarylandMultiple
10/13/2013 7:48:351275170DunkelEintraegenModerateWas playing and he got carried away. I safeworded and he did not stop. Others had to stop him- he was like someone possessed. This was not agreed!Whitby , Unite KingdonSummer 2013
10/14/2013 20:07:312336085dr-queertasticSevereHas a history of coercing and manipulating partners into having sex against their will. Does NOT accept "no".Edmonton, Alberta 2012/2013
10/15/2013 10:12:312466146SadoBehrSevereRape, sexual assault, threats of physical harm, emotional abuse, stalking. And that's just one girl. He physically assaulted his ex-wife multiple times, tried to kill both her and his child (who he likes to use as his pity card), has tried to kill his mother, has touched his son in a pedophilic manner (as his father touched him), is a neo-Nazi and uses the fetish for Nazi uniforms to excuse his racism and misogyny, has multiple restraining orders out against him from his ex-wife, and he's spreading herpes without informing his partners that he's infected. He has a long and troubled criminal history and has raped at least six women, three of which are too afraid of speaking out because of the threats he has perpetrated against them. This man is incredibly dangerous and will do anything he can to lie and cover up his past. Can't hide from a background check.Sacramento, CA2010-2012
10/15/2013 14:31:46823419jmslave_LMMinorFisical agressionLisboa28/09/2013
10/15/2013 17:26:141178979sexanfun843ModerateThis person talked with me online and we arranged to meet up for coffee at 4pm one evening to talk. I had been very clear about my intentions for this meeting to be only in public, no play, and no exchanging of addresses/personal information. I don't like to feel pressured into a sexual situation immediately. Two hours before the meetup, he started asking me if I live alone, and other red-flag messages. He also started saying he hoped it'd be a 10 minute meetup and that he wants to follow me back to my place for more. I re-iterated that I don't feel comfortable answering that information AND that I would not be inviting him back. He tried to pressure me more, until I called the meet up off altogether.
At this point, he confessed he was cheating on his wife and was worried her friends might catch him talking to me.
Charleston, SCJuly 2013
10/16/2013 5:14:29222930QLDModerateThis man contacted me several years ago initially and I found him inappropriately sexual and was constantly pressuring me to tell him where I lived (though I was too shy to tell him to back off - my fault, yes.) He recently contacted me and tried to start up a conversation, but the memories came back and I flatly told him that I had no interest in being friends with someone who would try to pressure a young girl (I was 16 at the time) to meet up with a stranger from the internet.
He tried to tell me that he was an upstanding member in the community I am now a part of and that it would be a shame if drama spoiled that, meaning I shouldn't tell anyone about his past behaviour. He also tried to sweep the matter under the rug by saying things like "you weren't that young" and "I wrote you multiple stories that you loved." I asked him to leave me alone but he continued sending messages.
Queensland3rd of October, 2013
10/16/2013 5:25:52916834LordEternitySevereThis man groomed me online for around 3 years before I decided to meet up with him (in a very busy and well lit spot, mind.) He then proceeded to force himself inside me even though I was trying to push him off and tell him no. Queensland1/25/2012
10/16/2013 5:29:351585624pansy_paigeSevereThis man became very verbally abusive when I had to end our play relationship for personal reasons. I blocked him everywhere possible, but he continued to make new accounts and message me on them, telling me that he was checking up on me by reading about my life. I'm constantly telling him to leave me alone but he doesn't listen.QueenslandJune, 2012
10/16/2013 9:38:001919657BornFromTheAshesSevereAt a private house party in Kennesaw Georgia, we were both drinking and chatting. He decided it was appropriate to shove his fingers in my vagina uninvited and with no warning multiple times, even after being refused insistently and after observing me as half asleep. He then tried to try to get me to consent by using misleading language, aware I was quite drunk. He did not cease until I was removed from the room entirelyKennesaw, Georgia7/16/2013
10/16/2013 12:25:239013BossBondageSevereI had agreed to demo for rope for him. He deliberately gave me rope burn on my inner arm that was bad enough I still have the scar. He punched me repeatedly in the diaphragm, as I was saying 'no' and 'stop', and it took someone else stepping in for him to stop hitting me. Texas2010
10/16/2013 16:13:211917940FaireySevereUser sexually abused and raped me for two of our three year relationship. Often would ignore my safe word and signals, or tell me to "shut up" or smother me so I couldn't do or say anything. Anal rape was consistent, with him saying that we'd done it before and I was submissive, so it was ok.Central, SC2009 to 2011
10/17/2013 4:53:14810296Panzer_FaustModerateSexual harassment via IM. I was made very uncomfortable and felt disrespected.OnlineNovember 2010
10/17/2013 12:14:13893038Wren27SevereI was in an abusive relationship with this person for ten months and I desperately want to believe there's some good in him. I want to think highly of him, I really do. But that being said...

He bound my hands and smothered me with a pillow so I had no means of safewording. He threatened to kill my ex then laughed and called me crazy for not being able to take a joke. He guilt-tripped me for safewording. He had--and still has, more likely than not--child porn on his computer. He admitted to only being with his other partner because it was like sexually abusing a small, dumb child. He would call twelve-year old girls or other young teens that he found attractive "trunks" (as in throw them in the trunk of his car). He had zero idea how to manage a poly relationship and did what he could to pit his other partner and I against each other. He refused to get tested for STDs, claiming "if I have HIV I don't want to know about it." He had me diet to get below a hundred pounds to prove I wouldn't get lazy in my old age. He laughed at a description on a domestic violence hotline website, saying that sounded just like us.

I was terrified of him. I'm still terrified of him. I went to the police too late and now I'm scared in thirty years I'll read something in the paper about him getting arrested for kidnapping a young girl. He's a wonderful sadist if you play with him ONLY in public and keep it at just that, but otherwise newbie subs and especially littles would do well to stay away from him.
Atlanta, Georgiamid-2012 through April 2013
10/17/2013 14:51:23267160natasha74ModerateIf you don't participate in her echo chamber, but instead ask for evidence for her claims so that you can believe what she believes, she bans you and calls you a "troll".FetLifeOctober 17, 2013 at 2pm (UTC -8:00)
10/18/2013 8:44:051304852CaptainPhoenixModerateDuring a scene, after being told repeatedly that nothing sexual was to happen, he repeatedly kept trying to touch me. After being in a head space, he touched, said you know you want it and continued to touch me until orgasm. BaltimoreJanuary 2013
10/18/2013 10:40:182842089wayneDavisSevereHe was my stepfather. He raped my mother, beat her to the point where she had a concussion on 9/25/2010, the day her father died, and strangled two of my childhood cats.
He was arrested for domestic abuse, but charges were dropped.

He's also still legally married to her, and another woman in New Hampshire. He's committed tax fraud, and still works with children in a youth soccer league.

He also sells his prescription narcotics to his co-workers at Chelmsford Water Department, and committed tax fraud by not reporting his marriages.

His name is David Vigeant, and if he wasn't evicted his still lives at 40 Burgess st. apt 2 in Lowell, MA.
Lowell, Massachusetts2000-2012
10/18/2013 13:20:40263601downlandSevereSee the linked thread where he repeatedly attacks victims of rape and tells them to "sack up." Celebrates the rape of men.
10/18/2013 15:57:31893038Wren27ModerateIt was...bad. This man is a narcissist and will not look out for you at the end of the day. He gets into your head and twists each and every word you say into something else, causing you to feel like the crazy one. Stay away.Atlanta, GAover the course of several weeks
10/18/2013 16:00:53876626wolfygentSevereThis person is highly abusive. He seems kind at first but when he snaps, he snaps. I can't say much more, but you should stay away. It could cost you way more than you ever wanted.Marietta, GA2013
10/18/2013 18:45:1298378Master_DefiantSevereHe openly admitted to violating a hard limit (post here:

He said "During the discussion, she told me to NEVER put my hands around her neck, she had been raped when she was young, and it "triggered" those things from the past. She had been violently choked into a forced submission, and then raped. (HARD LIMIT) Pretty heavy stuff, right? Well, I am a sensual dom/player, who can get pretty rough. I am also a healer, and knew I could get her past all of that. So during after care at the end of our scene? I started to "caress" her all over her body, slowly working my way up to her neck, slowly and very softly I got both hands fully around her neck, pulled her close to me and softly whispered in her ear "I though you did not like hands around your neck?""

After being repeatedly told by posters on that thread that this was a clear consent violation, he remained unable to understand that the supposedly positive outcome of his action did not prevent it from being immoral. He clearly believes that limits are something for him to ignore whenever he thinks he knows better than the person themselves about what's best for them. As Cowhideman said to him "there's really nothing other than degree between putting your hands around the neck of someone who just told you it was a hard limit and drugging their drink and raping them because you "know" better than they do that a good fuck is what they need to heal."
Unknown, but confessed to here:, confessed to 13th October 2013
10/18/2013 19:04:5797039EvilDragonModerateHe requires people to spell out things as limits before he will respect those limits (admitted to in this thread:

He said: ""I don't like having my face slapped," said to me (please examine profile) will fucking guarantee that you will get your face slapped" and that "A dislike is not a limit." because "it is not the Top or Dom(me)s responsibility to DRAG effective communication out of a bottom." This suggests that he will take advantage of ambiguity in your words rather than asking for clarification.

As Cowhideman said in response to EvilDragon's statements "That is not the statement of an ethical sadist. That may be the sort of thing that defines a sociopath" because "if someone expresses a dislike of something, unless they have explicitly agreed with you that you are both in a relationship where expressing dislike is a green like to exercise your sadism, you have to treat it like a limit until you clear up what they meant."
10/19/2013 12:33:372377661DarkIntrludeSevereHe is on the sex offenders list for rape in Indiana, and I have PERSONALLY had to remove a drunk woman from his arms in the parking lot of a bar. DO NOT TRUST THIS MAN.Indiana2012
10/19/2013 21:49:25846425SirAleXXXModerateDuring a Louisville play event, I was bottoming in an open touch table scene with common kink toys. Without any prior negotiation, SirAlexx took the opportunity to lean over and put my nipple his mouth without any warning or request for consent first. This was beyond a hard limit for me, and I was not even given a chance to deny consent before the offense had already occurred.The Mix, Louisville, KYSpring, 2011
10/20/2013 15:42:491481842bjorn76MinorAttempted to interject himself into a rope scene under the guise of "helping with the knots" at Leather Fiesta 2013. Leather Fiesta 201310/18/13 around 11pm
10/21/2013 16:29:24140301drey_72Severesexually assaulted me anally after he was told repeatedly "No."his homesummer
10/21/2013 17:49:1693614SilkSevereLied to me about his wife being ok with him having sex with me, just so he could have sex with me. I know personally of at least three other women he has lied to so he could sleep with them without his wife knowing. When I found out his wife was unaware and not ok with him having sex with other women he threaten to out my kinky lifestyle if I ever said anything. Baltimore MarylandMarch 2013
10/21/2013 18:16:432479575Quirky_KittieSevereOuted someone in the military to their commanding officers. Threatened to do physical harm to someone. Baltimore MarylandMarch 2013
10/21/2013 21:24:581481842bjorn76ModerateBarry was invited into a scene nonconsensually with me by a third party. Neither Barry nor the third party asked if I would be okay for him to be involved. When I told him I don't know him and don't want to play with him (especially with his bad reputation whispered to new people), he insinuated himself into the scene by just adding someone else, which did not solve the "I don't know you/want to work with you" problem. This happened at Leather Fiesta 2013.Hotel Ramada Convention CenterLeather Fiesta 2013
10/21/2013 21:33:471146567abqspeedbumpModerateInvited someone into a public scene without sub's consent, and did not stand by her when she said she did not want to scene with the third party. Leather FiestaLeather Fiesta 2013
10/22/2013 0:33:18606228panravynSevereRavyn Combs raped me. I consented to him spending the night at my house because he couldn't get into his apartment complex. As soon as we were in the house, he stripped and laughed that I would think he would "cuddle" with me with clothes on. I told him I didn't want to have sex without a condom.

I said "Not without a condom," "no," and "please don't make me do this" explicitly. We were not in a scene, so he had no right to ignore me. Still, he forced himself on me. A few days later, he sarcastically apologized when I refused to see him again (because he wanted to see me and "actually hook up," since once wasn't enough).

Please, please be aware of this dangerous man. He claims to be a part of the fetish community, but instead ignores the wishes of his partners to his own sexual benefit. He was my first introduction into the fetish lifestyle, and purposefully did not tell me about safe words or how subspace might affect my judgment. He clearly has no intent on changing his behavior for the protection of others in the future.
My house, Las Vegas, NV7/12/2013
10/22/2013 10:59:021310337RauscheSevereThis guy is a mini Hitler with an ego the size of Brazil. Also amongst the most ambitious empire builders in the scene and wont stop until he gets where he wants, no matter who he needs to harass and bully. Sok accounts, poisonous Blogs and vindictive texts are his favorite tools and he has the intelligence to use them. Sadly it is not just personality that make this character utterly repulsive. This guy cannot let a grudge go.....

His drinking and alcohol dependency make this person a ticking time bomb. This guy needs to be in therapy, not topping a vulnerable sub. Seen him being led away in a drunken heap at several play events.Drunken outbursts and an obvious "mother obsession" make him particularly bitter and twisted.Surrounded himself with a bad crowd and his nastiness continues to grow. Get close at your peril!!!
West Yorkshire2013
10/22/2013 12:06:441275170 DunkelEintraegenSevereFormally known as Dark-Entries but also goes by many other Alias's including Grink Hoffman and Paul that I think is his real name.I made the mistake of going back to this guys "bunker" some time ago. I am not surprised he likes such secluded and private accommodation..noeone could hear me safewording and screaming when he continued to ignore my cries for help. He subjected me to ultra violence play when this was NOT agreed. I was a newbie at the time and was stupid in trusting his role as a mentor and protectee :( He made me feel really safe and looked after at first.

After the incident he left Fet for about 8 mths. I was horrified to learn he had returned and become a leader of a play event in Doncaster and immediately contacted the organiser to express my concern.It turns out there had been a number of "issues" with him and he was thrown off the team. I am so happy he is no longer involved with events!!
10/23/2013 0:46:061237962handydan123SevereHe did not respect REDAlbuquerque July
10/23/2013 10:35:18735222PursuingPoetrySevereIs a non-consensual emotional sadist. Derives pleasure from intentionally causing others emotional harm without their consent, & enjoys continuing to inflict it in as many ways as possible. This has been an ongoing issue with him & I'm running a vetting tree to keep others from being harmed & harassed by him in the same way that I, & others are.
Also enjoys non-consensually not using condoms with partners, intentionally puts others at risk for STD.
Denver, ColoradoApril 2012 to Nov 2013
10/23/2013 10:36:45735222PursuingPoetrySevereHas HPV, likes to tell women that he will use condoms, then takes them off without their knowledge, infecting them without warning them of the risk or intent.Denver, ColoradoApril 2013
10/23/2013 10:41:20735222PursuingPoetrySevereChanges his screen name often to avoid detection by others on a vetting tree intended to stop him from finding new victims.
Refuses to use condoms, often without his victim's consent, takes off the condom to give them HPV without their knowledge.
Denver, ColoradoOctober 2013
10/23/2013 16:16:0025004180Muginn0SevereThis person cries "Predator" every time something in a scene or relationship (including friendships) goes wrong.Albuquerque October
10/24/2013 2:21:141804375DankFrank831Severe*NO MEANS NOTHING TO THIS MAN.*
He initially messaged me 4 months ago asking if I was single, I replied telling him I was in a committed and happy relationship. He continued to message me, asking for "a chance" until I blocked his account.
As of last week, he found me on okcupid, messaged me only with obscene comments about my body, to which i replied "I'm not interested. I don't think this is funny. Leave me alone". He did not leave me alone. I blocked his account on okcupid, he created another to message me just to apologize and once again, beg me for "a chance". When I did not reply and blocked him once more, he messaged me on fetlife under a NEW account. I tried to explain to him that I was not interested, I did not owe him anything, and if he did not leave me alone, I would report him. He kept harassing me, so I blocked him once more.
Finally, he created a THIRD account on fetlife, to tell me how mean I was being and continue to send me unwarranted, unwanted obscene messages.
I later found out that he had tried to physically come on to a lesbian friend of mine, and she had to terminate their friendship.
Monterey, CA, 93950, United StatesMay-October 2013
10/27/2013 10:29:412286707BelGoreanSevereHe tried to rape me when we had a relationship.
Tendency to stalk.
BelgiumSummer 2009 and after
11/1/2013 18:40:251550794HouseOfGamesSeveresock account for Silk (user 93614) a known sex offender in CaliforniaBaltimore11/1/2013
11/1/2013 18:41:101241976Misfits_CabaretSeveresock account for Silk (user 93614) a known sex offender in CaliforniaBaltimore11/1/2013
11/1/2013 18:41:561324409TheNerdgasmSeveresock account for Silk (user 93614) a known sex offender in CaliforniaBaltimore11/1/2013
11/1/2013 18:43:031383824Solstice_BallSeveresock account for Silk (user 93614) a known sex offender in CaliforniaBaltimore11/1/2013
11/1/2013 18:43:231229084Wicked_MenagerieSeveresock account for Silk (user 93614) a known sex offender in CaliforniaBaltimore11/1/2013
11/1/2013 18:44:282539243DapperTheBunnySeveresock account for Silk (user 93614) a known sex offender in CaliforniaBaltimore11/1/2013
11/5/2013 2:12:522321329DV8nzSeverePhysically threatened event goers. On more than one occasion has approached females at events and touched intimately without consent. Avoid this person and these events at all costs. Is infected with herpes and does not use condoms - plus does not inform partners.Auckland, New ZealandOn going
11/5/2013 2:18:17119784rodjnzMinorThe issue mentioned at the event was handled correctly. I had not read the writings. Apologies to all for this report.Auckland, New ZealandMay 2012
11/5/2013 7:52:04735222PursuingPoetrySevereGave me HPV, told me he was going to use a condom and pulled it off when I wasn't looking.his home, denver, coOctober, 2013
11/5/2013 7:57:42769722waldo1232SevereHas now given 4 different women HPV & HSV-2 (herpes of the genitals), but refuses to use condoms or get tested. 3 of those 4 women are currently unaware of their situation.
Has now given 2 women HIV. 1 of them is currently unaware of her situation.
Uses OKCupid under the screen name Waldo1232. He uses it to get women to go on dates with him & date him, leading them into the false idea that he wants a relationship.
He also has been taking pictures/video of women without their permission, has been posting them to various porn sites for profit.
Denver/Centennial, ColoradoFrom Jan 2012 to Nov 2013
11/5/2013 8:07:45769722waldo1232SevereHe is also very good at making sure he adds all his fuck buddies to his facebook page:, COOct 2013
11/5/2013 8:44:301JohnBakuSevereThis 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea.EverywhereAll the time
11/5/2013 8:45:462584nbatSevereThis 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea.EverywhereAll the time
11/5/2013 8:46:2146452MistressD4u2srvSevereThis 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea.EverywhereAll the time
11/5/2013 8:47:171873902DrFangsSevereThis 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea.Auckland, New ZealandAll the time
11/5/2013 8:51:59769722waldo1232SevereThis 'database' is a joke. You can accuse anyone of anything - with no proof. Just ignore it. It is run by an idiot that has no idea.EverywhereAll the time
11/5/2013 17:04:201984316London-CallingSevereHas sex with women without condoms without disclosing that he has Herpes.
Has been known to state that he will use condoms, & instead take them off without their knowledge.
Also uses an OKCupid profile to find women:
His homeOct 2013
11/7/2013 8:06:2338110MsUnlimitedSevereThis user has been the target of a smear campaign by a sociopathic ex who will not let go. Enjoy the fiction.DaytonOver the last several years
11/9/2013 13:52:42119784rodjnzSevereRodjnz here - Everyone has a right of reply. The good thing about this database is that comments can never be removed. Also - that is a bad thing. If this system was used only to report *confirmed* issues - fine. But, as always, a system like this is simply open to abuse.

My side - Yes - the 'incident' happened - though the way in which it is presented is only part of the story - as always. So - parts of the first posting here are patently untrue. Also - The poster has chosen to remain anonymous - the word 'gutless' comes to mind - though I would never say that! The incident to which it refers was dealt with. Event / Club rules were changed and the issue has never happened again. So - a non-issue. I have to really wonder about somebody's motives dredging this up after over a year. I never tried to 'hide my behaviour'. Once it was brought to my attention - in a public forum no less - I moved swiftly to deal with it. Both in private and *public*. End of story. No consent was violated. Actually - mine was! I was lied to. As my writing at the time clearly states.
Auckland, New ZealandMay 2012
11/9/2013 14:04:351JohnBakuSevereThis database only ever presents one side. In every story there are 3 sides - your side, my side and the... truth!EverywhereAll the time - gotta love the 'net
11/9/2013 16:36:21131161ShazzaSevereRodjnz here - How is this a consent violation??? Hmmm... just plain nastiness. And anyway - how can a female be wanker? Seems like someone is just plain jealous. LOL :)Auckland, New ZealandAll the time - gotta love the 'net
11/12/2013 8:59:092060207slut-eddieMinorCopy/paste harassment, ignores or can't read profiles, approaches everyone as a Mistress. Enjoy his cell number, already signed him up for catfacts: 416 900 7784Montrealnov 2013
11/13/2013 16:03:051839006JellybabybooSevereI was involved with this woman. She previously worked as a prostitute (escort) n gave me genitel warts. She didnt tll me nothing. Be carefull with her.Durham, UKJune 2013
11/15/2013 16:11:322644452Gordon93MinorThis user approached my submissive asking for "advice" on how to be Dominant. He had, in the past, shown obsessive behaviour towards her and she had politely rejected his advances several times. He then became defensive towards me when I suggested he toned down his language with her. He acquired a submissive of his own, who he suggested joined Fetlife. She then began messaging my submissive asking for advice and then the messages turned inappropriate asking for detailed sexual descriptions. After attempting to get in contact with her, she messaged us saying that the sexual descriptions were not asked for by her but, in fact, she had attempted to leave the kink lifestyle and Gordon93 had reactivated her account in order to try to procure descriptions that he could enjoy in private.Warwick, United Kingdom11/16/2013
11/18/2013 20:30:35785033Dago1953MinorThis guy wanted me to meet him for play, but wouldn't send me a picture of himself or even give a first name. He was all for meeting until I asked for a picture, then he "suddenly changed his mind." I refused and have ceased contact with him since.Pittsburgh, PA11/18/2013
11/19/2013 13:02:232455233TotallyCluelessModerateThe type of guy that thinks one time saying yes equals consent for all eternity.Ghent, BelgiumEarly 2013
11/21/2013 9:55:461645640MASTER9988ModerateI had not met him, instead it was an online encounter. He messaged me first, referring to me as "slut" and "whore" and telling me I needed to "submit myself to him like a good whore". When I attempted to stand up to him, the verbally abusive language worsened. He called me "ugly and disgusting", someone who will be "alone forever" because I was a "dumb cunt". When I blocked him, my friends on Fetlife warned me that he was going around trying to get my personal information to find me and "teach me a lesson that she won't forget." It was a scary experience and I ended up leaving the site because of it.OnlineOctober
11/22/2013 19:47:422505120SpankingCityHallSevereThis person outed an entire local kink group to a newspaper reporter, in order to promote her book. While the group is public, we don't shine spotlights on people who might not want to be outed. She practiced no discretion, sought no consent, and acted altogether very irresponsibly.

Not everyone has the luxury of a six figure job and a book deal. Not everyone wants attention from the public. Now people are leaving the group, changing their names, and edited their picture preferences because of her.

Again, she sought no one's consent before outing us all. I recommend that anyone who deals with her practice caution. This is not a person to trust.
Indianapolis, INNovember, 2013
11/23/2013 17:32:5955494robbystraussMinorWill continually send you messages trying to "persuade" you to do something even after you say no.When finally gotten to go away, will insult you and try to make you feel bad. Gives off a very bad vibe.Online.November
11/23/2013 21:26:07272448vae_SevereMajor Drama-Llama, rumor monger, talks shit behind peoples backs. NightmareMontreal2012
11/24/2013 5:49:44130186submischievousSevereShe iz teh lezbeing.on fetlifemy whole damned life.
11/24/2013 6:56:201408543PorcelainMuseModerateWhile not a consent issue, this user has a prolonged history of toying with individuals on-line for the purposes of later blackmail and extortion. Usually she is "data mining" (as she likes to call it) several persons at any given time and will even go so far as to convince them love is a factor in their relationship. This is easily observable on her other social media profiles. She will not meet with you in person as she lives with her fiancee who she has been involved with for over 10 years. Together they seem to get off sexually on twisting the emotions of these targets. She may be charming but it is a mask to hide these more devious intentions. Beware.Minneapolis/Long DistanceOngoing
11/25/2013 6:07:352071118AmabelLolitaMinorrandomly reported me for the following conversation.

Hi, just found your profile randomly, you from perth?
I only started using fetlife today!
btw you are gorgeous ;)
AmabelLolita(report a consent violation by AmabelLolita)
AmabelLolita 22F
Western Australia, Australia
written 1 day ago:

welcome to fetlife then :)
im in perth.. what is it that brings you to fetlife?
perthforfun111 19M
Western Australia, Australia
written about 10 hours ago:

Thank you :)
Well my friends just said its a good place to meet girls haha
I have no problems picking up women in general but i guess i want to try something new...Something more out of the ordinary i guess ;) (if that makes sense) :P
So what do you do? Are you one of those brutal, blood thirsty, chained up girls that ive been meeting so far on fetlife (it scares me to be honest) or are you a normal girl trying to have some fun? ;)
AmabelLolita 22F
Western Australia, Australia
written 27 minutes ago:

well if it scares you then your on the wrong website! you wont meet "normal/vanilla" people like yourself on here lma0 maybe your friend played a joke on you.
AmabelLolita 22F
Western Australia, Australia
written 27 minutes ago:

dont bother wasting your time, this site isn't meant for people like you.
perthforfun111 19M
Western Australia, Australia
written 19 minutes ago:

hahaha serious? Are you a vanilla girl? Dont get me wrong, I do enjoy a bit of BDSM, dominant, slave and hand cuffing, But not cutting and shit like that.
perthforfun111 19M
Western Australia, Australia
written 18 minutes ago:

Hand cuffing and being on top is my favourite ;) I guess thats dominant or master? ;)
AmabelLolita 22F
Western Australia, Australia
written 12 minutes ago:

no you don't, you're young and immature, and its insulting to us who take it seriously.
perthforfun111 19M
Western Australia, Australia
written 10 minutes ago:

wow, dont tell me this website has people like you who think they are the shit, and everyone around them is either lower then they are, dont meet their LOW standards or is more immature then they are. I'm probably more immature then you are Amabel.
Done talking with you. Have a good night.
perthforfun111 19M
Western Australia, Australia
written 10 minutes ago:

more MATURE*
AmabelLolita 22F
Western Australia, Australia
written 4 minutes ago:

Im done talking to a child. I will warn the community in perth of you.
11/30/2013 17:29:37129CyppieSevereHas a secondary account, Hermies, used to lie and cheat on his partner and on the play partners pursued by the secondary account.Victoria, Australia2012-current
11/30/2013 17:31:14864910HermiesSevereThis is Cyppie's secondary account used to pursue play partners without knowledge of his wife, and often without the play partner knowing either.Victoria, Australia2012-current
12/1/2013 22:54:311409989RedvelvetlocksMinorShe reported to the FetLife administrators that I had refused to take photos of her down even though I never received such a request. Photos were of body parts too, no face recognition was apparent. Then when photos were removed from my account she continued to keep them posted on her page. Very hypocritical.OregonFall, 2013
12/3/2013 6:31:492940118MarmiteGirlSevereThis scarlet lipped seductress is one of the most repugnant and dangerous harlots there is!

She will insert her claws in to you and play with you, sucking the life from you, her poor victim. She will manipulate you and everyone one of the fake friends she has to make sure that you will never have a relationship again!

Take my advice and stay away from this Jezebel or like Viola you will be taken in digested and spat out like a piece of shit
Leeds, United Kingdom2011
12/6/2013 17:01:112536386tap-that-assSevereHe had his slave message me in capslock threatening to block me if I didn't accept his request. then he started to message me being an asshole. and then he blocked me himself when I wouldn't add him. More than just a mild cry baby. myrtel beach12/5/2013
12/8/2013 15:13:461693700Altern8SevereDuring an ageplay camp (Ageventures), this person shit in his diapers and proceded to try and cuddle or hug the girls present at camp without their consent.Ottawa, OntarioSpring, 2013
12/10/2013 12:04:371693700Altern8SevereTouches people's butt without their consent during playdates.OntarioDecember 7th, 2013
12/14/2013 14:17:412093499LuckyLavey13MinorSteels photo's that are not his, and pretends it 's his sub while she is from another continent, country and never heard from himMiamidecembre 14, 2013 23.00
12/15/2013 8:48:282527873MuttleyxxxSevereMutley keeps dry humping my leg without asking. I wouldn't normally mind but he keeps making a mess of my good leather trousers and I need to send them to the cleaners.Aberdeen UKEvery Munch
12/15/2013 11:19:56418822RezNoirMinorSays people who are *ugly* dream about being raped someday.Fetlife2012
12/18/2013 16:50:28304940Sharky_CraftsSevereIs widely known by regulars in the Cambridge scene to be a serial rapist and abuser. Ask people who have been in the Cambridge scene since 2012 and they will confirm this. As a result, he has been banned from several Cambridgeshire events.

He is very good at convincing people that he is safe. Please don't believe him.

As he quoted himself: "Seriously...if someone arrives who EVERYONE has an issue with, and warns you off, and tries to tell you they are bad...then do the world a favor and at least try and take their advice. Work with them, not against them."
12/18/2013 17:29:15657590Master-BaconModerateMisrepresented himself, claims to be a Dom, only wants to get laid. Hides the fact that he has a girlfriend. If you refuse to sleep with him on first meeting, you'll never hear from him againMontreal, Qc2013
12/18/2013 17:30:55117170Lord-SaxnotModerateStole my pantyhose so he could wear them. Got jealous when I refused to be his sub, and subsequently interfered in a scene with my new Dom, trying to claim we were being unsafeMontreal, Qc2010
12/21/2013 0:14:593000410MissHailey08MinorMissHailey08 will refer you to a secondary site to sign up for a paid account. She is just a promoter looking for referrals to make money off of.Los Angeles12/20/2013
12/21/2013 10:13:19705667mdscottModerateScott finds it amusing to out people to the vanilla community and tells others about private scenes and who goes to different events. He says it is much more comfortable for him to out people that way he doesnt have to keep secrets, than to keep quiet. He tells people who have authority in the vanilla community and causes major trouble for the kink community.MDOctober 2013
12/22/2013 3:30:502593955SimpleAppleSevereWe never got to know each other, as we never really spoke or met. We had been texting here and there as friends over the past couple weeks. And She texts me today claiming that she "heard" that I was banned from the community for "violently abusing" and "taking advantage of" play partners. That is chronologically and physically impossible, as I arrived in the state a year ago, and have yet to play with anyone since my arrival. The last play i had was almost three years ago, and it was in a different state entirely. When I said that those were rumors, she said she didn't believe them at first, until she heard from another female who had a friend who claimed that I RAPED her. So now she and three others have decided that I am an abuser and a rapist. This is horrible and untrue. This is beyond childish, beyond drama and gossip. When I told her that since I am being accused of abuse and rape (which is slander), I want to know who is saying this. She said "I can't name names sorry". By acknowledging slander and accusations of abuse and rape, but not revealing the sources, she is in fact an accessory to sullying my reputation. Boise, Idaho21Dec2013 11:37 PM
12/22/2013 5:55:03253797fitta__MinorDoesn't really understand how social boundaries work, so often does or says things that make others very uncomfortable; also frequently says things that are incredibly explicit when it's not appropriateEdinburgh-
12/24/2013 17:41:271749882phc_photoModeratePaul is an amazing photographer. He really is, but a model shouldn't have to pay the price of unwanted, and unsolicited touching for shots. He does caning shoots, which by definition means you get caned, but what I wasn't bargaining for was his unnecessary and unrequested spanking. He has also tweaked my nipples without asking.LondonSpring 2013
12/26/2013 9:41:34795638BexetcSevereAn extremely devious bully who has written and supported numerous hate blogs. Most recently she was overheard in the toilet at an event in Leeds boasting about she had outed a guy to his work and made it look like someone else did it. This is her idea of fun. Extremely manipulative with a fondness for attaching herself to anyone with the scene, This is also the same person who has the fetlife account Mistress_BB.LeedsDecember 2013
12/26/2013 14:22:562801650QwesterrSevereRaped my girlfriendBirminghamEarly 2013
12/29/2013 4:25:591310337_RSCH_SevereYet another incarnation of Rausche, Rausch or whatever else he calls himself. Extremely manipulative and proficient at 'gaming' the fetlife ToU. Like most serial abusers, he claims that there is a conspiracy against him by a cabal of women rather than accept that he has abused again and again.West YorkshireAutumn 2013
12/29/2013 7:31:0650738BartSideOTheMoonModerateHe slapped my ass without consent. We have never played before. This is the first time he did it and I think he thought it was okay because I had just broken up with my Dom. S.E. Munch at Crush Bar12/26/2013
12/29/2013 11:55:242949017imogen00ModerateSpread false rumors about me on two separate occasions. When confronted, she claimed she had no idea what I was talking about. When I showed her the written evidence, she threw a hissy fit (due to being caught in her own lie) and said that I had no right to treat her like that. Chronic liar; two-faced. Boise, Idaho29Dec2013 12:55PM
12/30/2013 4:31:513044742SaturdaySocialSevereYet another sock of Rausche / Rausch / _RSCH_ in support of his empire building and intimidation.LeedsSince this guy has been around
12/31/2013 17:17:353010654GoddessGingeraleSevereThose tits. . .
They jumped out of the screen and smacked me in the face!
I'm traumatized.
Against my faceEvery time, ouch stopit
1/1/2014 16:24:321310337RauscheSevereThis guy quite randomly went nuts on me one night and that was the start of a campaign of harassment that has gone on for over 6 months now. If you want to know how he behaves when he thinks no-one will find out see here: Highly manipulative and will not only publicly claim to be the victim, he will attempt to get other people to join in by claiming that his target is a threat to the 'community', will make claims of criminal wrongdoing to try and isolate his target, will claim that anyone disagreeing with him is trying to victim silence - all at the same time has engaging in harassment and getting the Fetlife carebears to file bogus DMCA notices against any hosting used to show people what his conduct is really like.Leeds, UKJuly 2013 to present
1/2/2014 4:36:081941017Dungeonmaster1SevereAnother clown who tries to intimidate and harass by making malicious claims dressed up as a public service no-one has asked for, evidence here: of where he made malicious false allegations against me, specifies the screen name I was known by in violation of Fetlife ToU, makes slurs against my mental health as an 'explanation' for why his own claims make no sense, continues to make said allegations after his own 'friends' have pointed out to him that his claims are not accurate and more chillingly, claims that people on Fetlife are updating him about my whereabouts in real life and makes a threatening prediction that I am going to be assaulted by someone who is scared of me when the only reason someone might do that is because they have read his hate posts. Grade A psychopath and a toxic 'community leader' to a toxic 'community'. The fact that in 50+ replies no-one wants to call him out on what is wrong with this says it all.Wherever he posts fromDecember 2013
1/2/2014 15:26:121095226MajadollModerateShe blocked me and accused me of something I haven't done. I literally just signed up on the website and she's talking about reporting me.

Not sure how well you vet people but she seems to be mental?!?

I'm in the process of creating a profile and responses like hers make me wonder if there are any non mental people on here.
England1/2/2014 23:19:00
1/3/2014 3:09:212744031Daddy-DearestMinorSent me a message suggesting activity my profile stated I wasn't interested in. When I turned him down directly (I literally only said "not submissive"), he got instantly aggressive and made misogynistic and abusive comments about women and me. He claimed that I didn't know what I wanted, but he did. Shows lack of concern about consent. Sent me a photo of a woman with a busted lip and black eye and told me "A cunt will always be a cunt... remember that, bitch."
His profile also stated as of jan 3 2014 that he's looking for a 17 year old girl.
Austin, TXearly-mid 2013
1/3/2014 11:37:55715251darkangels66669SevereTotal and complete predator. Uses hard liquor to get females drunk and then takes advantage of them. His "wife" is more like a slave who has to do everything he says. His wife never gives any input of direction on what she wants, it's just him directing what he wants her to do to whatever woman is in his dungeon.

Toys go from person to person, he encourages excessive drinking, and he's always trying to fuck the newcomer.
Grand ForksAugust 2013
1/3/2014 14:32:16443613AngelusWingsSevereTook me to the Sanctuary, and began to Scene with me in the cage, then began to have sex with me without stopping to put a condom on even though I told him no sex. I shouted red but he told the supervisor that it was OK and it was a play thing and he kept going. He told me I was his then and that no one would want me. Two months later I tested positive for herpes and chlamydia. Worst night of my life and the TNG people in charge did Nothing about it. AuroraJuly, 2013
1/4/2014 20:25:251484859SodaSirModerateAdvocates violence towards those he sees as touching his property "in the wrong way" (the thread he is responding to is about an example of a munch host hugging and giving a touchy neck rub to a new munch attendee- hardly a violation warranting of "beating some serious ass"). Judge for yourself, here is a post he wrote: "What in the fuck happened to men actually being men? I mean it is well known that if someone touches my girl in the wrong way and with out my permission, I'm am beating some serious ass. Not going online and ranting about it. I'm going straight to the offender right then and there and dealing with it head on. Guys want to call themselves a Dominant? Then fucking be one and protect your property. It's that simple. Women, if someone touches you in the wrong way without permission, umm slap the piss out of them, either verbally or physically. Your choice, it will get the point across. Point is, step up and handle your shit because it's your shit to handle. end rant"S.E. Munch at Crush BarOnline post 1-4-2014
1/5/2014 17:29:081323003animedingoMinorLies to you to get you to tell you things, by saying he doesn't care about it, and then when you tell him, he turns around and says he does care about it. What's more, he says he's not looking for a relationship that is defined by sex, but in actuality, sex is the first thing he talks about in a conversation.Seattle, WASunday, January 05, 2014 at 5pm Pacific time.
1/5/2014 22:39:271679213JennaSMinorJennaS is a HUGE drama queen. I had spoken to her once, and we had a misunderstanding. I asked her a few questions, and she started freaking out and calling me a manipulative liar. I decided to block her, and this brought her to post on a man hating group about me, and reporting me to this site. The least I can do is let people know what an enormous pain in the ass she is.

Me wanting to ask questions about someone's very complicated gender and sexuality is normal, and does not make me an abuser or predator.
OnlineJanuary 5th 2014
1/6/2014 12:37:291984316London-CallingSevereHe took me back to his place, then we had some wine. We fooled around some, and he tied me up and made me go down on him. I asked him to put a condom on, and he wouldn't. He ended up coming on my face even though I asked him not to. I later found out from someone he used to play with that he's got STD's that he doesn't disclose. AuroraFebruary 2013
1/6/2014 12:44:27505770clr4lfSevereHe tied me up once and started to rub his crotch on my face when I couldn't move. After that he tried to start fingering my ass even though we hadn't talked about having any kind of sex. He'd tied a gag on me too, befure that. I was thrashing and grunting as much as I could. If it weren't for the people of Denver Bound watching the scene and asking if things were ok, I don't think he would have stopped there.Denver, ColoradoRope Class
1/8/2014 10:38:02722448Sonic_LeopardSevereA "big" drama queen, with a troll face, (especially her brows and her eyes) She claims to be polyamourous, but cant handle the rejection. She makes up fake emails to attack you personally. You can also follow her posts in a male-bashing group where she posts your personal emails publicly. BE CAREFUL IF YOU WANT TO EMAIL HER, YOU WONT HAVE ANY PRIVACY.Lowell, Massachusetts, United StatesJanuary 2014
1/8/2014 16:13:131419852Fox_VanWeaselSevereThis man and his girlfriend befriended me and lured me in. They were very sweet, kind, and good fun. We arranged to have a threesome.
I went round to their house and was told she had to work late and would be joining us later, but she never did. He started all nice and gentle, gave me lingerie to wear for him, and initiated sex- he did some things I wasn't comfortable with like spitting in my mouth and holding me down, and then he tied me up, gagged and blindfolded me. I was nervous and scared but too naive to anticipate what happened.
We had discussed having anal sex and he promised to be very gentle and check if I was okay with it, but instead he just fucked me really hard. As hard as he could, it seems. I was screaming muffled through the gag and trying to pull away but he just held me to him and did it more. He did it for a long time, forcing me into different positions, then took me into the bathroom.
He made me get into the bath where he unscrewed the head from the shower, and stuck the hose up my arse. He turned it on and let the water fill me while I was bucking, screaming and trying to pull away. He just held me against him tighter, then let it out like a weird forced enema. He did it a few more times, then took the condom off (before all this started I insisted on a condom) and carried on fucking me anally. He alternated that and the hose thing.
The whole thing went on for about 4 hours when he ran me a bath and started cooking lunch. He took off my bonds when I sat in the bath traumatised and shaking. My anus was torn but I didn't know it at that point. I was too scared to move. He tried to get me to do it again, but after feeling how swollen it was, he just made me give him head instead. I was there for about 6/7 hours in total and the girl never showed up.
I went to the police a while later, but there was insufficient evidence.
South CroydonMarch 2012
1/13/2014 7:37:351751846Nitemare_Blade25ModerateWent to a munch because I heard it was a good place to meet people. Chatted some, couple of drinks then back to halls. This girl walks home with me still chatting but I didn't notice right away she was going to come home with me I thought maybe she lives on campus too. Then when we get back she says she wants to fuck and play. She wants me to dom her but topping from the bottom and when I said I'm not into some things she wants, she threaten to go and tell my flatmates I'm kinky. I'd already mentioned there's neonazi skinheads on my corridor at the munch and she knew I'm a bit scared of them.
Then when the munch change to a different pub she kept on emailing me and threatening again said she's not welcome there and she can't see the group with the details on but she wants me to tell her where so she can go and out everybody.
Lancaster University, Lancaster,UKSummer 2012
1/15/2014 12:29:1276766Single_Tail_LarrySevereBroke a first timer's back on her first visit to the Sanctuary. Fractured multiple vertebra with a cane.Denver, ColoradoSummer 2010
1/15/2014 15:20:56285607zenmindnowSevereThis Twue Dumbinant doesn't believe that a submissive should have any limits or desires, that they should only exist to serve him and his wants. He has absolutely zero real life experience and I sincerely hope it remains that way for the sake of everyone else on this site

and in case he deletes his post:

I’ve read a number of submissive profiles in which they demand a monogamous relationship with their Dom and will accept no less.

To me this is not a true submissive.

A true submissive wants to please her Dom and maintains his loyalty thru service. It is natural for a man to want to mate with more than one female and a true Dom will do as he desires.

When I have a submissive woman who is ready and willing to serve me I have little time for other women. That said – whatever I say and do is correct. My sub should expect that I will do as I like and that I am with her because she pleases me.
1/15/2014 15:29:49999692stopyellingModerateRepeatedly stalked and harassed multiple subs across various social media platforms. After being told there is no interest, continues to message on a daily or weekly basis, doesnt understand "no"
Blames his behavior on aspergers.
Also will keep "found" property at local events and send hostage pictures, promising to return it but never actually doing so
Montreal, QcDecember, 2013
1/15/2014 19:39:40657590Master-BaconSevereHas harassed me on FetLife, and OKCupid on multiple accounts: summer 2013, and the fall (november) under a different account. After I blocked him from OKC and Fetlife for being overly aggressive, pushy, and trying to get me to go to his apartment without meeting him in public first, a few months later he created a different account with different photos and pretended as if we've never spoken. When I found out he was the same person, he denied it, said disgusting things to me (pushing for details about sexual experiences with girls, telling me about his boners randomly, demanding I call him "sir" and "master", wtf etc.) and I blocked him again. He claims to be a dom and knows nothing about kink. Just a predator looking for women to control.Montreal, QuebecJuly 2013, November 2013
1/20/2014 13:01:082122739greatestmanModeratehe posted a naked picture of me on his fetlife, without my consent, and the picture had my easily recognizable tattoos in itschaumburgjune
1/21/2014 4:06:311259962SteamGirlSevereA Fake, in every way. She isn't kinky in the slightest. Not Bisexual, like she claims to be. And She has NO CLUE what Steampunk is. Attention Whore, and nothing else. She's been using this site and myspace to fool everyone for a few years now.83648For about eight years now
1/21/2014 every sense of the way. Preys on younger girls who don't know any better.8364829Dec2013 12:55PM
1/21/2014 4:09:202568733_Shy_SevereFake, in every sense of the word. She's not kinky, even in the slightest. Attention whore at best; drama llama at worst. 8364829Dec2013 12:55PM
1/21/2014 14:41:23309532iamnotthereSeverecreepster. Refuses to allow an escort to a photo shoot.
Told him I didn't want to be naked for the photos, and he agreed until I was tied up and helpless
Montreal, qc2011
1/21/2014 21:54:50122017mjranumMinorClaiming art is his when there is clearly no proof. Overall a complete waste of space and overly curl. Online1/21/2014
1/22/2014 14:13:11333462TransBearSevereHunter and Alex organise themselves around grooming and raping people. They are very feared by people who have been abused by them and there is a reluctance for any to speak out because of fear of physical violence from them.Melbourne, Victoria, AustraliaOngoing
1/22/2014 14:15:44142980Alex_De_BootSevere Hunter and Alex organise themselves around grooming and raping people. They are very feared by people who have been abused by them and there is a reluctance for any to speak out because of fear of physical violence from themMelbourne, Victoria, AustraliaOngoing
1/23/2014 7:19:194292JeffersonModerateThis person talked about "pushing limits" during negotiating topping me and despite my negative reaction to it, did so by doing things never negotiated during scenes: minimal punching and boot-stepping close to and partially on my throat. He responded passive aggressively to some requests made during the scene when it was too much to handle, sometimes outright ignoring me. He didn't notice, or simply continued to play through a panic attack (which he induced anyway by playing through my requests to stop or pause so that I could process).

I am not the first person to have problems with this top, and I hope others speak up here soon.
New York City1/17/2014
1/24/2014 10:44:034292JeffersonSevereViolated my request to stop as he was hurting me. Claimed the whole thing was an "accident" and told people I was crazy. I've heard MANY second-hand accounts of this man violating consent. He's also notorious for being drunk and selecting very young, naive partners.New York2005
1/24/2014 21:13:351021618DaffAttackMinorthis isnt an actual report, just.... why the fuck is being a sex worker a bad thing? get off this site and spew your nonsense elsewhere--
1/25/2014 1:00:251505799HumblyAwesomeMinorMinor complaints about immature and shitty behaviors from multiple sources. No details given. Evaluate for yourself.Victoria, AustraliaOngoing
1/27/2014 9:30:2032609ShystallionSevereI had told him specifically that Age play could not be sexual. He said he could do it. I felt safe because I didnt know better at the time, but I slipped into little space. We played and it was okay at first. When bed time came around I went to go to sleep and about an hour later woke up to him unbuttoning my onsie, my wrists in his other hand and him telling me to shush cause mommy could hear.
Luckily, and the only time i ever say luckily for a trigger, I was triggered and slammed my forehead against his, which resulted in a split in my forehead [i have a scar now] and his and I managed to get away.

When [name redacted] and him had relationship he ignored her 'No sex' hard limit she had at the time and raped her while she was in such a deep subspace she couldnt talk and say no.

hes a fucking monster.
Baltimore, MD2013
1/27/2014 13:21:45200595DNightwalkerModerateTrolls and harasses people relentlessly without provocation. Do yourself a favor and preemptively block him. Interact with him at your own risk.fetlifeOngoing
1/27/2014 22:50:442629086MsRikkiTsSevereI was with someone who I shale refer to as BS, she was supposed to be the DM at this event, I had negotiated a scene with one person who I had observed as being OK for my tastes, The MSRIKKITS came to attend later. MSRIKKITS had previously threatened to do physical harm to me. During the scene, it became evident that another person had joined the scene. It was the close friend to the person who I negotiated with. So I consented even though my consent had already been violated, then things got crazy, and at some point I felt like I was hit with a baseball bat. I stopped the scene shortly after. I found out later that BS the DM had gotten into the scene as well as a bunch of other people, and the person who hit me so hard I felt like I was hit with a bat was MSRIKKITS the person who had previously threatened assault (followed thru on prior threat). I brought it up to the DM the next day and the group leader and was treated like shit.

So basically it came down to this, my consent was violated first by the second person to join the scene I who I had not negotiated with, and then by the free for all that followed, and by MSRIKKITS who used it as an opportunity to make good on the prior thread made to bring harm to me.

So I took my case public on fetlife without naming names after waking up the morning following my return home barely able to walk, turns out that baseball bat type assault done by msrikkits had cracked a pelvic bone according to the doc.

Soon afterwards I began receive threatening phone calls from BS. I was later contacted by another fetlife user, who had said they had to start a new profile because they had a similar experience involving some of these same people who are in the groups local to savannah ga area, and was hurt, and when they complained to the DM and the group leader they began receiving death threats.

Since then there has been some crazy shit happening in the area with these same people and groups, it appears multiple people outing people, people posting on fetlife threats like with words like "my glock" and such things in the content (veiled threats), threats of lawyers, police and you name it, from many people against many it seems (it's really hard to tell who its aimed at on FL).

The whole BDSM scene in the area seems out of control and dangerous. I certainly won't be doing anything with these people anymore. It's only a matter of time before something really bad happens to someone as a result of this out of control BDSM culture in the area.
Ludowici, Ga2013, around september
1/27/2014 22:53:24469658Brandie_ShoresModerateWas the DM where I was assaulted during a scene by someone who made a prior threat to bring harm to me who had entered a free for all that was in itself a consent violation the DM should have stopped as the scene had been negotiated with only one person.Ludowici, Ga2013, around september
1/29/2014 12:19:561930501fungurlhhiSevereBelow is a letter she has sent to several groups

ungurlhhi: 12h
You should let Jay know that he may expect the possibility of becoming a party to a law suit.

The only reason I did not take action against rikki and jay and brandie for what happened at his place was because I have a family member who has no exposure to the BDSM community and wanted to keep it that way.

But since brandie has threatened me with a lawsuit for expressing my criicism of you guys, that in effect would force that exposure upon this family member. This removing the barrier that kept me from acting in the first place.

So b------ has essentually forced my hand.

Remember BDSM is considered an illegal activity is most states, and universally every time consent was raised in claims of harm as a defense the courts have ruled that no one can consent to abuse.

You can expect me to bring the entire GA BDSM community into this since all the groups essentually share the same members into this lawsuit. J-- can also expect the base commanders from the nearby military bases to get furlough records requests as part of discovery since several military personel attended the event held at his house.

Keep in mind I know all the locations of every playhouse and what info I don't have will be able to obtain from the discovery process. And thus everyone involved in the community can expect to be publically named as part of this process.

I have already contacted the state police and a local newspaper concerning my knowledge of several police officers being active participants in the BDSM community. And thus have named Detective ------ gates in such tips.

I have no qualms about bringing the entire BDSM community in Georgia into the public view thru litigation and any other means. I could care less if the fallout from the public exposure means some people might lose jobs and worse, You guys brought this on yourselves.

Have a good day.....
Ludowici GaMarch 2013
1/30/2014 10:55:133002705chimetime, chimericaldreamsModerateThis person used two accounts to repeatedly harass, threaten, and insult me by PM after his post was removed from one of the groups I moderate.Detroit MIJanuary, 2014
1/30/2014 10:56:033147189ChimericalDreamsModerateThis person used two accounts to repeatedly harass, threaten, and insult me by PM after his post was removed from one of the groups I moderate.Detroit MIJanuary, 2014
2/2/2014 6:12:501415571MoushtieSevereThe first time that I met Moushtie at The Loft in Hudds she got really touchy with me without asking. I later met a woman who claimed to have been sexually assaulted by Moushtie 16 years previously when she was at college, in similar circumstances, and that this has happened a number of times since then. Moushtie is a huge woman who could overpower most women and her partner is even bigger. Moushtie appeared to lose interest with me when she found a 19 year old girl with mental health problems who she believed herself to be protecting because she was vulnerable, and rather predictably her and her partner than started playing with this girl. Very creepy and not to be trusted.Huddersfield, UK2013
2/3/2014 1:19:182184219LickfeetgirlsSevereThis man has harassed, stalked, and threatened with bodily harm dozens of females in the SE Michigan area. He is considered dangerous and psychotic by many he has come in contact with.SE Michigan2013 and 2014
2/4/2014 11:10:063017096Golfer13ModerateSends frequent and harassing sexual messages, used sock puppets to continue sending messages even after blocked. Colorado Springs, ColoradoOngoing
2/6/2014 15:07:332265332RentonBasquiatModeratePreys on new females in the scene, tries to snatch them away from other doms if they have one. Very reserved demeanor. Validates himself by criticizing others constantly. Touts his 20 years of experience at least once every conversation. Very self-important borderline delusions of grandeur. Operates on the sly.Baltimore, Maryland2013-2014
2/7/2014 0:04:41199853TymkeeprMinorTymkeeper, by her own admission, has outed people in the community (see journal entry "Contemplations"). She and her husband (spectrum153) are known to have an "open" relationship but she will become possessive of partners whom she is with, resulting in nasty demeaning private messages and fetlife comments (stalker/aggressive/nosey behavior) to you because you are also associated with her current sleeping partner. Also, by her own admission (see journal entry "High Road") there was an incident that resulted in "accusations," "loss of reputation," "we all make errors in judgement," that has appeared to split her local community or at least has caused someone distress with persons taking sides.Knoxville, TennesseeOver the years
2/9/2014 17:55:05150963RenaissanceManModerateThis individual obviously has significant issues which make him a clear and present danger to those around him. Review for reference: Rica2/4/2014
2/9/2014 22:31:012132625passionswirlSevereHe's an abuser who doesn't adhere to boundaries and limits (soft or hard). If you try to safe word out or even say no to something you're not comfortable with he doesn't care and will continue anyway. Has no concept of aftercare, let alone any thought of emotional well-being for whomever he plays with. Over all, he's nothing more than a child with a flogger and has the mindset of being a Dom means he can do whatever he pleases without having to adhere to anything that is safe, sane and consensual. Shawnee KSMay-June
2/10/2014 17:12:57387343JayRichmndSevereThis guy messages young submissive females with the offer of doing a free photo shoot for them. Then during the shoot he molests and pressures the girls into doing things that were not discussed before handSeattle, Washington2013
2/10/2014 19:40:07387343JayRichmndSevereMolested a model during a photoshoot. Asked her to masturbate in front of him and stroked her while she was posing.Seattle, WA2013
2/11/2014 19:43:272645341Rough2tumbleModerateThis woman is insane. She's a child in the body of an adult and enjoys toying around with men. She's a whore who's has HSV.

She manipulates people to get her way, and is NOT to be trusted. Now, she doesn't have the best life, but you should NOT give her sympathy. She'll take that sympathy and choke you with it.

She dated my friend for a couple months, the one time they had sex she faked a pregnancy on him, and cheated on him with multiple men.
BothellFall 2012, when she was in high school
2/12/2014 12:30:512760357A80j81MinorThis person is NOT a female, but a male trying to line up two females for a 3-some.SE MichiganFebruary 2014
2/14/2014 11:09:111187336lostdModerateSends inappropriate videos and messages to outside email accounts. Sends harassing messages.New YorkFebruary 2014
2/14/2014 13:23:322822768Jack_ShadowSevereYet another incarnation of Rausche/Rausch/RSCH who I understand has now been reported to the police by his ex after a 9 month campaign of hacking and harassment. Leeds, UK2012-present
2/15/2014 7:13:023184064Rausche_AgainSevereThis guy has more socks than Primark! See previous entries for Rausche, Rausch, _RSCH_ and Jack_ShadowWest Yorkshire2012-present
2/16/2014 15:08:322911049Daddy-longlegsSevereNew account of Wren27, previously entered here for repeated severe instances of abuse.Atlanta, GeorgiaJuly 2012--March 2013
2/16/2014 15:24:072016072CLAMSAUCESevereThis man is a complete and total fake who collects young and inexperienced submissives and uses them for sex and to collect other young naive women for sex. He does not claim ANY of his relationships on his page, but you can find multiple references to them on his comments.SE MichiganFebruary 2014
2/16/2014 17:32:07713444ninjayellowSevereThis assclown posted the following:
"This is for absolutely fucking everybody on this whole site. Copy and paste, write it down, do whatever you have to do: LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE! DO NOT CONTACT ME IN ANY WAY - LOSE MY INFO, ERASE EVERY TRACE OF ME PLEASE!! I AM NOT FUCKING INTERESTED IN ANYONE OR ANYTHING OTHER THAN MY WIFE AND MY MARRIAGE!! Did you understand me this hundredth millionth time?!? I DON'T WANT YOU - NEVER DID, NEVER WILL, SO JUST GO AWAY! I am VERY happy with my beautiful wife and my fabulous marriage and life in general. We just had an absolutely fantastic Valentine's weekend and I intend to make every day with her Valentine's - forever!"
after soliciting ims from females to his yahoo account.
2/17/2014 17:20:1493614SilkSevereHe rustled my jimmies. :/ Baltimore, MD2012
2/17/2014 21:26:27613708somethingnotSevereFailure to disclose STD status until after sex, blatant disrespect for hard limits, lied about age (is 34 as of 2014), attends parties exclusively for female-identified people yet does not identify as such. NONCONSENSUAL emotional sadist. Montreal, QC2013
2/18/2014 0:30:38182685portmanteauSevereCurrent leader of the South Bay TNG group. Uses the munch as his personal poaching ground for female partners. Females that he has taken an interest in can depend on being isolated and monopolized at every opportunity, with any person you show interest in that isn't him being actively talked down. Males that either allow him first choice or don't register as a threat to him and his prospects are tolerated. Males that do register as a threat to his dating pool are talked down to and chased away if possible. Verbally abusive of others, uses his position in the community to get away with it. San Jose, CAOngoing
2/18/2014 6:29:04722448FerretRaver SevereThis Landwhale is the biggest drama queen, hate mongering liar I have ever seen in my life. Fails to reveal her STDs only to reveal it after sex. She claims to be "curvy," and her pictures are as old as prehistory. Be careful with her because when you talk to her, your life will be posted in her hanemongering groups. Beware of the drama, STD and privacy infractions.
She changes her name every now and then.
Lowell, Massachusetts, United StatesFebruary 15th and 16rh, 2014
2/18/2014 10:37:242590127skull540SevereThis is one sick son of a bitch. Avoid him at all costs. He has posted autopsy photos of nude people with their bodies sliced open and dead infants without regard for their human dignity or the feelings of their families/friends should they come across such horror.
This guy is probably looking for someone to skin and make lampshades out of.
Grand Rapids, MI, FetlifeFebruary 2014
2/19/2014 18:48:5193614SilkMinorUp above are all things likely written by predators Silk has called out or people he has called out for facilitating predators. All of the accounts for his events have been marked with other untrue statements such as he is a sex offender in California. He's a dick, but hardly a predator.BaltimoreNever
2/19/2014 18:51:341383824TheGoldenTetherMinorAbove statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :pNowhereNever
2/19/2014 18:52:241229084Wicked_MenagerieSevereAbove statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :pNowhereNever
2/19/2014 18:53:361241976Misfits_CabaretMinorAbove statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :pNowhereNever
2/19/2014 18:54:171324409TheNerdgasmSevereAbove statement likely written by a sexual predator outted or a venue he called our for facilitating predators. Silk is not nor has ever been a sex offender anywhere. He's just offensive. :pNowhereNever
2/19/2014 18:59:31845742PrincessDeeBSevereLikes to write false allegations on people's walls for calling her out for holding events at a known predator's (DarthVapor) home.Baltimore, MDNovember 1st, 2013
2/19/2014 21:17:44362448BayAreaVikingSevereHas violated explicitly stated boundaries during a scene, resulting in the boundary-setter getting badly hurt.

Has also spoken of plans to get several girls drunk so he can rape them.

2110 Santa Clara Avenue, Alameda, CAWithin the last 6 months
2/20/2014 13:16:592181076MayaOutLoudMinorThis individual has been known to believe that she has called a safe word but witnesses to the event attest that no safe word was called. This individual knowingly exposed multiple partners to scabies, which they caught from her. This individual agreed to certain types of public non sexual play and then months later turned on the play partner and expressed how she was violated. This individual posted on her profile about the things her ex's did and called it 'abuse' when it was a mutual relationship in which things went wrong simply due to poor communication. Please be careful if you play with Maya. Ensure that you take things slowly and have witnesses.Orlando/Daytona/Jacksonville2013
2/23/2014 6:48:12980216-Locked-in-LatexMinorHer quote: It's the most important part of the Bimbo lifestyle! using guys as your source of income (I didn't get to the position I am today by being shy about it ;) i've got plenty of girlfriends that do the same. as soon as the money has fried up, they are on to the next guy that can afford the surgery, otherwise we'd all be stuck with poor losers ya knowfetlife23/02/2014
2/28/2014 7:09:443064499briebrie12Moderate"Brie" here is a very smooth Catfish. She and I progressed to talking on the phone, which is when the real time-sucking started. Her back-story: Allegedly, she's single, 19, and just fled 2,000 miles from a sadomasochistic 50+ year old faculty member at her high school in California (where the legal age of consent is 18) who impregnated her at 16, beat her unconscious until she miscarried at 17 (necessitating a hysterectomy), and then brutally anally raped her after that as a last act of violation before breaking up with her...get the idea? To continue, she's allegedly now living in a small town in NC, alone in a duplex house/apartment not far from her uncle/aunt's home. She's 'desperately yearning' for a relationship with an older man who won't abuse her or violate her trust this time around. And she's child-free, but she often babysits for her next-door neighbor's two little kids, which she offers for an explanation as to why children can sometimes be heard in the background....well, 20+ hours of phone calls later, I received a late-night phone call from a guy who said, "This is Brie's fiance. I don't know who you are or how you got her number, but I want you to stop making harassing calls to my girl, otherwise I'll have to get law enforcement involved." I had one more conversation with Brie after that, and she had the audacity to continue to deny having a boyfriend or fiance! And she said that she guessed that her cousin had gotten my phone number out of her phone and prank-called me. Yeah, right. After that, the next time I looked at her profile, I was blocked. I never spoke with her again. So, that's the story. Now, is there anything that can be done to prevent this engaged woman (who probably has kids) from wasting the time of other well-meaning men on Fetlife?Western North Carolina and telephoneLate January & early February 2014
3/2/2014 11:10:33243491BallsofSteelModerateIs not someone I would recommend anyone play with. Please read Angeles3/1/2014
3/4/2014 13:01:171353228JackpotsMinordoes not look like his photo, gained weight and starting to thin up top. dropped off the face of the earth after he texted incessantly wo even a polite "no thanks," and started pursuing a friendarlington, vafebruary 2014
3/4/2014 13:02:362405823RichInDCSeveredouchebag. I was home sick one day and randomly started chatting with him. Convo went:
Him: what are you doing today?
Me: I'm sick with the flu and a horrible fever
Him: Mmmmmm lets meet tonight

Yeah... I really want to get out of bed with a 102 fever to go suck your dick. LOSER.
arlington, va2013
3/4/2014 13:05:301270140dk2201ModerateDjk75248 5 minute convo, our interests aren't compatible, I'm a cunt who needs therapy.
Seriously!! Dlk75248 sent me a perfectly nice, respectful message a few months ago. I responded nice and respectfully. Then he asked if we could talk on Skype, I said no I don't use Skype, and he got super rude, told me he didn't want any "email buddies" and then blocked me.
Hahaha OMG I got PM from dk2201 (formerly djk75248) yesterday and we chatted a bit. He insisted that we met in person but I told him he had to wait until we got to know each other well enough and established some trust. Then he went mad and called me a crazy bitch hahahahaha
vafeb 2014
3/4/2014 13:07:523197087DCAM0122Severehe likes to hide cameras!! I was recorded 5 years ago and didn't know it!
Posts videos of you w your name wo permission trying to ruin your relationship
philadelphia, pajan 2014
3/5/2014 4:30:472779043CountKristoffSevereLied about being married repeatedly to several different people.

Also hid other personal things from others.
3/5/2014 4:34:121158090Tai-DachiSevereBagged a naive and possibly learning disabled sub. Took photos and was otherwise distracted. Is also known to be epileptic. This was done without a spotter.

3/5/2014 20:05:221389565princessfifiSevereHot as sin, yet morally flawless. Victoria, AustraliaOngoing
3/6/2014 10:37:451716784maymaySevereI have this guy (maymay) on block. After several interactions when he crossed my boundaries, after reading up on what other women have written about him, and after seeing his interactions with other women who are uncomfortable with him, I believe he’s an abuser who uses his position as a “consent expert” to build authority. These are the really scary ones.multiple locationsmultiple occasions
3/6/2014 13:27:41137878speedhunter925ModerateEvery time I go to a TNG event Steve touches me or grabs my ass or gropes my tits even though I've told him I don't want him to. I've asked him not to, and talked to his wife stacia too, and she tells me that's just the way he is. The people in charge like Towt/Jake and Night refused to do anything too, and told me he's a leader and respected and no one would listen to me. He's also older than the age allowed for TNG but they let him in anyway.Denver Sactuary, Denver, COTNG parties throughout 2013 and 2014
3/7/2014 0:03:501716784maymaySevere

Maymay (Meitar Moscovitz) insisted that children should be allowed to attend a kinky sex and BDSM (Bondage,Discipline, and Sadomasochism) event called KinkforAll. Last year, Moscovitz tried to hold one of his KinkforAll events in a high school in Maryland.

Moscovitz wants to attract teens to his events. He wants to provide youth – including minors –with information about fetishes, bondage and sadomasochism. He believes that children should be allowed full access to sexual materials and activities. He characterizes legal attempts to protect children from sexual ideas, images and materials as “sexual adultism,” a form of oppression of children. Moscovitz has publicly stated “I strongly disagree with any move to make anything, including any age, a barrier that prevents anyone from choosing for themselves whether or not they want information such as that shared at a KinkForAll event.

Before a KinkforAll event, they discuss how to recruit children. They suggest contacting youth and Planned Parenthood organizations seeking access to their peer-to-peer high school sex educators.

Five days before the Providence KinkforAll, Moscovitz sent out a twitter call asking for examples where “college-aged and younger youth successfully fought for stuff they want, especially sex education.” In other online discussions, Moscovitz strategizes with others about how to contact children. One conversation discusses how children often go to libraries after school to use the computer

According to Moscovitz, children have attended previous KinkforAll events. One person asked him how he would respond to a hypothetical nine-year-old coming to a KinkforAll event. He wrote: I would walk to that boy and say, "Hi. My name is May. What are you looking for?"
unconferenceMar 2010- ongoing
3/7/2014 15:42:30137878speedhunter925SevereDuring a humiliation scene he shaved my head even though I never said that was ok. I lost my job and my family was pissed at me. It wasn't anything we'd ever negotiated and he and his wife and the other girl they were with told me that if I didn't want them to do it I should have told them it wasn't ok when we negotiated but I didn't even know it was something they would do. i was a mess and looked like a cancer victem for weeks.his housenovember 2012
3/8/2014 11:57:582673876ffoenix81MinorHad a cockshot as an avatar. In an unrelated pm conversation, drew my attention to it. Then posted two more cockshots "just for me" (after previously talking about his wife...). Protested it was supposed to be cute and funny, not creepy. Fetlife3/6/2014
3/8/2014 13:26:292994709Long_Haul_FuckerSevereI heard from a reliable source that he is a wife abuser and rapist. He often does not get consent and if provoked flies off the handle. Breaks most every rule in the book. He plays drunk and one time angrily beat and raped his wife in an out-of-control situation without negotiation or consent. She said "no" but he continued so he could "teach her a lesson". He continues lurk in the local Portland scene and unfortunately has his wife convinced it is part of her marriage duties. Also it is a pretty safe bet he does not use condoms unless he has to, as this is part of his impregnation fetish. Portland OregonJanuary 2014
3/8/2014 16:29:44141840Domina_ElleSeverethis woman is a dangerous person she is one of the last members of the waco koresh branch davidians -- she practices as a sex worker in colorado and has been known to be violent and abusive on more than one occasion she is a mentally unstable person with a history of drug abuse and violence do not do business with her and for godssake do not allow her to tie you up, she is a dangers person a liar and a thief.

Denver, ColoradoNumerous occasions
3/10/2014 9:14:0348490DSCrossModerateHe once negotiated a needle scene with me and one of his partners, and told me it would be safe and that there was almost no risk, and that he knew what he was doing. but then he used a pair of dirty pliers to bend needles without cleaning them and used the same needle on myself and others even though we weren't fluid bonded and didn't even know each other. it wasn't until later that someone who saw what he was doing explained the dangers in playing that way that i knew what was wrong. Cross told me it was completely safe and that i had nothing to worry about, but after talking to real experts i know he was lying.Denver SanctuaryJuly 2012 TNG play party
3/10/2014 9:20:55444349Sestra_MaeMinorShe's mean. She tells lies about people she doesn't like and gets them banned from events using her boyfriends clout. One time she got me banned because the girl she had a crush on started dating me and she got jealous. When I talked to the event organizers to explain the situation they understood and let us in, and Sestra stopped us and started yelling and cussing at us and even pushed my girlfriend who was the girl she had a crush on because she woulldn't leave me.Denver, Colorado1/18/2014
3/10/2014 18:21:0362061dgermaineSevereSent an explicit message to my propperty.FetlifeMarch 10th, 2014
3/10/2014 21:02:3819377CircleOfLightMinorShe has been raped and if her story is true, this is very unfortunate, but she has taken it upon herself to spread rumors of boundary violations and vague allegations of "predatory" behavior. She also makes agreements with people and then goes back on her word (I have seen this myself), which sadly lends me to doubt her rape story's accuracy. Minnesota, Oregon2009-2013
3/11/2014 22:12:343139995MMasonMinorUSELESS & UNGRATEFUL

For some reason, expects community leaders to vet her offers of taxi service and free event entries because she doesn't want to do it herself. She also doesn't want to post her own personal ads and wants strangers to do that for her as well.
Victoria, AustraliaMarch, 2014
3/12/2014 6:19:27350672OhMarieSevereHas HPV (Human papillomavirus) but does not reveal the fact that she is infected with play partners before hand. Has taken to out right lying about being infected because she now "uses condoms and there is no chance anyone could catch it from her".
Falls ChurchSince 2011
3/12/2014 11:40:181400108ScarletRanchSevereThey employ a known rapist and abuser to teach many of their BDSM classes. He's groomed victims from those classes and assaulted them in club. If someone complains they're told to keep quiet, and if they don't, they're kicked out. He's done this to 14 women so far.Scarlet Ranch, Highlands Ranch, COOngoing
3/12/2014 19:36:5799181_Sirreal_SevereNot stable.
Violates consent, But doesn't appear to be aware he is doing so.
When confronted becomes irrational, believes he is the victim.
3/13/2014 11:29:422405823RichInDCMinorOk, so i lied about the last "Abuse Report" I'm just pissed he won't see me anymore. After all, no one ever reads these things anyway? Right?

Abuse report 1 (3/4/2014 13:02:36):
arlington, va
douchebag. I was home sick one day and randomly started chatting with him. Convo went:
Him: what are you doing today?
Me: I'm sick with the flu and a horrible fever
Him: Mmmmmm lets meet tonight

Yeah... I really want to get out of bed with a 102 fever to go suck your dick. LOSER.
Arlington, VA3/12/2014
3/13/2014 11:30:102405823RichInDCMinorOk, so i lied about the last "Abuse Report" I'm just pissed he won't see me anymore. After all, no one ever reads these things anyway? Right?

Abuse report 1 (3/4/2014 13:02:36):
arlington, va
douchebag. I was home sick one day and randomly started chatting with him. Convo went:
Him: what are you doing today?
Me: I'm sick with the flu and a horrible fever
Him: Mmmmmm lets meet tonight

Yeah... I really want to get out of bed with a 102 fever to go suck your dick. LOSER.
Arlington, VA3/12/2014
3/13/2014 16:44:302288417TucsonCOUPLEMinorThis is a page that belongs to a couple, male and female. They started a discussion on a local board about wanting sex within the next day from someone, about how they are sick of people are all talk and no action, and that there is no need for discussion. Just sex! I told them how creepy they are coming across, that they are not entitled to sex, and that they should actually put something in their profile (it was completely blank). They sent me a private message saying that I'm a troll, rapist, creeper, child molester, that I should be ashamed, and that I am a nobody who will amount to nothing. They then reported every message I wrote on all the discussion boards that I had on that day, even if they were not involved in the discussion itself they reported me. I almost got temporarily suspended from Fet because of them. Obviously they are just looking for sex and probably have some serious diseases. Tucson Local Discussion Board3/10/2014
3/14/2014 12:40:56818513VicRopesSevereHe tied up a friend of mine and sold photos of her naked on the internet without her consent. He talked about how he was a master of shibari and would give her photos for her modeling portfolio, but then tied her up and cut her underwear off and took a bunch of sexually explicit shots, and even masturbated on her all without her permission. he then sold the photos on his site and used some in his profile. She left the state because she was so embarassed.February 2013Denver, Co
3/14/2014 21:34:413025386friskyxbabydollModerateNewly "collared and owned" every other week. Uses her nubile wiles to use men for their money and to buy her expensive shoes. Not a submissive, just an attention whore.DC2013
3/14/2014 21:36:493025386friskyxbabydollSevereself:
Weren't you just recently considered, collared, and owned in a matter of days and you're already looking again?

I'm completely horrendous at baby steps.
DCfebruary 2014
3/14/2014 21:41:243025386friskyxbabydollSevere

Subject: I'm SAD

Downtown, District of Columbia
written 14 days ago:
That I had not seen your profile prior to consenting to be owned by someone who is missing 24/7.

ME 37M
Dupont Circle, District of Columbia
written 13 days ago:
Poor baby!

Downtown, District of Columbia
written 13 days ago:
:( Save me?

Downtown, District of Columbia
written 13 days ago:
I can trade fun photos off of FL because he forbade me to post anymore (they apparently were too popular. ;)

Also, how much $$$$ do you make?
DCjan 2014
3/14/2014 21:43:523025386friskyxbabydollSevereYoung 19yo
Fairfax, Virginia
written about 1 hour ago:
Well you've definitely struck a chord with me. I love a strong yet nerdy man; someone intelligent and powerful. Very nice profile.

Me: Haha! Nerdy, huh? I've never been described as nerdy before.

Young 19yo
Fairfax, Virginia
written 9 minutes ago:
Nerdy makes me flirty AND dirty ;) It's a compliment. Okay ignore my lame puns.

Me: I’m far from nerdy, sorry. More of a bully. I'm a lawyer which makes me an asshole.

Young 19yo
Fairfax, Virginia
written 3 minutes ago:
If you're such an asshole, why don't you just blatantly tell me to fuck of rather than trying to convince me that you don't wanna pound my hot, young pussy?

Me: Pound you? Sorry dear. I’m attached & you wrote me. Also, I think you meant – fuck off, right? Fuck off.

Young 19yo
Fairfax, Virginia
new message
written less than a minute ago:
Attached is bullshit. Have fun with that, asshole.
DCjan 2014
3/15/2014 7:24:04632075Thanatos_ModerateTook nude photos of a hung-over just turned 18 year old (who had gotten drunk while 17) as well as had her text an unknown person to come have sex with her in a hotel.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- (likely taken down by now)
Excerpts from this post (that was accompanied by photos):

Confirmed her age by her driver's license... still in high school, although it was definitely her 18th birthday. Young? Yes. Legal? DEFINITELY!
... Her friends decided to throw a party for her Friday evening before her birthday legally started...Was supposed to pick her up at 9am ~ at 3am, woke up to a text message from her... she was completely blotto. Hammered. Falling down drunk. Her friends had done their best to drink her unconscious...In reality, she had already played at Club Sesso, while she was 17 years old. Not on my watch, however. Young? Yes. Sweet and innocent? Not hardly...Her "anonymous stranger" was out of town, at the Oregon coast, over 100 miles away for the weekend. She was then instructed to keep asking (texting) this complete stranger to come fuck her until she got him to agree to it.
Monarch Hotel2011
3/15/2014 21:08:4220949DollCreatorSevereFAKEDCMarch, 2014
3/16/2014 21:02:213058414whoredujourSevereThis woman told me she would attack me if I came to a public event held in a local bar. Wash DC3/16/2014
3/16/2014 21:19:071299285FetishTasTeamModerateOften used by Sirreal to communicate.
And open 'discussion' about incidents.

This is not a group account.
3/17/2014 9:18:15613708somethingnotSevereMental abuse (gaslighting, pseudologia fantastica)Ottawa, Ontario2010
3/17/2014 16:45:312259360AHS_AuctionSevereSteer clear of these asshats. These people are not about education, it is all about your wallet. Don't give them any personal information as they can't be trusted to keep it secret. Their OC changes hands like Paris Hilton changes boyfriends. They personally attack other groups in the area and try to put them out of business. Try to ask them about their financials and they will boot you. They lie about where charity money is going, all they care about is getting your money. Kansas City, MOJanuary
3/17/2014 16:48:132259360AHS_AuctionSevereSteer clear of these asshats. These people are not about education, it is all about your wallet. Don't give them any personal information as they can't be trusted to keep it secret. Their OC changes hands like Paris Hilton changes boyfriends. They personally attack other groups in the area and try to put them out of business. Try to ask them about their financials and they will boot you. They lie about where charity money is going, all they care about is getting your money.Kansas City, MOJanuary
3/17/2014 16:48:352691252AHS-EventsSevereSteer clear of these asshats. These people are not about education, it is all about your wallet. Don't give them any personal information as they can't be trusted to keep it secret. Their OC changes hands like Paris Hilton changes boyfriends. They personally attack other groups in the area and try to put them out of business. Try to ask them about their financials and they will boot you. They lie about where charity money is going, all they care about is getting your money.Kansas City, MOJanuary
3/19/2014 20:51:34801408TortureCrucifyWhipMinorI went to a munch and he was there as well. He gave his card to my friend to give to me, instead of just coming up to me to talk. So being polite I emailed him to tell him I'm not interested.
His reply was just flat out weird. He told me that I'm wrong because he has ESP and knows that I want him and that he can hypnotize me. I had to tell him no very sternly several times before he stopped emailing me.
I checked his reputation among the community and it turns out that he is super sketchy. He has made two profiles on Fet (I'll post the other, MasterSeth, just to be careful) because the other profile had such a bad reputation that he decided to make a new one that won't have the bad reputation.
Tucson, AZ Local3/13/2014
3/19/2014 20:53:53140998MasterSethMinorI went to a munch and he was there as well. He gave his card to my friend to give to me, instead of just coming up to me to talk. So being polite I emailed him to tell him I'm not interested.
His reply was just flat out weird. He told me that I'm wrong because he has ESP and knows that I want him and that he can hypnotize me. I had to tell him no very sternly several times before he stopped emailing me.
I checked his reputation among the community and it turns out that he is super sketchy. He has made two profiles on Fet (I'll post the other, TortureCrucifyWhip, just to be careful) because the other profile had such a bad reputation that he decided to make a new one that won't have the bad reputation.
Tucson, AZ3/13/2014
3/20/2014 14:10:323191643greenfromspaceModerateHe doesn't respect boundaries around safer sex, or stated limits. Also a trans chaser and creepy about it.

Also, engages in kink while high... which I consider unsafe but YMMV.
Attleboro, MAjuly
3/20/2014 15:04:483025386friskyxbabydollSevereGold diggerWashington, DCJanuary
3/21/2014 11:15:441269792SurrealSaDiabloModerateRefused to ban a man that she knew to be a serial abuser/mentalist/harassment artist from the Library munch, which she runs, because 'It could look like drama'.Leeds, EnglandMid 2013
3/22/2014 11:53:291353228JackpotsSevereThis man is a pedophile. He talked to me about getting me pregnant and then I would teach our underage daughter to service him. Example: I can imagine you putting my huge cock in her tiny mouth for the first time. You would hold my balls while I push in...arlington, vaMarch, 2014
3/22/2014 13:04:232012038snakecharmer86SevereThis user entered an active scene and hit a girl with a riding crop w/o checking if it was ok. Woodbridge, VA3/15/2014
3/23/2014 20:14:413018846littleBitchGrlSevereThis person is psychotic and extremely unstable. "She" rants and raves all day long about "I kicked that person's ass" "I'm going to kick this other person's ass" "I'll kill everyone in that hospital" "I was trained to kick ass and kill" and even "I pulled a gun out at a bank".
"She" just nearly attacked me over a disagreement over a matter of fact that is easily fixable by looking something up in a dictionary.
Seattle, WA8pm, March 23, 2014
3/25/2014 4:32:561350630happileaMinorPathological liar who will make up incredibly audacious and shocking stories regardless of the possible consequences of those for other people.HuddersfieldJanuary 2014
3/25/2014 4:56:211154936BirchwoodSevereI was in a relationship with this guy for 4 or 5 months last year, he is an unsafe player who frequently hits on joints, he likes single tails which he does not have the skill to control, and regularly makes 'mistakes' where he violates hard limits, then apologizes profusely afterwards, just to give himself an opportunity to do it again, and again. Frequents Exodus where he knows there is a constant stream of naive young fresh meat.Birmingham, West MidlandsFebruary-June 2013
3/25/2014 12:16:191310337RauscheSevereDane Robinson in real life. A pathetic and irrelevant individual who has been plaguing the West Yorkshire scene with a sock department bigger than Marks & Spencers. Harassment, threats, stalking, hacking you name it he has done it.West Yorkshire2012-present
3/25/2014 12:26:203184064Rausche_AgainSevereDane Robinson in real life. A pathetic and irrelevant individual who has been plaguing the West Yorkshire scene with a sock department bigger than Marks & Spencers. Harassment, threats, stalking, hacking you name it he has done itWest Yorkshire2012-present
3/25/2014 12:27:362822768Jack_ShadowSevereDane Robinson in real life. A pathetic and irrelevant individual who has been plaguing the West Yorkshire scene with a sock department bigger than Marks & Spencers. Harassment, threats, stalking, hacking you name it he has done itWest Yorkshire2012-present
3/25/2014 12:29:023044742SaturdaySocialSevereDane Robinson in real life. A pathetic and irrelevant individual who has been plaguing the West Yorkshire scene with a sock department bigger than Marks & Spencers. Harassment, threats, stalking, hacking you name it he has done itWest Yorkshire2012-present
3/25/2014 15:13:221324860_faelanSevereThis bitch is not a high protocol girl. She doesn't even know what that means.

She was all over my Master online and didn't give a shit how I felt about it. Further more, she went behind me back and was talking about meeting Him offline.

She made it very obvious she wanted to get into His pants and pulled Him out of rooms where He and I were talking.

Don't let her anywhere near anyone you care about!
Alt.comApril 2013
3/25/2014 15:20:183017009Shy_Lil_RedheadSevereFake. Disappears, never to be heard from again. And I'm fairly certain she did it to a friend of mine, too.OnlineDecember 2013
3/25/2014 19:56:02713606odaxelagnia_ModerateLies about their physical disability then verbally abuses you over anything they can think of because you are unimpressed with their lies. Spams mailboxes with abusive letters then blocks you so you can't answer. Just block and don't worry about.Online3/24/2014
3/26/2014 15:38:19221049Captain_HookSevereIt's not really a consent violation, but this guy is insanely violent. He took me on a date with his girlfriend, who was super timid, and wouldn't talk without asking permission, and flinched every time he moved. I think he beats her or something. But during the date on the 16th st mall, a bum panhandled for some change and I gave him a couple bucks and Clint came out of nowhere and started hitting and kicking the guy, and even started poking him with his hook hand thing. It was fucking horrible and I started screaming and when he didn't stop I tried yelling for help, but no one came. I refused to go home with him, even though he drove me there and I had to spend 60$ on a cab because he left me stranded there. Downtown Denver, ColoradoFebruary 28, 2014 9pm
3/26/2014 19:02:573058414illybangSevereShe has one of the hottest asses aroundDC3/26/2012
3/26/2014 22:36:03349270MaisonValmontSevere MaisonValmont asked for advice on the best way to sell the virginity of a woman who has turned 18 just days ago.

"Toward this end I have considered that an "auctioning" of her virginity... I would be most interested to get you counsel on how best to accomplish this." MaisonValmont then asks if a bid between $800k and 3.8 mill would be appropriate.
3/27/2014 10:22:351830503PunkPornModerateThis is more a "beware these glaring red flags" report than a consent violation (but closer to a consent violation than all the reports on here basically calling a bunch of women mean jealous bitches who aren't really bisexual or don't understand steampunk - lol - or whatever). The biggest red flag, I think, is that he brought up having worked for a sexual assault crisis service as though this was a testament to his good character, when I have a little too much knowledge of the ways those sorts of services and that sort of advocacy draws in predators looking for victims, and so I don't think it is appropriate for a rape fetishist of the perpetrator variety to work or volunteer for those things. The other red flags basically amount to him changing his story about himself - his age, his appearance, his location (though it is the same general area), his fetishes. He does not list a lot of his fetishes, including a number of them which run to the very extreme and which he says he has done before, so why aren't they listed? Boulder COSpring 2014
3/29/2014 9:10:34786032evilstalkerSevereKnown rapist and manipulator. Serial fucker (which there is nothing inherently wrong with that, but he treats every FWB like she is in a committed relationship and when she doesn't comply can get very hot headed). Is on a frenzy. Likes to make light of his stalker image but his habits are downright chilling. Has a very bad anger streak and is a whiner. Used to be a bodybuilder so I suppose that plays into it. Has left several women damaged and scarred. Hangs out at sex clubs a lot and is also fond of "friend collecting" any female he sees who might want to fuck.Portland OregonOngoing
3/29/2014 9:14:5743823SinistreMinorWas raped, abused and was also taken advantage of severely, so I feel the violation is minor, however, the bottom line is, she did NOT use her safeword despite by her own admission several hours went by.
New Orleans, LAAugust 2013
3/29/2014 9:17:02113235GiraSevereRead the account here:

Renegotiated mid scene to enable penetration which was a hard limit using manipulative tactics.

New Orleans, LAAugust 2013
3/30/2014 21:57:093252190ThisGuysTheLimitModerateThisGuysTheLimit is master and owner of Peechkah, a girl who was removed from fetlife when it was revealed that she was 16, rather than the 22 that she claimed to be. Vancouver, BC, CanadaMarch 2014
3/30/2014 22:56:401664591BTNG_OrganizersSevereUsing propaganda and accusations to cause fear in new people. Being drama kings/queens. Making fake profiles to internet bully people... Internet stalking via fake profiles. Harassment in public forum via fake profiles.Only calling people out if there is an audience and if there are 10-12 deep. Not pulling people ASIDE and talking in public about any issues they might have with them.Fetish Fleamarket FairFebruary 2008
3/30/2014 22:59:19297909Mad_PatterSevereBeing a bully and drama queen. Talking bad about people behind their back.EVERYWHEREOngoing
3/30/2014 23:03:15115872D-GenSevereBeing the head drama queen at BTNG. Getting up in people's faces ONLY when 10-12 deep and infront of others and then running away and NOT doing ANYTHING because he's afraid to get put on the ground. Being a COMPLETE dickhead! Fetish Fleamarket Fair2012
3/30/2014 23:19:372364081hendoesmoothSevereHe didn't respect the protocol of my friends' relationship and ask permission before spanking her at a meet & greet. He lacks common sense. He doesn't understand protocol, respect, and boundaries since he spanked her so hard that he non consentually bruised the muscle on her ass and it couldn't even be touched for a week. He is over eager and full of himself. He pushed someone out of the way aggressively in order to show off to a girl at the meet & greet and invited himself back to my friend's place with her friend and her boyfriend. She told him no. Touch Lounge 961 Dyer Ave Craston, RI February 22, 2014 11pm
3/31/2014 13:49:183132818kittendaddydomSevereUses his "babygirl's" profile to cheat on her and his wife and ignores her to go fuck MANY other guys and girls. He also most likely has some sort of STD because he's BAD at remembering to wear condoms.Fetlife and in his tow truck all over RI/Mass/CTOngoing
3/31/2014 20:31:102248982SyntheticEmotionModerateAttacked a local community member AT a munch, outside of the venue.

Exhibited stalker-type behavior to another member.
FetLifeJanuary 2014
3/31/2014 20:33:212599458LadyofIceModerateExhibited stalker-type behavior.FetLifeJanuary 2014
4/1/2014 14:45:443234723CarmenStellaMinorWatch out for this woman! She'll seem interested then string you along. Waste of time just looking for male attention.N/Arecent
4/1/2014 15:55:592497222easybreezyRISevereHe's a chubby chaser and then when a girl doesn't do what he wants he posts rude things about them in his status and internet bully's curvy girls! FetlifeOngoing
4/1/2014 16:59:16520101sexyboytoy69SevereBlackmailed (non consentual type) my friend for ending a relationship with him and posting pics and and vids of her (you could hear her telling him NO, NOT to take the vids and he didn't have permission to take them OR the pics on the vids) ALL over fetlife AND the internet! Facebook, Fetlife, and Lincoln, Rhode IslandOctober 2012
4/2/2014 22:24:1620865BigshowMinorThis person is just a spammer hoping for some fapping material. Will email you some long ass message about why he is the gentalmanliest dom of the doms and why you should be his forever sub. Just ignore.Online on Fetlife but claims to be from Tucson, Arizona4/2/2014
4/3/2014 1:21:573316604Singleslave150Severe"She" is a scammer, after talking on Yahoo tries to scam money. Not a real woman.SD4/2/2014
4/3/2014 9:30:451412225LadyBling_slaveSevereAttacks ANYONE who disagrees with her or has a different point of view.

Tries to get you banned from the site just because she doesn't like you.

And for fuck's sake, do NOT listen to any advice she has to give or her opinions on things like M/s and D/s. She's so opinionated with NO experience.

She does NOT know what being a slave means.

She's also, clearly, a gold digger.
4/3/2014 19:55:48696411BleedingJezebelSevereBleedingJezebel has shown a consistent pattern of unethical behavior. There are allegations of heavy drug use, as well as stealing from others in the community. Those things stolen range from alcohol, to prescription pills to money from people kind enough to take her in after she was asked to leave no less than four separate residences in 2013. These allegations were confirmed from not only people in SW Virginia, but also in the state of Maryland. I understand that she is sick and struggling with addiction, but she seems to respond as though her battle with depression absolves her from personal responsibility. When she is called out for her behavior, she frequently throws others under the bus. This person cannot be trusted under any circumstances, period.SW VirginiaOngoing
4/3/2014 22:30:19411131PreciousKaridaSevereAttention whoring , social climbing slut who fucks everything that breathes, has had her children taken from her for meth addiction and prostitution, and lies and cheats her way into and out of dozens of relationships every year. Use triple condoms!Texas, Michigan2008-2014
4/6/2014 10:32:45713606Master_James_SevereCompletely bigot and hateful towards trans peopleOnlineAll the time
4/6/2014 10:34:22713606Lady_FelicitySevereBigot and hateful towards all trans people and anyone under 30OnlineAll the time
4/6/2014 13:55:463039622mathrules101MinorOn April 6, 2014 this individual sent me the message, "Lets make babies!" I have never met this person or messaged with this person ever before. While his profile does say he has an impregnation fetish, it is rude to harass me and other females just to get his wank material.On fetlife but user is from Phoenix, Arizona4/6/2014
4/6/2014 14:16:57118495NervousKittenMinorPosted a skype log to her fetlife as a note, without removing personally identify information. The other party's full name had been used as his skype name and was thus exposed. was the link.
Vancouver, BC, Canada2/13/2013
4/7/2014 5:28:213030887ThePageNeverReadModerateshe peed the bedTampa4/6/2014
4/7/2014 12:37:371723233AMasterfulStrokeModerateSisters, beware of this man. He took the gifts of Submission, and subsequent sex from one of our Sisters. Then he broadcasted the intimate details of that encounter, along with her REAL NAME, just to satisfy his own juvenile, narcissistic goals. The woman has left our community because of this. He continues to troll our play parties even though he has violated our anonymity code.
Be Aware!
Tucson, ArizonaOn going through 2013 to 2014
4/7/2014 22:20:433174269WealthyBiNJModerateThis guy lures girls in with promises of being spoiled and saying he's wealthy and then fucks them and drops them.Fetlife and across the globeOn going
4/9/2014 16:38:00505072SonofSantaMuerteMinorThreatened to rape female event attendees after being told he wasn't welcome. Threatened to perform a "drive-by" on Club 23.Vancouver, BC, CanadaLast Summer.
4/9/2014 23:46:333231350womanizer771MinorHe is a troll. He is just looking for quick sex and will send tons of messages telling you how you should be honored to be picked by him and if rejected he will tell you how you are emotionally stunted and a slut. Don't feed the trollMessages on Fetlife but from Tucson, Arizona4/9/2014
4/11/2014 14:22:251668224Amaranta_LillySevereSystematically emotionally and mentally abused someone she was jealous of. Used the fact that her victim had been abused as a child against her. Witnessed by several people, many of which brush it under the carpet in public but have privately admitted disapproval.

Will quite often throw out the story of her own supposed abuse (with increasing amounts of embellishments) in order to lure victims in. Privately told victims (a healthy poly M/s couple) that her partner abuses her, admitted jealousy of the couple claiming she'd never have that, then started trying to convince slave that master abuses slave.

Interrupted aftercare between the M/s couple twice, witnessed by a full event. Names will not be named as people don't like 'rocking the boat'.

When slave later confronted her over lies and emotional abuse, master (who was uninvolved with confrontation) received a possessive message saying "I knew you'd betray me" - master was not dating her. Abuser had kissed master and slave and begged them not to tell her (according to her own words) 'abusive' partner. Master and slave were uncomfortable with this as it felt like cheating, which is when abuser started abusing slave.

Master and slave left local scene after she began telling newbies that master and slave abused her and are dangerous.
Oxford, UKJune 2013 through to February 2014
4/12/2014 6:32:403079563MavrikDom_SMSevereOn a date with him:

Dinner & no sex was pre-negotiated.
After dinner, he started pushing for sex, repeatedly with repeat noes.
At car, started groping, then seemed to be trying to push into car for more.
Then tried to pull into his car for more.
Refused to hear or respect boundaries.
Felt like rape was on the menu.
SF Bay AreaApril 2014
4/12/2014 20:29:501784526ZaraNueva_PhotoSevere...
4/13/2014 4:25:372940118MarmiteGirlModerateAnna Brecht. A complete lack of any actual identity combined with a tenuous grasp of reality, a loud mouth and a desperate need to constantly be the centre of attention make this lady the human equivalent of 500kg of plastic explosive being detonated at the bottom of an industrial septic tank the size of Durham cathedral. Everyone in a 50km radius ends up covered in the worst shit imaginable. Anna is such an accomplished shit stirrer that even the astronauts on the International Space Station know her name and lower a special anti-bullshit shield to protect themselves from her every time they pass over the UK.Anywhere her tentacles will reach.Last 3 years/ongoing.
4/13/2014 15:14:1035844Jennifer_SSevereJennifer S is alleged to have been involved in several outings of community members.

The most recent incident lead to a lawsuit being filed. Jennifer S outed a member of the community and accused him of sexual assault in retaliation for criticism of her past behaviours she believed the individual had made; in fact she didn't even attack the right person, having just confused names.

Vancouver, British ColumbiaAugust 2012
4/16/2014 15:11:511144327THE_KING_R_o_bSevereTo quote: " I will make sure to find you other profiles and let people know who you really and rebalance the world. Trust me people let me know a lot and you can't hide. I will make sure to let it be done quietly so they all see what you really are"

He said it on this page:

He has harassed me for over a week and accused me of being a sock. 2014
4/18/2014 0:24:163231350womanizer771ModerateTroll who send typical messages: "Not living up to your true potential is your inner dark thoughts because submissive drives your conscious mind. Imagine submissive, to me sounds like A Dom that knows his sub very well since knowing her frees her of her hidden desires and lusts because she is free to fly like the birds in the air. A Dom with direction and knowledge of yourself is deeper than who or what you now know. Now curiosity sets in. And you are hooked in."
Do not feed troll.
Fetlife claims to be from Tucson, Arizona4/17/2014
4/18/2014 4:08:25790917splitintwoModerateManipulative, a liar, and will say anything to make herself look like the victim. Has no regard for anyone but herself and will happily tear someones life to pieces just so she can get what she wants. She doesn't care about anybody but herself and has no issue with it at all. Her tongue is forked, in more ways than oneNottinghamOngoing
4/18/2014 18:44:272738059noonehereisrealSeverethis is a fake account for this member, penny pro
will follow you around on message boards and harass you incessantly via email
reported to fet several times and nothing happened
DCApril 2014
4/18/2014 18:45:061850357pennyproSeverethis is a fake account for this member, noonehereisreal
will follow you around on message boards and harass you incessantly via email
reported to fet several times and nothing happened
DCApril 2014
4/18/2014 18:46:232738059noonehereisrealSeverea loser w no job, no prospects, fat, ugly
presents himself as something he is not
liar and fake
DCFebruary 2014
4/18/2014 18:46:431850357pennyproSeverea loser w no job, no prospects, fat, ugly
presents himself as something he is not
liar and fake
DCFebruary 2014
4/18/2014 18:50:192159394LylahLoveSeverepower hungry mod who bans people on a whim instead of infractions. takes things personally. has no life experience on which to base her "rulings" on. it's a monarchyDC April 2014
4/18/2014 18:51:362963352RealAlphaMaleSeverehe says: I am going on my 3rd D/s relationship from women I have met on this site who were far from me

my response:
You uprooted all of these women's lives for the sake of fucking SEX and where are they now? You moved them away from their family and friends, their entire support system, for a sexual relationship. I just hope they're not shattered and worse off than before.

Are you sure the girls in your area are flakes or is it that they can see through your facade and the only way for you to get a sub is through long distance? You can fool anyone w distance, kind words, cute emails... Is that why you're on your third? Once they get there they realize what a tragic mistake they've made? Or did you use them up and toss them aside?

And a guy who seeks out subs long distance is suspect to me. Why don't the women in his local area like him? So many questions come up that I'm sure some young, inexperienced 23 yr kid would never even think. You're targeting them for their lack of wiles.

I would never uproot my life for someone I hadn't been seeing seriously for quite some time. I'm not some transient nymph hopping from caretaker to caretaker. I have a career. I own a home. I have a life. I'll move when I choose and sex is not enough of a motivator.

his response?

lol you are certainly welcome to your opinions
and I am encourage them
no, they were not just sexually based :)

I guess I was correct in my assessment
4/18/2014 18:55:401069058fALUPESevereHis first message?
Your a bitch. Nice try in hiding it.
DCFebruary 2014
4/18/2014 18:56:04386854aNaturalDomSeverefakeDCJanuary 2014
4/18/2014 18:58:19109172aldabra08Severereally creepy and bad vibes for two different womenDCFebruary 2014
4/18/2014 18:59:553119302iamceye10Severecompletely fake profile, sock account. his photos are all over the internet as ads for swingers' groupsLaguna Beach, CAMarch 2014
4/18/2014 19:02:35404809bostero-boySeverenot a dom. not good sex. has no idea what the hell he is doingVAFebruary 2014
4/20/2014 6:20:341930913AkirynSeverebullying and harrassing a friend of mine oxfordwhole year of 2013
4/20/2014 11:32:39713606MolsonSevereHe is disabled but that doesn't stop him. He is physically, emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive. He will beat you with toys that you are not okay with. He uses things on your NO/Hard limits list to 'punish' you. He will ignore you for weeks and insult you using all he can to make you feel like no one else will want you because of XYZ (like you are fat, you are old, you are young, you are stupid, etc) then make you believe you can't get anyone but him. He will pretend to change for a little while when you confront him then they will start right back up again. He will claim you are the abusive one when you confront him, saying you pick on him for his disability and age. He very much has issues with control and will try to keep you away from everyone you love, including family.Ottawa, Ontario, Canada5 years
4/20/2014 15:34:211930913AkirynSeverethis person has bullied and harassed a friend of mine for the past yearoxfordwhole year of 2013
4/21/2014 12:54:172340156SexOffenderTNSevereThis member is writing worrying posts about very young girls..however has also admitted on his profile that he is a Registered Sex Offender,.USADoesnt make clear
4/23/2014 19:51:1731142026ft3_NeanderthalSevereDoesn't respect couples... He messages the girl and tries to get them to cheat on their guy. Then he gets mad when the guys messages him telling him off or being assertive. He also used to go by 6inch Tounge.FetlifeOngoing
4/25/2014 4:55:258596DimmieCOSevereDimmie hosts Scarlet Moons spanking parties at her house. They are no longer posted on FL. She welcomes a man who is a serial rapist at these parties who goes by BJ or Master William. She assists him in coercing women new to the scene to join his 'house' by vouching for him at the parties and giving him a space to meet new people and sell his floggers.
4/25/2014 14:42:373119302iamceye10SevereBecause I am a swinger. I am also married and cheating on my wife. ;)

Above consent violation made by someone who knows all this about me & makes a habit of writing violations for many others. I have more dirty and dark secrets. Want to know them? Ask.
Laguna Beach, CA3/2/2014
4/25/2014 14:48:343119302iamceye10SevereOooooh!! I saw this guy on SwingLifeStyle, Eve's Playground & Ashley Madison!!! New York, NYApril 2014
4/27/2014 3:12:182822768Jack_ShadowModerateAlso known as Rausche, _RSCHE_ LeedsSaturdaySocial, amongst MANY other socks. A dangerous and emotionally unstable top with a self confessed Alcohol dependency. Targets Newbie Subs in particular and unable to control his temper during play. Doesn't hold down a legitimate account but uses socks to harrass and bully and shows up randomly at events.Yorkshire2014
4/27/2014 4:22:201073967TheLoftModerateAfter witnessing someone being casually outed at this event I would not go back to it. I was stood by the bar and two guys in front of me were watching a trans woman on the X being beaten by the lady who wears pink, the guys made various defamatory comments about the trans woman before one told the other where she worked. I will not repeat it here except to say it is a popular high street shop. Something is wrong with the whole culture when people are being outed this casually, by people they probably do not even know and to people they do not know. :(Huddersfield, United KingdomSometime in 2013
5/2/2014 10:24:09239820Henry_BlackSevereOne of the most talented photographers in the Yorkshire scene but also one of the most dangerous. Targets young vulnerable girls and uses his talent to sexually exploit them. Was revealed previously to have carried on when consent had been withdrawn and vanished for a while without making an attempt to deny anything. Has recently come back out from under his rock and is back and looking for models. Repeatedly targets people when they are at a low and does not take no for an answer. Do NOT work with this guy and if you will PLEASE use a chaperone! Also has a Nilla wife who knows nothing of his affairs, and lies about his age.Yorkshire2010 onwards.
5/3/2014 13:00:385959PantherProwLsSevereInappropriate touching, attempted kissing, attempted genital contact, Multiple locations near San Francisco and several other locationsStarting 2010 through current
5/3/2014 17:40:413119302iamceye10SevereI'm also on AFF and ALT!Laguna Beach, CAApril 2014
5/4/2014 12:37:241355847Precious-PainMinorBenefit cheat who lives on benefits as a mentally ill person while working as a digital retoucher, model, sometime pro dom/sub and while running her business Precious Pain Kink and receiving income from selling clips.Huddersfield/internet2011-present
5/4/2014 12:41:26851376ZeboMinorFraud whose entire reputation as 'Kinky Q' is based on taking credit for other people's work. He does not actually make his own kit, he just gets the parts and pays someone else to put it together for him. Apt partner for benefit cheat Precious-Pain.UKAs long as he's been around
5/5/2014 11:06:163419115hello_harleySevereThis little heifer threatens to block you if you love too much on her pictures and don't comment or worship her ass. She claims to be vanilla, when all she really is a gold digging whore. Steer clear of this cunt.Earth5-2014
5/5/2014 12:47:243426633kgw4324Severespammersite5/5/2014
5/9/2014 3:48:2023551Master173SevereServed an illegal eviction notice based on false premises. Even without the false premises, the eviction notice was given 2 days in advance, with the shortest time span allowed in Washington being 3 days in advance. Further, the 3 day notice is only allowed to be about failure to pay rent. the 3 day notice is supposed to be "pay or vacate". Instead of even mentioning rent in the notice, it makes accusations about aggressive behavior, when the only aggressive behavior that was taken was self-defense in response to a psychopath that Park Quan (that's his legal name), allowed in to the house.

The only type of eviction notice that may be served in this case is a 20 day notice, and it may only be served at the end of the rental period in question, which is nearly an entire month away.

Furthermore, the eviction notice contains more than enough information to be grounds for a law suit under the Americans with Disabilities Act, among other things, as it is clearly discriminating against my disability, which is autism.

The psychopath this person allowed into the house ended up stealing narcotics and lying about it. Park does not care. He doesn't even care that this theft and lie resulted in everyone in the house, including himself, being added to a suspects list with the police.
Seattle, WA5/9/2014
5/9/2014 21:13:023018846PrincessEvaGraceSevereStole percocet (narcotics) from a friend. Refused to admit to having stolen them. The percocet was for killing the pain from dental work performed that day. The friend, seeing that her purse had been opened and emptied, and the percocet bottle empty, had to call the police because due to percocet being a controlled substance, she would be unable to receive a prescription for any pain killers ever again unless she made a police report. Eva refused to admit to having stolen the narcotics. This resulted in the entire household being placed on a suspects list for stolen narcotics. Eventually she admitted to that friend that it happened and their friendship was destroyed.Seattle, WAMarch, 2014
5/11/2014 16:27:5248490DSCrossMinorHello, Cross here. The above "report" dated March 10, 2014 is a total fabrication and malicious lie posted in an attempt to discredit and smear me and my efforts within the Denver community. I have publicly posted a response to this accusation in my writings, which you can access here> In the comments on that post, you can read testimonials from many people about my approach to safety when playing with needles, all of which directly contradicts the version of events presented in the earlier complaint against me. First and foremost, I have never, ever, told someone that playing with needles is "Completely Safe" nor have I EVER re-used a needle between two people, blood-bonded or not. If you have any questions, I am happy to answer them here on Fetlife, via email at [email protected], or through the contact page on my website, CrossCultureBDSM.comFAADE3/10/2014
5/11/2014 17:50:13443613pooka486MinorI am filing this on myself to increase visibility. None of the previous complaint's details are true, and I have verifiable proof that is is a complete and utter fabrication by an unknown party who wishes to slander my name. It is honestly sad that a once-useful tool has been hijacked by trolls. If you are reading this, please contact me and inquire about the proof I have readily available. Thank you for your time.DenverJanuary
5/12/2014 13:54:1314998towtSevereTook me to the Sanctuary, and began to Scene with me in the cage, then began to have sex with me without stopping to put a condom on even though I told him no sex. I shouted red but he told the supervisor that it was OK and it was a play thing and he kept going. He told me I was his then and that no one would want me. Two months later I tested positive for herpes and chlamydia. Worst night of my life and the TNG people in charge did Nothing about it.SkalesApril 2013
5/12/2014 13:58:47444349Sestra_MaeSevereSpreading herpes and chlamydia willingly and knowinglySkalesApril 2013
5/13/2014 4:48:04647230AmelliaSevereAmellia was ejected from his own birthday party at MARS and given a life ban from the venue after he went postal on his ex and shouted out her real name and the name of the school where she worked. Late 2013Manchester, England
5/14/2014 17:54:3514998TowtSevereTowt beamed me up to his spaceship where he held me prisoner behind a force field. He made me have sex with a dragon and then he covered me with mayonnaise and threw me out the airlock. I managed to grab onto an asteroid and make it back to earth. It was the worst night of my life. Months later I tested positive for Dragon STDs. My life is ruined! EnclaveStardate 15433.4
5/18/2014 3:39:321345433BiteMyBewbiesModerateFormer lackey and mouthpiece of Raushe/Dane Robinson after he had a spot of bother with his fetlife account, now fagging for Dane's former 'sis' MarmiteGirl/Anna Brecht/VelvetRose. Like Rausche, while she will purport to be fighting harassment and discrimination in order to gain supporters, she is more interested in maneuvering
herself into a position where she can ruin people or events reputations with a single hate blog. She has already attempted to do this to people and events. Funny how every psycho like this entering the scene seems to come across Dane and Anna sooner or later.
Manchester/InternetFeb2013 onwards
5/18/2014 16:14:243417928xMikeyyyx92ModerateIndividual threatened to burn down the bordello in Las Vegas when user Slut___Slut___ told him to leave her alone.Online on Fetlife, individual is from Nashua New HampshireMay 2014
5/18/2014 19:15:012984482peeholefuckerSevereThis guy claims to be a Marine to try to deceive women to meet him. He has never served in the military a day in his life, the pictures he has are fake. When confronted he blocks you. Stay away from this predator, he will deceive you and tell you anything he believes will get you into bed. Everywhereall the time
5/18/2014 20:48:151743644JillybeansMinorJill is completely intolerant of anyone with a hetro-normative. She is unforgiving, refuses to be understanding and holds everyone, ignorant or not up to unreasonable standards for Trans knowledge. She is a loose cannon that looks for any excuse to go off on someone. Portland, OregonSeptember, 2013
5/20/2014 10:42:57363055BydarraModerateKissed me open mouthed after a scene when kissing had definitely not been negotiated.Austin, TxMay 2012
5/20/2014 11:34:146914emberModerateFetlife caretaker FAIL. This lady could see that I was being harassed and not only failed to help me, but suspended my fetlife account when I screencapped the abusive crap I was being messaged with to show people, and then issued fake copyright violation notices to get the evidence removed from being hosted. Fetlife do not care if you get abused, they do care to make sure no-one knows about it.Internet2013
5/22/2014 10:23:12422381Dungeonmaster1SevereLying sack of shit who hides behind his sub Paula Mathers in real life while playing the big man online.Internet2013-14
5/22/2014 13:43:39666MeitarMoscovitzSevereThis is the person behind the FADDE application.This claims to be there to protect people against abuse and non consensual activity..and name and shame people. The fact is this individual created this as hates the BDSM community and all we stand for. When nicely asked to remove names and leave comments his reply was

"I have no problem with people's legal names being used. I'm sorry that you have to deal with a person in your area abusing the system. If you do not already know who that person is, you may want to read the following articles that describe why I do not moderate nor will I ever edit, modify, or delete information that is posted to it:Please do not contact me with this request again. If you do, I will block you. Take care.

Lets see how he feels having his personal name and details on his FADDE database. As he is the Abuser and the BDSM community is becoming the victim.People are using this site to vent grudges and make malicious statements with no accountability.Yes some arseholes may get mentioned but on the whole good people are having their real names and business posted on here and labelled abusers over personality clashes etc. Lets see if he sticks by his rule of not censoring posts when he is names a long with his facebook link.

The InternetWhen FADDE started
5/23/2014 14:03:122940118MarmitGirlModerateMarmiteGirl made the above report maliciously, I know this because that is the exact same wording she used on Fetlife earlier today when she said that she was going to do it.If she had checked her facts first she would have realised that the author of the database has already been put on here multiple times by dickheads trying to get a reaction and it has failed.InternetToday
5/24/2014 3:59:442696910RensoundModerateFailed to live up to arranged meeting at Porn theater.LoftFriday May 23
5/24/2014 4:01:402925450Bad_DragonModerateFailed to meet at arranged meetting time. Loft5/23/2014
5/24/2014 6:55:291123537PunisherUKModerateI never met this man, but I had the 'Pleasure' of chatting to him online.
He was nice at the start and then slowly got creepier and creepier until he starting to find out where I lived and worked online,

Fortunately I never met him BUT he may have that equipment on his photos but he is a very disturbed man and I believe people should stay away from him
OnlineJanuary -March 2012
5/24/2014 7:01:051693195Funseeker_2013SevereThe User is well known in his local scene to push boundaries with everyone.
He is easily the best person to find out gossip from as he knows everything about everyone and even will make up nasty and vile rumours just so he will have others on his side.

He has known to push past that border of consent/unconsent with many different females who identify as submissive in his local scene and was outed by many of them.
Gloucestershire UK2013
5/27/2014 21:39:41brennmarrbrennmarrModerateThis user makes appointments to meet and uniformly breaks them at the last minute -- always with a plausible excuse -- but ultimately she will never show up.

She is very articulate and will supply very rational, sympathetic excuses over and over again. Family, roommates, bosses are all invoked to excuse a sudden change in plans after you've changed your schedule and committed to a meeting. Finally, when no more excuses are really possible, she will send a message saying she is on her way, but she will never arrive. This seems to be her kink.

She places ads on Craigslist as well, the text of which is often the same as sections of her FetLIfe profile.

San Francisco Bay AreaMay 2014
5/27/2014 22:23:573463057JeevesMossSeverethis person was charged with criminal harassment in Guelph, ON. and has posted on groups asking about the whereabouts of the woman he harassedguelph2008
6/2/2014 6:09:23166628Los_Angeles_PhotogModerateMember of harassment and hate group REAPS.Fetlife2014
6/2/2014 6:10:5427168femmeXotiqueSevereHarassment and censorship as moderator of REAPS project hate group.Fetlife2014
6/2/2014 9:14:5660217AquarelleModerateCensoring, slut-shaming and abuse against a woman posting in discussion threads that were created to mock and humiliate her.MNJun 2, 2014 in the morning
6/2/2014 9:17:0054587F0T0D0MModerateMember of hate group REAPS, harassment of users on FetLife.IL2013-08
6/2/2014 9:19:0827168femmeXotiqueModerateHarassment and obsessive abuse against FetLife users, member of aggressive cabal REAPS, attempts to dox. FL2012, 2013, 2014
6/5/2014 17:57:17410027SandyBeachesSevereSummer of 2013, he met a 16 year old girl Craig's list and became her master. He brought her onto Fetlife and to a couple of local parties, without advising anyone of her age. When she started playing with other locals, he privately advised them that it was alright to fuck her, just not to take pictures of her, as she was under age.Vancouver, BC, CanadaSummer, 2013.
6/6/2014 18:50:552940626Pigger_BikeThiefSevereThis guy has had an underage submissive. At seventeen, he had been both sleeping with her and they had been taking pictures of their activities. The pictures had since been removed, but the act was not forgotten.Kitchener, ONDecember - May 2014
6/10/2014 6:53:182940118MarmiteGirlSevereThis quite mind bogglingly poisonous hate blog is directed at Moushtie's former submissive Lottie who MG has always hated see also for when she deletes it. Evidence: Blog is posted the same day that MG becomes friends with Moushtie and that Moushtie loves this blog, and everything in the hate blog describing 'Loony Lottie' is clearly designed to humiliate, break and otherwise discredit an actual person and fetlife user, with just enough changes to the story by claiming it happened at work so that MG can allege it's not about the person it's actually about. This is MarmiteGirl/VelvetRose/VelvetKiss at her most toxic and effective; and then she wonders why everyone hates herFetlife9th June 2014
6/10/2014 6:58:211415571MoushtieSevereFurther to the much earlier report of this lady behaving in an exploitative manner to a vulnerable young woman, Moushtie is now supporting an incredibly nasty hate blog directed against her former sub Lottie see or for when the original goes down the plughole. This is sad beyond belief, especially as Moushtie had genuinely seemed to believe that she was 'helping' Lottie.Fetlife9th June 2014
6/11/2014 10:02:051893105Mistress_LeluSeveremailnorth carolina6/10/2014
6/11/2014 17:21:343153272dadsfam1960ModerateThis is a fake family. Use caution.Windsor ontatrioMay 2014
6/12/2014 7:06:382666203zprincessModerateI believe this person is phishing on this website. They have asked me for my personal information several times over under the guise of getting me to work for, which I have worked for before and know for a fact that they do NOT have scouts who ask potential models for Skype shows and other personal information to "interview for the position". Beware sharing information with this person, I don't believe they are here for good reasons. Fetlife6/12/2014 7:06:00
6/14/2014 2:32:062940118MarmiteGirlModerateMG is now so deranged that she has taken to boasting openly about how effective her manipulative behaviour is, must suck when she no longer has the option to take her own hate blogs down or for when she tries to yank it anyway. Also note all of the same lackeys supporting her that have been for the last year, particularly Sn0w White, ThankySpanky, JellyBabyBoo and AorticRuptureFetlife14th June 2014
6/15/2014 13:28:203488586vflowersSevereThis asshole is not a girl, but has admitted to being a man in his late 20's pretending to be a girl. He stole her pictures from a cam page: and has been talking to me for over a month before admitting the truth. Shameful. His admission:

"Yeah, you you found me out. I'm a dude, married, in my late 20's. Our marriage is pretty good, but as life's been busy we just don't have time for all the kinky stuff we used to. I come online to chat to other people to get my fix.

I've found people are a lot more open with their thoughts and ideas if they think they're talking to a woman. Women think I just want to fuck them, and other guys get a gay-vibe talking about that stuff and shut up fast. Fact of life.

Sorry for carrying on the deception as long as I did. You're smart, witty, and your messages always made me smile. I didn't intend to keep it going so long, but I liked chatting with you and was a bit on the selfish side. I'm pretty nice, but yeah, this is the one real asshole-ish thing I do. Everyone's got something.

Here's your closure. I figure I at least owe you that."
Online via Fetlife and Collarme05/06/14-06/15/14
6/20/2014 23:18:44113811velveteenwombatSevereaka velveteenhoodrat is one of the two elderly-abusing criminals described in this article:

She subsequently plea-bargained her way to a shorter sentence for turning state's witness against her partner, kind of like Karla Homolka.

6/22/2014 7:59:283552375DreamshadeLoveSevereThis profile stole pictures of a fellow fet member and publically posted whilst laughing at a screen shot of a letter they sent. This letter was to cause maximum destruction to a transitioning person as was sent a long with the pictures to their gender reassignment clinic.

This person also used the image of the Black Rose which was also used by one incarnation of a former fet member who now lurks in the shadows and has several entries on here. When confronted the person deleted said pictures. Previous comments in threads indicate this person is also trying to become a legitimate member of the scene again, behind a false account and not being honest about their identity, as many comments have been perfectly civil. Maybe this person has lost track of their multiple accounts?
FetlifeJune 2014
6/23/2014 0:13:38163301ian999SevereAlleged to have raped several women over the course of many spanking parties.Spanking partiesUnsure
6/23/2014 0:21:0776658tattooedsnowbunnyModerateHas repeatedly stalked an ex-boyfriend over the course of approx 7 years, using a number of sock puppet accounts, and by "stalking by proxy" (i.e. contacting a 3rd party, mutual friend, for the purpose of inquiring about ex-bf). RCMP were notified in 2009. Stalkings continue periodically but less frequently.Surrey, BCFrom 2006 - 2013
6/23/2014 0:25:3187107MalignusSevereMalignus has abused several women in the spanking community, in both emotional and physical ways.South Dakota, and across the US2008 - 2014
6/23/2014 0:30:5262674KyleJohnsonSeverePosted an ad on Craigslist offering to spank children. Meanwhile participates actively in the adult spanking scene.Hemet, California2010
6/23/2014 20:18:382753885-Akira-SevereSends harassment messages so she can "get off" to upsetting strangers. She will send various messages putting you down or mocking you before blocking. She is morbidly obese and obviously does nothing with herself.Ohio6/23/2014
6/24/2014 2:07:283018846PrincessEvaGraceSevereBrian W Ingram, Convicted Felon, burglary.

Warrant for arrest, failure to appear
Omaha, Nebraska2003/2004-Present
6/24/2014 3:57:192940118CarolynesRoseMinoraka MarmiteGirl, pathological liar see for where she lies and supports another liar about them being on this database, to manipulate people, also notice how she misspells 'FAADE' as 'FADDE' an error which appears on the predator alert report against MeitarMoscovitz along with a link to his facebook page. FAIL.FetlifeSunday 22nd June
6/26/2014 20:23:321309593-MommyPuddingModerateRepeatedly pursues vulnerable (e.g. lonely, depressed, mentally ill) young women (16-20) and manipulates them into romantic and sexual relationships, abandoning them and the community they were part of shortly after to escape chastisement. While not illegal, their behaviour is predatory and is consistently focused on girls at least a decade younger than them and it would be advisable to warn younger members of the community about this person beforehand.

Known aliases:
- puddin'
- pudding
- lyssypop
- alys heartalysun
- alys
- Pirouette
- Elisabeth/Elly/???
Multiple places/onlineMultiple times
6/27/2014 11:02:065585581 Arseh0leMouthMinorSock Account that continues to target individuals and events in the Yorkshire Area.FetlifeJune 2014
6/28/2014 6:07:022940118CarolynesRoseMinorSee CR/MG very likely to have maliciously put ArseH0lemouth on this database after her pal Sn0w White foamed at the mouth at them for the transgression of starting a thread about fetlifers pathological lying. Looks like someone saw themselves in that post.FetlifeFriday 27th June 2014
6/29/2014 8:23:442940118CarolynesRoseSevereRepost of above after the carebears issue yet another bogus DMCA notice. See pic 3 for where CR/MG/Anna lies about Sn0w_White being on this database and Sn0w_White supports her in that.FetlifeSunday 22nd June
6/29/2014 8:30:322806752Sn0w_WhiteModerateSee where Sn0w abuses another poster for no reason, posts the name and initials of other fetlife users in violation of the site's own ToU while accusing them of harassment, and lies about Raushe not currently having a fetlife account. And after all that, the carebears ignore his cuntish rulebreaking behaviour and issue illegal DMCA takedown notices against other evidence of his pathological and malicious lying. You could not make this shit up.FetlifeSaturday June 28th
6/29/2014 9:58:122940118CarolynesRoseMinorRepost of MarmiteGirl/CRs hate blog against Lottie and gloating about her manipulation, due to more bogus DMCA notifications see Nothing quite like pathological liars exercising their right to destroy the evidence of their lying.FetlifeSee earlier posts for CarolynesRose, MarmiteGirl and Moushtie
6/29/2014 10:02:531415571MoushtieSevereSee earlier reports about Moushtie re exploiting vulnerable sub and later supporting hate blog against Lottie, reposted once again due to those pesky carebears and their fetish for bogus DMCA takedowns. The Loft, Huddersfield & FetlifeSee earlier reports on Moushtie
6/29/2014 15:29:063284922dirtypantygirlMinorThis is less of an abuse thing more of a warning several of the pictures uploaded on this profile are already posted online in other locations and predate the uploads to this profile so this seems like a fake account, in that respect.Uktoday
6/30/2014 15:41:18299083Jeremiah_RedeyeSevereJeremiah physically and mentally abused, to the point of torture his last two girlfriend's. Charges have finally been brought up and hopefully this man will be off the streets for many years to come.

In addition to breaking one girlfriend's nose, fracturing her skull, and threatening to have her ten year old son raped by bully's, he's held guns to her head, threaten to kill any future sex partners, and particularly got off by waking her up in the mornings by dragging her out of the bed by her hair while she's still asleep.

He has a 20 year abuse pattern (and the criminal history to back it up) and only entered the BDSM world as a cover up to abuse women. He got away with it for over 5 years.

We say no more Jeremiah Andrew Jones.
DFW, Texas2012 - 2014
7/2/2014 8:51:553244565Electric_ShockerModerate"Nasty Nate" is really big on not respecting boundaries and taking silence/non-communication as consent. On the occassion that we met up one on one, we "watched a movie" where I tried to watch the movie and he was so intent on making out with me that I pretended to fall asleep so he'd stop. He realized after the entirety of the elephant scene in Moulin Rouge and then tried to wake me up with more making out. He sexually assaulted a friend of mine and refuses to believe that what he did (trying to penetrate someone who has said NO) was rape.
And aside from all that, he's in general a scrub ala TLC. Misogynistic, entitled, bigoted, racist, does a lot of drugs/hard drinking/unhealthy living, his friends are generally all copies of him

If he has gotten into the BDSM community, it is only because his pool of available metal and punk girls around Portland willing to see through his facade has probably dried up and he thinks this is an easy pickings group.

And now he's contacted me here when I've told him multiple times in the past not to contact me anywhere he finds me. Disregard everything else if you wish but please take that, at the very least, as a sign that he's disrespectful.
Portland ORSummer, 2006 and Winter of 2011
7/2/2014 11:25:352806752Sn0w_WhiteSevereRepost due to more bogus DMCA takedowns. See for where this guy abuses a woman online for no reason, repeatedly names other fetlife users in violation of ToU, get's a thread about lying shut down (wonder what he has to fear from that discussion) and also lies about one of the people he names not being a current fetlife user.FetlifeSee earlier reports
7/5/2014 9:46:43448386FearlessAceSevereI agreed to model for this individual some months ago, despite feeling reservations due to his lack of professional space. I'm new to the area and he befriended me on FL, found me on MM and his pictures seemed well done so I agreed. He told me some experiences he had that made me sympathetic to him so I was willing to work with him in a mutually beneficial arrangement. He gave me an address and asked me to show up at his apartment so he could take some test shots. When I got there, it was a dump, the apartment complex looked like a ghetto and his apartment was tiny, unfurnished beyond dumpy second hand furniture, messy and there was a huge dog in this tiny apartment. It smelled and it was overly hot. But, he was super friendly, apologized and said that his roommate was moving out and it was her dog and that he could make some calls and we could shoot somewhere else. Then he asked me if I smoked weed. I said I did not and he asked me if I minded if he did. I told him yes, I did mind. He asked me if I wanted an alcoholic drink, I said no,I don't drink when I'm working or when I just meet someone. He tried to be charming because he's cute, but he came off very young and silly. I showed him my hard copy port and he gave all the right compliments telling me how beautiful and talented I was, how great my body is, how I made the photographer look good. Then he asked me how was I going to pay him. I laughed and told him he should be paying me but that we had agreed to trade for prints, right? He said and I quote "I'd love to get between your legs". I was becoming more and more uncomfortable and I stood up. He stood up too, stepped up to me, put his hand on the back of my head and pulled me in to his mouth, kissing me hard and prying his tongue between my lips. I stood stock still and didn't touch him, didn't move. He pulled back, smirking and said "That tongue does amazing things lower down" and tried to pull up the edge of my skirt with his hand while pressing me back, like trying to get me to sit or lay back on what he was using for a couch. At this point, I was nauseous, scared and just wanted to get out of there. I said nothing, turned and left as fast as I could. He sent me messages, acting like nothing had happened, which I never replied. Do NOT agree to take pictures, go to his house, meet him or spend any time, anywhere. Found out from others, after the fact that he and his roommate make a living out of conning people so beware of the sympathy card he tries to use. He has no respect and violates consent and then lies about it afterward. TexasEarlier this year
7/6/2014 16:54:181780725EnlightenedGraceSevereBeware of this whining crybaby. Post anything negitive about her and she will delete it and defriend you. Now we know why she is still single and will probably end up alone with 20 cats.usajuly
7/8/2014 12:12:312806752Sn0w_WhiteMinorMore pathological lies and manipulation with help from CarolynesRose & CarolyneTyler. See for where he and his pals make 2 hate threads containing coded comments attacking a former fetlife member, where he lies about his images being hosted on imagr, as in real life only his vile posts are hosted, and after all the, the fuckwit starts a blog asking why people are attacking him. Fuckwit.FetlifeJuly 2014
7/8/2014 12:15:562940118CarolynesRoseMinorMore pathological lies, manipulation and hate supporting Sn0w_white in launching attacks on other people with help from CarolyneTyler. See for where she makes a hate thread targeting a former friend and supports Sn0w in doing the same.FetlifeJuly 2014
7/12/2014 7:52:48562620-20HindsightModerateI posted an important request for a survey that in NO way tried to advertise my own nor anyone else's product or event or anything about myself. This is free communication that pertained to the members of the group. 20-20Hindsight has actually discriminated without understanding and thus violated Group forum7/12/2014 7:30am PST
7/12/2014 11:38:002948209jawbreaker404ModerateSent me a barrage of messages asking to meet me, after politely explaining I don't meet strangers off the site he kept asking. I stopped responding since words didn't seem to work, so he sent me several aggressive messages. One read, "U kno fuck u bitch if u wanna ignore and act too good for me and read and right stupid bs on here then go ahead but u aint nothin very special at all, so go suck n*ggerdick like mommy taught u"

That was sent after not responding to his "Hey"
Online, via FetLifeJuly 9, 2014 at 11:00 PM
7/15/2014 11:51:542940118CarolynesRoseModerateSince she doesn't have a problem with putting other people's real names and facebook accounts on here, here goes Anna Brecht Carry on trying to implicate your former pals in outing people and events then keep wondering why they want to see something permanent happen to you.Fetlife2010-present
7/15/2014 23:34:042899551NikydubSevereNikydub stole the identity of another user ImpurrfectChick. She has been using this stolen identity over a year now. I have verified all photos are not of her from ImpurrfectChicks facebook page the photos go back to 2009. Identity theftover a year
7/19/2014 19:01:1913350CarolyneTilerSevereAdmitted to launching a denial-of-service attack in an attempt to break Predator Alert Tool for FetLife (FAADE). Admission posted on FetLife: Also documented thoroughly by maymay, PAT-FetLife creator:

Someone who admits to trying to break a tool that gives rape survivors a voice is probably not someone you can lean on if your consent is violated.
7/19/2014 22:19:262940118CarolynesRoseSevereAfter being listed in the Predator Alert Tool for FetLife (FAADE) database, she launched a denial-of-service attack to try to make this tool inoperable for everyone, regardless of its benefits to others. This has been thoroughly documented (screenshots, too) here: She also bragged about the attack she launched on FetLife:

Someone who admits to trying to break a tool that gives rape survivors a voice is probably not someone you can lean on if your consent is violated.
7/19/2014 22:28:091839006JellybabybooModerateThis user socially supported Anna Dawn Brecht (aka "MarmiteGirl" or "CarolynesRose" in the PAT-FetLife database) and her Dominant, CarolynesTiler in trying to make Predator Alert Tool for FetLife inoperable and unusable for rape survivors. Observable at: Also thoroughly documented at

Someone who publicly supports trying to break a tool that gives rape survivors a voice is probably not someone you can lean on if your consent is violated.
7/19/2014 22:51:048870LugalzagazziModerateThis user socially supported Anna Dawn Brecht (aka "MarmiteGirl" or "CarolynesRose" in the PAT-FetLife database) and her Dominant, CarolynesTiler in trying to make Predator Alert Tool for FetLife inoperable and unusable for rape survivors. Observable at: Also thoroughly documented at

They wrote: "FWIW - I couldn't even find FAADE in a search. Still, more than one can play at that game. All kinds of way the system can be manipulated."

Someone who publicly supports trying to break a tool that gives rape survivors a voice is probably not someone you can lean on if your consent is violated.
7/20/2014 1:41:293201190MastermindManSevereThis user is a stupid bitch who harasses women. He is a little boy who does not know how to act. If you get a message from him, block this loser asap to spare yourself the headache. July 19th 2014Here
7/20/2014 1:57:033664566squidgy_black1SevereThis arrogant wanker launched a viscous public attack on Sn0W_White in several groups.
This wanker can't even get his head around the fact that SW is female and keeps referring to SW as 'him' 'guy' or 'he'.
This wanker just can't accept the fact that no fucker likes him after his previous abuse of the yorkshire scene under various alias, a true YCM who needs to be shot between the eyes.
FetlifeJuly 2014
7/20/2014 2:43:193664566Squidgy_Black1SevereYou seem to not quite get this concept.....nobody you are going for has raped anybody, nobody has violated consent, you simply DO NOT LIKE THEM and cannot deal with whatever issues they trigger in YOU.
Does this website deserve to be out of action for naming people who have not commited acts of non consent....yes it does. It doesn't protect anyone.

So fucking get on top of your meds or speak to your therapist as this is not the behaviour of a functional human being.

You have never once said what I or Snow have DONE to you, its just a load of anger issues exploding when your attention meter gets low.

You bitter, twisted, socially dysfunctional failure.
7/20/2014 4:13:042806752Sn0w_WhiteSevereSee where Snow says that FAADE needs a new spanner in the works, complains that it's working again, and also, after years of claiming to be harassed, posts a totally identifiable pic of his own front door! Doesn't seem like the way people who are being harassed normally act. Also see for more ranting of Snow and his hateful pals.FetlifeW/C 14th July
7/20/2014 4:42:091234rubbishSevereCfghcfhfceverythingright here, right now
7/20/2014 8:41:4212345load of RubbishSevereGfhdhhGlasgow12th of never
12/31/2014 17:03:07266859lesssugarmorecaneModerateThis user, who I had played in public spaces over the course of 3 years, was clearly told (in a public play-space) that a particular toy he wanted to use (single tail whip) was a hardlimit, not to be used.
A few weeks later, the user was later invited on a private date to my home for a heavier date. He was asked to bring a violet wand he mentioned he had recently bought. To be fair, I did not negotiate as much as I should have for a 1st private date because we had been friends for 3 years, and I thought I knew what he intended. The beginning of the date was OK, (where he used the violet want on me) but at the tail end of the date, when I was in a non-verbal subspace, he used the single tail until I finally hid behind the couch to get away from him. After the date, he disclosed that he had actually bough the violet wand for his girlfriend (who was also my best friend), and that I should lie to her about it. Much later, I reached out and asked to talk about the consent violation - he ignored the request and never spoke to me since then.
He never mentioned he was going to use a toy on me bought for my best friend, he never mentioned he brought a single tail to our date, and intended to use it on me - I never granted consent. We could have talked through it, but he totally ignored me once I let it be known that I wanted to talk to him.
I'm serious about consent in BDSM - consent is the only thing that separates what we do from assault.
This user is not a Dom - he is a coward. Any Dom worth a damn will have the integrity to talk about consent issues in a scene gone wrong and own his part.
This user is *probably* safe to play with in a public space, but I would strongly recommend avoiding private dates - and don't expect him to be accountable to his actions either way.
Oakland, CaliforniaSeptember, 2013
1/1/2015 14:50:244007939fartsnifintoiletMinoreven though I have made it cler that I do not like sexual conversation and had not talked t he before he sent me a very sexual message suddenly that made me uncomfortableon fetjanuary 2015
1/5/2015 23:54:25303283rachael1137MinorWhen asked to indicate where a pressure point was but specifically asked not to perform the pressure point, she performed a pressure point nonconsensually on me until I was on my knees. We had no pre-established dynamic. It was not negotiated. It was not consensual. She did this with no way for me to show I was not consenting either vocally, by tapping out, etc. I tried to escape and even bit her finger; however, she enjoyed the whole thing. She did release me eventually. What could have been play under negotiated circumstances with someone else was not okay with me.Private house party2012-2013
1/13/2015 17:08:122316878StarlingLecrossSevereI used to be one of Starling's pets and a member of the Le Cross clan. She once asked if she could borrow $200 for one of their parties and never paid me back despite how many times I asked her to return the money. She also held my head against her pussy while Kai (KaiLecross) raped my ass and came inside of me directly after a photo shoot.Jersey CityApril 2014
1/13/2015 17:12:01625398KaiLecrossSevereKai asks people to model for them and then feels as if he is entitled to have sex with them. He doesn't ask or make it clear that he's going to do anything sexual.... He just does it. During our last photo shoot together, he anally raped me with no condom. I kept saying no because it hurt so much, but Starling (StarlingLecross) who was also present shoved my head into her pussy so that I would stop making noise. He came inside of me.Jersey CityApril 2014
1/17/2015 4:05:422806752Sn0w_Wh1teSeverePlease see for an open letter to the Fetlife Care Bears asking for this user to be banned, along with numerous screen caps showing examples of his abusive behaviour, including multiple flagrant violations of Fetlife ToU, multiple serious allegations against other people where the alleged perpetrator changes according to his desires at the time. and serious threats, including his saying he will "Do time for this cunt".

Also note change in spelling of screen name in an ineffectual attempt to hide from the years of hate and lies he has posted.
York, UK and on FetlifeMany times over last 3 years
1/18/2015 4:01:18various socksvarious socksSevereMarie Shrewsbury, a bitter twisted old bat who loves to pick on people and carry out a hate campaign against them until they implode.
this poor excuse for a human should be avoided at all costs and locked away for a long time
fetlife, numerous other sites, UK2013-present day
1/18/2015 4:06:073085261TheLazyFrogSevereLatest incarnation of Anna Dawn Brecht aka VelvetRose, MarmiteGirl & CarolynesRose among others. Malicious liar who will create hate blogs and stories tailor made to get members of the supposed 'community' to ostracize and harass people on her behalf.

See above entries for links to screen caps of her prior efforts.
Fetlife Over a long period
1/18/2015 9:32:573707050GreenchemistSevereCompulsive cheater, habitual liar, and dangerous if he has anything significant to gain by harming you/if your existence is threatening to him. California2007-2011
1/18/2015 12:12:24EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereHey Eugene, quit with fucking 'HE' and quit fucking causing me hassle with your hate campaign, it's worn thin now and it's no longer a good laugh, give it a fucking rest and crawl back under your stone.
and when are we getting married?
see you soon darling, Snow_White :-)
UKjust read all the above entries to see how long.
1/19/2015 23:27:002547339hopeithurtzSeverehe asked me "have you ever been molested or raped?"fetlife1/19/15 at 10:30pm
1/20/2015 2:26:225453JeffMachSevereAt HIS OWN EVENT, The Geeky Kink Event in November, he watched the scene of someone who had previously (publicly) rebuked his overzealous advances. He approached the scene after the person had been gagged and blindfolded, and only left when the person used their safe-signal after seeing him staring at them when the blindfold was removed. No one at the event would listen to the complaint.The Geeky Kink Event, The Radisson Hotel of Piscataway, Piscataway, New Jersey11/7/2014
1/20/2015 4:58:532806752Sn0w_Wh1teSevereSerial abuser, legal name Lisa Kelly, who works at Wlikinsons Clifton Moor store in York, tel. 01904 691562 or if he is really causing a problem for you, try emailing his CEO [email protected] as he really doesn't like that much.

Be sure to copy her in on as many links to his self porn and abusive behaviour as possible, there is an awful lot to choose from.
West Yorkshire & FetlifeConsiderable period
1/20/2015 5:10:043085261LazyFrogSevereAnna Dawn Brecht, who works at Harrogate and District NHS Foundation Trust, tel. 01423 885959 or if you want to make a complaint about her, by all means use the contact form here

Malicious shit stirrer who continues to try and manipulate the people around her into ripping holes in each others lilves.
LeedsLast 3 years minumum
1/20/2015 7:02:06EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereThe real identity of Eugene is Dane Robinson, he works for Leeds University, if you want a direct line to his HR dept then try [email protected], (0113) 343 4146 or fill out this form

Nothing personal YCM, just returning the compliment as it were, Snow_White :-)
everythingright here, right now
1/20/2015 10:01:432806752Snow_W1teSevereSee for updated open letter to Fetlife caretakers requesting Lisa Kelly be banned, incorporating recent hate blog and updates to this database.

Looks like someone is following in the footsteps of his 'sis' in whining about being outed on herr at the same time as doing to others EXACTLY what he is complaining about.
Fetlife, Predator Alert Tool Database18-20th January 2015
1/22/2015 18:00:204281643SourGrapes90SevereLatest incarnation of Anna Dawn Brecht (aka "MarmiteGirl" or "CarolynesRose" in the PAT-FetLife database). Will she ever go away? FetLife1/20/2015
1/23/2015 0:39:43Eugenevarious socksSevereSo sad and pathetic that 'it' just spies on people 'it' doesn't like, then adds them on here with made up crap in a pathetic attempt to create some proof to back up what 'it' claims is abuse. 'It' really needs to up the medication or get a job to occupy it's tiny mind. you can clearly see a pattern of hate from 'it' just from looking at all the numerous additions to this database that 'it' has made.
It has even made entries on here pretending to be the people 'it' accuses of being abusive in an effort to make it look like the people 'it' accuses are abusive including giving a real name to eugene not once but twice, two different names no less! and then goes onto use 'it's' own input under their names to retaliate and post the real names of those who 'it' is victimising.
really eugene do you really honestly think that people are that stoopid that they won't put 2 and 2 together and figure out that you have made up this hate just because you don't like one or two people?
do you really believe that people actually read this shit and believe everything they read?
do you really not have anything better to do with your sad pathetic life?
why not turn off your PC and go to the job center, find a job and spend less time harrassing people.
here, fetlife, real lifecontinually for a long time
1/23/2015 10:11:45657890LittleMissIronySevereWhat an over inflated narcissistic ego sounds like on stage.....years after people have gone their separate ways and gotten on with their life here he is using his "lyrics" to keep old grudges going. Please feel free to follow his band "Little Miss Irony" to hear more of his hate propaganda or see them play at Carpe... Shame you cant understand the lyrics as the sound is so amateur but his little "monologue" before each one gives you a good idea what this walking ego is all about. "Pathological Liar" aimed at Snow White and Snowflake aimed at his ex Sister who he still cant over. and

Enjoy and see the ultimate grudge in musical form.

Oh also forgot this one....demonstrates his inability to accept multiple apologies!! Aimed at another ex of his Ubasti who he also could not let get on with her life after him.

1/24/2015 14:20:49911daffy duckSeverecrimes against warner bros, you think i'm crazy? no i'm quackers!the world1966
1/24/2015 14:22:037james bondSeverehe killed jaws!pinewood studios1970's
1/24/2015 14:27:341132the 3 bearsSeverethey shouted ay the woods2020
1/24/2015 14:28:5425852bugs bunnySeverekept eating carrots and saying what's up doc.on televisionduring cbbc
1/24/2015 14:30:47632145rolf harrisSeverekiddie fiddleruk1970-1990
1/24/2015 14:32:381887peter sutcliffeSeveremurdered prostitutesyorkshirelate 70's early 80's
1/24/2015 14:36:34558825MscrimsonSeverebutter wouldn't melt but beware she is gossip and trouble corser. she will shit stur and then sit bak and watch the fireworksfetlifea long time
1/24/2015 14:39:57666adolf hitlerSevereworld war 2, holocaust, and they bombed our chippy.wolrd wide1930's-1945
1/24/2015 14:43:041132basil fawltySeverehave you seen fawlty towers? he kept hitting manwell, the poor bloke was fresh off the ferry from barcelona and speak-a-da-no englishon television1970's repeats all the time
1/24/2015 14:48:091236homer simpsonSeverehe dumped spider-pig's shit into a lake polluted springfield!on telemodern times
1/24/2015 14:49:35987654scrappy dooSeverekept nicking scooby snackson telewow you have to ask!
1/24/2015 14:51:19118118Mr BeanSeverejust plain daft, just like this data baseon jupiter1655bc
1/24/2015 14:53:2011911922spongebobSeverewell why the hell not, if were listing cartoon characters, we may as well have spongebobearthmidnight
1/24/2015 14:55:297007007007MrBlobbySevereblobby, oh mr blobby, he's big and round and pink with yellow dots, fuck me he even got to X-Mas number 1 in the pop charts!!!on tele1990's
1/24/2015 14:56:461471118bob the builderSeverebob the builder can he fix it, bob the builder course he fucking can't!on television1901
1/24/2015 15:05:136543210tweety-pieSevereIt's astounding, time is fleeting
Madness takes its toll
But listen closely, not for very much longer
I've got to keep control

I remember doing the Time Warp
Drinking those moments when
The blackness would hit me and the void would be calling
Let's do the time warp again...
Let's do the time warp again!

It's just a jump to the left
And then a step to the right
With your hands on your hips
You bring your knees in tight
But it's the pelvic thrust that really drives you insane,
Let's do the Time Warp again!

It's so dreamy, oh fantasy free me
So you can't see me, no not at all
In another dimension, with voyeuristic intention
Well-secluded, I see all
With a bit of a mind flip
You're there in the time slip
And nothing can ever be the same
You're spaced out on sensation, like you're under sedation
Let's do the Time Warp again!

Well I was walking down the street just a-having a think
When a snake of a guy gave me an evil wink
He shook me up, he took me by surprise
He had a pickup truck and the devil's eyes.
He stared at me and I felt a change
Time meant nothing, never would again
Let's do the Time Warp again!
right her, right now!right now, right here
1/24/2015 15:07:05123635241frosty the snowmanSevere

Frosty the snowman was a jolly happy soul
With a corncob pipe and a button nose
and two eyes made out of coal
Frosty the snowman is a fairytale they say
He was made of snow but the children
know how he came to life one day
There must have been some magic in that
old silk hat they found
For when they placed it on his head
he began to dance around

Frosty the snowman
was alive as he could be
And the children say he could laugh
and play just the same as you and me
Thumpity thump thump
thumpity thump thump
Look at Frosty go
Thumpity thump thump
thumpity thump thump
Over the hills of snow

Frosty the snowman knew
the sun was hot that day
So he said
Let's run and
we'll have some fun
now before I melt away
Down to the village
with a broomstick in his hand
Running here and there all
around the square saying
Catch me if you can
He led them down the streets of town
right to the traffic cop
And he only paused a moment when
he heard him holler "Stop!"
For Frosty the snow man
had to hurry on his way
But he waved goodbye saying
Don't you cry
I'll be back again some day
thumpity thump thump
thumpity thump thump
Look at Frosty go
thumpity thump thump
thumpity thump thump
Over the hills of snow

north poleevery winter
1/24/2015 15:09:5778954214roger rabbitSevereRight! NOW! ha ha ha ha ha

I am an anti-christ
I am an anarchist
Don't know what I want but
I know how to get it
I wanna destroy the passer by cos I

I wanna BE anarchy!
No dogs body!

Anarchy for the U.K it's coming sometime and maybe
I give a wrong time stop a traffic line
your future dream is a shopping scheme

cos I, I wanna BE anarchy!
In the city

How many ways to get what you want
I use the best I use the rest
I use the enemy
I use anarchy cos I

I wanna BE anarchy!

Is this the M.P.L.A
Or is this the U.D.A
Or is this the I.R.A
I thought it was the U.K or just
another country
another council tenancy

I wanna be anarchy
and I wanna be anarchy
Know what I mean
And I wanna be anarchist!
1/24/2015 15:12:08652145213penelope pitstopSevere

Oh baby, baby what can I do?
You know you drive me crazy when I'm looking at you
The summer's really here and it's time to come out
Time to discover what fun is about

Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer

Keep on looking for the girls with their faces all tanned
Lying on the beaches all covered in sand
Stretching out their long legs lying in the sun
They know they're beautiful, having fun

Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer

Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer

Looking for the girls with their faces all tanned
Lying on the beaches all covered in sand
Stretching out their long legs lying in the sun
They know they're beautiful, they're having fun

Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer

Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer

Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer

Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer
Here comes the summer

marswhen the universe exploded
1/24/2015 15:14:5625122014santaclausSevere

She had a cross around her neck
And a flower in her hand
That I picked from the side of Thomas Drive
On our way to the sand
We found an old wooden chair
Still warm from the sun
Pushed it back, gave me a kiss with Bacardi on her lips
And I was done

And we spent that week wide open
Upside down beside the ocean
I didn't know where it was goin'
Just tryin' to keep my heart on the tracks
I should've known that kind of feelin'
Would last longer than that week did
Blown away and barely breathin'
Sunday came and it was over
Now she's got me twisted
Like an old beach roller coaster

The rest of those days
Turned into long crazy nights
When the music got loud
We'd sneak away from the crowd under the boardwalk lights
And with all the things we said
What I just can't get past
Is the way we let it end
Now I'm wonderin' where she is
Knowin' I can't get that goodbye back

And we spent that week wide open
Upside down beside the ocean
I didn't know where it was goin'
Just tryin' to keep my heart on the tracks
I should've known that kind of feelin'
Would last longer than that week did
Blown away and barely breathin'
Sunday came and it was over
Now she's got me twisted
Like an old beach roller coaster

She's like a song playin' over and over
In my mind, where I still hold her
I had the chance and I should've told her

When we spent that last week wide open
Upside down beside the ocean
I should've known where it was goin'
Still tryin' to keep my heart on the tracks
And I should've known that kind of feelin'
Would last longer than that week did
Blown away and barely breathin'
When Sunday came and it was over
Now she's got me twisted, yeah, I'm still twisted
Like that old beach roller coaster

Like that old beach roller coaster

in your housetomorrow
1/24/2015 15:17:01254784510octopussySevereAnd this is how it starts
You take your shoes off in the back of my van
My shirt looks so good
When it's just hanging off your back
She said use your hands and my spare time
We've got one thing in common it's this tongue of mine
She said she's got a boyfriend anyway

There's only minutes before I drop you off
And all we seem to do it talk about sex
She's got a boyfriend anyway
She's got a boyfriend anyway
I love your friend when I saw his film
He's got a funny face but I like that because he still looks cool
She's got a boyfriend anyway
She's got a boyfriend anyway

Now we are on the bed in my room
And I'm about to fill his shoes
But you say no
You say no
Does he take care of you
Or could I easily fill his shoes
You say no
You say no

And now we're just outside of town
And you're making your way down
She's got a boyfriend anyway
She's got a boyfriend anyway
And I'm not trying to stop you love
But if we're gonna do anything we might as well just fuck
She's got a boyfriend anyway
She's got a boyfriend anyway

You've got your tongue pierced anyway
You in your hightops anyway
You in your skinny jeans anyway
You and your fit friends anyway
I'd take them all out any day
They've all got back combs anyway
You've all got boyfriends anyway
on the kitchen tablelast octember
1/24/2015 15:24:16585584215bagpusSevere

Ich will, ich will,
Ich will, ich will,
Ich will, ich will, ich will

Ich will, ich will,
Ich will, ich will

Ich will, ich will dass ihr mir vertraut
Ich will, ich will dass ihr mir glaubt
Ich will, ich will eure Blicke spüren
Ich will jeden Herzschlag kontrollieren

Ich will, ich will eure Stimmen hören
Ich will, ich will die Ruhe stören
Ich will, ich will dass ihr mich gut seht
Ich will, ich will dass ihr mich versteht

Ich will, ich will eure Phantasie
Ich will, ich will eure Energie
Ich will, ich will eure Hände sehen
Ich will in Beifall untergehen

Seht ihr mich?
Versteht ihr mich?
Fühlt ihr mich?
Hört ihr mich?

Könnt ihr mich hören? Wir hören dich!
Könnt ihr mich sehen? Wir sehen dich!
Könnt ihr mich fühlen? Wir fühlen dich!
Ich versteh euch nicht

Könnt ihr mich hören? Wir hören dich!
Könnt ihr mich sehen? Wir sehen dich!
Könnt ihr mich fühlen? Wir fühlen dich!
Ich versteh euch nicht

Ich will, ich will,
Ich will, ich will

Wir wollen, dass ihr uns vertraut
Wir wollen, dass ihr uns alles glaubt
Wir wollen eure Hände sehen
Wir wollen in Beifall untergehen - Ja...

Könnt ihr mich hören? Wir hören dich!
Könnt ihr mich sehen? Wir sehen dich!
Könnt ihr mich fühlen? Wir fühlen dich!
Ich versteh euch nicht

Könnt ihr uns hören? Wir hören euch!
Könnt ihr uns sehen? Wir sehen euch!
Könnt ihr uns fühlen? Wir fühlen euch!
Wir verstehen euch nicht

Ich will, ich will.

in your knickerswhen my hand entered them
1/24/2015 15:28:123215748965benny hillSevereI know that things are broken
I know there's too many words left unsaid
You say you have spoken, like the coward I am, I hang my head
You lay careless, your head on my chest
And don't even look at me looking my best
And all these things I can't describe, you would rather I didn't try
But please, don't cry you liar
Oh please, don't cry you liar
Oh please, don't cry you liar
Oh please, don't cry you liar
Oh please, don't cry you liar
And you lean in for your last kiss,
Who in this world can ask me to resist?
Your hands cold as they find my neck,
Oh this love I have found, I detest
fish fingerswith chips
1/24/2015 15:31:34123635241basil brushSevereFoxy

You know you're a cute little heartbreaker
You know you're a sweet little lovemaker

I wanna take you home
I won't do you no harm, no
You've got to be all mine, all mine
Ooh, foxy lady

I see you, heh, on down on the scene
You make me wanna get up and scream
Ah, baby listen now
I've made up my mind
I'm tired of wasting all my precious time
You've got to be all mine, all mine
Foxy lady
Here I come

I'm gonna take you home
I won't do you no harm, no
You've got to be all mine, all mine

Here I come
I'm comin' to get ya
Foxy lady
You look so good
Yeah, foxy
Yeah, give us some
Yeah, get it, babe
You make me feel like
Feel like sayin' foxy
Foxy lady
Foxy lady
1/25/2015 12:21:0911326452564pinky & perkySevere

You know Dasher and Dancer and Prancer and Vixen,
you know Comet and Cupid and Donner and Blitzen,
But do you recall
The most famous reindeer of all

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer
Had a very shiny nose
And if you ever saw it
You would even say it glows
All of the other reindeer
Used to laugh and call him names
They never let poor Rudolph
Join in any reindeer games

Then one foggy Christmas Eve,
Santa came to say,
Rudolph with your nose so bright,
Won't you guide my sleigh tonight

Then how all the reindeer loved him,
As they shouted out with glee,
Rudolph the red-nose Reindeer
You'll go down in history

Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer
Had a very shiny nose
And if you ever saw it,
You would even say it glows,
And all of the other reindeer
Used to laugh and call him names,
They never let poor Rudolph
Join in any reindeer games,

Then one foggy Christmas Eve,
Santa came to say,
Rudolph with your nose so bright,
Wont you guide my sleigh tonight

Then how all the reindeer loved him,
As they shouted out with glee,
Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer,
You'll go down in history

north pole, uk, fetlife, earthevery x-mas
1/25/2015 12:23:131132623523emuSevere10 seconds... 7... 6... 5... 4... 3... Ignition... Lift off

Blobby, oh Mr Blobby, if only you could make us understand
Blobby, oh Mr Blobby, your influence will spread throughout the land

Let's hear it for Mr Blobby
(Blobby, blobby, blobby)

His philosophy of life will steer him through
And as far as he can see
He's the same as you and me
There's nothing in the world he cannot do

No hill too high, no desert too dry
No road too long, no tide too strong
No bridge too far, he's got a car
No slope to steep, no thought too deep
No star too bright, no squeeze too tight
No tale too tall, no cat too cool
No bass too low, he'll give it a go
No end to his talents, no sense of balance

Blobby, oh Mr Blobby, when disaster strikes you never get depressed
Blobby, oh Mr Blobby, you'll always prove that Blobby is the best

Although he's unconventional in hue
His philosophy of life will steer him through
And despite the limitation
Of his poor co-ordination
He knows he'll show the world a thing or two

(Blobby, blobby, blobby)

Blobby, Mr Blobby, you're the guy who puts the do in do or die
Blobby, Mr Blobby, your deeds are guaranteed to stupefy

No ride too rough, no test too tough
No act too slick, no race too quick
No shot too hot, he'll hit the spot
No style too chic, no joke too weak
No chance too slim, no fate too grim
No foe too strop, no odds too long
No price too high, he's put some by
No dodge, no doubt, no backing out

Blobby, oh Mr Blobby, if humanity's a question of degree
Blobby, Mr Blobby, stay loyal to your Blobby pedigree
Blobby, oh Mr Blobby, you're the one who bears the pink and yellow crest
Blobby, Mr Blobby, you'll always prove that Blobby is the best
beef stew& dumplings
1/25/2015 12:25:201132682561spidermanSevere(Baby Laugh)

(Time For Teletubbies) x4

Tinkey-Winkey (Tinkey-Winkey!)

Tipsy (Tipsy!)

Lala (Lala!)

Poe (Poe!)

Teletubbies (Teletubbies!)
Say Hello! (Eh-Oh!)
(Teletubbies Laughter)

Tinkey-Winkey (Tinkey-Winkey!)

Tipsy (Tipsy!)

Lala (Lala!)

Poe (Poe!)

Teletubbies (Teletubbies!)
Say Hello! (Eh-Oh!)

(Sheep "Sings" Twinkle-Twinkle Little Star...)
(The Teletubbies Joins The Sheep And Sings Too)
(Teletubbies Laughter)

Tinkey-Winkey (Tinkey-Winkey!)

Tipsy (Tipsy!)

Lala (Lala!)

Poe (Poe!)

Teletubbies (Teletubbies!)
Say Hello! (Eh-Oh!)

Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary, How Is Your Garden Grows?
Whith Sithґs, And Sails, And Coconut Shells?
And Putting It All In A Row.
(Iґm So Glad Thatґs Finished, What A Terrible Record!)
Again! Again!

Tinkey-Winkey (Tinkey-Winkey!)

Tipsy (Tipsy!)

Lala (Lala!)

Poe (Poe!)

Teletubbies (Teletubbies!)
Say Hello! (Eh-Oh!) x2

(Baby Laugh)
spotted dickwith custard
1/25/2015 12:28:021132644644dangermouseSevereSpider Pig!
Spider Pig!
Does whatever a spider pig does!
Can he swing from a web?
No he can't
He's a pig yes he is
He is the spider pig!!

bacon& eggs
1/25/2015 12:34:566784945DipsySevereYo, listen up! Here is the story
About a little guy that lives in a blue world
And all day and all night and everything he sees
Is just blue like him, inside and outside
Blue his house, with the blue little window
And a blue Corvette, and everything is blue for him
And himself, and everybody around
'Cause he ain't got nobody to listen (to listen, to listen...)

I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di

I have a blue house with a blue window
Blue is the color of all that I wear
Blue are the streets and all the trees are too
I have a girlfriend, and she is so blue
Blue are the people here that walk around
Blue like my Corvette, it's standing outside
Blue are the words I say and what I think
Blue are the feelings that live inside me

I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di

Inside and outside
Blue his house, with a blue little window
And a blue Corvette, and everything is blue for him
And himself, and everybody around
'Cause he ain't got nobody to listen (to listen...)

I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
1/25/2015 12:34:566784945DipsySevereYo, listen up! Here is the story
About a little guy that lives in a blue world
And all day and all night and everything he sees
Is just blue like him, inside and outside
Blue his house, with the blue little window
And a blue Corvette, and everything is blue for him
And himself, and everybody around
'Cause he ain't got nobody to listen (to listen, to listen...)

I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di

I have a blue house with a blue window
Blue is the color of all that I wear
Blue are the streets and all the trees are too
I have a girlfriend, and she is so blue
Blue are the people here that walk around
Blue like my Corvette, it's standing outside
Blue are the words I say and what I think
Blue are the feelings that live inside me

I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di

Inside and outside
Blue his house, with a blue little window
And a blue Corvette, and everything is blue for him
And himself, and everybody around
'Cause he ain't got nobody to listen (to listen...)

I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
I'm blue
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
Da ba dee da ba di
1/25/2015 12:35:081132629845pink pantherSevereHe's the greatest
He's fantastic
Wherever there's danger he'll be there
He's the ace
He's amazing
He's the strongest he's the quickest he's the best
Danger Mouse
Danger Mouse

He's the greatest
He's fantastic
Wherever there's danger he'll be there
He's the ace
He's amazing
He's the strongest he's the quickest he's the best
Danger Mouse
He's terrific
He's magnific
He's the greatest secret agent in the world
Danger Mouse
Power House
He's the fastest he's the greatest he's the best
Danger Mouse
Danger Mouse
chocolate puddingwith fresh cream
1/25/2015 12:36:351132633966tom & jerrySevere

Think of all the animals you've ever heard about
like rhinoceroses and tigers, cats and mink
There are lots of funny animals in all this world
But have you ever seen a panther that is pink?


A panther that is positively pink,

Well here he is, the pink panther
The rinky-dink panther,
Isn't he a panther ever so pink?

He really is a groovy cat,
and what a gentleman, a scholar, what an acrobat !

He's in the pink - the pink panther
The rinky-dink panther,
and it's as plain as your nose,
that he's the one and only, truly original,
Panther-pink (panther) from head to toes !

hot dogwith onions
1/25/2015 12:39:081132654654dastardly & mutleySevereI met her in a club down in old Soho
Where you drink champagne and it tastes just like Cola cola
C-O-L-A cola.

She walked up to me and she asked me to dance.
I asked her name and in a dark brown voice she said, "Lola"
L-O-L-A Lola, lo lo lo lo Lola

Well, I'm not the world's most physical guy,
But when she squeezed me tight she nearly broke my spine
Oh my Lola, lo lo lo lo Lola

Well, I'm not dumb but I can't understand
Why she walk like a woman and talk like a man
Oh my Lola, lo lo lo lo Lola, lo lo lo lo Lola

Well, we drank champagne and danced all night,
Under electric candlelight,
She picked me up and sat me on her knee,
And said, "Little boy won't you come home with me?"

Well, I'm not the world's most passionate guy,
But when I looked in her eyes,
Well I almost fell for my Lola,
Lo lo lo lo Lola, lo lo lo lo Lola

Lola lo lo lo lo Lola lo lo lo lo Lola

I pushed her away. I walked to the door.
I fell to the floor. I got down on my knees.
I looked at her, and she at me.

Well that's the way that I want it to stay.
And I always want it to be that way for my Lola.
Lo lo lo lo Lola.

Girls will be boys, and boys will be girls.
It's a mixed up, muddled up, shook up world,
Except for Lola. Lo lo lo lo Lola.

Well I left home just a week before,
And I've never ever kissed a woman before,
But Lola smiled and took me by the hand,
And said, "Little boy, gonna make you a man."

Well I'm not the world's most masculine man,
But I know what I am and I'm glad I'm a man,
And so is Lola.
Lo lo lo lo Lola. Lo lo lo lo Lola.

Lola lo lo lo lo Lola. Lola lo lo lo lo Lola
chicken currywith rice
1/26/2015 9:46:551132784512yogi bearSevere

Na-na-na-na, na-na, na
Na-na-na-na na-na
Na-na-na-na, na-na, na
Na-na-na-na na-na

I guess I just lost my husband
I don't know where he went
So I'm gonna drink my money
I'm not gonna pay his rent

I got a brand new attitude
And I'm gonna wear it tonight
I'm gonna get in trouble
I wanna start a fight

Na-na-na-na, na-na, na
I wanna start a fight
Na-na-na-na, na-na, na
I gonna start a fight!

So, so what?
I'm still a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don't need you

And guess what
I'm having more fun
And now that we're done
I'm gonna show you tonight

I'm alright
I'm just fine
And you're a tool!

So, so what?
I am a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don't want you tonight

Uh, check my flow, uh

The waiter just took my table
And gave it to Jessica Simp
I guess I'll go sit with drum boy
At least he'll know how to hit

What if this song's on the radio
Then somebody's gonna die
I'm gonna get in trouble
My ex will start a fight

Na-na-na-na, na-na, na
He's gonna start a fight
Na-na-na-na, na-na, na
We're all gonna get in a fight!

So, so what?
I'm still a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don't need you

And guess what
I'm having more fun
And now that we're done
I'm gonna show you tonight

I'm alright
I'm just fine
And you're a tool

So, so what?
I am a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don't want you tonight

You weren't there
You never were
You want it all
But that's not fair

I gave you life
I gave my all
You weren't there
You let me fall

So, so what?
I'm still a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don't need you

And guess what
I'm having more fun
And now that we're done
I'm gonna show you tonight

I'm alright
I'm just fine
And you're a tool

So, so what?
I am a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don't want you tonight

No no, no no
I don't want you tonight
You weren't there
I'm gonna show you tonight

I'm alright
I'm just fine
And you're a tool

So, so what?
I am a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don't want you tonight

strawberry cheesecake
1/26/2015 9:49:421132659832woody woodpeckerSevere

A shimmy shimmy cocoa cocoa pu-pu-fuckin' puffs bitch
It's the K-K-Kid Rock with the K-K-Kid Rock shit
I'm on top bitch and rock for tricks
Hella whips and nips and flip trips for whips

I get all the money pussy falls like rain
Been gettin' laid and paid that's why I never complain
If I ain't in it for the money I'm in it for the P
It's 1998 yo and you still can't fuck with me

You don't be fuckin' with the blue eye
Fuckin' with my 2-5 up your fuckin' ass like my shoe size
I got a new vibe, kinda like Voodoo
You do what we say and we'll do what we want to do

We're fuckin' up your city and we're fuckin' up your program
Fuckin' all your bitches we can fuckin' give a goddamn
Twisted Brown gets down with no assistance
We won't quit until we're banned from existence

Persistence pays if that holds true
Then I'm gonna buy this fuckin' planet before the time I'm through
I was praised and raised on the thoughts of no fakin'
So I'm gonna get what I got comin' and the rest I'm takin'

I'm shakin' like Jerry Lee Lewis and shit
You act like the motherfucker's new at this shit
But I've been true to this shit given my heart and soul
Been shinin' like a diamond, gettin' passed as coal

So, fuck off

With my pants half hangin' off my ass and shit
Bowl filled wit hash, pockets stuffed with cash
I be the mushroom trippin' sippin' shots of Jack
'Cause the kids don't listen gettin' lots of flack

I be the do wa diddy up and down you block and
The 10 karat Kid with my triggers cockin'
The K the I the D R O C
K motherfucker and you still don't know me

So blow me bitch, I don't rock for cancer
I rock for the cash and the topless dancers
Don't have no answers so pass the joint
I'm just paid in full and made in Detroit

I ride like Setta in the Indy 5
And get live with that which gets me high
Strive for perfection this much is true
We do what we say, you say what we do

Kid Rock I couldn't be no Bozo
And I get you what [Incomprehensible]
So Ho to Arizona
I'm an easy rider dreamin' of Wynonna

I roam the country like a Greyhound bus
Put faith in lust and in God I trust
I'm not Peter Pan, I don't fuck with fairies
But I bust more rhymes than virgin cherries

And Harry Carey couldn't call my game
Fucked so many hoes, I'm in the hall of fame
And I show no shame from coast to coast
I don't mean to brag but I like to boast

Fuck off

Yeah, right in your mother fuckin' ass bitch
With that Detroit city shit, ain't shit switched
We're on the same script, nothin' new since 76 Kid Rock
Yo Slim Shady come break these mother fuckers off

Yo, tell the world to hold their breath they're breathing the wrong air
This planet belongs to me and this hippy with long hair
Two white boys who spike punch and light joints
Hang around drugs loud music and like noise

Slim Shady and Brown Trucker another bunch of mother fuckers
Who hate the world just as much as each other
And I ain't leavin' this party tonight
Till I see some naked bitches dancin' around drunk touchin' each other

Rum and Pepsi got your perception of me sketchy
'Cause when I stage dive people are scared to catch me
'Cause all I do is curse and fuck
So when I do 'shrooms you all better give me two rooms
'Cause I'm fuckin' the first one up

So when you see me on your block you better lock your cars
'Cause you know I'm losin' it when I'm rappin' to rock guitars
This is for children who break rules, people that straight fool
And ever single teenager that hates school

Fuck off

1/26/2015 9:52:54113262640paddington bearSevereChorus:
So bugger off, you bastards bugger off! (Fuck You!)
Bugger off, you bastards bugger off! (Fuck You!)
Like a herd of bloody swine that refuse to leave the trough
You'll get no more this evening so you bastards bugger off

Well you've been a lovely audience, but oh the time does pass.
So don't you all be lettin' the door hit you in the ass.
You've been a splendid audience, but enough is enough.
We'd take it very kindly if you'd all just bugger off!


Here's to all the batenders and waitresses who've been servin you your beers,
and puttin up with your knoxious breath and your stupid drunken leers.
so leave your money on the table when you go,
tomorrow you'll have a sorry head and nothin left to show


Here's to all the lovely ladies who might be waitin for the band,
and thinkin one of them might make a charmin one night stand.
Please don't be offended girls this song is not for you.
we'll be happy to oblige you when this nasty job is through.


So you've been promisin the ladies a night of lovin bliss,
but truth be told your far to drunk to stand up straight and piss.
So give it up you lousy sods you'll not be gettin laid.
and the sooner that you're out the door the sooner we'll get paid.


So bugger off, you bastards bugger off! (Fuck You!)
Bugger off, you bastards bugger off! (Fuck You!)
Like a herd of fucking swine that refuse to leave the trough
You'll get no more this evening so you bastards bugger off

(1-2-3 FUCK YOU!)

roast beef& yorkies
1/31/2015 9:34:094286649hilathicMinorLadies, he appears to be spamming us all with the copy pasta "I enjoyed reading your profile. :)"Online1/30/2015
2/2/2015 19:20:282906349BiosapianModerateWe agreed to meet up at the Tropical Smoothie Cafe in Daytona Beach, at around 4pm on Saturday, the 31st of January, 2015. He asked me to go back to his place with him so we could hang out (we had been at TSC for over 2 hours and it was getting cold and dark) and possibly cuddle. I told a few people where EXACTLY I would be (he lives in DeLand), and went (despite telling myself not to). When we got there, after I made my safe call (that he didn't know about), he started touching me all over, and pinned me down. He is VERY strong. He pulled me on top of himself and wouldn't let me up.... I was basically forced into cuddles, while he touched me. He started grinding against me, and dry humping me despite my protests that I was taken (our meet up was to see if we clicked as FRIENDS only.....). At one point he even said that it "didn't seem like I was taken, because I was in bed with another man. He continued to touch me, call me names, insist that I was a terrible submissive because I wouldn't submit to being inappropriately touched when I didn't want it.... insist that my boyfriend was a terrible Dominant (at one point he even went so far as to suggest that my boyfriend should take a few lessons from him, and see how a "real Dominant does things" or something to that effect).... At one point he took a knife to my body. It was a dull display knife, but the tip is sharp regardless and you can still get hurt or even killed with a display knife. He dragged it over my skin, on my breasts, my stomach, my back, my neck/throat, my arms and wrists, telling me "don't fucking flinch" and even made me kiss the blade. I was scared out of my wits, and gave it a little half hearted peck... and he told me to "respect the blade. Kiss it like you mean it" etc. He did wind up making me suck him off a little. He joked about keeping me overnight but I have to wonder if he might have, if he didn't know that I had people who knew where I was. Eventually (I was there until around 11:30 or so....) he took me home, and on the way back into Daytona from DeLand, he was expressing that certain things I did meant that I definitely enjoyed what he was doing and wanted it. I was shaking almost the whole time, and clearly did NOT enjoy it, but according to him I had the time of my life and really enjoyed all of it. Daytona Beach, Florida; DeLand, FloridaJanuary 31st, 2015 from about 4pm to about midnight
2/7/2015 16:16:473262902FritzthekitSevereHe nonconsensually began “topping” me and sexually assaulted me. He took advantage of my freeze response but never got consent to do the things he did.
His wife later texted me that he is a serial cheater and that he is NOT in a open relationship like he claims to be on dates.
Eugene, OR2014
2/10/2015 10:18:242806752Sn0w_Wh1teSevereAs he appears to be resistant to the usual methods of stopping peoples nasty llittle antics, you could always try letting his gender clinic know about his piss poor behaviour at - Leeds Gender Identity Service
Management Suite
1st floor
Newsam Centre
Seacroft Hospital
York Road
LS14 6WB
Phone 0113 8556346 or email [email protected]

PS Good luck with yours and your nasty chums continuing efforts to put other people on here at the same time as complaining about being on here at the same time as saying you didn't put other people on here at the same times as saying no-one reads it and at the same time as trying to vandalise this database. That's the kind of manipulative BS that got you on here in the first place.
York, FetlifeConsiderable period of time
2/10/2015 17:09:00109699Rope33ModerateCyberstalking and harassment. Contacted me on IC when I was very new to the site. We talked about meeting up, but then when I decided against it he sent me multiple aggressive and intimidating messages across OKC, Fet, IC and by text. Bombarded me with messages for 2 days; used things I had told him to claim I had a mental or emotional disorder.
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Three differing systems exist in determining offenders inclusion in the registry: risk-based, sentence length-based and offense-based. In risk-based systems offender is screened against scientifically validated screening tool, and determination of inclusion is made according the results. In sentence length-based systems, offenders receiving sentences exceeding some determined length are included. In offense-based systems registration is required when person is convicted under one of the listed offenses requiring registration. Listed offense can cover wide scope of acts ranging in their severity from mild to egregious.

Risk-based registries reflect the determined dangerousness of registered offenders, while sentence length-based registries reflect the severity of the crime. Offense-based registries neither reflect the dangerousness of registrants, nor the severity of their crimes. UK, Canada and Australia has adopted either risk-based or sentence length-based registry schemes. In United States, vast majority of the states are applying Offense-based registries, leaving the actual risk-level of the offender and severity of the offense uncertain. The few U.S. states applying risk-based system are pressured by Federal Government to adopt offense based system in accordance with Adam Walsh Child Protection and Safety Act. Studies has shown that actuarial risk assessment instruments consistently outperform the offense based system mandated by federal law.[1] Consequently, the effectiveness of offense-based registries have been questioned by professionals, and evidence suggesting such registries being counterproductive exists.
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2/12/2015 7:32:22EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereDinosaur
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Temporal range: Late Triassic–Holocene, 231.4 - 0 Mya
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A collection of fossil dinosaur skeletons. Clockwise from top left: Microraptor gui (a winged theropod), Apatosaurus louisae (a giant sauropod), Stegosaurus stenops (a plated stegosaur), Triceratops horridus (a horned ceratopsian), Edmontosaurus regalis (a duck-billed ornithopod), Gastonia burgei (an armored ankylosaur).
Scientific classification e
Kingdom: Animalia
Phylum: Chordata
Clade: Dinosauriformes
Clade: Dinosauria
Owen, 1842
Major groups


Dinosaurs are a diverse group of animals of the clade Dinosauria. They first appeared during the Triassic period, 231.4 million years ago, and were the dominant terrestrial vertebrates for 135 million years, from the beginning of the Jurassic (about 201 million years ago) until the end of the Cretaceous (66 million years ago), when the Cretaceous–Paleogene extinction event led to the extinction of most dinosaur groups at the close of the Mesozoic Era. The fossil record indicates that birds evolved from theropod dinosaurs during the Jurassic Period and, consequently, they are considered a subgroup of dinosaurs by many paleontologists.[1] Some birds survived the extinction event that occurred 66 million years ago, and their descendants continue the dinosaur lineage to the present day.[2]

Dinosaurs are a varied group of animals from taxonomic, morphological and ecological standpoints. Birds, at over 10,000 living species,[3] are the most diverse group of vertebrates besides perciform fish.[4] Using fossil evidence, paleontologists have identified over 500 distinct genera[5] and more than 1,000 different species of non-avian dinosaurs.[6] Dinosaurs are represented on every continent by both extant species and fossil remains.[7] Some are herbivorous, others carnivorous. While dinosaurs were ancestrally bipedal, many extinct groups included quadrupedal species, and some were able to shift between these stances. Elaborate display structures such as horns or crests are common to all dinosaur groups, and some extinct groups developed skeletal modifications such as bony armor and spines. Evidence suggests that egg laying and nest building are additional traits shared by all dinosaurs. While modern dinosaurs (birds) are generally small due to the constraints of flight, many prehistoric dinosaurs were large-bodied—the largest sauropod dinosaurs may have achieved lengths of 58 meters (190 feet) and heights of 9.25 meters (30 feet 4 inches).[8] Still, the idea that non-avian dinosaurs were uniformly gigantic is a misconception based on preservation bias, as large, sturdy bones are more likely to last until they are fossilized. Many dinosaurs were quite small: Xixianykus, for example, was only about 50 cm (20 in) long.

Although the word dinosaur means "terrible lizard", the name is somewhat misleading, as dinosaurs are not lizards. Instead, they represent a separate group of reptiles that, like many extinct forms, did not exhibit characteristics traditionally seen as reptilian, such as a sprawling limb posture or ectothermy. Additionally, many prehistoric animals, including mosasaurs, ichthyosaurs, pterosaurs, plesiosaurs, and Dimetrodon, are popularly conceived of as dinosaurs, but are not taxonomically classified as dinosaurs. Through the first half of the 20th century, before birds were recognized to be dinosaurs, most of the scientific community believed dinosaurs to have been sluggish and cold-blooded. Most research conducted since the 1970s, however, has indicated that all dinosaurs were active animals with elevated metabolisms and numerous adaptations for social interaction.

Since the first dinosaur fossils were recognized in the early 19th century, mounted fossil dinosaur skeletons have been major attractions at museums around the world, and dinosaurs have become an enduring part of world culture. The large sizes of some groups, as well as their seemingly monstrous and fantastic nature, have ensured dinosaurs' regular appearance in best-selling books and films, such as Jurassic Park. Persistent public enthusiasm for the animals has resulted in significant funding for dinosaur science, and new discoveries are regularly covered by the media.
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2/12/2015 7:33:50EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereEtymology

The taxon Dinosauria was formally named in 1842 by paleontologist Sir Richard Owen, who used it to refer to the "distinct tribe or sub-order of Saurian Reptiles" that were then being recognized in England and around the world.[9] The term is derived from the Greek words δεινός (deinos, meaning "terrible," "potent," or "fearfully great") and σαῦρος (sauros, meaning "lizard" or "reptile").[9][10] Though the taxonomic name has often been interpreted as a reference to dinosaurs' teeth, claws, and other fearsome characteristics, Owen intended it merely to evoke their size and majesty.[11]
Triceratops horridus skeleton, American Museum of Natural History

Under phylogenetic taxonomy, dinosaurs are usually defined as the group consisting of Triceratops, Neornithes [modern birds], their most recent common ancestor (MRCA), and all descendants.[12] It has also been suggested that Dinosauria be defined with respect to the MRCA of Megalosaurus and Iguanodon, because these were two of the three genera cited by Richard Owen when he recognized the Dinosauria.[13] Both definitions result in the same set of animals being defined as dinosaurs: "Dinosauria = Ornithischia + Saurischia", encompassing theropods (mostly bipedal carnivores and birds), ankylosaurians (armored herbivorous quadrupeds), stegosaurians (plated herbivorous quadrupeds), ceratopsians (herbivorous quadrupeds with horns and frills), ornithopods (bipedal or quadrupedal herbivores including "duck-bills"), and sauropodomorphs (mostly large herbivorous quadrupeds with long necks and tails).[14]
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The common House sparrow (Passer domesticus) is often used to represent modern birds in definitions of the group Dinosauria

Birds are now recognized as being the sole surviving lineage of theropod dinosaurs. In traditional taxonomy, birds were considered a separate class that had evolved from dinosaurs, a distinct superorder. However, a majority of contemporary paleontologists concerned with dinosaurs reject the traditional style of classification in favor of phylogenetic nomenclature; this approach requires that, for a group to be natural, all descendants of members of the group must be included in the group as well. Birds are thus considered to be dinosaurs and dinosaurs are, therefore, not extinct. Birds are classified as belonging to the subgroup Maniraptora, which are coelurosaurs, which are theropods, which are saurischians, which are dinosaurs.[15]

General description

Using one of the above definitions, dinosaurs can be generally described as archosaurs with limbs held erect beneath the body.[16] Many prehistoric animal groups are popularly conceived of as dinosaurs, such as ichthyosaurs, mosasaurs, plesiosaurs, pterosaurs, and Dimetrodon, but are not classified scientifically as dinosaurs, and none had the erect limb posture characteristic of true dinosaurs.[17] Dinosaurs were the dominant terrestrial vertebrates of the Mesozoic, especially the Jurassic and Cretaceous periods. Other groups of animals were restricted in size and niches; mammals, for example, rarely exceeded the size of a cat, and were generally rodent-sized carnivores of small prey.[18]
Stegosaurus stenops skeleton, Field Museum

Dinosaurs have always been an extremely varied group of animals; according to a 2006 study, over 500 non-avialan dinosaur genera have been identified with certainty so far, and the total number of genera preserved in the fossil record has been estimated at around 1850, nearly 75% of which remain to be discovered.[5] An earlier study predicted that about 3400 dinosaur genera existed, including many which would not have been preserved in the fossil record.[19] By September 17, 2008, 1047 different species of dinosaurs had been named.[6] Some are herbivorous, others carnivorous, including seed-eaters, fish-eaters, insectivores, and omnivores. While dinosaurs were ancestrally bipedal (as are all modern birds), some prehistoric species were quadrupeds, and others, such as Ammosaurus and Iguanodon, could walk just as easily on two or four legs. Cranial modifications like horns and crests are common dinosaurian traits, and some extinct species had bony armor. Although known for large size, many Mesozoic dinosaurs were human-sized or smaller, and modern birds are generally small in size. Dinosaurs today inhabit every continent, and fossils show that they had achieved global distribution by at least the early Jurassic period.[7] Modern birds inhabit most available habitats, from terrestrial to marine, and there is evidence that some non-avialan dinosaurs (such as Microraptor) could fly or at least glide, and others, such as spinosaurids, had semi-aquatic habits.[20]
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2/12/2015 7:35:04EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereDistinguishing anatomical features

While recent discoveries have made it more difficult to present a universally agreed-upon list of dinosaurs' distinguishing features, nearly all dinosaurs discovered so far share certain modifications to the ancestral archosaurian skeleton, or are clear descendants of older dinosaurs showing these modifications. Although some later groups of dinosaurs featured further modified versions of these traits, they are considered typical for Dinosauria; the earliest dinosaurs had them and passed them on to their descendants. Such modifications, originating in the last common ancestor of a certain taxonomic group, are called the synapomorphies of such a group.[21]

A detailed assessment of archosaur interrelations by S. Nesbitt[22] confirmed or found the following twelve unambiguous synapomorphies, some previously known:

in the skull, a supratemporal fossa (excavation) is present in front of the supratemporal fenestra, the main opening in the rear skull roof
epipophyses, obliquely backward pointing processes on the rear top corners, present in the anterior (front) neck vertebrae behind the atlas and axis, the first two neck vertebrae
apex of deltopectoral crest (a projection on which the deltopectoral muscles attach) located at or more than 30% down the length of the humerus (upper arm bone)
radius, a lower arm bone, shorter than 80% of humerus length
fourth trochanter (projection where the caudofemoralis muscle attaches on the inner rear shaft) on the femur (thighbone) is a sharp flange
fourth trochanter asymmetrical, with distal, lower, margin forming a steeper angle to the shaft
on the astragalus and calcaneum, upper ankle bones, the proximal articular facet, the top connecting surface, for the fibula occupies less than 30% of the transverse width of the element
exoccipitals (bones at the back of the skull) do not meet along the midline on the floor of the endocranial cavity, the inner space of the braincase
in the pelvis, the proximal articular surfaces of the ischium with the ilium and the pubis are separated by a large concave surface (on the upper side of the ischium a part of the open hip joint is located between the contacts with the pubic bone and the ilium)
cnemial crest on the tibia (protruding part of the top surface of the shinbone) arcs anterolaterally (curves to the front and the outer side)
distinct proximodistally oriented (vertical) ridge present on the posterior face of the distal end of the tibia (the rear surface of the lower end of the shinbone)
Concave articular surface for the fibula of the calcaneum (the top surface of the calcaneum, where it touches the fibula, has a hollow profile)

Nesbitt found a number of further potential synapomorphies, and discounted a number of synapomorphies previously suggested. Some of these are also present in silesaurids, which Nesbitt recovered as a sister group to Dinosauria, including a large anterior trochanter, metatarsals II and IV of subequal length, reduced contact between ischium and pubis, the presence of a cnemial crest on the tibia and of an ascending process on the astragalus, and many others.[12]
Diagram of a typical diapsid skull
Hip joints and hindlimb postures of typical reptiles (left), dinosaurs and mammals (middle), and rauisuchians (right)

A variety of other skeletal features are shared by dinosaurs. However, because they are either common to other groups of archosaurs or were not present in all early dinosaurs, these features are not considered to be synapomorphies. For example, as diapsids, dinosaurs ancestrally had two pairs of temporal fenestrae (openings in the skull behind the eyes), and as members of the diapsid group Archosauria, had additional openings in the snout and lower jaw.[23] Additionally, several characteristics once thought to be synapomorphies are now known to have appeared before dinosaurs, or were absent in the earliest dinosaurs and independently evolved by different dinosaur groups. These include an elongated scapula, or shoulder blade; a sacrum composed of three or more fused vertebrae (three are found in some other archosaurs, but only two are found in Herrerasaurus);[12] and a perforate acetabulum, or hip socket, with a hole at the center of its inside surface (closed in Saturnalia, for example).[24][25] Another difficulty of determining distinctly dinosaurian features is that early dinosaurs and other archosaurs from the Late Triassic are often poorly known and were similar in many ways; these animals have sometimes been misidentified in the literature.[26]

Dinosaurs stand erect in a manner similar to most modern mammals, but distinct from most other reptiles, whose limbs sprawl out to either side.[27] This posture is due to the development of a laterally facing recess in the pelvis (usually an open socket) and a corresponding inwardly facing distinct head on the femur.[28] Their erect posture enabled early dinosaurs to breathe easily while moving, which likely permitted stamina and activity levels that surpassed those of "sprawling" reptiles.[29] Erect limbs probably also helped support the evolution of large size by reducing bending stresses on limbs.[30] Some non-dinosaurian archosaurs, including rauisuchians, also had erect limbs but achieved this by a "pillar erect" configuration of the hip joint, where instead of having a projection from the femur insert on a socket on the hip, the upper pelvic bone was rotated to form an overhanging shelf.[30]
Evolutionary history
Main article: Evolution of dinosaurs
Origins and early evolution
Skeleton of Marasuchus lilloensis, a dinosaur-like ornithodiran
Full skeleton of an early carnivorous dinosaur, displayed in a glass case in a museum
The early forms Herrerasaurus (large), Eoraptor (small) and a Plateosaurus skull

Dinosaurs diverged from their archosaur ancestors during the Middle to Late Triassic period, roughly 20 million years after the Permian–Triassic extinction event wiped out an estimated 95% of all life on Earth.[31][32] Radiometric dating of the rock formation that contained fossils from the early dinosaur genus Eoraptor at 231.4 million years old establishes its presence in the fossil record at this time.[33] Paleontologists think that Eoraptor resembles the common ancestor of all dinosaurs;[34] if this is true, its traits suggest that the first dinosaurs were small, bipedal predators.[35] The discovery of primitive, dinosaur-like ornithodirans such as Marasuchus and Lagerpeton in Argentinian Middle Triassic strata supports this view; analysis of recovered fossils suggests that these animals were indeed small, bipedal predators. Dinosaurs may have appeared as early as 243 million years ago, as evidenced by remains of the genus Nyasasaurus from that period, though known fossils of these animals are too fragmentary to tell if they are dinosaurs or very close dinosaurian relatives.[36]

When dinosaurs appeared, they were not the dominant terrestrial animals. The terrestrial habitats were occupied by various types of archosauromorphs and therapsids, like cynodonts and rhynchosaurs. Their main competitors were the pseudosuchia, such as aetosaurs, ornithosuchids and rauisuchians, which were more successful than the dinosaurs.[37] Most of these other animals became extinct in the Triassic, in one of two events. First, at about 215 million years ago, variety of basal archosauromorphs, including the protorosaurs, became extinct. This was followed by the Triassic–Jurassic extinction event (about 200 million years ago), that saw the end of most of the other groups of early archosaurs, like aetosaurs, ornithosuchids, phytosaurs, and rauisuchians. Rhynchosaurs and dicynodonts survived (at least in some areas) at least as late as early-mid Norian and early Rhaetian, respectively,[38][39] and the exact date of their extinction is uncertain. These losses left behind a land fauna of crocodylomorphs, dinosaurs, mammals, pterosaurians, and turtles.[12] The first few lines of early dinosaurs diversified through the Carnian and Norian stages of the Triassic, possibly by occupying the niches of the groups that became extinct.[14
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2/12/2015 7:35:50EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereEvolution and paleobiogeography

Dinosaur evolution after the Triassic follows changes in vegetation and the location of continents. In the Late Triassic and Early Jurassic, the continents were connected as the single landmass Pangaea, and there was a worldwide dinosaur fauna mostly composed of coelophysoid carnivores and early sauropodomorph herbivores.[40] Gymnosperm plants (particularly conifers), a potential food source, radiated in the Late Triassic. Early sauropodomorphs did not have sophisticated mechanisms for processing food in the mouth, and so must have employed other means of breaking down food farther along the digestive tract.[41] The general homogeneity of dinosaurian faunas continued into the Middle and Late Jurassic, where most localities had predators consisting of ceratosaurians, spinosauroids, and carnosaurians, and herbivores consisting of stegosaurian ornithischians and large sauropods. Examples of this include the Morrison Formation of North America and Tendaguru Beds of Tanzania. Dinosaurs in China show some differences, with specialized sinraptorid theropods and unusual, long-necked sauropods like Mamenchisaurus.[40] Ankylosaurians and ornithopods were also becoming more common, but prosauropods had become extinct. Conifers and pteridophytes were the most common plants. Sauropods, like the earlier prosauropods, were not oral processors, but ornithischians were evolving various means of dealing with food in the mouth, including potential cheek-like organs to keep food in the mouth, and jaw motions to grind food.[41] Another notable evolutionary event of the Jurassic was the appearance of true birds, descended from maniraptoran coelurosaurians.[42]

By the Early Cretaceous and the ongoing breakup of Pangaea, dinosaurs were becoming strongly differentiated by landmass. The earliest part of this time saw the spread of ankylosaurians, iguanodontians, and brachiosaurids through Europe, North America, and northern Africa. These were later supplemented or replaced in Africa by large spinosaurid and carcharodontosaurid theropods, and rebbachisaurid and titanosaurian sauropods, also found in South America. In Asia, maniraptoran coelurosaurians like dromaeosaurids, troodontids, and oviraptorosaurians became the common theropods, and ankylosaurids and early ceratopsians like Psittacosaurus became important herbivores. Meanwhile, Australia was home to a fauna of basal ankylosaurians, hypsilophodonts, and iguanodontians.[40] The stegosaurians appear to have gone extinct at some point in the late Early Cretaceous or early Late Cretaceous. A major change in the Early Cretaceous, which would be amplified in the Late Cretaceous, was the evolution of flowering plants. At the same time, several groups of dinosaurian herbivores evolved more sophisticated ways to orally process food. Ceratopsians developed a method of slicing with teeth stacked on each other in batteries, and iguanodontians refined a method of grinding with tooth batteries, taken to its extreme in hadrosaurids.[41] Some sauropods also evolved tooth batteries, best exemplified by the rebbachisaurid Nigersaurus.[43]

There were three general dinosaur faunas in the Late Cretaceous. In the northern continents of North America and Asia, the major theropods were tyrannosaurids and various types of smaller maniraptoran theropods, with a predominantly ornithischian herbivore assemblage of hadrosaurids, ceratopsians, ankylosaurids, and pachycephalosaurians. In the southern continents that had made up the now-splitting Gondwana, abelisaurids were the common theropods, and titanosaurian sauropods the common herbivores. Finally, in Europe, dromaeosaurids, rhabdodontid iguanodontians, nodosaurid ankylosaurians, and titanosaurian sauropods were prevalent.[40] Flowering plants were greatly radiating,[41] with the first grasses appearing by the end of the Cretaceous.[44] Grinding hadrosaurids and shearing ceratopsians became extremely diverse across North America and Asia. Theropods were also radiating as herbivores or omnivores, with therizinosaurians and ornithomimosaurians becoming common.[41]

The Cretaceous–Paleogene extinction event, which occurred approximately 66 million years ago at the end of the Cretaceous period, caused the extinction of all dinosaur groups except for the neornithine birds. Some other diapsid groups, such as crocodilians, sebecosuchians, turtles, lizards, snakes, sphenodontians, and choristoderans, also survived the event.[45]

The surviving lineages of neornithine birds, including the ancestors of modern ratites, ducks and chickens, and a variety of waterbirds, diversified rapidly at the beginning of the Paleogene period, entering ecological niches left vacant by the extinction of Mesozoic dinosaur groups such as the arboreal enantiornithines, aquatic hesperornithines, and even the larger terrestrial theropods (in the form of Gastornis, mihirungs, and "terror birds"). However, mammals were also rapidly diversifying during this time, and out-competed the neornithines for dominance of most terrestrial niches.[46]
Main article: Dinosaur classification

Dinosaurs are archosaurs, like modern crocodilians. Within the archosaur group, dinosaurs are differentiated most noticeably by their gait. Dinosaur legs extend directly beneath the body, whereas the legs of lizards and crocodilians sprawl out to either side.[21]

Collectively, dinosaurs as a clade are divided into two primary branches, Saurischia and Ornithischia. Saurischia includes those taxa sharing a more recent common ancestor with birds than with Ornithischia, while Ornithischia includes all taxa sharing a more recent common ancestor with Triceratops than with Saurischia. Anatomically, these two groups can be distinguished most noticeably by their pelvic structure. Early saurischians—"lizard-hipped", from the Greek sauros (σαῦρος) meaning "lizard" and ischion (ἰσχίον) meaning "hip joint—retained the hip structure of their ancestors, with a pubis bone directed cranially, or forward.[28] This basic form was modified by rotating the pubis backward to varying degrees in several groups (Herrerasaurus,[47] therizinosauroids,[48] dromaeosaurids,[49] and birds[42]). Saurischia includes the theropods (exclusively bipedal and with a wide variety of diets) and sauropodomorphs (long-necked herbivores which include advanced, quadrupedal groups).[50][51]

By contrast, ornithischians—"bird-hipped", from the Greek ornitheios (ὀρνίθειος) meaning "of a bird" and ischion (ἰσχίον) meaning "hip joint"—had a pelvis that superficially resembled a bird's pelvis: the pubis bone was oriented caudally (rear-pointing). Unlike birds, the ornithischian pubis also usually had an additional forward-pointing process. Ornithischia includes a variety of species which were primarily herbivores. (NB: the terms "lizard hip" and "bird hip" are misnomers – birds evolved from dinosaurs with "lizard hips".)[21]
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The following is a simplified classification of dinosaur groups based on their evolutionary relationships, and organized based on the list of Mesozoic dinosaur species provided by Holtz (2008).[2] A more detailed version can be found at Dinosaur classification. The dagger (†) is used to signify groups with no living members.


Saurischia ("lizard-hipped"; includes Theropoda and Sauropodomorpha)

Theropoda (all bipedal; most were carnivorous)

†Herrerasauria (early bipedal carnivores)
†Coelophysoidea (small, early theropods; includes Coelophysis and close relatives)
†Dilophosauridae (early crested and carnivorous theropods)
†Ceratosauria (generally elaborately horned, the dominant southern carnivores of the Cretaceous)
Tetanurae ("stiff tails"; includes most theropods)

†Megalosauroidea (early group of large carnivores including the semi-aquatic spinosaurids)
†Carnosauria (Allosaurus and close relatives, like Carcharodontosaurus)
Coelurosauria (feathered theropods, with a range of body sizes and niches)

†Compsognathidae (common early coelurosaurs with reduced forelimbs)
†Tyrannosauridae (Tyrannosaurus and close relatives; had reduced forelimbs)
†Ornithomimosauria ("ostrich-mimics"; mostly toothless; carnivores to possible herbivores)
†Alvarezsauroidea (small insectivores with reduced forelimbs each bearing one enlarged claw)
Maniraptora ("hand snatchers"; had long, slender arms and fingers)

†Therizinosauria (bipedal herbivores with large hand claws and small heads)
†Oviraptorosauria (mostly toothless; their diet and lifestyle are uncertain)
†Archaeopterygidae (small, winged theropods or primitive birds)
†Deinonychosauria (small- to medium-sized; bird-like, with a distinctive toe claw)
Avialae (modern birds and extinct relatives)

†Scansoriopterygidae (small primitive avialans with long third fingers)
†Omnivoropterygidae (large, early short-tailed avialans)
†Confuciusornithidae (small toothless avialans)
†Enantiornithes (primitive tree-dwelling, flying avialans)
Euornithes (advanced flying birds)

†Yanornithiformes (toothed Cretaceous Chinese birds)
†Hesperornithes (specialized aquatic diving birds)
Aves (modern, beaked birds and their extinct relatives)

Several macronarian Sauropods: from left to right Camarasaurus, Brachiosaurus, Giraffatitan, and Euhelopus

†Sauropodomorpha (herbivores with small heads, long necks, long tails)

†Guaibasauridae (small, primitive, omnivorous sauropodomorphs)
†Plateosauridae (primitive, strictly bipedal "prosauropods")
†Riojasauridae (small, primitive sauropodomorphs)
†Massospondylidae (small, primitive sauropodomorphs)
†Sauropoda (very large and heavy, usually over 15 metres (49 feet) long; quadrupedal)

†Vulcanodontidae (primitive sauropods with pillar-like limbs)
†Eusauropoda ("true sauropods")

†Cetiosauridae ("whale reptiles")
†Turiasauria (European group of Jurassic and Cretaceous sauropods)
†Neosauropoda ("new sauropods")

†Diplodocoidea (skulls and tails elongated; teeth typically narrow and pencil-like)
†Macronaria (boxy skulls; spoon- or pencil-shaped teeth)

†Brachiosauridae (long-necked, long-armed macronarians)
†Titanosauria (diverse; stocky, with wide hips; most common in the Late Cretaceous of southern continents)

Various ornithopod dinosaurs and one heterodontosaurid. Far left: Camptosaurus, left: Iguanodon, center background: Shantungosaurus, center foreground: Dryosaurus, right: Corythosaurus, far right (small): Heterodontosaurus, far right (large) Tenontosaurus.

†Ornithischia ("bird-hipped"; diverse bipedal and quadrupedal herbivores)

†Heterodontosauridae (small basal ornithopod herbivores/omnivores with prominent canine-like teeth)
†Thyreophora (armored dinosaurs; mostly quadrupeds)

†Ankylosauria (scutes as primary armor; some had club-like tails)
†Stegosauria (spikes and plates as primary armor)

†Neornithischia ("new ornithischians")

†Ornithopoda (various sizes; bipeds and quadrupeds; evolved a method of chewing using skull flexibility and numerous teeth)
†Marginocephalia (characterized by a cranial growth)

†Pachycephalosauria (bipeds with domed or knobby growth on skulls)
†Ceratopsia (quadrupeds with frills; many also had horns)


Knowledge about dinosaurs is derived from a variety of fossil and non-fossil records, including fossilized bones, feces, trackways, gastroliths, feathers, impressions of skin, internal organs and soft tissues.[52][53] Many fields of study contribute to our understanding of dinosaurs, including physics (especially biomechanics; dinosaur mass, speed and blood flow), chemistry, biology, and the earth sciences (of which paleontology is a sub-discipline).[54][55] Two topics of particular interest and study have been dinosaur size and behavior.[56]
Main article: Dinosaur size
Scale diagram comparing the largest known dinosaurs in five major clades and a human

Current evidence suggests that dinosaur average size varied through the Triassic, early Jurassic, late Jurassic and Cretaceous periods.[34] Predatory theropod dinosaurs, which occupied most terrestrial carnivore niches during the Mesozoic, most often fall into the 100 to 1000 kilogram (220 to 2200 lb) category when sorted by estimated weight into categories based on order of magnitude, whereas recent predatory carnivoran mammals peak in the 10 to 100 kilogram (22 to 220 lb) category.[57] The mode of Mesozoic dinosaur body masses is between one and ten metric tonnes.[58] This contrasts sharply with the size of Cenozoic mammals, estimated by the National Museum of Natural History as about 2 to 5 kilograms (5 to 10 lb).[59]

The sauropods were the largest and heaviest dinosaurs. For much of the dinosaur era, the smallest sauropods were larger than anything else in their habitat, and the largest were an order of magnitude more massive than anything else that has since walked the Earth. Giant prehistoric mammals such as Paraceratherium (the largest land mammal ever) were dwarfed by the giant sauropods, and only modern whales approach or surpass them in size.[60] There are several proposed advantages for the large size of sauropods, including protection from predation, reduction of energy use, and longevity, but it may be that the most important advantage was dietary. Large animals are more efficient at digestion than small animals, because food spends more time in their digestive systems. This also permits them to subsist on food with lower nutritive value than smaller animals. Sauropod remains are mostly found in rock formations interpreted as dry or seasonally dry, and the ability to eat large quantities of low-nutrient browse would have been advantageous in such environments.[8
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2/12/2015 7:38:11EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereLargest and smallest

Scientists will probably never be certain of the largest and smallest dinosaurs to have ever existed. This is because only a tiny percentage of animals ever fossilize, and most of these remain buried in the earth. Few of the specimens that are recovered are complete skeletons, and impressions of skin and other soft tissues are rare. Rebuilding a complete skeleton by comparing the size and morphology of bones to those of similar, better-known species is an inexact art, and reconstructing the muscles and other organs of the living animal is, at best, a process of educated guesswork.[61]
Comparative size of Giraffatitan to the average human.

The tallest and heaviest dinosaur known from good skeletons is Giraffatitan brancai (previously classified as a species of Brachiosaurus). Its remains were discovered in Tanzania between 1907 and 1912. Bones from several similar-sized individuals were incorporated into the skeleton now mounted and on display at the Museum für Naturkunde Berlin;[62] this mount is 12 meters (39 ft) tall and 21.8–22.5 meters (72–74 ft) long,[63][64] and would have belonged to an animal that weighed between 30000 and 60000 kilograms (70000 and 130000 lb). The longest complete dinosaur is the 27-meter (89 ft) long Diplodocus, which was discovered in Wyoming in the United States and displayed in Pittsburgh's Carnegie Natural History Museum in 1907.[65]
Comparative size of Eoraptor to the average human.

There were larger dinosaurs, but knowledge of them is based entirely on a small number of fragmentary fossils. Most of the largest herbivorous specimens on record were all discovered in the 1970s or later, and include the massive Argentinosaurus, which may have weighed 80000 to 100000 kilograms (90 to 110 short tons); some of the longest were the 33.5 meters (110 ft) long Diplodocus hallorum[8] (formerly Seismosaurus) and the 33 meters (108 ft) long Supersaurus;[66] and the tallest, the 18 meters (59 ft) tall Sauroposeidon, which could have reached a sixth-floor window. The heaviest and longest of them all may have been Amphicoelias fragillimus, known only from a now lost partial vertebral neural arch described in 1878. Extrapolating from the illustration of this bone, the animal may have been 58 meters (190 ft) long and weighed over 120000 kg (260000 lb).[8] The largest known carnivorous dinosaur was Spinosaurus, reaching a length of 16 to 18 meters (52 to 60 ft), and weighing in at 8150 kg (18000 lb).[67] Other large carnivorous theropods included Giganotosaurus, Carcharodontosaurus and Tyrannosaurus.[68] Therizinosaurus and Deinocheirus were among the tallest of the theropods.

Not including birds (Avialae), the smallest known dinosaurs were about the size of pigeons.[69] Not surprisingly, the smallest non-avialan dinosaurs were those theropods most closely related to birds. Anchiornis huxleyi, for example, had a total skeletal length of under 35 centimeters (1.1 ft).[69][70] A. huxleyi is currently the smallest non-avialan dinosaur described from an adult specimen, with an estimated weight of 110 grams.[70] The smallest herbivorous non-avialan dinosaurs included Microceratus and Wannanosaurus, at about 60 cm (2.0 ft) long each.[2][71]
A nesting ground of hadrosaur Maiasaura peeblesorum was discovered in 1978.

Many modern birds are highly social, often found living in flocks. There is general agreement that some behaviors which are common in birds, as well as in crocodiles (birds' closest living relatives), were also common among extinct dinosaur groups. Interpretations of behavior in fossil species are generally based on the pose of skeletons and their habitat, computer simulations of their biomechanics, and comparisons with modern animals in similar ecological niches.[54]

The first potential evidence for herding or flocking as a widespread behavior common to many dinosaur groups in addition to birds was the 1878 discovery of 31 Iguanodon bernissartensis, ornithischians which were then thought to have perished together in Bernissart, Belgium, after they fell into a deep, flooded sinkhole and drowned.[72] Other mass-death sites have been subsequently discovered. Those, along with multiple trackways, suggest that gregarious behavior was common in many early dinosaur species. Trackways of hundreds or even thousands of herbivores indicate that duck-bills (hadrosaurids) may have moved in great herds, like the American bison or the African springbok. Sauropod tracks document that these animals traveled in groups composed of several different species, at least in Oxfordshire, England,[73] although there is not evidence for specific herd structures.[74] Congregating into herds may have evolved for defense, for migratory purposes, or to provide protection for young. There is evidence that many types of slow-growing dinosaurs, including various theropods, sauropods, ankylosaurians, ornithopods, and ceratopsians, formed aggregations of immature individuals. One example is a site in Inner Mongolia that has yielded the remains of over 20 Sinornithomimus, from one to seven years old. This assemblage is interpreted as a social group that was trapped in mud.[75] The interpretation of dinosaurs as gregarious has also extended to depicting carnivorous theropods as pack hunters working together to bring down large prey.[76][77] However, this lifestyle is uncommon among modern birds, crocodiles, and other reptiles, and the taphonomic evidence suggesting mammal-like pack hunting in such theropods as Deinonychus and Allosaurus can also be interpreted as the results of fatal disputes between feeding animals, as is seen in many modern diapsid predators.[78]
Artist's rendering of two Centrosaurus apertus engaged in intra-specific combat.

The crests and frills of some dinosaurs, like the marginocephalians, theropods and lambeosaurines, may have been too fragile to be used for active defense, and so they were likely used for sexual or aggressive displays, though little is known about dinosaur mating and territorialism. Head wounds from bites suggest that theropods, at least, engaged in active aggressive confrontations.[79]

From a behavioral standpoint, one of the most valuable dinosaur fossils was discovered in the Gobi Desert in 1971. It included a Velociraptor attacking a Protoceratops,[80] providing evidence that dinosaurs did indeed attack each other.[81] Additional evidence for attacking live prey is the partially healed tail of an Edmontosaurus, a hadrosaurid dinosaur; the tail is damaged in such a way that shows the animal was bitten by a tyrannosaur but survived.[81] Cannibalism amongst some species of dinosaurs was confirmed by tooth marks found in Madagascar in 2003, involving the theropod Majungasaurus.[82]

Comparisons between the scleral rings of dinosaurs and modern birds and reptiles have been used to infer daily activity patterns of dinosaurs. Although it has been suggested that most dinosaurs were active during the day, these comparisons have shown that small predatory dinosaurs such as dromaeosaurids, Juravenator, and Megapnosaurus were likely nocturnal. Large and medium-sized herbivorous and omnivorous dinosaurs such as ceratopsians, sauropodomorphs, hadrosaurids, ornithomimosaurs may have been cathemeral, active during short intervals throughout the day, although the small ornithischian Agilisaurus was inferred to be diurnal.[83]

Based on current fossil evidence from dinosaurs such as Oryctodromeus, some ornithischian species seem to have led a partially fossorial (burrowing) lifestyle.[84] Many modern birds are arboreal (tree climbing), and this was also true of many Mesozoic birds, especially the enantiornithines.[85] While some early bird-like species may have already been arboreal as well (including dromaeosaurids such as Microraptor[86]) most non-avialan dinosaurs seem to have relied on land-based locomotion. A good understanding of how dinosaurs moved on the ground is key to models of dinosaur behavior; the science of biomechanics, in particular, has provided significant insight in this area. For example, studies of the forces exerted by muscles and gravity on dinosaurs' skeletal structure have investigated how fast dinosaurs could run,[87] whether diplodocids could create sonic booms via whip-like tail snapping,[88] and whether sauropods could float.[89]
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2/12/2015 7:39:09EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereCommunication
Artist's impression of a striking and unusual visual display in a Lambeosaurus magnicristatus

Modern birds are well known for communicating using primarily visual and auditory signals, and the wide diversity of visual display structures among fossil dinosaur groups suggests that visual communication has always been important to dinosaur biology. However, the evolution of dinosaur vocalization is less certain. In 2008, paleontologist Phil Senter examined the evidence for vocalization in Mesozoic animal life, including dinosaurs.[90] Senter found that, contrary to popular depictions of roaring dinosaurs in motion pictures, it is likely that most Mesozoic dinosaurs were not capable of creating any vocalizations (though the hollow crests of the lambeosaurines could have functioned as resonance chambers used for a wide range of vocalizations).[91][92] To draw this conclusion, Senter studied the distribution of vocal organs in modern reptiles and birds. He found that vocal cords in the larynx probably evolved multiple times among reptiles, including crocodilians, which are able to produce guttural roars. Birds, on the other hand, lack a larynx. Instead, bird calls are produced by the syrinx, a vocal organ found only in birds, and which is not related to the larynx, meaning it evolved independently from the vocal organs in reptiles. The syrinx depends on the air sac system in birds to function; specifically, it requires the presence of a clavicular air sac near the wishbone or collar bone. This air sac leaves distinctive marks or opening on the bones, including a distinct opening in the upper arm bone (humerus). While extensive air sac systems are a unique characteristic of saurischian dinosaurs, the clavicular air sac necessary to vocalize does not appear in the fossil record until the enantiornithines (one exception, Aerosteon, probably evolved its clavicular air sac independently of birds for reasons other than vocalization).[90]

The most primitive dinosaurs with evidence of a vocalizing syrinx are the enantironithine birds. Any bird-line archosaurs more primitive than this probably did not make vocal calls. Rather, several lines of evidence suggest that early dinosaurs used primarily visual communication, in the form of distinctive-looking (and possibly brightly colored) horns, frills, crests, sails and feathers. This is similar to some modern reptile groups such as lizards, in which many forms are largely silent (though like dinosaurs they possess well-developed senses of hearing) but use complex coloration and display behaviors to communicate.[90]

In addition, dinosaurs use other methods of producing sound for communication. Other animals, including other reptiles, use a wide variety of non-vocal sound communication, including hissing, jaw grinding or clapping, use of environment (such as splashing), and wing beating (possible in winged maniraptoran dinosaurs).[90]
Reproductive biology
Three eggs, bluish with black speckling, sit atop a layer of white mollusk shells pieces, surrounded by sandy ground and small bits of bluish stone.
Nest of a plover (Charadrius).

All dinosaurs lay amniotic eggs with hard shells made mostly of calcium carbonate.[93] Eggs are usually laid in a nest. Most species create somewhat elaborate nests, which can be cups, domes, plates, beds scrapes, mounds, or burrows.[94] Some species of modern bird have no nests; the cliff-nesting common guillemot lays its eggs on bare rock, and male emperor penguins keep eggs between their body and feet. Primitive birds and many non-avialan dinosaurs often lay eggs in communal nests, with males primarily incubating the eggs. While modern birds have only one functional oviduct and lay one egg at a time, more primitive birds and dinosaurs had two oviducts, like crocodiles. Some non-avialan dinosaurs, such as Troodon, exhibited iterative laying, where the adult might lay a pair of eggs every one or two days, and then ensured simultaneous hatching by delaying brooding until all eggs were laid.[95]

When laying eggs, females grow a special type of bone between the hard outer bone and the marrow of their limbs. This medullary bone, which is rich in calcium, is used to make eggshells. A discovery of features in a Tyrannosaurus rex skeleton provided evidence of medullary bone in extinct dinosaurs and, for the first time, allowed paleontologists to establish the sex of a fossil dinosaur specimen. Further research has found medullary bone in the carnosaur Allosaurus and the ornithopod Tenontosaurus. Because the line of dinosaurs that includes Allosaurus and Tyrannosaurus diverged from the line that led to Tenontosaurus very early in the evolution of dinosaurs, this suggests that the production of medullary tissue is a general characteristic of all dinosaurs.[96]
Fossilized egg of the oviraptorid Citipati, American Museum of Natural History

Another widespread trait among modern birds is parental care for young after hatching. Jack Horner's 1978 discovery of a Maiasaura ("good mother lizard") nesting ground in Montana demonstrated that parental care continued long after birth among ornithopods, suggesting this behavior might also have been common to all dinosaurs.[97] There is evidence that other non-theropod dinosaurs, like Patagonian titanosaurian sauropods (1997 discovery), also nested in large groups.[98] A specimen of the Mongolian oviraptorid Citipati osmolskae was discovered in a chicken-like brooding position in 1993,[99] which indicates that they had begun using an insulating layer of feathers to keep the eggs warm.[100] Parental care being a trait common to all dinosaurs is supported by other finds. For example, a dinosaur embryo (pertaining to the prosauropod Massospondylus) was found without teeth, indicating that some parental care was required to feed the young dinosaurs.[101] Trackways have also confirmed parental behavior among ornithopods from the Isle of Skye in northwestern Scotland.[102] Nests and eggs have been found for most major groups of dinosaurs, and it appears likely that all dinosaurs cared for their young to some extent either before or shortly after hatching.[103]
Main article: Physiology of dinosaurs
Comparison between the air sacs of an abelisaur and a bird

Because both modern crocodilians and birds have four-chambered hearts (albeit modified in crocodilians), it is likely that this is a trait shared by all archosaurs, including all dinosaurs.[104] While all modern birds have high metabolisms and are "warm blooded" (endothermic), a vigorous debate has been ongoing since the 1960s regarding how far back in the dinosaur lineage this trait extends. Scientists disagree as to whether non-avian dinosaurs were endothermic, ectothermic, or some combination of both.[105]

After non-avian dinosaurs were discovered, paleontologists first posited that they were ectothermic. This supposed "cold-bloodedness" was used to imply that the ancient dinosaurs were relatively slow, sluggish organisms, even though many modern reptiles are fast and light-footed despite relying on external sources of heat to regulate their body temperature. The idea of dinosaurs as ectothermic and sluggish remained a prevalent view until Robert T. "Bob" Bakker, an early proponent of dinosaur endothermy, published an influential paper on the topic in 1968.[106]

Modern evidence indicates that even non-avian dinosaurs and birds thrived in cooler temperate climates, and that at least some early species must have regulated their body temperature by internal biological means (aided by the animals' bulk in large species and feathers or other body coverings in smaller species). Evidence of endothermy in Mesozoic dinosaurs includes the discovery of polar dinosaurs in Australia and Antarctica as well as analysis of blood-vessel structures within fossil bones that are typical of endotherms. Scientific debate continues regarding the specific ways in which dinosaur temperature regulation evolved.[107]

In saurischian dinosaurs, higher metabolisms were supported by the evolution of the avian respiratory system, characterized by an extensive system of air sacs that extended the lungs and invaded many of the bones in the skeleton, making them hollow.[108] Early avian-style respiratory systems with air sacs may have been capable of sustaining higher activity levels than mammals of similar size and build could sustain. In addition to providing a very efficient supply of oxygen, the rapid airflow would have been an effective cooling mechanism, which is essential for animals that are active but too large to get rid of all the excess heat through their skin.[109]

Like other reptiles, dinosaurs are primarily uricotelic, that is, their kidneys extract nitrogenous wastes from their bloodstream and excrete it as uric acid instead of urea or ammonia via the ureters into the intestine. In most living species, uric acid is excreted along with feces as a semisolid waste.[110][111][112] However, at least some modern birds (such as hummingbirds) can be facultatively ammonotelic, excreting most of the nitrogenous wastes as ammonia.[113] They also excrete creatine, rather than creatinine like mammals. This material, as well as the output of the intestines, emerges from the cloaca.[114][115] In addition, many species regurgitate pellets, and fossil pellets that may have come from dinosaurs are known from as long ago as the Cretaceous period.[116
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2/12/2015 7:40:01EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereOrigin of birds
Main article: Origin of birds

The possibility that dinosaurs were the ancestors of birds was first suggested in 1868 by Thomas Henry Huxley.[117] After the work of Gerhard Heilmann in the early 20th century, the theory of birds as dinosaur descendants was abandoned in favor of the idea of their being descendants of generalized thecodonts, with the key piece of evidence being the supposed lack of clavicles in dinosaurs.[118] However, as later discoveries showed, clavicles (or a single fused wishbone, which derived from separate clavicles) were not actually absent;[42] they had been found as early as 1924 in Oviraptor, but misidentified as an interclavicle.[119] In the 1970s, John Ostrom revived the dinosaur–bird theory,[120] which gained momentum in the coming decades with the advent of cladistic analysis,[121] and a great increase in the discovery of small theropods and early birds.[23] Of particular note have been the fossils of the Yixian Formation, where a variety of theropods and early birds have been found, often with feathers of some type.[42] Birds share over a hundred distinct anatomical features with theropod dinosaurs, which are now generally accepted to have been their closest ancient relatives.[122] They are most closely allied with maniraptoran coelurosaurs.[42] A minority of scientists, most notably Alan Feduccia and Larry Martin, have proposed other evolutionary paths, including revised versions of Heilmann's basal archosaur proposal,[123] or that maniraptoran theropods are the ancestors of birds but themselves are not dinosaurs, only convergent with dinosaurs.[1]
Main article: Feathered dinosaurs
The famous Berlin specimen of Archaeopteryx lithographica

Feathers are one of the most recognizable characteristics of modern birds, and a trait that was shared by all other dinosaur groups. Based on the current distribution of fossil evidence, it appears that feathers were an ancestral dinosaurian trait, though one that may have been selectively lost in some species.[124] Direct fossil evidence of feathers or feather-like structures has been discovered in a diverse array of species in many non-avian dinosaur groups, both among saurischians and ornithischians. Simple, branched, feather-like structures are known from heterodontosaurids, primitive neornithischians[125] and theropods,[126] and primitive ceratopsians. Evidence for true, vaned feathers similar to the flight feathers of modern birds has been found only in the theropod subgroup Maniraptora, which includes oviraptorosaurs, troodontids, dromaeosaurids, and birds.[42][127] Feather-like structures known as pycnofibres have also been found in pterosaurs,[128] suggesting the possibility that feather-like filaments may have been common in the bird lineage and evolved before the appearance of dinosaurs themselves.[124]

Archaeopteryx was the first fossil found which revealed a potential connection between dinosaurs and birds. It is considered a transitional fossil, in that it displays features of both groups. Brought to light just two years after Darwin's seminal The Origin of Species, its discovery spurred the nascent debate between proponents of evolutionary biology and creationism. This early bird is so dinosaur-like that, without a clear impression of feathers in the surrounding rock, at least one specimen was mistaken for Compsognathus.[129] Since the 1990s, a number of additional feathered dinosaurs have been found, providing even stronger evidence of the close relationship between dinosaurs and modern birds. Most of these specimens were unearthed in the lagerstätte of the Yixian Formation, Liaoning, northeastern China, which was part of an island continent during the Cretaceous. Though feathers have been found in only a few locations, it is possible that non-avian dinosaurs elsewhere in the world were also feathered. The lack of widespread fossil evidence for feathered non-avian dinosaurs may be because delicate features like skin and feathers are not often preserved by fossilization and thus are absent from the fossil record.[130]

The description of feathered dinosaurs has not been without controversy; perhaps the most vocal critics have been Alan Feduccia and Theagarten Lingham-Soliar, who have proposed that some purported feather-like fossils are the result of the decomposition of collagenous fiber that underlaid the dinosaurs' skin,[131][132][133] and that maniraptoran dinosaurs with vaned feathers were not actually dinosaurs, but convergent with dinosaurs.[1][132] However, their views have for the most part not been accepted by other researchers, to the point that the question of the scientific nature of Feduccia's proposals has been raised.[134]

Because feathers are often associated with birds, feathered dinosaurs are often touted as the missing link between birds and dinosaurs. However, the multiple skeletal features also shared by the two groups represent another important line of evidence for paleontologists. Areas of the skeleton with important similarities include the neck, pubis, wrist (semi-lunate carpal), arm and pectoral girdle, furcula (wishbone), and breast bone. Comparison of bird and dinosaur skeletons through cladistic analysis strengthens the case for the link.[135]
Soft anatomy
Pneumatopores on the left ilium of Aerosteon riocoloradensis

Large meat-eating dinosaurs had a complex system of air sacs similar to those found in modern birds, according to an investigation which was led by Patrick O'Connor of Ohio University. The lungs of theropod dinosaurs (carnivores that walked on two legs and had bird-like feet) likely pumped air into hollow sacs in their skeletons, as is the case in birds. "What was once formally considered unique to birds was present in some form in the ancestors of birds", O'Connor said.[136] In a 2008 paper published in the online journal PLoS ONE, scientists described Aerosteon riocoloradensis, the skeleton of which supplies the strongest evidence to date of a dinosaur with a bird-like breathing system. CT-scanning of Aerosteon's fossil bones revealed evidence for the existence of air sacs within the animal's body cavity.[137][138]
Behavioral evidence

Fossils of the troodonts Mei and Sinornithoides demonstrate that some dinosaurs slept with their heads tucked under their arms.[139] This behavior, which may have helped to keep the head warm, is also characteristic of modern birds. Several deinonychosaur and oviraptorosaur specimens have also been found preserved on top of their nests, likely brooding in a bird-like manner.[140] The ratio between egg volume and body mass of adults among these dinosaurs suggest that the eggs were primarily brooded by the male, and that the young were highly precocial, similar to many modern ground-dwelling birds.[141]

Some dinosaurs are known to have used gizzard stones like modern birds. These stones are swallowed by animals to aid digestion and break down food and hard fibers once they enter the stomach. When found in association with fossils, gizzard stones are called gastroliths.[142
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2/12/2015 7:40:47EugeneEugene_hides-behind_fake_profilesSevereExtinction of major groups
Main article: Cretaceous–Paleogene extinction event

The discovery that birds are a type of dinosaur showed that dinosaurs in general are not, in fact, extinct as is commonly stated.[143] However, all non-avian dinosaurs as well as many groups of birds did suddenly become extinct approximately 66 million years ago. It has been suggested that because small mammals, squamata and birds occupied the ecological niches suited for small body size, non-avian dinosaurs never evolved a diverse fauna of small-bodied species, which lead to their downfall when large bodied terrestrial tetrapods were hit by the mass extinction event.[144] Many other groups of animals also became extinct at this time, including ammonites (nautilus-like mollusks), mosasaurs, plesiosaurs, pterosaurs, and many groups of mammals.[7] Significantly, the insects suffered no discernible population loss, which left them available as food for other survivors. This mass extinction is known as the Cretaceous–Paleogene extinction event. The nature of the event that caused this mass extinction has been extensively studied since the 1970s; at present, several related theories are supported by paleontologists. Though the consensus is that an impact event was the primary cause of dinosaur extinction, some scientists cite other possible causes, or support the idea that a confluence of several factors was responsible for the sudden disappearance of dinosaurs from the fossil record.[145][146][147]

At the peak of the Mesozoic, there were no polar ice caps, and sea levels are estimated to have been from 100 to 250 meters (300 to 800 ft) higher than they are today. The planet's temperature was also much more uniform, with only 25 °C (45 °F) separating average polar temperatures from those at the equator. On average, atmospheric temperatures were also much higher; the poles, for example, were 50 °C (90 °F) warmer than today.[148][149]

The atmosphere's composition during the Mesozoic is a matter for debate. While some academics argue that oxygen levels were much higher than today, others argue that biological adaptations seen in birds and dinosaurs indicate that respiratory systems evolved beyond what would be necessary if oxygen levels were high.[150] By the late Cretaceous, the environment was changing dramatically. Volcanic activity was decreasing, which led to a cooling trend as levels of atmospheric carbon dioxide dropped. Oxygen levels in the atmosphere also started to fluctuate and would ultimately fall considerably. Some scientists hypothesize that climate change, combined with lower oxygen levels, might have led directly to the demise of many species.[151]
Impact event
Main article: Chicxulub crater
The Chicxulub Crater at the tip of the Yucatán Peninsula; the impactor that formed this crater may have caused the dinosaur extinction.

The asteroid collision theory, which was brought to wide attention in 1980 by Walter Alvarez and colleagues, links the extinction event at the end of the Cretaceous period to a bolide impact approximately 66 million years ago. Alvarez et al. proposed that a sudden increase in iridium levels, recorded around the world in the period's rock stratum, was direct evidence of the impact.[152] The bulk of the evidence now suggests that a bolide 5 to 15 kilometers (3 to 9 mi) wide hit in the vicinity of the Yucatán Peninsula (in southeastern Mexico), creating the approximately 180 km (110 mi) Chicxulub Crater and triggering the mass extinction.[153][154] Scientists are not certain whether dinosaurs were thriving or declining before the impact event. Some scientists propose that the meteorite caused a long and unnatural drop in Earth's atmospheric temperature, while others claim that it would have instead created an unusual heat wave. The consensus among scientists who support this theory is that the impact caused extinctions both directly (by heat from the meteorite impact) and also indirectly (via a worldwide cooling brought about when matter ejected from the impact crater reflected thermal radiation from the sun). Although the speed of extinction cannot be deduced from the fossil record alone, various models suggest that the extinction was extremely rapid, being down to hours rather than years.[155]
Deccan Traps
Main article: Deccan Traps

Before 2000, arguments that the Deccan Traps flood basalts caused the extinction were usually linked to the view that the extinction was gradual, as the flood basalt events were thought to have started around 68 million years ago and lasted for over 2 million years. However, there is evidence that two thirds of the Deccan Traps were created in only 1 million years about 66 million years ago, and so these eruptions would have caused a fairly rapid extinction, possibly over a period of thousands of years, but still longer than would be expected from a single impact event.[156][157]

The Deccan Traps could have caused extinction through several mechanisms, including the release into the air of dust and sulphuric aerosols, which might have blocked sunlight and thereby reduced photosynthesis in plants. In addition, Deccan Trap volcanism might have resulted in carbon dioxide emissions, which would have increased the greenhouse effect when the dust and aerosols cleared from the atmosphere.[157] Before the mass extinction of the dinosaurs, the release of volcanic gases during the formation of the Deccan Traps "contributed to an apparently massive global warming. Some data point to an average rise in temperature of 8 °C (14 °F) in the last half million years before the impact [at Chicxulub]."[156][157]

In the years when the Deccan Traps theory was linked to a slower extinction, Luis Alvarez (who died in 1988) replied that paleontologists were being misled by sparse data. While his assertion was not initially well-received, later intensive field studies of fossil beds lent weight to his claim. Eventually, most paleontologists began to accept the idea that the mass extinctions at the end of the Cretaceous were largely or at least partly due to a massive Earth impact. However, even Walter Alvarez has acknowledged that there were other major changes on Earth even before the impact, such as a drop in sea level and massive volcanic eruptions that produced the Indian Deccan Traps, and these may have contributed to the extinctions.[158]
Possible Paleocene survivors
Main article: Paleocene dinosaurs

Non-avian dinosaur remains are occasionally found above the Cretaceous–Paleogene boundary. In 2001, paleontologists Zielinski and Budahn reported the discovery of a single hadrosaur leg-bone fossil in the San Juan Basin, New Mexico, and described it as evidence of Paleocene dinosaurs. The formation in which the bone was discovered has been dated to the early Paleocene epoch, approximately 64.5 million years ago. If the bone was not re-deposited into that stratum by weathering action, it would provide evidence that some dinosaur populations may have survived at least a half million years into the Cenozoic Era.[159] Other evidence includes the finding of dinosaur remains in the Hell Creek Formation up to 1.3 meters (51 in) above (40000 years later than) the Cretaceous–Paleogene boundary. Similar reports have come from other parts of the world, including China.[160] Many scientists, however, dismissed the supposed Paleocene dinosaurs as re-worked, that is, washed out of their original locations and then re-buried in much later sediments.[161][162] However, direct dating of the bones themselves has supported the later date, with U–Pb dating methods resulting in a precise age of 64.8 ± 0.9 million years ago.[163] If correct, the presence of a handful of dinosaurs in the early Paleocene would not change the underlying facts of the extinction.[161]
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I mean, you’ve attacked me in public threads on Fetlife, you’ve attacked me via private messages from sock accounts on Fetlife, you’ve messaged people on my friends list to ‘warn ‘ them about me, you’ve screen capped bits of my profile and/or pictures/writing in an attempt to prove something that isn’t there and posted them to various sites, and all this to what end?
What is your prime objective? Getting me off Fetlife? Well if it hasn’t happened by now, it will never happen.
Leaving me without any friends? Well your attempts at that have clearly failed, too many people know the real me, something you obviously don’t.
Away from Fetlife you’ve attempted to sabotage my transition at the Gender Clinic, that’s failed.
You’ve attempted to rally people into contacting my work place, again another massive fail on your part (maybe that’s due to your consistent use of blank sock accounts, maybe that’s down to the fact that people know me better than you realise)
You’ve attempted to get me thrown off the York LGBT Forum, and again failed.
You’ve attempted to get the national and local papers to run a story on me, now come on, did you really think supplying them with a half baked story from a random disposable email and no genuine point of contact to verify anything , that any paper in the world would even consider risking going into print on something they have zero facts about?

Recently you’ve appear to have stopped messaging me with vile shit on Fetlife, I was kind of hoping that you had given up, but clearly you are still ‘stalking’ my profile, what on earth do you hope to gain?

Why not just stop all this crap, let it rest and move on to your next victim?
Here’s an idea, why not meet in public, say a café, for tea/coffee, and lets have a chat about ‘our differences’? lets see if we can iron out whatever is bothering you, I don’t hold grudges, and if an issue is laid to rest I leave it at rest, so what do you have to lose? Hell I’ll even buy the tea/coffee, there must be a café somewhere that you will feel safe to go to and meet me, I promise on my life, my fetlife account and my job that I will come alone, all I want it is to put this issue to bed and get on with my life in peace and quiet.
All your previous avenues have hit a dead end, so come on, take up the gauntlet, meet with me in a café and lets talk, you have nothing to lose from having a civilised chat in surroundings you are happy with.
You know where to contact me.
lets make this happenlet bygones be bygones
2/17/2015 2:21:303267099xVegetarianxSevereAttempts to Dox people if you upset him. Controls large groups and will use them against youCincinnati2/16/2015
2/19/2015 0:02:061825411leatherandlace1ModerateSuffered intense emotional abuse back in 2012 because of this woman. She is very unstable and should not be on a website such as Fetlife.
I do have a witness also who was there when it happened. This went on for a few months.
MelbourneAugust 2012
2/19/2015 19:26:38915520ladyelysabethSevereIn August 2012, I went to her house near Gerard and Coxwell in Toronto for a pre-negotiated BDSM scene. Anal sex was never discussed, but after a very intense impact/pain scene, she anally raped me with a dildo (I thought she was going fuck my vagina, which is what I had consented to). She had a penchant for pushing hard limits and boundaries in other scenes as well (we played together for about 4 months), such as cutting me (again after a long impact/pain scene) after only vaguely discussing it weeks or months prior.Toronto, Ontario, CanadaAugust 2012
2/19/2015 19:29:072252207BootsBoiSevereThree women who had a prior relationship with this person have reported her to the police for actions such as assault, rape, and ongoing emotional and physical abuse. She was arrested in August 2014. No info currently about the status of the case.Toronto, Ontario, CanadaApril 2012 - August 2014
2/22/2015 6:32:342806752Sn0w_Wh1teSevereEvent's co-ordinator of after a recent meltdown by their officers of the fourm the following email was sent out saying they

"could not support a forum where members can say unfounded allegations at meetings"

which seems interesting considering that Kelly's whole modus operandi involves making unfounded malicious allegations. Also he seems to be the only person that is happy about this meltdown, see

As has previously been noted, it is a feature of bullying on fetlife that most of the damage is done by the bystanders who are so clueless as to believe they are genuinely helping. You can see a classic example of that here where Kelly laughs at the suggestion that he is nasty and vindictive at the same time as his stupid 'friends' are suggesting kicking the shit out of people or turning up at their house in a gang.
Internet/fetlifeLast week
2/22/2015 6:35:4613350CarolyneTilerSeverePlease be aware that this person who has previously launched Denial of Service attacks on this database is active again. Here!2014
2/22/2015 6:41:532806752Sn0w_Wh1teSevereLeft click the square in the upper l/h corner of this spreadsheet to highlight everything, then on the Home tab select Format, under Cell Size on the dropdown select row height and set to 13.

Then marvel as Kelly / Snow_White's pathetic attempts to vandalise this database collapse to almost nothing. ;)
2/22/2015 19:16:2182985JennMinorAsked her about the nature of her group Hitchin' Bitches. Her tone became very insulting and condescending. Told me I was in no way welcome because I am a male. Said my presence would be demeaning and insulting to the other women.

Responded to one of her writings about discrimination. She immediately deleted my dissenting point of view as it showed her she was promoting gender discrimination while she was condemning age discrimination.
Portland OregonJan 2015 and Feb 2015
2/26/2015 17:38:22933808RustAndStardustSevereHas openly condemned me for my interests and distastes for others. Has told me I am not welcomed at her new munch. Said it wasn't for me ans that I shouldn't attend.
I have never met this person but yet she feels she knows me well enough to criticize me for my likes and dislikes.

A very prejudicial and critical individual who should not be directing any social group or event.
Portland Oregon2/26/2015
3/4/2015 10:52:212821068HEXdotXXXSevereHas repeatedly abused submissives consent. Will get them to consent to one thing, then go further. Specifically preys on young and new submissives, so they don't realise what he's doing.Lansing, mirepeatedly
3/4/2015 10:55:542175423MasterKAOSModerateThere are many allegations against this person, mine is very minor compared to those.

I hadn't scened in a public space at all at this point. He was a house-dom at FeelMeBreathe at the time, during my second ever party. After watching him suspend a larger woman, we got to talking a bit. Eventually, it was a scene.

One of my hard limits at the time was in regards to knives, and I did communicate this to him in negotiations. The scene was intended to be light on many things to give me a feel for them. He brought a knife to my throat, thrice, during it, and I hadn't gotten the confidence to safeword yet.

For my part, he is banned from Hudson Valley TNG, and seems to be banned from many other groups (FeelMeBreathe, NJTNG inclusive)
FeelMeBreathe, circa Kingston, NY12/28/2012
3/4/2015 15:11:1512938StricturismSevereThis person was driven out of the Las Vegas community. He non-consensually beat and kicked his live live-in submissive when she refused to have sex with him after it had been decided that they would stop having a sexual relationship. He choked out another young girl when she refused to give him a blowjob, bringing her in and out of consciousness, threatening her with a knife, and threatening to rape her when she was unconscious if she did not consent to oral sex with him.

In total, 17 separate instances were brought to light after 12 women came forward to share what he had done to them ranging from minor instances of violating negotiated agreements to not leave visible marks to rape over the course of two years . His own wife stepped forward admitting he had abused her and to support the women who informed the community of his abuse.

One account can be found here:

After he refused to step down from his leadership positions within the community, he took a few community leaders to court for defamation and libel. He lost miserably.
Las Vegas, NV2010-2012
3/4/2015 22:40:51410027SandyBeachesSevereHad a switch agreement with him. Topping him was fine, bottoming for him was not. He ignored a safe word not once, not twice, but a total of 5 times during the course of a scene. Continued to push boundaries and then was indignant that oral sex was not provided.
Afterwards, he emailed to thank me for my services as a top.
VancouverSpring 2010
3/5/2015 11:29:431203872MabusSevereassaulted his ex girlfriend, ive heard about past assaults from other people as well over the past few years since this has come out.

this is her story-
ChicagoFebruary '15
3/5/2015 21:36:272783886Ruby-PearlSevereLauren Yakimoski is her name.

Said she had not been sexually involved with anyone for over 2 years, and said she was disease free. She denied having a Fetlife profile. Contrary to said claims, it was found out that she was:

-Works as an Escort (Prostitute)

-Organizes bareback GangBangs for herself with random men from craigslist on a regular basis, and NOT USING CONDOMS.

-Has sex with FL community members (like myself) who she lies to about being a prostitute and taking part in said gangbangs without condoms.

Obviously, if she would have sex with groups of random men from craigs list without condoms, and then lies to she is an enormous health risk to anyone who comes in contact with her sexually. She is violating consent by engaging in sexualy relations under false circumstances. If I had known what she does, I would not have consented to sex with her.
Saskatoon, Regina, December, 2014
3/8/2015 10:28:1461931The-Loving-TyrantSevereI had agreed to arrive at his house for a scene. Previous times that we had played together there was an established boundary of no penetration with his penis. This was said by me, and my partner on multiple occasions, and was again repeated by me that night before play had begun. Half way through the evening I made my safe call. When I came back in I began cleaning up dinner and doing the dishes. He turned me around, forced me onto my knees and before I even had a chance to resist forced his penis into my mouth.Plymouth Meeting, PennsylvaniaOctober 2011
3/8/2015 13:44:2361962CharmingPredatorSevereHe has been psychologically, emotionally, sexually, and/or physically abusive to most, if not all, people who have been in close romantic or D/s relationships with him. He is a textbook narcissist who uses gaslighting, explosive and violent outbursts, lying, manipulation, isolation, fostering dependence, and other forms of abuse to control and harm people. On top of that, he's misogynistic, femme-phobic, and a body shamer, among other oppressive things. He pridefully identifies as a predator and extremely controlling. Like most skilled and experienced abusers, he reserves this behavior for those closest to him. Be aware and be safe out there. Nationally, Pittsburgh, PA, Other LocationsOngoing for decades
3/9/2015 2:26:133028296DeviantDiscoverySevereThe first time we met he was creepy but I didn't see anything wrong with it. I just thought I was nervous. He then started touching me when I clearly was very uncomfortable and needed a minute to relax but he kept touching my anyway. He then persuaded me to have sex with him.

The second time we met I'm most certain that he gave me something because I blacked out and when I went to meet my friend later on he said I couldn't even walk straight but I don't remember this.

A few weeks after that he showed up outside of my house unannounced, took a picture, and scared me.
Boston, MADecember 2014
3/11/2015 9:36:312221998RaylakSevereThis person faked his own 'outing' in Oxford (fake emails from a fake account to his workplace) in order to get two members of the community whom he dislikes kicked out of the scene. He wanted these people to be outed themselves. He admitted what he'd done to someone, who informed community leaders, and that's why he's now not allowed back in the Oxford scene. Avoid him at all costs.OxfordSummer 2014
3/14/2015 20:58:0717279JohnBlackSevereIn 2000 this user raped me despite clear and repeated refusals for sex. He attempted to anally rape me in my sleep numerous times. In 2011, he admitted that he committed the rape "because it turned me on" and threatened to kill me with his newly purchased gun and dump my body in a little frequented area a few miles away.Kent, WA2000 & 2011
3/14/2015 21:00:46783302Only4SevereOn August 28th, 2014 at Elliott Bay Sauna & Hot Tub Co. in Federal Way, WA, this user raped me after I specifically requested only protected sex while repeating "It's okay, baby. I have a low sperm count." He assaulted me unprotected, forced me to give him oral sex, and brutalized me with an extremely large dildo. He would not stop even when I begged and told him that he was hurting me.Elliott Bay Sauna & Hot Tub Co.August 28th, 2014
3/15/2015 13:18:501760898dfwdfSevereDFWDF has been verbally and emotionally abusive to his ex girlfriend and nearly everyone else he has encountered in the scene. He will bully and belittle anyone who disagrees with him in order to make himself look better. He has threatened his ex with violence and should not be trusted.Dallas, TX3/14/2015
3/16/2015 16:58:45987959emaybe4uModerateFrom everything i know, this guy is 100 percent creep show. He is a convicted sex offender, for exposing himself in public (he/his supporters say the victim was 17, so it's not THAT big of a deal)

he preys on girls in the local areas and has them in his txfetishlegends videos, and most of them that i've talked to have said they were coerced into it.
Amarillovarious times
3/19/2015 11:00:514502776lynbrnsSevereThis person goes around asking if Masters or Doms are still looking for slaves, and when they say yes they are still looking for slaves she asks to be sent the money to travel from one location to the next. She does not travel, she takes the money and vanishes. OnlineMarch
3/20/2015 8:46:4441279PervertabilitySevereLate 2012, this man committed a major violation of consent by pinning a woman's feet, (which kicking her feet was her means of safe wording. during a heavy breath play scene He wasn't even a part of. What makes it worse is he was on Dungeon Monitoring duty at the time. This is supposed to be the second time he has been kicked out of the community.

He will push and coerce, and he treats a lack of no, as if it were a yes, and takes things farther then were discussed and agreed to.

He has currently shacked up with a disabled women, and her kid. He's been see at parties he can still attend beater her but, so that it was two massive hematoma's, and just kept beating away. He then ditches her in a corner by herself ignoring her as he goes around socializing and hitting on people.
Toronto, Dungeons and General BehaviourFall of 2012, and ongoing
3/22/2015 16:15:568014PantherProwLsSevereForced me to have nonconsensual oral, anal and vaginal sex multiple times over a period of 10+ years. Threatened to out me and threatened physical violence against my family if I mentioned his abuse to anyone.California2002-2015
3/23/2015 18:13:094190008ShinVonNibelungModerateRipped off images of kinksters on fetlife and created an imgr gallery with them. Not the worst thing to happen with stolen pics perhaps, but still greatly disturbing to the victims. March 2005
3/23/2015 22:29:1523573LadyHilarySevereAbused ftm_bear and others. Frequently targets trans men and butches.
San Francisco, Californiayear or so ago
3/23/2015 23:04:402129766BlackMayanUniqueSevereRape at the CitadelSan Francisco, CA February 2015
3/24/2015 8:23:0771134IszanayaModerateAt sixteen I was placed into a situation where I was coerced into a threesome with Caitlin and her partner Aubrey. I felt violated afterwards and worked to sever contact with both of them. I am now involved in the community with several people that find themselves on her friends list.

At the time both Aubrey and Caitlin were in their mid to late twenties.
ColoradoPrefer not to say
3/25/2015 5:58:102073939SuperLucky6SevereHe is a pedophile and has successfully covered it up. Tng baltimore has banned him for this very reason. Collaboration with the leaders there will show all the details. Not only did the police get involved but he also failed to register as a sex offender.

Criminal Record:

Rosedale, and surrounding area5/9/2012 - 2013
3/26/2015 10:28:172126121AustinedgerSevereI should have known this person would be trouble when he first appeared at the apartment drunk and uninvited. It wasn't just the fact that he seduced and fucked my girlfriend behind my back months later.... It was also that he tried convincing her it was OK afterwards, that she didn't need me and we should break up etc. Of course he's not man enough to talk to me about it, no surprise. Please be careful, if you get a friend request from this person just understand what he's about. He's manipulative, self centered and WILL try to fuck your loved ones.Austin, TX3/25/2015
3/27/2015 13:05:531839852sir-DukeSevereUses tattoo visits to compromise people and does not stop scene at safeword. North CarolinaMarch
3/27/2015 17:34:484304969Maistir_WSevereJust mean and does not stop at safeword! TNFebruary
3/28/2015 7:18:471839852sir-DukeSevereCan confirm does not stop at safewordN. CarolinaSept 2014
3/28/2015 10:56:372223299JerryswitchMinorVictim-blamer.

Told a girl that "Really with that attitude I do understand why you got beat up."
FetlifeMarch 2015
4/1/2015 11:56:113136047Ali_Leo93MinorConstantly flakes. Any time you set plans will without fail never show up.Nashville2014
4/1/2015 13:49:261139715bound_balthazarSevereA former play partner who made it a habit of treating me awful, gaslighted/blamed me when I spoke up, lied to myself and other partners on a regular basis, didn't disclose his sexual history to me or another partner that was considering collaring him at the time, disrespected and talked shit about many elders in the local kink community, didn't respect my wishes of not smoking weed/drinking around me, drove intoxicated with myself and a close friend of mine more than once, bent the rules and agreements we had for play, and at one point, sexually coerced me. He is an activist in the southern Indiana/Louisville area, and likes to think of himself as a feminist, but that's the furthest thing from what he really is. It's been a year since we broke it off, and I haven't felt like I could be open to the community about what he did to me, because he is somewhat respectable at first glance, and I'm not really in the local scene. But I caution ANYONE AND EVERYONE to avoid this asshole at all costs. He is a drama magnet and an abuser of women. AVOID, AVOID, AVOID.IndianaAugust 2012 - March 2014
4/1/2015 19:14:554019131Amy00ModerateAmy invited me to message her on kik, then recommended that I talk to a 'European-Style' Dom. I was wary of this man, and when I told her this man and I weren't hitting it off, she insulted me.

She informed me that American-Style BDSM was the cause for rape, and that no European she knew had ever been raped. I asked her to stop talking about rape, as I have been raped in the past and was uncomfortable discussing it, and she told me that women like me are the problem with BDSM.

Please remove her from FetLife, she is offensive and manipulative, not to mention an abusive liar.
Kik4/1/2015 at 11:00 am
4/2/2015 5:50:524516953justalittlelilSevereThis person is under age.
Please remove all her posts as she advertised her name to be contacted on kik.
She sends erotic pictures and people may end up in jail because of this.
4/3/2015 23:58:002596751showbagSevereLeft a vile comment on my sub's photograph, stating he would like to "see the same photograph without the wet clothing over you".

It clearly states on her profile, and mine, that anyone wishing to comment or contact my sub should go through me first, it's common protocol, and a rule we have.
Sexually explicit comments from another male will not be tolerated, and this man(?) should have been more respectful.
Melbourne, Victoria, Australia2/4/2015
4/6/2015 9:29:05309532IamNOTthereSevereThere have been a number of severe complaints about this guy using his status as a photographer to cross people's boundaries and take advantage of people. Enjoys making people uncomfortable/violated. MontrealJanuary
4/9/2015 16:14:264111534WAmes718SevereThis member chose to ignore rules about contacting my sub (and asking before contacting), proceeded to like photos of her's etc. He has no respect, and should be avoided.Online9/4/2015
4/11/2015 4:22:3655459LovingLittleSlutSevereThe first night I met this woman, she had non-consensual, completely unprovoked, sexual relations with me while we were both heavily under the influence of alcohol.

The next day when I attempted to reach out to her over Fetlife she ignored me, and only when prodded by her partner did she respond to my messages by saying she would refuse to talk to me and "did not want me in her life".

Since then, again instead of talking to me directly, she has posted a passive-aggressive note on Fet claiming that since she didn't hear a clear "no" (from someone who was drunk and could not lawfully give consent) then she's not responsible for her actions and I should just be an adult and learn how to use my safe words.

Her partner and my then friend with benefits, Beerlovingmick, has technically apologized for his role in the night's proceedings, but has only ever justified and supported her behavior on this issue. Furthermore, he was heavily guilting me that night (again drunk, inexperienced, me) into believing that since both I and LovingLittleSlut were sexually involved with him that we should both be fine with having sex with each other, and that if I had a problem with it I needed to just "chill" and "get over it", so I hold him somewhat responsible.
Grand RapidsMay 2014
4/11/2015 15:49:4337232J_WalkerSevereHe seems like a nice guy, but behind the mask of all the activism and fight for equality are some hidden secrets of abuse, consent violation, and maniplulation. He has managed to maintain a nice reputation with the help of his activists friends group. He is different from a normal predeator as normal predators are easy to identify, he has way with words and utilizes his skills very well to manipulate people. 1100482012-2015
4/13/2015 4:39:27522944UnivurgeSevereRepeatedly pushed boundaries about use of protection, lied to primary partner about contact with others and use of protection, repeatedly messaged after being told not toBrisbaneDecember 2011 - June 2012
4/13/2015 13:25:553311543Messalina94Moderateshe frequently flirts with and makes sexual passes at guys who have expressed no interest in her. After this happened to me I thought I was the only one but have since seen it happen to others. Feels she is somehow above decent codes of conduct.Derby2014
4/15/2015 15:41:251743035miss_aurora_janeModerateis extremely unstable. threatened to kill me.UKFebruary 2015
4/17/2015 16:44:13826901RaxKingSevereRoutinely accuses men (cisgender males) of horrible behavior, make believe harassment, "Douchelighting", being antifeminist, making her feel like she is being stalked, and many others. She laughs about this openly, confessing such encounters on her different blogs. Washingont D.C.Many Years now.
4/17/2015 21:15:39507825eroticwetatomicSevereHSV+, does not disclose this previous to playing. He has also been known to surreptitiously engage in oral sex on men when they have been restrained and / or blindfolded and most definitely have not given permission to suck their cocks.MarylandOngoing
4/17/2015 21:19:21507825eroticwetatomicSevereHSV+ which her or her partner do not disclose and will deny, even when confronted with their prescriptions for it. Has a hard time being told no or being rejected. After being rejected she has spread rumors about several different people touching her inappropriately or doing things without her consent. Fragile ego, seeks validation through cheating on her partner (though in an open relationship, they have rules about certain types of play, which she violates whenever she is alone)MarylandCurrent
4/18/2015 15:31:2911878Professor_OniModerateHe offered to help newbies learn about kink. He met me and a few other people in other locations (OkCupid or other non-kink events). But instead of directing these newbies to munches, to meet people, or to reading, he plays with them with inadequate negotiation and no safe words and introduces un-negotiated sexual elements.
He might be an upstanding, moral person, but he is acting like a predator, in the sense of targeting fresh meat and playing in risky ways with people who don't know any better because they are new.
He also gave me genital herpes through sex that had not been agreed upon before playing, and then refused to tell his partners unless he had a positive HSV-2 test (forgetting that HSV-1 can cause genital herpes, and that antibodies can take months to show up in tests).
He seems interested in the appearance of caring about consent and sexual health, but not that interested in the actuality of either.
He was also very distant when I discussed the problems I'd had, that are pretty standard problems in kink play - un-negotiated sex, etc., and responded in ways that were critical of me, saying he'd respected my word but that maybe he shouldn't have done so. I tried to take this up with him, as well as the genital herpes disclosure issue, and he really failed to resolve it one-on-one.
Albuquerque, NM3/23/2015
4/20/2015 2:55:49611526MeserandeSevereTargets young newbies (18-19yos). Uses abusive tactics including negging and gaslighting in order to get partners and keep them around. Guilts partners into sexual acts. Pushes and harasses partners into acts they do not want to take part in.Melbourne, AusOngoing for 4+ years
4/21/2015 22:37:56371825Peter_SlemrianSevereI do not personally know him or the person who posted this article about him, but here is someone's account of his assault of her in public during a professional scene.

I don't knowI don't know
4/27/2015 9:43:22178866sexgenderbodySevereBasically this person, without being a member of FetLife Staff, made a Javascript addon which adds a feature to FetLife that is outside of the control or oversight of the FetLife staff.

This service is set up where anyone can add any member of FetLife as a consent violator regardless of whether or not it is true. And from the website that this comes from...

"No. There will never be an option for removing anyone from the database. And no, I’m not sorry about that."

...this person has, without the consent of FetLife staff nor most of the people who may or may not have been falsely reported, set himself up as Judge, Jury and Executioner without anyone having any real recourse.
The FetLife WebsiteApril 27th 2015 or thereabouts.
4/27/2015 12:33:11357448auskiptaModerateWe used to date. After we broke up (and I had made it clear that we were only platonic friends), one night we were hugging at an event and he did some kinky things: semi-pulling my hair, shoving me just an inch and then catching me (to make me feel off balance), etc. He asked a few times whether this was okay, and I responded with "maybe"s. I never said yes because I didn't mean yes.Concord, MAJanuary 2012
4/27/2015 12:47:3591788baffledkingMinorShe read private, personal conversations between me and someone else without permission. When confronted about it she refused to stop. I have not received an apology and still can't talk to that someone without fear of her reading our correspondence.Boston, MAJune 2014
4/30/2015 16:42:5111878Professor_OniModerate
This person doesn't always do mutually agreed-upon, fully-negotiated BDSM. Instead he seems to use BDSM at least in some cases as a seduction method.

Rather than negotiating what sexual or other possibly triggering or edgy acts the person wants in advance and agreeing upon a safe word, he simply does things to people and introduces sexual activities (either by doing them or talking about them) during play that they might or not be ok with, while it is harder for them to say no or to think about whether they want it since they are in the middle of bottoming.

He also mentions having studied NLP and that he can use NLP as part of kink, but I suspect he might use it for nefarious means since he used the phrase "sex with me" in sentences a few times (i.e., "Sex with me is a varsity sport..."), and using phrases like that can be a NLP technique to try to subconsciously convince people to go along with the concept being used in the phrase.

He seems to tell himself it is ethical because he checks off the bare minimum of requirements for consent, using standards that would probably work in regular non-bdsm sex, such as not doing something if someone says no, but which are inadequate when accounting for subspace, dom/sub dynamics, vulnerability of people who are new to kink, etc.

What he’s doing is basically regular seduction methods, but he is not sticking to the spirit and protocols of BDSM, which is about mutually negotiated “scenes” with safe words and clear parameters agreed upon by equally-empowered adults in a sober, non-subspace state BEFORE PLAYING.

Are people telling him they want to have clitorial stimulation, or be touched on the vagina, or any of that, before playing? Then why did that happen to me? When I was new? Not to mention a lot else!

He seems to glorify and see as the epitome of being a dom what is actually a very creepy and risky practice of trying to "make things happen” that he wants to happen (as he described it), particularly when those things involve women doing things they aren't totally sure about doing.

Dangerous person who acts like a sexual predator and seems to have no shame about what he does and no willingness to change when confronted with evidence that his lack of proper negotiation around sex in BDSM has caused consent issues or has hurt anyone.
Albuquerque, NMMarch 2015
5/1/2015 10:16:021572682EverydayHereticModerateDeliberately waited until I was in subspace to initiate completely unnegotiated and unwanted sexual activity, later "justified" it as he he thought (knew) I would have said no if he asked while I was fully sober. Pressured and guilt-tripped me into more sexual activity on later occasions. Stalked me for six months afterwards. Threatened to badmouth me to all our friends, threatened to hurt himself.Birmingham UK2014
5/3/2015 6:07:12799855AnveshaSevereHe is a rapist. He dresses like female to attract attention and sympathy of women. Honey traps them into meeting him alone and getting drugged, with 420, marijuana and liquor. He then rapes and molests them. Blames it on the substance. Claims he was not in control. Emotionally blackmails them with suicide threats in case they report to cops. Uses community influence to silence the victim and projects himself as the victim who lost control because of the substance. This cycle is repeated.IndiaSeptember 2014
5/4/2015 2:21:21someoneEugeneSeverehe/she asked for it !!world wide webongoing for ages
5/4/2015 18:45:0723044BonfreefetishSevereBonfree and its owner Nick are well known for consent violations. The write up for parties has said for a long time "No normally means yes" - Nick really believes thisBonington Hotel2014
5/5/2015 8:33:032574JohnF_SevereAfter attending a local event John offered to escort me to my car to ensure my safety. While I was looking in my purse for my car keys he roughly pushed me against the car, put me in a choke hold while he reached under my skirt and groped me.

He told me that I would be banned from the community if I reported him.
Quinte West, OntarioMarch
5/7/2015 14:17:162574JohnF_SevereI noticed someone reported John, so I just want to point out that his email address is [email protected] and his Facebook profile is West, OntarioMarch
5/8/2015 13:30:332574JohnF_SevereKept hitting on me and touching me at the Kingston munch until he was kicked out and banned by the organizer. Told me and my friend that we had to do what he said because he is a dom and we are just subs. Kingston OntarioMarch
5/10/2015 8:25:212574JohnF_SevereMaster John repeatedly and deliberately released the names and addresses and work places of two women that he admits he despised - worse yet, he encouraged people to search them out, find their homes, and physically hurt them.

He claims that he is protecting the community, yet he himself is a dangerous threat to the safety and privacy of anyone that will not toady to him. His response to being called on his bullshit is to attack, malign and bully his victims further. A true sociopath and a narcissistic despot that actually believes he is a master, when in reality he is nothing but a pathetic little man that belittles others in a sad attempt to elevate his position.

Quinte West, OntarioJuly 2013
5/11/2015 19:50:5110176SolSeverethis account was written about Michael Sol:
5/13/2015 4:41:264685959JohnnyPleasingUSevereAt the SHOP (Spring House of Pain) munch, he kept making snide comments about her size and weight and how she should stay home where no one could see her. Then when I had my back turned to talk with one of the other members of the group, he slapped my sub's ass and groped her breasts. He was quickly removed from the premises and banned from the local group. Spring Texas - Nick'sMay 12th 2015
5/13/2015 7:58:534630468midnightjoexxModerateSends strangers graphic death threats via PM. On Fetlife13/5/2015
5/13/2015 10:20:322574JohnF_SevereJohn had good reason to out the seven people he told me about and I for one are glad that he is willing to find the real names and addresses of these dangerous people and share them with us. John is a true community leader so if he tells people where you work so people can avoid you then you deserved it.

He is an honorable man and he has the best pot and hash oil in Quinte West.
5/13/2015 10:30:0113350CarolyneTilerModerateGoes around playing with people, while is not open that he is trans. Should be open about friend feels discusting and dirty after playing with this person and finding out afterwards from someone else. Something that should be mentioned and open in a scene based on trust and bein open. Yorkshireapril 2015
5/13/2015 12:52:3910176SolSevereQuoted from

I am writing this because after writing about my rope incident in a few groups I have received too many personal emails from bottoms sharing their experience of injury or violation from this same rigger that I no longer feel I can keep silent about who it is. The rigger in question is _____. I feel like giving this information out will save future bottoms from having this done to them. The following is a copy of what I wrote about my experience which I no longer felt served it's full purpose as is, and I believe that naming him is the best thing to do for the rope world. Below that is a copy of his response to my post.

I consider myself a strong rope bottom. I have been fortunate enough to play with some amazing people. I’ve negotiated enough scenes in the past that I understand fully what is to go on. You sit down with the person you are going to play with and you discuss limits, consents etc.

On this particular day I was going to tie with someone for a performance at a conference we both recently attended. I was recommended to this rigger by a close friend of mine. Now because the rigger and I lived in different states we could only communicate by phone beforehand. I had spoken to this person a week before we were to perform and our hour long conversation consisted of him telling me
all of his accomplishments in the rope community over the past few years. He managed to tell me a bit about his idea for our performance. Nothing in detail. I had asked four different people for references. Two of them had cautioned me against playing with him but figured since it was not a private play that it would be alright. (Red flag number 1) The other two said they had heard fairly decent things about this person in the rope community & figured since he was an educator that surely I would be fine to perform with him.

We both arrived at the conference on Thursday and I was attempting to meet with him before our performance on Saturday so we could go over the exact details and negotiate everything. Now I understand as a presenter this person was very busy but I felt giving me 10 minutes of his time to negotiate was not asking a lot. On Thursday evening my leg was injured with rope burn so it had become something I really needed to tell this rigger about so that he would know not to put rope on
that particular leg. On Friday I attended one of the rigger’s classes and I even volunteered to bottom for him for part of his class so I could meet him and experience some of his rope. I stayed after the class and he said hi but then several others started coming up for after class introductions and conversations. So I
left because I had other classes to attend. Saturday finally rolls around and I have my leg bandaged to protect my wound. Saturday evening comes and it’s two hours before we are set to perform. The rigger is a guest at dinner that I am attending with my friends. At the end of dinner I go sit next to him, introduce myself again and tell him I would like to know what his plans are for performing. Our negotiations are witnessed by a friend of mine and a friend of his. I specifically tell him about my
wounded leg and he agreed that no rope would be placed on it. He told me what he wanted to do and I agreed. It was to be a crucifixion on a wooden cross where I was to be attached by a TK and eventually inverted. At no time did he say he was going to do anything else besides that. I agreed and asked if he had picked out music and he said no that I could do that. I scrambled to get a playlist together for what he said was supposed to be a 20-25 minute performance. When I arrived backstage a little before the performance the rigger asked if I was ok with whips. I told him I do like them but why all of a sudden did he want to add them into the performance? He looked in his toy bag and determined he didn’t bring one so it would not be used. Red flag number 2 for me. The music starts and he and I go on stage. What
began was a panicked mess of a performance that any skilled rigger who was watching knew was not going correctly.

First he tied some sort of a TK on me which was extremely loose under my breast area and I was a bit worried by it. Then he laid me down and proceeded to bite my ears and nose (yes my nose). THIS HAD NOT BEEN NEGOTIATED. I began to feel very uncomfortable. He grabbed my right leg which was my injured leg (clearly still bandaged) and began to wrap rope around it, putting the leg into a futomomo. At this point I was stunned. He pulled me up into the single leg futomomo which was more painful than usual because of my injury. What I found out later is during this part the rigger had a knot slip and was trying to recover from that. He let me
down and then the cross was brought onto the stage and for the next 5-10 minutes he was attempting to secure me to that cross. At one point the rigger I was performing with gestured for one of my friends in the audience to come up on stage. My friend was thinking maybe he needed him for some impromptu part of the performance but the rigger was actually trying to ask my friend if he or another friend of mine had a knife because one of his knots was stuck. This part I found out after I got off stage. Who doesn’t have safety shears or a knife while performing?

The person who brought the cross onto the stage was a close friend of mine and when he came back on stage to help I managed to grab his attention and told him not to leave the stage and I also told him to adjust the rope under my breast area because it had slipped from being so loose. He saw the look of worry on my face and nodded then stepped back. I had several friends in the front row of the audience that were quite worried by now, a few who are well known and experienced riggers. After I was secured to the cross my friend came and whispered in my ear that I was secure to it and I felt ok to be lifted up on it. When that was done I could feel the tears swelling in my eyes. I was terrified and extremely upset that this was happening. I began to cry. After a few moments of being spun around on the cross by the rigger one of my friends stepped up to the stage and called the rigger over, telling him I had had enough and to end the performance. When the rigger came back to me he asked me if that was true. I nodded yes and said I was done, and the rigger asked if he could spin me one more time. I said yes.

After I was let down from the cross and untied (40 minutes later) I took a halfhearted bow and ran off the stage to my friend who had a blanket waiting for me. I fell into his arms crying hysterically. At no point did the rigger I performed with ask me if I was ok or check on me. He also never checked on me throughout the performance until someone said something to him. I went out a back door so I didn’t
have to go through the crowd and I found somewhere to sit and just cry. After my friends had calmed me down they explained the best thing to do is try and talk to the rigger. We made an attempt but by that time the rigger had already gone to his hotel room and the line to get on the elevator was a good hour long. Plus they were testing the fire alarms which caused a big mess. I had a friend text the rigger that we could talk later on that evening if he would come downstairs or we could talk the next day. None of that happened. The rigger never attempted to contact me even though he had my Fetlife information and more importantly, my phone number. I gave it a few days and I called him to speak with him on the following Friday. I left him a voicemail that I wanted to speak with him. I never received a call back or a message on Fetlife. Also, during a performance negotiation I never thought I would need to bring up and negotiate any oral engagement of any kind. I felt if he knew he was going to do any of that he should have brought it up to me and I would have said “no, I am not comfortable with that” and we would have kept it moving. I feel guilty in some ways like I should have stopped the performance but I didn’t because I didn’t want to ruin it. Now I am battling how I should feel and who do I trust in the rope community. I have yet to be tied since and I think my first time being tied again needs to be by a trusted friend.

_________'s response:

After having your incident report read to me, it seems clear this e-mail comes late.

However late, please allow me to express my sadness that things did not go well. More, to let you know that I did want to talk to you to express my disappointment your experience was not what it should have been, and accept responsibility for flaws in my negotiation etc while in Atlanta, and since.

It is a shame that the fire alarms kept us from speaking the evening of the performance. I absolutely wanted to talk to you and try to resolve the issues as best possible from the performance. I spoke with one of your friends, (sorry I thought you were a couple and I do not recall his name) immediately after leaving the stage area who felt this was appropriate at the time. Later with Malak calling from my room after discussing the elevator issue, he said we could speak the following day. The following day I did call and text Malak and was told you and your friends had decided against speaking to me, and would you be writing a scene report.

More than anything when the post was read to me, I lamented knowing you wanted me to call. As to returning a message, my phone was replaced on my way to the event, and I was ill following the event and did not have a chance to set up voicemail until a few days ago. Had the message been received you would have had a prompt reply.

I agree the best thing would have been to speak with you directly to express my regret; and that I have enormous respect for you as a rope bottom and was thrilled at the opportunity to collaborate with you. Over the last weeks I debated calling. My failing to do this was an attempt to respect what I thought were your wishes.

In writing this please know there is no wish to argue with you, or diminish you or your feelings. What I would like you to know is regarding the whip, it had crossed my mind to use it as I had in a previous performance, but headed down to get the cross from Bobby. We could have gotten the whip as a friend who was in my room, but as the performance was 25 minutes decided against it as there seemed a lot to do in the time.

Also, I did have my rigging knife in my suitcase and would have liked to have it/the marlin spike it contains when the friction inverted. What I did have was my Gerber gutting hook, which was my safety device. I did not use it because the friction grabbed and you were well supported. Cutting the line had a great deal more risk than untying from the other side which is what I did. My apologies both that you thought I did not have a rescue device and that the friction inverted and we were hung. That cannot have felt good.

If discussing this with me would be of any help or is your wish just let me know.

Also please know that I thank you for working with me, and wish the outcome had been positive.

There are several issues you raised that I have not directly addressed as I do not want you to in any way see my comments as criticism or negativity toward you.
5/13/2015 22:34:5513350CarolyneTilerSevereWhoever wrote the above report and their "friend" should be the ones being reported for being tranmisogynistic disgusting people. Being a woman of trans experience is not a consent violation and it is frankly insulting that anyone would label it as such. The previous poster and friend should feel "discusting" but because of their own behavior, not this woman's. (PS I don't even know this person)fetlifefetlife
5/14/2015 1:44:241743644JillybeansSevereShe (he) is totally rude and abusive. I saw her (him) at a munchy in downtown Portland and was shocked to see her heap invective upon the other members of the group. She even called one guy the N-word even though he wasn't even black!
Downtown, Portland, ORMay 7, 2015 at 2pm
5/16/2015 5:29:222806752Sn0w_Wh1teSevereSee below for 3 examples posted in as many weeks of Kelly trolling other people's feeds making accusations and insinuations against me

Also this new fetish that Kelly set up 'Fucking Eugene With a Barge Pole”

When these failed to get a reaction from me, the idiot only came and followed me on Twitter using his Voluntary Work account @YorkLGBT.

Naturally I was quite surprised that a man who claim's I'm stalking him would follow me and commented as such

When I then posted examples of Kelly's prior obnoxious behaviour he then blocked me.

He then posted a further obnoxious comment claiming I am trying to frame him for a crime, which is also unfounded

I will also share this revolting effort which amounts to a threat to my person involving shears. The masuline tattoos and hair arms really make this quite sickening.

The whole point of this exercise of course is that people will overlook relatively subtle abuse coming from him but see any reaction other people make to it, and for that to reinforce his narrative of being a Permanent Victim who needs people to help him.

You might also want to be aware that while Kelly will whine about being put on the Predator Alert Tool database and about being outed, he has no issues with doing the same to other people, as the database is now searchable feel free to search for “Eugene” and see what he's put on there:

Once again, I would point out that if Kelly wants to stop me from screencapping, collating and sharing his vile comments he could do so by the simple expedient of not posting them. He will never do this because then he will not get a reaction to play off for his victim status.
Fetlife and TwitterLast couple of months for this batch
5/17/2015 1:10:01EugeneEugeneSeverehairy arms? what the fuck? you have definitely got a need to visit spec savers.

and what's with all this twitter shit? i have fuck all to do with twitter. i certainly don't control the forum profile either. talk about getting fact mixed up with your own dreams.

and the shears? you really think i would waste my energy using them on you? do be so fucking stupid, i wouldn't risk making the blades blunt on someone who just isn't worth it.

you make more assumptions based on your own little dream world than i have hot dinners.

and what's with the constant mis-gendering?

keep taking your pills, keep dreaming, Karma will catch up with you and bite your ass big style.

you will never succeed in your hate campaign against me, so here's some kind advice, though you will twist it around and make out it's a threat, so i wll spell it out again..... some FRIENDLY ADVICE, give it up, take a breather and just get on with the rest of your life and leave me and everyone else in peace.
anywhere they allow idiots to post shit without checking it.almost 2 years and continuing
5/21/2015 21:54:342521197richbnyc SevereThought that by saying "please" while he was assaulting me, it was okay to continue assaulting me as I protested. He legitimately cannot tell if boundaries are being crossed unless you're screaming them at his face.

I've spoken with others who all agree that is he incapable of knowing when to stop. He is a serial predator who takes advantage of gray area until it is no longer gray and straight-up assault.

He also preys on non-English speakers in BDSM activities, people who cannot fundamentally communicate or consent.

His name is Richard Lipkin and he's a graduate student at CUNY. He lives in 21 Moultrie St in Greenpoint Brooklyn.
21 Moultrie Steet, Brooklyn NY2015
5/28/2015 1:26:36115601Brat_Masta_JSevereCyberharassment, cyberbullying, hate speech, and slander of several Fetlife members by username and real name. CaliforniaFull month of May
5/28/2015 1:27:55115601Brat_Masta_JSevereCyberharassment, cyberbullying, hate speech, and slander of several Fetlife members by username and real name.CaliforniaFull month of May
5/28/2015 7:11:38115601Brat_Masta_JSevereCyerharassment, cyberstalking, hate speech, slanderCalifornia5/28/2015 16:00:00
5/28/2015 7:36:06115601Brat_Masta_JSevereHate speech and personal attacks.Georgia5/27/2015
5/28/2015 7:54:49115601Brat_Masta_JSevere5/27/15 and 5/28/15 - multiple occurrences

This user has written hateful, libelous attacks targeting compliKated on Fetlife. I've reported on those specific writings where I've seen them, but his vitriolic attacks continue in other writings and comments to his own existing writings.

Witnesses are numerous, but include other site users as: solo8, slutkityprincess, eruditelustygent, among others.
Los Angeles, CA5/27/15 & 5/28/15
5/28/2015 8:03:36115601Brat_Masta_JSevereHe has attacked two females. One he is making false claims against them and writing personal attack pieces against them. The other he republished her writing without consent and he did a detailed personal attack against her.
He has also attacked what he considers to be popular males on the site for no other purpose than to spread hate.
His writings serve no purpose other than to spread hate and false statements.
Los Angeles CAMay 27th - May 28th
5/30/2015 12:15:072806752Sn0w_Wh1teSevereContinues to make arrogant and grandiose pronouncements about other people with no supporting evidence provided whatsoever, including putting bogus entries on this database.

Some of us have no need to make spurious accusations when we can screencap other people's piss poor behaviour as proof, for example Lisa has now set up a new fetish in an attempt to abuse me, see

Also see below for this idiots continued trolling

FetlifeThis batch, last couple of weeks
5/31/2015 10:28:404335557Miss_Di1254SevereShe blackmailed my friend after taking naked screenshots of him.
I heard through another mistress that she did this to many men.
PhilipinesMarch/April 2015
6/1/2015 7:46:331558288Druchii_BoyModerateMy poly partner and I knew this member for only one month. During that month he yelled and screamed at us in our home at various intervals and often threatened to commit suicide when we tried to talk to him about his behavior. He then admitted that he never intended to commit suicide and was just saying it to get a reaction out of us. Our current roommate, who heard most of the incidents, told us that he was no longer allowed over.

We tried to convince him to get some therapy, but eventually it became too much for us and we told him that we no longer wished to contact him. He sent a super weird letter to my partner. Which we ignored. Months later a friend of ours corona_vera(user: 2148620) called us an asked us if we were okay. We were really confused but then they explained that this guy had send them weird messages asking Corona to kill them. Corona also explained that this guy had used fake pictures to pretend to be someone else, then confessed to Corona that they were actually "Druchii_Boy". Corona blocked them, and then Druchii_Boy changed the fake profile to an EXACT COPY of my partner's profile, with a username that only had a one latter difference.

This is when we talked to Zannah_Rain (user: 3101447) who was a friend of ours at the time. She wanted to know why my partner was talking to her as if he didn't know her (when she'd been over to our place several times) and I explained it was a fake profile targeting people who were our friends. This also happened with another user IcySerenade (user: 2266349). Icy talked to him as the original fake profile with the fake pictures. Zannah didn't see his messages until he had already replicated my partner's profile.

When I accused Druchii_Boy, he admitted to making the fake profile immediately. When I told him I would tell local groups about his behavior he actually claimed that I shouldn't because "his birthday was coming up and he was looking forward to going out".

This guy is super manipulative and dangerous. Avoid him at all costs. I wish I had sent this report in sooner. This happened last year but I was too shaken up.

This sort of behavior puts people at serious risk and the fact that he thinks it was justified is super scary to me.

Let me show you the message he sent to my partner (the long one we ignored), right before this happened. Please note that he and my partner only met four-five times in the month we associated. I refuse to censor his real time since he included it in the message. We also have saved most of the other messages to our friends using screenshots.

written 11 months ago:
but i wanted to let you know that i love you and have loved you from the first time we met. seeing you and getting to know you was the best time i have had in forever. i know that we will never be together but i will always dream of what my have been. you are a wonderful human and i hope that you deserve all the glorious thing a person of your wondrous beauty deserves. you are a imaginative, thoughtful and caring person and i am happy to have known you even for a short period of time. please attempt to forgive me for being such a rotten person to you and the person you love. nothing i did to you was righteous or deserved. you will and always will be the boy of my dreams. i love you too much to ever hate you or forget you. and i know that i am not the kind of person you deserve or need. i am very drunk right now and that is disgusting. but you are beautiful in every way that i wish to be some day. i know that i see you though the eyes of a depraved person, a sick minded person. i will never love you truly. i see you as an idle, a perfect person, because of my sinful ways i will never know what true love is, i wish you all the love of the world. please be safe and careful thought your glorious travels. you are amazing. i do not know what kind of hell you go through on a day to day basis but i do know that you are wonderful in my eyes. so wonderful that i know i am a selfish ass to even send this message. please forgive me for disrupting your morning. please forgive me for ever entering your life. please know that i am not good enough to ever speak with you, and please do not respond to this message because i am drunk and know nothing about true love or what kind of harm this message may cause your true love. there is no excuse for what i did. no cause or reason. no beauty. no kindness, but only lust and depravity.

I will always keep your grace in my heart.

forever a thoughtless fool

Christopher Self-hating Sell

Atlanta, GeorgiaAround October I think, it's been so long
6/3/2015 14:11:451138732dubbdicMinorSent me this message:

written less than a minute ago:
You one sexy mouthful

I got a real dick for your fine ass ass ass.
6/4/2015 10:14:574786213PoopIsNice1055ModerateI saw this guy set up this account today on the computers at the day centre for mentally ill people where I work and he sent abusive messages from it and signed them off as Eustance or Eugene or something like that. If you have had a probkem with him and want to sort him out here is his real name and address June 2015
6/5/2015 23:13:192031092pr0wlerSevereDoes not understand the word no. Loves to molest females. Loves to anyhow take other's toys without permission and use on others with no permission. Loves to invade scene play without consent consistently despite being told to stay away repeatedly.Singapore2013 May
6/6/2015 2:22:09EugeneEugeneSevereEugene, do you really expect me to believe that 'you witnessed a guy create a profile and send abusive mail signing it off eustance or eugene or something"

Get real, this is the type of thing you have consistently done to try and shift the blame.
You have in the past claimed "someone told me they had been verbally abused by kelly, and that after they went to pride dressed as snow white, kelly changed their name to snow white" what utter bollocks, you seem to forget Eugene, that i know exactly who you are, your real name, your place of work, your home address. what sets me apart from scum like you is that i do not go around posting your personal details all over the place, and i do not go around harassing people either.
you don't have double standards, you have triple standards, and your main problem is that you need medical help, you're unstable.

Now, kindly quit bothering me, quit posting material about me, in fact forget about me completely, because Karma can be quite a bitch, and one day Karma will catch up with you.
here, fetlife, imgur, FB, Twitter,OKC!,tinypic,, postimg,, tumblr plus loads more sites.2013-present day and no doubt well into the future too
6/9/2015 16:07:201458208andarooModerateAfter repeatedly explicitly stated which parts of my body I generally did not wish to receive pain, he continually targeted one of these off limits parts and inflicting far more pain than was okay, and not stopping after i said stop. he also messed up one of my piercings this way and i had to take it out.Montreal, Quebecprolonged from about fall 2012 to fall 2013
6/11/2015 23:55:001096438GamerGeekGuySevereRaped me by telling me he would kick me out of the house (we were living together) if I didn't have sex with him. Touched me without permission, even when I asked him to stop he continued doing it. Punched me in the face.Rocklin, CASummer 2014
6/14/2015 8:57:274556703 Jack_Rush ModerateLatest incarnation of Rausche although has had so many names one loses count. See previous entries but he is back in the Yorkshire scene and as always going for young vulnerable, at events in Yorks/Manc.ongoing
6/27/2015 0:49:552806752Sn0w_Wh1teSevereA few weeks ago I set a trap for Sn0w_Wh1te / Lisa Kelly as some of us are sick of this permanent victim harassing and outing people while complaining about being a victim of the same.

To this end, I made a post on the Predator Alert Tool database containing a link which claimed to contain someone's personal details:

This link contained an IP logger which captured the unique Internet Protocol address of everyone who clicked on it. The link was designed to appear broken so that the particularly desperate would click on it repeatedly or try from another device, both of which yield even more information.

You can see this log of IP addresses here

It's kind of funny to see that Kelly has clicked it repeatedly from his mobile device with IP Address!

You can also see where the idiot has confessed to clicking on this link

As he didn't realise it was meant to appear broken and thought he would mock me for it!

If you're still not convinced, take a look at a similar IP log I extracted by giving Kelly a similarly rigged and apparently broken link on Facebook:

You can not only see the same clicking profile from Kelly's IP address registered to a York address with Talk talk, but when he fails to open the link from his landline, he then tries again from mobile device!

Looks like Lisa has finally been caught red handed trying to access people's personal details.

It's also very funny that Lisa is now challenging me to come up with something 'solid' on him publicly on fetlife yet deletes the post when I do so. Since I've now conclusively proven what a scumbag this guy is, I will also point out that trying to tell a person who you are trying to harass that it's all in their mind is known as gaslighting and is a classic abuser strategy. Doesn't work so well when you're skills at keeping safe online are so poor that you leave your IP address over everything.
York, UK & fetlifeOngoing
6/27/2015 19:47:12994617Northman1031SevereNo dom experience. 15+ online fiances. Financial abuse of two live in girlfriends. Long term slow emotional and financial abuse. Stole a television, bank cards and other goods from a subs house on 6/27Laguna Beach, CA2014-2015
6/28/2015 1:30:582723855xXSandmanXxSevereCurrently on bail for serious sexual assault on a 17 year old girl at his home, involving non-consensual choking and penetration. He then threatened her with a large kitchen knife to leave the premises, leaving her stranded with minimal clothing, no shoes, and in severe distress. The night he was released on bail he attended the Chester munch and it would appear is now involved in the Liverpool scene also. Avoid at all costs.Wirral14th June 15, 2.30am
6/28/2015 10:29:45Grey-WitchJane CartwrightSevereJane Cartwright, an alias of Grey Witch, known as Eugene.
sets up silly links and sends a message to say there's useful stuff you'll find on here relating to someone claiming to be eugene, then attempts to claim the person who clicks the link is trying access personal information, what a FAIL.
all overongoing for over 2 years
6/28/2015 10:30:39Grey-WitchSally CartwrightSevereSally Cartwright, another alias of Grey Witch, known as Eugene.
sets up silly links and sends a message to say there's useful stuff you'll find on here relating to someone claiming to be eugene, then attempts to claim the person who clicks the link is trying access personal information, what a FAIL.
all overongoing for over 2 years
6/29/2015 10:02:161269792SurrealSaDiabloModerateContinues to allow known abuser and stalker Dane Robinson / Rausche / Jack Shadow / Jack Rush to attend the New Leeds Library munch over 2 years after being made aware by multiple people about this guy's conduct.New Conservatory, leedsEvery time he is there.
6/29/2015 11:07:174556703Jack_RushMinorSee text of gloating private message from jack "Hello Marie Shrewsbury. I'm very glad you contacted me again. After all, it's been a long time and I thought what was between us had been forgotten. What a happy occasion that its been, you remembered me after all these years.

I hope, like me, you've been enjoying yourself, enjoying time with your friends, with lovers you meet - I bet you're having a great time.

I certainly take seriously your concerns about dangerous individuals and thank you for raising the issue in such a relentlessly diligent way. You must be very conscientious about abusers and never stand for any of that behaviour yourself. I would respect that.

You must feel very pleased, that your warnings and ultimatums save so many people from harm; after all, that's what makes it worthwhile, isn't it?

Your quiet friend, J" and "Worried? Why would you be worried? I'm afraid you've confused me.

I'm sure she appreciates your concern for her welfare, it is done entirely out of the goodness of your heart, I'm sure.

Thank you once again for keeping me informed.

I do hope you find something nice to do with yourself. I would worry terribly for the Mental Health of somebody who spent all their free-time trying to keep other people safe. Such obsessive devotion to a good cause can be quite unhealthy."
Just nowJust now
6/29/2015 11:11:181444788LittleBallOfBratMinorSeems to be allowing Jack_Rush to send messages from her account in an attempt to mess with people. Text below.

"He showed me this message before he sent it, i know what has been said.

What exactly is it he's done to you? From what ive heard its been a few years since you two had an incident and only a small comment was made, i would like to hear your side since, like you said, im only getting his version of events. To me it doesnt make sense that this big drama is happening over a minor thing.

Also why exactly are you telling me and why now? This isnt meant to sound nasty its a genuine question but is this a grudge thing or genuine concern for my well being when you dont even know me?

This is all just so confusing."

written 3 minutes ago:

"No it isn't.

In fact, I go as far as to hazard a guess this is either Dane using your account or he gave you the words to send, as I am also aware he has done this in the past.

If he had shown you the text first and you had no reason to think he was lying then it seems unlikely that you would have addressed me as an anonymous fetlife user and a 'randomer'.

Which of course makes me ask, what is the motive of you replying to me? :D"
FetlifeJust now
6/29/2015 15:04:40999999EugeneModerateMarie Marie are as convincing a stalker as you are convincing as a woman. Years now of threatening to destroy careers,relationships and lives and you are still haven't succeeded. Dane is still welcome at Library...Snow is still enjoying Fet and going through her transition...and all the others..Precious, DM, V, and all the rest are getting on with life and enjoying. It is YOU who cannot let go....just try and look at yourself Marie before you are 50 and still trying to destroy peoples lives with outdated and inaccurate are wasting so much time behind the keyboard plotting and scheming..and failing. people don't give a fuck about what happened yrs ago...Fet moves on and you are yesterdays news. Sad really.

When you had your op they threw away the wrong piece of useless flesh.
WWW2012 onwards
6/30/2015 10:40:54Eugeneeugene/uses any name that pops into tiny mindSevereEugene, you constantly bark on about me 'outing you' - tell me exactly how it's possible to out someone without actually outing them? - You claim i keep naming you (Eugene) yet your real name has not been mentioned by me, don't get me wrong, i will do if you keep posting personal details about me (or my friends for that matter).

Onto the I.P.Tracing you claim proves i'm seeking personal info about people - First of all, kindly tell me and the world, what you do if someone sends you a link and asks your opinion about it ? (facebook)
Then tell me what you, or any normal person would do, if you are sent a link and told 'this person was posting about you under the name of eustance or eugene or something like that'?

Yes in both those scenario's you would click the link. So when you 'set a trap' at least make sure you can prove the reason 'this person clicked the link' is not a standard thing that 99% of the population would do.

So again Eugene/S.Cartwright/J.Cartwright (more false names) i challenge you to PROVE something BEYOND DOUBT, or fuck off back to the LOONY BIN and top up your medication.

Also Quit messaging my friends and telling them i am a nasty evil person, a pervert, a danger to people, a predator and numerous other things. It is NOT working.

One more thing, Quit the fuck out of contacting my head office at work to demand they sack me, if you really want me sack ed that badly, then fake contact details will NEVER work, you see they would actually need YOU to fill in forms and provide solid proof and be contactable in case further info or evidence is needed and we all know that is something you will never do, because then that would reveal your real name, your real address, and you don't want that do you?

And the same goes for the Gender Clinic, quit pestering them, they just throw your trash where it belongs.

ONE LAST BIT OF ADVICE- get on top of your medication, lay off the very community that you were once part of, before your meltdown, and get HELP.
all overongoing for over 2 years
6/30/2015 12:32:29Eugeneeugene/uses any name that pops into tiny mindSevereThis is the sort of 'PROOF' that Eugene thinks is acceptable as a way of describing someone trying to access personal details....
This is Copied & pasted from a Conversation back in March.
Are you telling me that those claims are untrue? There were pictures of things that you are supposed to have said on other forums?
Lisa Kelly
25/03/2015 22:07
Lisa Kelly

someone is making me out to be something i am not, a lot of things have been totally twisted out of context and an awful lot is completely unfounded. It's a crying shame that i feel in a position where i have no other choice but defend myself, as my private life should be like anyone else's private life, private. I certainly won't go into details, as i wish my life to remain as private as possible which is hard enough with these claims flying around, all i will say is, take the time to get to know me and you'll realise i am not the person i am being made out to be by whoever is sending out the malicious emails. Regards, Lisa.
26 March
Kyoma Hooin
26/03/2015 19:37
Kyoma Hooin

So are you telling me that this is bogus?
27 March
Lisa Kelly
27/03/2015 01:43
Lisa Kelly

what is it? all i get is blank screen when i follow that link.
28 March
Kyoma Hooin
28/03/2015 20:57
Kyoma Hooin

I can only guess someone has reported it. Not to worry, it was probably rubbish anyway.

Kyoma Hooin is the FaceBook profile that belongs to Eugene.
all overongoing for over 2 years
7/4/2015 20:55:41you didClose windowSevereyou guys shut my messaging down cuz i was using it?newton7/4/15
7/6/2015 19:33:14FancyFigure327 FancyFigure327ModerateThis user is trying to solicit money from users to not be kicked out of groups. Not sure if this is a violation but here is the random email I received.

Hello you are in the Money for Nothing group but you are not verified. To stay in the group you must pay an initial fee of at least $5 to any of the girls in our group. After that each man will pay $5 to the Girl of the Month each month. Please choose a girl and pay her and report back so we do not have to kick you out, thanks.
7/9/2015 15:18:199671MasterCecilSevereHe constantly violates his own rules for the club, the lifestyle, in scenes and for his relationship. I have witnessed several subs calling red because he bites, kisses or leaves marks after being expressly told not to. The Woodshed in Orlando2011 to Present
7/9/2015 15:20:149671MasterCecilSevereWhen I negotiated a scene with him, I told him no biting, no kissing an no marks on the necks or arms. While we were playing, he tried to kiss me several times and left a bite mark on my neck. I will NEVER play with him, ever, or step foot in the Woodshed again. Apparently, I am not the only one.The Woodshed in Orlando, FLSeptember, 2013
7/12/2015 15:24:264735622TasteofkinkSevereThis is a fake abusive account that is scamming people on here, sending mean messages to peopleon this sitetoday
7/23/2015 12:56:19927475MadpadSevereAfter pleading guilty to child porn offences in the UK, his partner was forced to end their relationship.

See the touching blog:
UKDecember 2014
7/27/2015 11:20:05927475MadpadSevereStrong suspicion that he drugged my drink. Only luck prevented worse.LondonOctober 2014
8/1/2015 22:18:3429405Hawk35ModerateThis person does not recognize the meaning of "no" when it comes to unwanted sexual communication. After stating clearly that I had no interest in playing with him, having sexual contact with him, and that his sexually themed messages were unwelcome, he continued to send messages and notes with what he intended to do, even after being repeated told to stop. At one point, he told me that he wanted to know who my Dominant was, so that he could ask them for permission to play with me, ignoring that I controlled my own consent towards play partners and had already turned him down on multiple occasions. My Dom is aware of his consent issues, and fully supports my attempts to protect myself from his unwanted advances.

In person, he has touched my breasts and ass without warning or my consent, and has been told that if he does so again, I will call the police on him. He continues to harass me online, although I have not acknolwedged or replied to him in some time.
Seattle, WAOngoing
8/4/2015 7:41:294951671asiangirlyxModerateScammer, False promises and wants money.

Get's money and stops talking if you don't continue.
8/6/2015 13:29:003786940nicola_roseSevereThis person's email address is apparently [email protected] and the name they go by is "Nicola" and they use an iPhone, according to their email signature.Online2015-08-06T15:24:00
8/6/2015 19:53:48772234Delta93SevereWhen I first meet him in May he did tell me of his other "subs" and that he was non-monogamous, so there were no surprises there. He was looking for a playmate for his "sub." After playing with him I agreed to meet her, LuxAvari, this is when things went down hill. I found out his "sub" was actually his girlfriend of two years and they had an agreement that they wouldn't play without each other present, which he neglected to tell me about so I meet her under the conditions of every one meeting for the first time. He felt guilty about it though and did tell her after we all played on two different occasions. In which she was mad and broke off the arrangement. Well a month passes and she contacts me again stating they were sorry and had talked things out and that "she knew her place. " I played with them a few more times in which during that course of time they had played with another woman who did not tell them she had gonorrhea. Long story short they didn't find out about that until after playing with me and giving it to me. Be careful when meeting/playing with this couple they are not out for a long term play partner they are looking for anyone that is available at the time. Pinellas Park, FLMay to August
8/6/2015 19:58:213855544LuxAvariSevereIs in no way shape or form a true "sub." She is head over heels in love with her Dom, Delta93, and will do anything an everything just to make him happy. They have been dating for over 2 years, he sees their relationship as a d/s she does not and is blind and clueless. After playing this couple several times I learned that they had played with another woman and got gonorrhea from her. They never play safe and are not looking for a long term play mate but something to satisfy their needs at the time.Pinellas Park, FLMay to August
8/7/2015 0:00:304912712SpanishRedSevereThis person is incredibly emotionally unstable. She thrives off of being the center of attention. The way she does this is by claiming people are victimizing her. If you rub her the wrong way she will make false reports to the police. She will expose your personal information to the public. She will use her group of friends to burn you at the stake publicly. Do not trust her. She is not a safe person to give any personal information to. She suffers from multiple medical issues that affect her brain. Almost weekly she is engaged in drama with someone new. You have been warned. DO NOT TRUST THIS PERSON. SHE IS UNWELL. OnlineAugust, 2015
8/7/2015 12:46:232814133Sassyj22SevereThis woman is the most manipulative and insecure person I have ever had contact with on this site. She is so desperate for attention. If you are an outsider to her she will find ways to expose you and hurt you publicly. She suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder, which makers her extremely emotionally unstable. She will be your best friend one moment and then tell everyone you are a monster. Stay as far away from her as you can. OnlineAugust, 2015
8/10/2015 20:35:441949211QueenThundercuntModerateEmotionally abusive. Not a bad person, but she uses people.Portland, OR2014
8/11/2015 8:09:094158279SpanishRedSevereAll this person does is create drama. She accuses people of harassing her daily. She will use anyone and everyone to get attention. Plus her writing sucks. OnlineAugust, 2015
8/17/2015 13:17:293250596veryveryroughSevereI started dating a member of Fetlife named veryveryrough (Chris Story). He was my first "BDSM" experience. I use quotations because he violated my hard limits even after I told and signaled him to stop and end the scene. He also choked me unconscious. It was horrible!
He asked me about any past trauma before we played. I told him about being drugged, sodomized, and almost smothered to death...he did two of the major elements on me. I am realizing he was very calculated.
I don't want him to violently rape any more innocents in the community. He poses as a mentor on Fetlife.
Buffalo, NYAugust 10, 2015
8/20/2015 14:28:052221998RaylakSevere April 23rd 2015
8/22/2015 5:04:145071774midnightjoexxxModeratePrevious username midnightjoexx. Sent a graphic death threat to me under that profile, then shut it down. Opened a new one and directly sent me an abusive message a month later. Fetlife22 August 2015
8/22/2015 7:05:115071774midnightjoexxxModeratePrevious username midnightjoexx. Sent a graphic death threat to me under that profile, then shut it down. Opened a new one and directly sent me an abusive message a month later.Fetlife22 August 2015
8/26/2015 6:49:5057586BDSMfunSeverenumerous consent violations reported is currently being investigated by the police on sexual assault charges FETSOCs beware Birmingham2010-1015
8/28/2015 11:19:332605059AlphaMale500ModeratePlease be careful getting involved with this incredibly dangerous individual. Emotionally abusive, cold and Egocentric.Not safe traits in a dominant. look at latest activity to see him not respect banning from credible event.


Yorkshire2014 onwards
9/1/2015 5:02:33974242NYCScribblerSevereThis man plagiarized me in a major magazine and then threatened to reveal my sexual secrets if I contacted his editors. He literally stole my writing and then tried to blackmail me. New York CityAugust 2015
9/8/2015 7:21:53BarryTBarryTSevereThis person sold bdsm items. I contacted him to purchase something and he invited me to come look at his items. While there, browsing his products, he did the following:
He tried to smack me with his products (I said no).
When I turned my back he dropped his shorts and then, when I saw, he demanded I give him oral sex. (I said no).
He chased me into the bathroom. I slammed the door and locked it, crying/yelling.
He told me I am just a slut and to 'get my ass out here' and 'suck me off'.
I called a friend. He could here me talking and he immediately backed off. I stayed in the bathroom with him trying to cajole me out, until my friend told me they were parked outside.
I yelled that my buddy was outside and I was LEAVING.
st albert, (edmonton) alberta CanadaFebuary 2009 at 730pm
9/8/2015 7:35:292159325_RichardSevereThis person negotiated a scene with me. We communicated via texts.
.During negotiations I stated that I was not interested in any sexual acts being part of the scene. He told me that bdsm was a sexual act, so I bluntly stated that any penetration of any orifice with any body part or item was a hard limit for me. He agreed and we set a date for a few weeks later (we live in different towns).
Over that time we texted back and forth in what I thought was merely a conversation about sex and bdsm.
During our scene he pulled in another person to 'help' (without my consent), after gagging me. He directed this person to insert a butt plug in me. When I struggled he became vicious-he slapped my face so hard that my teeth cut the inside of my mouth up and he began to punch and slap me. I went limp, hoping he would stop.
The moment I was unbound I grabbed my clothing, dressed adn left.
Later when he texted, as if he didn't understand why I left, I told him. HE used the conversation about sex and bdsm as his excuse, saying I told him that I often engaged in BDSM as part of sex, so of course it was ok that he added anal toys to our scene.

I have tried to warm people about him, but he leads a group and volunteers all the time-people don't want to believe he is like this.
Camrose AlbertaMay 2014
9/8/2015 7:42:5128209BarryTSevereMultiple incidents with this person.
He started with typical harassment, sitting too close, making unsolicited comments about how he wants to 'play with' me, following me around.
This escalated to grabbing me, trying to kiss me, swatting me anytime he had an opportunity. EACH TIME I TOLD HIM TO FUCK OFF AND STOP TOUCHING ME
I have never dated him or played with him. Leaders in the community told me "That is just Barry"
This escalated over several years, as he is a vendor and a 'leader' in the Edmonton area. I tried to just avoid him. The last event was him cornering me by the bathrooms at LUPERCALIA, during a workshop when the hallway was near empty. One hand over my mouth he pressed me to the wall. He grabbed my breast and then his hand moved downward, his body slammed into mine, he was groping as if he would penetrate me with a finger. When I fought he made disparaging comments about how 'good sluts take what's coming to them'.
I managed to bite him and he started, and I ran.
I made sure to never be alone in this kink community again.
Lupercalia 2015, Edmonton Alberta CanadaFeb 14 2015, afternoon
9/8/2015 8:04:512159325_RichardModerateThis person violated my consent during a scene. Although our scene was negotiated, once he had ropes on me he added all sorts of things that were not negotiated for, that I would never have agreed to. I was new, and just recently learned that this is not how things are supposed to work. The whole scene terrified me, but hey... he is a group leader and sits on a board at Lupercalia, so he must know what he's doing, right?Lupercalia Edmonton, Alberta, Canadaabout 9pm, Febuary, 2015
9/8/2015 8:11:0428209BarryTSevereHe grabbed my nude body while he was being a dungeon monitor, ground up against me when I was cornered a few times, smacked me with his toys at his vending booth, is loud and obnoxious when I told him to stop, uses social settings to find excuses to maul me, (using the bdsm friendly way of hugging everyone) and when I told him no he caused a huge scene that was absolutely mortifying, calling me nasty names. He grabbed me by the neck from behind, yanking me off balance and into his body, his arm crushing my throat. He always acts as if nothing happened, jumping to casual conversations or just wandering off after an incident. I have watched this behaviour with others too.Edmonton Alberta CAnada, several locationsFrom 2000 to February 19 2015
9/8/2015 8:16:1228209BarryTModerateThis guy is older, and has a vending booth in which he sells mostly wooden impact toys. I was with my partner, looking at this booth, and the second my partner wandered to the next booth this guy swoops in and grabs the paddle I am looking at out of my hands and smacks me with it three times!! He grins this maniacal grin and says "you should know what it feels like" . He went to hand it back to me and I stepped back, then booked it to my partner. When I told my partner what happened, the person at THAT booth said, "That's just Barry... He's like that". We left and have never been back to any events hosted by that group.vendor fair, Edmonton Alberta, Canada at LupercaliaValentines weekend, saturday morning, 2014
9/12/2015 3:39:09681657UbastiModerateUbasti is known to have given false witness against an ex in order to manipulate people into attacking him.Fetlife2013 - present
9/14/2015 1:49:49473213DovakaModerateHe admitted to a friend that he videotaped her without her consent on their first and only meeting. This was after telling her that he actively worked in the porn industry with video production.Worcester, maApril, 2015
9/21/2015 3:46:154926950NeedpunishedModerateThis person set about to deceive by hiding their true identity. A subsequent search failed to disclose who the perpetrator proved to be.Olive Branch, MSSeptember 20, 201510:45AM
9/26/2015 17:41:11845640MoistSevereHas given at least 2 people infections at the BBB by using unclean needle practice.

Has non-consensually "dropped" someone at he BBB in the middle of the market without having ever spoken to them before.

He has sexually violated at least one person, finger fucking them whilst spaced during a needle introduction. This was their first needle scene and first visit to the BBB.

Gives unsafe advice in his needle workshops, such as gloves are unnecessary.

These are just a few of the known offenses of this vile individual!!

The BBB Birmingham 2014 - 2015
9/29/2015 13:18:054777426FallstafferSeverePosts disturbing detailed stories about his consent violations like this

Then deletes and blocks all dissenting people to make himself look like a hero. Dangerous dude. Be careful.
9/29/2015 20:47:541951240MisterTimebombMinorThis guy has made so many pro-rape and victim blaming comments that I caution folks against him and especially against drinking around him. See his comments here:
9/30/2015 16:26:51543619eseretSevereI was beaten by this person while restrained. I safeworded and begged them to stop. I was ignored and hurt badlyArlington Waaugust
10/7/2015 8:56:15804850TsumiTsunamiSeverePromotion of hatred and Misandry. Even being slightly Misogynist at times.United StatesOctober 06 2015
10/8/2015 16:44:374734577DutchessDModerateThis woman claims to appeared in magazines all around the world, but she's recently joined these websites and there is no information about her on the net apart from a most likely fabricated review from just a month ago. Asks for your info the first minute you start talking with her. On she's built an entire network of fake profiles pointing you to her and if you express your concerns about sharing your personal information with her so soon, she'll block you and flag you as fake. Soon after you'll be getting messages from random fake profiles about how you've made a mistake questioning legitimacy of the great DD... One of the fake profile's I've actually spoke on the phone with sounded exactly like the person from the sound clip she put on her profile.CollarspaceWithin the past week
10/8/2015 17:09:454734577DutchessDModerateShe claims she does it for pure pleasure, but after you give her your number she calls you with no ID telling you it's $250/h.TodayNJ
10/8/2015 17:23:014734577DutchessDModerateDon't fall for this one, great prove that nothing is as it seems especially on the internet.nj2015
10/9/2015 19:36:04251640Raven_heart ModerateEmotional abuse, non consensual unsafe sex.US2015
10/16/2015 11:20:312605059Stridus-NemesisModeratePlease be aware as police investigation goes on about his treatment of underage girls..this person is the new incarnation of AlphaMale500....changed name to hide identity.

10/18/2015 9:52:592484505LasivianMinorProne to melodrama. Poor judgment and low on empathy. For example, posted in Summer 2015, he said, where his current and past partners could see:

I think, it's time to stop just "having sex" and wait until I can find "good sex". The downside to this is I've never had "good sex" so i'm not sure what i'm looking for, lol.
Fetlife discussion boardsSummer 2015
10/19/2015 13:31:221156720Megan_NowMinorEmotionally abusive, manipulative and immature. Does not communicate her needs or expectations. Disengages suddenly, without warning, and without aftercare.Oakland, CaliforniaOngoing pattern of behaviour since school days
10/21/2015 11:50:3013350CarolyneTilerModerateA Top who boasts has been in the scene for over 20 yrs....but played with a newbie female sub at play event in Leeds. Did not discuss limits and play was supposed to be non sexual. Removed subs underwear and touched genitals repeatedly. Then proceeded to choke out the same Sub to unconsciousness and admitted she had not judged it right and went to far. Then has gone on to blame newbie sub who is at least 20 yrs younger for not communicating her limits when already in sub space and vulnerable.

A good Top takes responsibility and doesn't victim blame. This poor girl felt sexually violated. Also is not open about her Trans Status to the community including some play partners.

As a person who repeatedly talks about how experienced she is and how consent is paramount seems a bit is her worrying determination to turn a non sexual scene into a sexual one as cant keep her hands to herself around young female subs

Be clear on limits if you play with this person.
LeedsOct 2015
10/23/2015 2:03:5221490Noctra_CorvusSevereLOL so I date somebody 3 times and then I just all of a sudden rape them out of nowhere. Man this is hilarious. I love this program I can accuse anybody of anything with no repercussions because I get to stay anonymous. So If I have an axe to grind with a person I can just make up some shit about them. I am going to have sun with this.In my mindOctober 23, 2015
10/24/2015 4:37:18666Anna Dawn BrechtMinorIf you think that Anna has lost the plot you might want to bring this to the attention of her local mental health services at North Wing, St Mary's House, St Mary's Road, Leeds, LS7 3JX 0113 295 2313 or 0113 3055000 where I understand she is being treated for Borderline Personality Disorder.

Very very rum indeed considering the incessant slurs that Anna has made on other people's mental health and the fact that she claims other people have 'mental health problems' as a way of undermining their social standing or devaluing their opinions, particularly when they have the audacity to call Anna out on her bullshit behaviour.
Last few yearsSee next entrys
10/24/2015 4:42:33777Anna Dawn BreachtModerateIf you think that Anna is a danger to her children you might want to bring this to the attention of Children’s Social Work Services on 0113 222 4403. From what i hear you will not be the first to do this.See next entrySee next entry
10/24/2015 4:49:07888Anna Dawn BrechtSevereAnna's progress around the Yorkshire BDSM scene can pretty much be plotted by the enties she has put on this database for people, usually at the time or shortly after that she falls out with them.

This goes all the way back to the first Yorkshire cluster of her former 'bro' Rausche, her ex Dark Entries (name changed to something in German), his next partner Jellybabyboo and soon afterwards, MSCr1mson who Anna has a grudge against for reasons which are unclear to me.

This continues on to the present. As I have previously pointed out on fetlife, the people protecting Anna from the 'bad guys' in one round usually become the new 'bad guys' in the next, particularly as Anna appears incapable of having positive relationships with people and simply gravitates towards any dumb smuck who hates the same people she does.

It is therefore sadly unsurprising to see her former bum chums GrayWitch and CarlineTyler appear on here, and around the same time as yet another appearance of MsCr1mson.

I believe that Anna has also made a large number of bogus entries on this database in an attempt to start something or get someone else blamed for them. Many of these attempt to emulate the wording or posting style of other people.

I will say that it seems very suspicious to me that Anna seems to appear in people's lives right around the time that they get anonymous abusive emails or pms, and while I cannot prove that, it will be interesting to see if that pattern is repeated in future.
Where ever Anna isWhile she breathes.
10/25/2015 14:42:523291687The_Wolf_SevereAbuser and consent violator of multiple women. Multiple accounts are listed online.multiple placesmultiple times
10/27/2015 1:11:124158279SpanishRedSevereKeeps writing posts about Yogi Bear. FetlifeAugust 2015
10/27/2015 1:12:294158279SpanishRedSevereShe writes too much and takes too many pictures of her mouth. Doesn't take enough photos of her boobs. FetlifeSeptember 2015
10/27/2015 1:13:204158279SpanishRedSevereWatches The Walking Dead and talks too much about NutellaFetlifeJuly 2015
10/27/2015 1:14:354158279SpanishRedSevereDoes a lot of embroidery. Way too much for my liking. FetlifeAugust 2015
10/27/2015 1:15:534158279SpanishRedSevereWho looks that gorgeous and has brains as well. That isn't fair. FetlifeSeptember 2015
10/27/2015 1:16:484158279SpanishRedSevereHer favorite series is The Walking Dead. Not cool at all. What ever happened to taste? Couldn't she watch The West Wing instead? FetlifeAugust 2015
10/27/2015 1:18:194158279SpanishRedSevereI don't like the way she takes photographs. They're all blurry and grainy. Fetlife4 October 2015
10/27/2015 1:34:2861756earldapearlSevereOne admitted sexual assault. Numerous consent violations. Lexington2014
10/27/2015 1:51:013020237WeirdoInChiefModerateis reported to have had an STD and did not alert sexual partnerslexington2015
10/27/2015 2:32:462179339IsharaRoseSevereKnown sociopath and narcissist. Consent violations. Divulging private information of fellow kinksters. Exposed herself to a minor. Be careful of this one. She will only be nice to you as long as she thinks you have something she wants. If you call her on it, she'll turn herself into the "victim". el paso2015
10/31/2015 17:32:2013350CarolyneTilerSevereRight. I am the Bottom mentioned in Abuse report #5. I have literally JUST found this, because I googled Carolyne's fet name today, came up with the links mentioned in Abuse report #1 and downloaded the app myself, because I wondered why Carolyne had launched her DDoS attacks and whether someone had reported her.

Imagine my surprise to see my own damn story staring me in the face. Did anybody ask me if they could submit this? Did anybody tell me they had? No. I'd have gone right on not knowing, without my idle googling.

Did she discuss limits? No. Neither did I. Did she over-sexualise the play? Yes she did, although this is easily done, as experienced people I trust have told me. Getting the balance right is really difficult. She did say my underwear was coming off and while bare-handed-spanking me, her fingers brushed my labia a couple of times. I accept that this was an accident. Was it uncomfortable, hell yes, I didn't like it at all. Did I safeword? No.

I had asked her to hit my bum with stuff, she did hit me in the vulva with a flogger a few times. It wasn't painful, but again, really uncomfortable and not something I had agreed to. But did I safeword... no.

After I had said that I like choking (later in the evening, after the impact scene was over), Carolyne did indeed take it too far and after choking me a couple of times, rendered me unconscious. Safewording wouldn't have been possible here, since I had no idea what was coming.

The sub-drop that night was particularly awful. Yes, I did feel violated and traumatised then.

I sent her a feedback message the following day. She was horrified and she did apologise for misreading me. She was remarkably non-defensive given that I was telling her she'd violated my consent. She was mortified and beat herself up internally about it. She owned her mistakes and I owned mine. I have much to learn about negotiation, limits and safewording, which I am now working on.

I have made my peace with Carolyne. I accepted that she never intended to hurt me, she meant to give me a great experience. Right after it happened, I was in a bad place, so I did seek support from individuals I know. I never intended for this to be made public. The victim-blaming didn't come from Carolyne.

In response to Abuse report #3, I don't think outing somebody as trans is acceptable at ALL, not even a tiny bit. I didn't actually know she was, but I couldn't give a rat's arse and I don't think it should be anybody's business. She's a woman, the end, full stop.
LeedsOctober 2015
10/31/2015 18:22:302179339IsharaRoseMinorShe's a liar. NM2014
11/11/2015 10:55:02814205vespertinevioletModeratePotential sociopath. Pretends to be sweet but in private is manipulative and insecure. Exploits her partner's reputation to get her way. If you are an outsider to her she will find ways to expose and hurt you.MelbourneOngoing
11/12/2015 10:55:181040450MakeUTakeItModerateThe user MakeUTakeIt posted a video of me after I explicitly told him he Did Not have consent to do so. FetLife refuses to take the video down because I can not "prove" it's me in the video.Boston, MAApril 2014
11/18/2015 19:43:152585750CommanderLazarusSevereShe masquerades as someone to stand up for people's rights but in private she is a rapist it really is that simple. I have been repeatedly touched while defenseless, asleep or drunk.
I've been going to counseling for months about it now but what can I do about a community leader :(
Sydney2014 and 2015
11/18/2015 19:47:34971141Comrade_MakiSevereComrade_Maki has been part of a pattern of abuse I have suffered at the hands of another leader of the community, I can hardly talk about it at all it makes me sick just thinking about it :(Sydney2014-2015
11/27/2015 23:48:2355338Master-JKModerateNot supportive of transgender and gender-variant persons' right to self define their own gender identities and presentation of gender at whatever phase in their transitioning or nontransitioning life. Quoting him: "trans folk making pronoun demands at the event shouldn't be tolerated either" -- "However, after many, many years...het, gay, lesbian and bisexual, in all their flavors, I could accept. I was het native and that was the norm for me. Bisexual proved difficult because o f the switching over to liking the same sex to liking the opposite sex to trying to please every sex proved difficult for me to understand and support consistently. Half that time I didn't know which sex was the attraction for the week, month or year. " ---- "He was a fun gay male taken by an evil destructive female spirit influencing him to transition taking away who he was....and that took time before I saw that happening. And after he died....I spread the ashes....I spread them hearing 'don't forget who I was before transition'...and so I didn't....I rejected that bad spirit and spread the ashes in HIS name and spoke to him ...the gender he was born with. I had reached the point that enough was enough. I could no longer support transition for these folks. Something is terribly wrong going on in those who transition. And to complicate matters further....a kind of disservice....this idea that every gender flavor had to be celebrated and embraced and each with their own communication language and protocol." (check out his posts and blogs, the themes do not change.)Fetlife discussion boards2015 (various)
11/29/2015 1:21:10625300LilsweetpeeModerateFor another (somewhat confirming, somewhat sympathetic) view of the 2/18/2013 abuse report about Chico, California, here is a journal writing from this user from 2014.

"I use to be self sufficient, would do what ever I want and only cared about myself. I had learned to be alone, I wasn't happy, but I had my distractions and friends. But then I met this woman who became my life, her children became mine and I felt like a family. I was truly happy. But then she changed and I could feel her distancing herself from me and it was hard. I'm not the easiest person to love, I can be selfish, controlling at time, and apparently I don't listen...which because i wasn't listening I didn't realize. I tried going back to how I was before and rebuild my walls, but I realized I loved her too much and that she was always there in the back of my mind and i felt incomplete with out her...its hard and it makes me hate love and realized how much I will be hurt with out her, how did I allow myself to be so vulnerable that one girl could destroy me and shatter me into a million pieces. I know the pain will pass, but will and should it ever get easier? will it effect future relationships? How many more tearful and sleepless nights will there be before I don't feel anything at all?

I feel like im going crazy, Life is hard but at the end of the day I love my little family more then anything thing and she was right and I'm usually wrong"
Fetlife journal entries2014
12/1/2015 2:46:55955555Sir--StevenSevereBe extremely careful with this man. I would not touch him with a barge pole. Please see these links for some disturbing insight into the way he thinks. He has not done anything to me or anybody I know, but I feel the community should be aware of him.

A thread that a friend showed me where he first made his thinking known:

He is looking for a girl to join him and his wife in a poly relationship. He wants her to have no family ties and possibly raised in care, he says. Moving in with him really quickly. This is on his own website, which is linked from his profile. The above thread states that he will not allow her to have a safeword, or any of his subs for that matter. -

Here is what he intends to do to her. Isolate, brainwash, make her think only what he wants her to think and put through torture:

-- - THIS ONE IS ESPECIALLY SIGNIFICANT and is a confession to actual intimate partner violence. According to his own words, there was nothing before this. No talking, no negotiation, he just started hitting her and continued on the path he was on despite her *obviously* not wanting to. He also beat her in anger.

He has been very consistent in what he says. I do not believe him to be merely fantasising and think he is dangerous.
Yorkshire, EnglandBecame aware November 2015
12/4/2015 21:56:083805372mrgoodbar804MinorScammed me for pictures and are using them on different websitesOver internetNovember
12/11/2015 19:16:403201190MastermindManModerateConstantly messaging me asking personal questions about my age, weight, height, relationship status. Asked him to stop and he wont.Fetlife MessengerNovember 11, 2015 8 pm
12/12/2015 18:13:174356426-stealth-SevereThere are lots of stories about this guy. Offhand the two links I can cite at the moment are and .

In the first link is an account of him coercing the sub into permitting photos to be taken and then non-consensually uploading them. In the comments of the second link is an account that "he had outed a girl he was seeing to her family and work." Really, though, read through the comments on the above two threads and make your mind up.

His most recent MO seems to be to pose as photographer.

I've only seen him twice, quite a while ago. The best guide I can give to identifying him is a heavy Italian accent, excessively charming initial manner, but with an unsettling vibe. You'll probably hear rants about the way the community is now, and how people (event organisers and police) are out to get him.

He is banned from events in Blackpool, Liverpool, Manchester, Sheffield, Leeds, and probably more.
North of England (he travels as he is banned)Ongoing over the last 3 years
12/14/2015 16:04:341395640ThePeopleofKinkModerateIn a group called BDSM Ontario(Canada), This community leader posted a discussion title called "TPOK Newbie Kits are live! Info for our community and organizers."

Original post

This past weekend at the TPOK Artisan's FetFair and Kinky Exploratorium, TPOK Community Foundation members released our Newbie Kits that we have been working on since the summer time. We brought 20 kits with us and they were gone within minutes. These kits are free and are funded by our local workshops. The kits are contained on a flash drive and open into your internet browser. An internet connection is not necessary but does enhance the user experience. The kits are meant for local people to London and within approximately an hour circumference of London.

Contained within the kits is information on how to use FetLife, online resources, local groups, finding local events like munches parties and workshops, how to be safe, kinky books for education, camping events, terminology and various links to help the newer people in our community get a good start and intro.

We are currently in the process of acquiring more flash drives to give out more kits. Several people requested kits after we ran out so I am working on this as quickly as possible to get these kits into people's hands.

If you would like a single kit or you are an organizer of a munch or event and you would kits to give out please contact either Rubee_Tueday or MsDemeaner. These two ladies would be happy to make arrangements to get them into your hands.

If you have any questions please feel free to contact either board member as listed above.

comments by various individuals


A suggestion for you: are you able to make a .zip file and bring it on a laptop (with a good virus checker, of course) and, if people bring their own drives, give them the kits that way?

Obviously giving out the flash drives is helpful, but you might be able to extend things a bit if you did it that way as well.


Thanks for the suggestion but this is the easiest way to get into many people's hands. I appreciate the thought tho.

Perhaps you could also offer a downloadable PDF link that those with internet connections could use to download the links that are available directly to their computer? It works for schools and other organizations big and small, perhaps on your website? Would be a quick and less expensive option than the flashdrives, allowing the flashdrives to be used by those without the internet connection. Just a thought.

Yep yep and I PDF you can hyper link to any sites.. etc..

Seems to me both suggestions would help "the newer people in our community get a good start and intro" or is it that they only qualify for a "kit" if they attend a TPOK event?

The comments kept going where numerous indivduals asked about getting this information online off the TPOK website.

So to not let his base fans see comments on this profile he switched to his personal account to reply to the top comments as followed :

ThePeopleofKink :

To all. We want to have these kits be available from people like TPOK Community Foundation members and munch organizers etc. The idea is to create a link between our community and new people. It's important that people get to say "Hi, welcome to our community. Here is a kit to help you in your journey. I'm here if you have any questions."

I do appreciate all your thoughts on the subject and always appreciate the feedback.

Thank You!

Crazy_Heart :

@ User As I said in my comment above we just want them to be given out from people. TPOK runs no munches. Some munch organizers already have them and others have asked for more. There are no "qualifications" of any sort. It's information for new people or anyone that needs more info. It's kinky people helping kinky people. I have had many requests for the information and we are working hard to get more out there.

I'm sure you would agree that people helping people is a wonderful thing!

Of course..the comment that I was referring to was said on the TPOK profile. LOL.

User :

What about those who can't or prefer not to get out to a munch or TPOK event... it's an option to "help" those people as well.. all means of sharing information just helps to get the right information out there and that's pretty important too

Crazy_Heart :

They can contact me or a TPOK Community Foundation Board member and we will do what can to get them one.

Comments kept on going then I asked questions as I am new on FETlife, brought there by a friend. I was ignored by this man not answering my questions. Here is my conversation as follows with his response :

@Crazy_Heart What if I do not feel comfortable contacting you or anyone else you have distributed this information to? It would be nice to be able to download a pdf file. Is there not enough recognition to providing everyone with a downloadable pdf. As opposed to spending all this money for a usb for no reason. You have all this information yet you are saying for others to come up with their own version, so you are now dividing the community? Are we all not part of the community if we choose to? It really is not that difficult to turn the information into a zip or pdf file and put a link on your profile or a web page at least everyone has access to the same information and not just new commers.

Please answer these questions as I am a newbie myself:

What if the newbies do not know who TPOK foundation members are?
What if a newbie is not comfortable coming to the community yet?
Why are you only providing this information to newbies and not the community as a whole?
Who are you, what importance do you have in the community?
What topics are covered in this starter kit?
How much actual research have you done to put this kit together?
Where did you get this information?
Why do you not host a munch?
What are your motives to only see newbies in person to receive this information?
You said only some munch organizers have access to this information, why only some?
You say there is no one true way, yet you just said if someone wants to put a kit together go ahead. But why should they when you have all the information put together?
Would this not confuse many out here as a standard guideline or something?
This TPOK foundation is it licensed for buisness by government laws?

I think I will leave just these questions for now. Thank you.


@Me This is a lot of questions. I will simply say that we are doing this in a way that we feel is best. We consulted with lots of people that have been in the kink scene for many years and I myself have been around for over a decade. I am not going to pretend here that I can keep everyone happy. That's not what we are here for. We are trying to help and this is the way that we have chosen. The foundation is simply for helping. As for me. I am just a guy who runs a party and does a podcast. I am no better or bigger than anyone else. I am trying to serve my community and have the help of others that want to do that too. There is lots of information on my profiles and my website if you would like to research it. We have just begun to give out the newbie kits and that's why not all the organizers have it.

If you would like a kit...wonderful! If not, that perfectly fine too.

Good Luck in your kinky journey!

The comments kept on going he no longer responded to anyone. Others where trying to help me but couldn't I asked in the end I am still waiting for a starter kit, even by way of an email.

He then personally messaged me on ThePeopleofKink privately making me feel horrible and uncomfortable where I left fetlife altogether.

Do you think by getting online and disrespecting and attacking me is going to get you anywhere? I'm not saying a thing on that thread because no matter what I say will be twisted and distorted.

TPOK is a private organization. The party is private. The workshops are private. The podcast is run by me and owned by me privately. The foundation is a gift to the community and all proceeds from the workshop go to foundation which is used to put out these kits.
The foundation is run by the board but is also private.

The kits were worked on for over 3 months. They have sound, are interactive and are not pdf's because this private organization through careful planning decided to do them this way. They are not available online because we want to have a human connection and it helps us to keep predatory behavior to a minimum.

I'm sorry you are scared or unwilling or for whatever reason you won't come to a munch or a party. There are munches all over London and plenty of other parties around too. If you would like a kit then you need to go to a munch or an event where they will be available.

If you are looking to enter the community you might want to consider not disrespecting it's members and events. You have all the power here. If you don't want to come, don't come. I regularly sell out parties and events because people choose to come. Those people vote with their tickets. If no one came there would be no TPOK events.

It is against the Term of Use of Fetlife to attack or put private messages in public places so if this message makes it onto anywhere public I will report to the FetLife Caretakers.

If you want to get to know me, give me some respect and I will consider talking to you. Right now you get the same of respect you have given me. NONE.

I found this individual not helpful, rude, verbal threat towards myself and he was not encouraging to help or come to the community. I feel as he has something to hide he is not a good community leader. No where on any responses I have disrespected anyone nor was rude. I was asking simple questions that could be answered publicly. Where is answered some privately, to me this is an untrustworthy person with a motive. How many times has he done this to newbies privately for those who want to explore and support such events as his. Who knows maybe he is the predator.
OnlineDecember 7, 2015
12/19/2015 7:05:373510220Hojo-JutsuSevereI am a cam girl, at the time of these sexual violations I was eager to begin my adult career in porn though. I was paid to perform non sexual rope work and take photos. He waited until I was bound and unable to move before performing non consensual oral sex and finger penetration among a few other violations all same idea, though we agreed repeatedly non sexual. I would say he is very dangerous and manipulative.
He has recently "stepped down" from group leadership due to the immense amount of accusations in a public note in below link. Along with my lengthy written account are several others who claim Ken had violated them as well. My story has document proof and is presented in a comment by username Roadkill, not me.
Gainesville FLOctober, 29th 2015 11AM.
12/19/2015 11:23:59BlackRoseTalentBlackRoseTalentModerateI had worked with Victor in FL very briefly and heard many rumors of his progressions in sexual assault. Though I was never assaulted, he repeatedly tried touching me inappropriately until I set him straight. When I did set him straight, he tried embarrassing and bullying me. Then said I wouldn't make it in porn for not having off camera sex. Plus their just a cheap agency looking for fucks, just don't!orlando flseptember 2015
12/22/2015 20:57:42603576Zarathud ModerateBigotForum Boards12/22/15
12/24/2015 7:35:282484505LasivianMinorHas a habit of creating sock puppet accounts, sometimes outing himself by posting from his main account. Sometimes it's to have some anonymity for a personal ad he wants to run but sometimes it's to create artificial support for his arguments in discussion forums. Here is a thread that is less likely to get removed where this happened:
12/25/2015 19:26:344077826il34v3m4rk5SevereI was involved with the individual for awhile, and we had engaged in alternative activities. Af first it was enjoyable, but he started becoming violent and manipulative. He put off establishing a safe word and would force me into performing sex acts, several times getting me dangerously drunk in order to take advantage of me. Soon he would bring up axta he performed on me that I had no memory of. He pushed my limits constantly, from hitting mw with violent intend, being verbally abusive in a way unrelated to play, and at our last encounter at his house, forcing anal sex on me and choking me violently until I nearly went unconscious. Please do not get involved with this individual. He acts like he is ssc, but he is far from. I'm still dealing with mental anguish from my encounter. He is very dangerous, and from personal experience, I fear that someday, he is going to do something much worse to somebody else. I don't want anyone to go through what I did, or even worse. Topeka, Kansas August - December 2014
12/30/2015 20:49:194734577DutchessDSeverePoor lady is trying to make some money on it. Nothing like on the picture, no experience, some made up stories, nothing to it, wasted $250.NJRecently
1/6/2016 10:33:202782746KimberlyGeorgeSevereThe user tried to solicit money for sex.North Carolina1/6/16
1/15/2016 17:33:293220995furlongfurlongModerateSeverely alcoholic and emotionally compromised. Will key your car. Cheats on monogamous partners (without protection!) and does not inform play partners. Serious issues. TorontoDecember 2015
1/22/2016 14:10:592003876KiltedArrowModerateThis FetLifer is known to attempt to steal new members of the community away to corners at munches and parties to coerce them into doing things they don't want to do. He touches girls after they've asked him to stop. He is banned from a local group.OhioDecember 2015
1/23/2016 15:18:07EugeneMarie ShrewsburySevereAttempting to get people sacked from jobs, Attempting to ruin people's lives, malicious gossiper and rumour monger.
Stalks people on fetlife and takes it into their everyday life.

a waste of a human being.
fetlife, cities in Yorkshire UK2013-present day
1/28/2016 15:54:374570091ShihaludModerateContinually harasses me at events and online to join his group/pack at Rebound and Club-T – lol. Tries to take you aside for a chat on your own so he can control you. When rejected is verbally abusive and threatening. He is narcissistic and patronising misogamist ,thinks he is some kind of god because he has some money. He is well named after a gigantic desert-dwelling god worm lol hehehe
I don't want to mention the other girls who know of this as they like to keep their anonymity.
UKNovember, December & January
2/5/2016 5:55:49958331IL2SPANKSevereDuring play the submissive was sexually used by the dominant, contrary to consent rules and her stop word was consistantly ignored. She was beaten instead of being spanked as well, completely against her consent.Glen Cove, NYNovember 2015
2/7/2016 20:35:5318460TheImplicationSevereWe did a scene during which we had unprotected sex. She subsequently refused to talk to me, and when I finally got her to respond, she accused me of cumming in her without permission, which is something I consider tantamount to rape and would never, ever, EVER do. Since that time, she has had many suitors. She's a bit unstable and apparently likes to use you and then accuse you.DetroitOctober 12, 2014
2/8/2016 6:54:06660804sargon_lModerateI met him on a BDSM forum that is now not active anymore. We have exchanged emails and Yahoo IM ID-s and started tallking. He made sure to make a very good image for himself, always expressing himself correctly, and not seeming a creep. The only thing I disliked was his impatience to meet, but since I was single and I really wanted to have a taste of the BDSM life I have never tried, I agreed to meet him. We met after a copuple of weeks of talking in a restaurant. In the attept to "show concern" for me, he asked me if I told someone I am meeting him and I said I didn't. He said he works with the police and that is not OK to do, thing that gave me hope and kinda let me feel like he cared about my safety. He convinced me to go to his place for a 1st play, although that was not my innitial intention, but I felt impressed by him and accepted. When we went to his place, told me to strip and kneel, and among other he hit me with an african cattle whip called Sjambok and it hurt a lot, too much for me. My only previous sexual experiences were vanilla. Before starting, we didn't speak about limits or safe words, and I didn't know by then we should have. In this encounter, he fucked me without a condom and he only ejaculated outside me because I begged him so, telling him I am not on the pill. He was very rough and on one hand he got me very excited but on the other I was scared because he was too much. I should also say that he is a passionate weapons collecter (both firearms and melee weapons) and because of his line of duty he carries handcuffs and a pistol (handcuffs that he did use on me).
Second time, I wanted to meet him just to talk, to tell him that I want to continue only if there are some limits to what he can do and he can't do to me. We met in town, just told me to get in his car and drove me to his house. There, before I managed to say something, he told me to strip. While I did this, I asked him what if I refused to do something, and he said to me that we stop, but he doesn't want to be my master anymore and I have to leave and never contact him again. That made quite the impression on me so I was ready to accept anything he gave me (I have no idea why I was so easy to influence back then, it must have been the age - 23 and the fact that he was just my 3rd intimate partner at the time). So he did all sorts of things: made me kneel until my knees hurt like hell, slapped my pussy with a belt until I fained from pain, and then told me he wants to fuck my ass. I said I don't want that since I tried once with a previous partner and I didn't like it, so no. I begged him not to. He said: either you make me cum by oral sex, but if you don't, I will fuck your ass. At this point I was already very scared, but I was naked in this guy's house, with sore knees and back, and with my will broken. I asked him not to have anal sex with me repeatedly but he didn't care, said these are his rules and I have to obey. Being scared as I was, I was not able to make him come so we went from the living room to the bedroom, put me on the bed on all fours, and had anal sex with me, without my consent. I just froze like a deer in the headlights and couldn't move or talk, I barely was breathing. I felt like my body is not mine and what is happening to me is not real. He even joked that I must enjoy it since I am staying so still. I was just hoping it would end soon. During the anal sex, someone from work I think called him and he took the call in the middle of the sex act to humiliate me even more. After he came, he gave me permission to go to the bathroom and wash. He offered me the choice to stay the night with him (why the fuck would I want that) but I just went away as soon as I could. Never met him in person since, and in feb 2015 I confronted him online on what happened but he doesn't accept it was rape. He said just that maybe he was a bit rough with me. The guy is definately a sadist and maybe he is also a psychopath since he doesn't seem to have any remorse or empathy.
Cluj-Napoca, Romania, at his homeNovember, 2011
2/15/2016 13:24:471475692VinaMayModerateSpread rumors and sent abusive messages to myself because I was engaging in conversation with a guy she was interested in.CheshireDecember 3rd, 2015
2/15/2016 17:11:396871NorseModerateLeft extreme bruises on me without consent. When I told him I was too busy to see him again he kept texting me. When I told him why I did not want to see him he threatened to slander me if I told anyone in the community. He said his wife would "report me to the cops" and that she knew how to file a restraining order because she was a social worker. He said she had done it many times before and I "actually shouldn't fuck with him"Asheville, NC2014
2/15/2016 17:15:281065014MicchisaurusMinorCreates multiple sock accounts over the past 6 years. Sometimes impersonates people no longer on the site. Member of snark communities and keeps sock accounts to troll others in her local community.Asheville, NC2012 - 2016
2/15/2016 17:17:2211945UrbanMonkeySevereThreatened violence at a real-life munch. Has made death threats online. Makes sock accounts to aid his wife and friends in trolling. Asheville, NC2013
2/23/2016 20:11:24GoogleGoogle, Inc.SevereGoogle has revoked permission to share the original Predator Alert Tool for FetLife database claiming "Terms of Service violation" and saying the contents are "inappropriate." Apparently, Google believes it is inappropriate for survivors of sadomasochistic rape from being able to communicate with one another about their abuse in an effort to help others avoid similar abuse in the future.

I consider that pretty abusive behavior from a corporation.

Google serversFebruary, 2016
2/29/2016 16:32:474356426-stealth-ModerateAnother report of sketchy behaviour by stealth:, UKFebruary 2016
3/1/2016 17:49:1834896528PumpChum8Moderatewas told he wanted to cum in me, it is aginst the rules of the group we are part of unless i asked for it.
and that basic consent in general.
I did not want
Georgia two months ago
3/7/2016 9:20:26158671TheLazyDictatorSevereAnyone considering playing with/dating this person is strongly advised to contact their local police station and request a disclosure under Claire's Law, for their own safety.Dorset, UK2012-2015
3/7/2016 9:33:0323044DungeonrentalModerateWomen - do not trust this man. He is a dangerous predator. There are many women within the community who have had issues with him.Bonnington Hotel, Bournemouth2013
3/10/2016 11:46:04223692AlwaysAubreyModerateReports (gossip) have been surfacing by rumor about this brilliant and charming person for about a year about her behavior in the last several years with long term partners. Emotionally manipulative, physically abusive of her partners, will self-harm herself as a "punishment" to her partners, and has had restraining orders taken out on her by past partners. Likes to isolate with a partner and create an intense emotional interdependency and may threaten suicide if a partner tries to leave. Refuses to get treatment for her mental illness issues. Extremely conciliatory, affectionate and apologetic after her abusive episodes. This is not a cut and dry predator situation but a "long game" with long-term partners. Washington State2008?-2014
3/14/2016 3:11:061JohnBakuSevereUV BOI

3/15/2016 13:24:1766995headcrashSevereIt's just his reputation that he rapes a lot of people. Nothing to me personally.San FransiscoIn the past
3/23/2016 13:35:59 a rope scene where the bottom had explicitly said nothing sexual and this person (kamikazeboi) penetrated them while bound and helpless and disoriented in subspace.Toronto Canada2013
3/27/2016 17:02:295340095Chloe0079SevereThis person is unstable, and confessed her "undying" love for me, submitted to being my "babygirl" and sub, yet forced ME to change aspects of my profile which she did not like!
She then went on to use my past against me, manipulating me and trying to get me to "accept" that I was a broken, unchangeable person.

This person needs to be very careful how she behaves online, someone else (not myself) could have taken her words and actions to heart even more and maybe caused themselves harm.
Online, via txt,phone.Janurary 2016
4/16/2016 23:09:02655814_AnaisNin_Minor.........
4/22/2016 20:28:113757189my_fantasySevereVerbally assaulted me and some I have relation to.
Uncalled for name calling and use of derogatory terms.
4/22/2016 20:35:333757189my_fantasySevereVery stupid, and doesn't know how to talk to others.
Does not understand respect.
4/23/2016 13:27:401887577ButtonedDownModerateThirdhand information only, gleaned from conversations as well as one of his facebook posts. This individual has been known to be physically abusive to a partner, and has been openly "verbally" abusive online on Facebook - posts eventually removed. I am unwilling to specify the specifics out of concern for other people's safety, however there was a significant risk of *major* bodily harm, alongside the physical harm caused by the (known) act itself. In various communities, this individual is known to have this problem.Connecticut2010? Uncertain
4/23/2016 13:28:582967457TantrXSevereRepeated disrespect of boundaries.MaineMid 2010s
5/16/2016 7:39:301521635KalikittySevere"KaliKitty" has Herpes, HSV. She does not inform you before sexual contact because "she is afraid you will judge her and not want to still be with her". When you get angry she threatens to tell everyone in the kink community that you violated safe words, forced her to do things that were on her limit list.
She is very manipulative and is no stranger to filing false reports.
Studio Near Frederick Parking Lot2016 May
6/18/2016 19:28:53504415Rev_LoringSevereAt an event in Philadelphia he entered it and confronted another attendee and got very close to her shouting about how he was not going to allow her to disrespect him.

What did she do, started a serious relationship with another, he was not for this and harassed her and him, so she dropped him as a friend.

This incident caused the police to be called. They did make sure to meet them outside.
Philamay 2016
6/20/2016 14:58:076210949Lola-45ModerateHe/she is using a false picture of him/her. This picture is from internet.
Il/Elle utilise un faux profil. La photo n'est pas elle/lui, elle vient du net.
Ile-de-France, FranceJune, 20, 2016
6/24/2016 3:44:096297055woody966MinorThis person liked one of my pictures but then deactivated their account so that i couldn't see their profile.Earth24/6/16
6/25/2016 18:57:19PlurWolfy2015313ModerateI was staying with John and he does not respect physical or emotional limits at all, he takes what he wants and just doesn't care. He said I could stay with him because he wanted to help me get on my feet after I moved back to California, but once I was there he turned into a different person. He changed his story back and forth, lied and spread rumors, asked for things and then guilt tripped me for doing them, and relentlessly blamed me for made up problems constantly every day. I ended up in the ER with an ulcer. Also for the past almost two years I have been having flashbacks of a day where he made me regress emotionally, then pushed me into having sex with him. The feelings come back full force at the worst times and I can't concentrate or move sometimes, it's really scary if that happens while I'm driving. I'm horrified to talk to anyone because they might be like him, I'm horrified to talk to old friends because of how he lies to people. I freak out when anyone touches me now. I just start shaking a lot of the times and start remembering what happened, but try to play it cool. I'm just barely starting to get over it this was in 2014.737 E. 23rd St. Apt. 4, Oakland CA 94606October 2014
6/27/2016 19:57:1485363JerseyguytrModerateStalking. Traveled across the country to give a wedding ring to a girl he'd been stalking for years but never met.CanadaJune 2016
7/1/2016 21:53:31278879DrLectrModeratehes caused a lot of harm to many girls by encouraging their alcoholism. he also controls a lot of what goes on in the spanking community and hurts a lot of people who disagree with him or his buddiesAt parties and private gatheringsOver the course of several years
7/4/2016 12:18:416238454Kinkkitten-88ModerateCaution to everyone, but in particular Doms with partners. User stalked and contacted my partner telling her to fuck off and that I was hers now and that we were in love, along with many other horrendous things! Full on psychotic head case. Avoid like the plague. Have screen caps of the abusive messages if required.LiverpoolEvening of 2nd July 2016
7/4/2016 14:52:516346227hantei1986ModerateThey are posting a link into my profile pics in their comments. I didn't go to it, but if someone does it may lead to a virus. Please consider what to do with this my fetlife pics comments7/4/2016 5:30 pm
7/5/2016 17:59:583263814LilmissterrahSevereThis person is incredibly unstable, confessing "love" etc for someone one minute, then telling you she is cutting herself up and wanting to die the next. She clearly needs help, but should not be on a fetish-related social network with these ideas, and in this state.
Melbourne, Australia4th July 2016 2AM
7/7/2016 0:25:343080598KashRPhotographySevereHe repeatedley takes advantage of naive newbie models once he has them tied up in a photoshoot.At his flat in Willesden21/09/2014
7/7/2016 0:28:473080598KashRPhotographySevereAlledgedley raped a girl at a private party photoshoot. He was paid to do a photoshoot at a private party. When one of the girls was drunk he allegedley raped her. The other girls had seen him do it at the party and he still had the cheek to ask for his money for the shoot and because they were so scared they still paid him.At a private Shoot21/03/2015
7/18/2016 16:36:464730724maryannforresterModerateBrowses local personals group, preying on lonely men who are seeking relationships. She lures these men with the promise of sex/relationship and D/s - but has no interest in any of that and is just seeking favors and convenience.Meriden, CTJanuary - February
7/18/2016 16:40:162092353Ouroborus_XSevereEmailed and messaged my friends to falsely accuse me of sending death threats to an unnamed "24 year old woman" on both FetLife and Facebook. Threatened to "confront me" the next time he saw me.

I don't even use Facebook.
Various Locations/OnlineMarch 2016
7/19/2016 17:50:052523183Gym_DomModerateHe poaches newbies who don't know anything about the community. Like literately meets them at a munch, and jumps into a "relationship". He only does it because he can't support himself and uses (or pressures) women to get a place so they can live together. He neglects to mention that he can't pay the rent. Or keep a job. He insists on non-protected sex. He did this to me, I wised up and he immediately (like the day I dumped him) jumped to a woman who had only gone to one munch. He's done this to at least 5 women I've found. He latest loser is a huge fat woman, which shows he's just using her for housing, as he's publicly a trainer (who can't get a job) who proudly lost over 100 lbs. Looking at his photos, he's getting fatter with her. She's enormous, and makes him look horrible.Birmingham, AL2014
7/19/2016 17:56:572523183Gym_DomModerateHe poaches newbies who don't know anything about the community. Like literately meets them at a munch, and jumps into a "relationship". He only does it because he can't support himself and uses (or pressures) women to get a place so they can live together. He neglects to mention that he can't pay the rent. Or keep a job. He insists on non-protected sex. He did this to me, I wised up and he immediately (like the day I dumped him) jumped to a woman who had only gone to one munch. He's done this to at least 5 women I've found. He latest loser is a huge fat woman, which shows he's just using her for housing, as he's publicly a trainer (who can't get a job) who proudly lost over 100 lbs. Looking at his photos, he's getting fatter with her. She's enormous, and makes him look horrible.Birmingham, AL2014
7/21/2016 21:26:396113780querida_deleSevereThis user is using one of my email addresses ([email protected]) to make use of this site. I would bet that this is a fake account. On May 10th, the email address [email protected] was created shortly before this fetlife account was, using the first aforementioned email as a link to it. If you would like, I can give you screencaps as proof. I don't really care if the account stays up, I just don't want my email address associated with it. If that means the account gets the axe, then so be it.OnlineMay 10, 2016
8/3/2016 5:15:444556703Jack_ViperSevereLatest incarnation of Rausche, Jack_Shadow, Jack_Rush, the man who has lied, manipulated and harassed his way around the Leeds scene for 5+ years now, while regularly accusing others of everything he has done himself.Fetlife.comRecently
8/5/2016 15:44:463588153LeboudoirclubSeverePublicly charged a six times difference in price between men and women for their event, but when I PMed them, they said they didn't know the difference between sex and gender.London5th August 1140 PM
8/9/2016 3:41:06447650_Life_SevereLife happened. It was nothing like they said it would be. No personal helicopters. No self cleaning houses or self cooking meals. No 10 hour work week.Everywhere I went.Everyday.
8/15/2016 1:53:57124004SpasibaSevereSpasiba has been using his self-proclaimed community leader title to lure in all females that join fetlife. Recently, and this is the most severe occurrence, he has been whoring out a young girl and calling it "slut training", where she has to go get laid with his friends. This has been going on for months before we heard of it, it's noteworthy to mention this girl has depression issues and takes medication, thus is not really consent-giver material.Beirut, LebanonJune 2016
8/20/2016 15:40:22680348BlackMasterDSevereA couple years ago he raped me. I was so ashamed to even say anything to anyone. I always avoided him. We talked on here for a little. He invited me over for a few days. For a spanking that's all we discussed. After that he tried to all domly dom and say your having sex. I tried to push him off, but he was too strong. He overpowered me and came in me. I was so afraid to say anything. He has a rule that you can have any limits and one of them was his whips. I said no and he still hit me with it. He said in his house I didn't have rules. After that experience it was hard to do much. As far as my credibility his house
its by charles and calvert street. Its a rowhome and the house starts with a 6. Thats all I remember. I didnt say anything till a post he wrote bragging about some oh the stuff he did to me. And how he talked to me.
This is the post link with him bragging

8/26/2016 15:52:401475460FreaklinMinorContacted me after an event to inform me that, in explicit violation of the venue's policies he had taken photographs of me without my permission. Learned from the organizers that he had problems keeping his hands to himself with others. When confronted, described himself as a "habitual line stepper."New Jersey8/6/2016
8/26/2016 23:35:21415265NemrakSevere, MarylandAugust, 2016
8/29/2016 1:28:12812387CrosswordsSevere
Takoma Park, MarylandAugust, 2016
9/1/2016 10:46:14113126TexasBlkMasterMinorContinued to interact with me through Fetlife after I had stated I did not wish to interact with him.FetLifeSeptember 2016
9/5/2016 15:12:436505220LittlstWolfQueenSevereONCE again, this person is back on fetlife, with I think her FIFTH profile in two years since I have known her. She is mentally unstable, and uses men on Fetlife, and then pretends to kill herself when she feels she has had enough! This is a person who is very destructive, and makes matters worse for herself.
Upon meeting the girl, she had professed her undying love for me, only to disappear off the face of the earth for many months on end, then I receive a text saying she is killing herself.
This person should not be in the Fetish community.
In person, via text. Meelbourne, Australia.Over the past 2 years constantly.
9/16/2016 7:36:005893188Tch_MeSevereThis user originally contacted me because she liked one of my pictures. We started talking. She presented herself as a complete newbie to kink/BDSM. I encouraged her to attend groups. That's when it went downhill. She kept trying to get me to meet her at specific places at night, and I didn't want to go, because I don't meet people off Fet anymore due to bad experiences. After a couple of weeks of politely declining her invitations, she began spreading my RL information in groups and threatening to have people beat me up. She mentioned some names of people who know what town I live in, and it has me honestly scared for my safety.ConnecticutAugust
9/16/2016 7:41:142092353Ouroborus_XSevereThis user continues to spread lies about me, and has now escalated to threats of physical violence if he ever encounters me in real life again. He contacts everyone that I add to my friends to "warn them" that I'm a "dangerous" person, and to continue spreading the lies about me harassing people.Connecticut, OnlineMay '16 - Ongoing
9/21/2016 21:13:21711200Kingpin008SevereI met Jay at a party a few years ago. He presented himself as one of the staff members for the venue, which had just recently opened and he was always very polite and offered to shine my boots for me. The third or fourth time I saw him at the playhouse after most people were heading out he asked if I would like to continue our conversation back at his place. I really liked him at the time and agreed.

When we got there at first his room mate or friend was there with us and hung out while we talked for a while, but headed out leaving Jay and I to fend for ourselves in his living room. As I got tired and mentioning I should probably leave soon, Jay suggested we watch a movie he'd been talking about and was so enthsiastic about it I didn't want to say no. I knew I wouldn't be bale to stay awake but i felt comfortable there and trusted him. So we decided to lay on the couch together and he put the movie on.

As soon as we laid down, he turned to me and said, “Do you like to cuddle?” “This is it,” I thought. “We’re going to sleep and cuddle, and it’s going to be great.” Because I liked him, I responded, “Sure,” and I smiled at him.

I expected him to wrap his arms around me, but instead he grabbed and pulled my hair, forced his mouth on mine, cracking my lip and shoved his hand down my leggings. He started kissing me, and I laid there frozen. I couldn’t move. He was so big. His hand was scratching me. I could feel him drawing blood.

His other hand was pulling my hair so hard I was starting to get a headache and tears bubbled in my eyes. In that moment all I could think was, “Make him go to sleep.” So, out of fear, I began kissing him back. He growled into my mouth. Then he bit my lip, drawing more blood. “Take your clothes off,” he growled into my ear. I fearfully obliged, trying to make it look like I wasn’t shaking, like I was enjoying myself.

I was naked and vulnerable. He grabbed my throat and squeezed. He looked me in the eye and said, “Beg for it.” I could barely breathe.

“Please,” was all I could say. One syllable, one word, so much effort.

He pulled me over on top of him. I was shaking from fear, which he mistook for pleasure. He yanked me down by my breasts, leaving two handprint-shaped bruises. I still can't bring myself to write down the things that happened to me next. It left me feeling damaged. Broken. Hollow.

When he was done I could hardly breath, couldn't move, could only lay there counting my heart beats and hating myself for what had happened. I lay there for an hour until I was sure he was asleep. I called a cab and waited outside, praying I would be picked up before he woke.

He's messaged me since, and at first gave dismissive responses but totally ignored his last several before he finally stopped, months later. Every time his name came up on my screen I'd remember that night and physically feel the pain he caused me all over again. I stopped going to the venue because I know he's always there and it would kill me to actually see him in person again.

I realize now that what he did to me was not random, it was practiced. He must be doing it to others, before me and after me. I've withdrawn completely from that scene and the people associated with him. It's been a few years and it's not getting easier.

I hope he gets help.
Baltimore Maryland2014
9/22/2016 13:47:154307947ItalianIcy36SevereThreatened to hunt me down and kill me over a disagreement in the 'Politics in the World Arena' group.

Ladies watch out, this guy might not be the most stable.
NYC, FetLifeSeptember 2016
10/19/2016 7:08:474180341KingCrafterSevereEmotionally abusive predator who entices newbies under the guise of teaching them about BDSM. He uses techniques such as emotional manipulation, gas lighting, and isolation.

Plays on insecurities and lack of knowledge to manipulate partners to engage in play they otherwise wouldn't engage in. Also belittles or disregards common standards such as safe words and aftercare and has shown disregard to the welfare and care of previous partners.
VictoriaApril/June 2015
10/19/2016 19:00:383551740VaBlackSnakeSevereHe promised me to fuck me, he did, I gave him my address and he raped me.... He raped me with his buddies.....Highland SpringsOctober
10/19/2016 19:04:31switchsherry71painslut-pulaSevereyes fetlife is making fale acustations with out proof that i am a child preditor and i want to sue them for slanderfresnooctober 2016
10/26/2016 12:48:22252435RustySpoonModerateAfter careful discussion of limits and negotiation of a planned play session with this user, the person proceeded to violate my stated limits and perform unprotected sex with me - first without my knowledge (I thought he was wearing a condom) and later with my knowledge and without my consent. Although sex had been negotiated and was within the limits agreed upon, it was to be performed only with condoms. This act was performed in full knowledge and awareness of my tendency to become non-verbal during certain types of play. When confronted about it, the user said that he thought that the fact that I had not protested meant that I had changed my mind about my limits.

I honestly do not believe that this was a malicious act. However, this user cannot be trusted to understand the importance of consent and the non-violation of limits.
South West England, UKSummer 2014
11/5/2016 19:07:06 SevereI had negotiated a flogging scene. He tied me up and used duct tape across my mouth. He flogged me so hard. I think I'll have bruises for a long time. Then he raped me anally. I don't know if he used a condom or not. Then he left me after that. I finally went home.Miami, Florida November 5 2016
11/26/2016 18:39:11432979commiemonkSevereOn July 9th, 2012 Rich got me drunk in an area we had played in together before. He then vaginally raped me after I repeatedly denied him consent. This happened outside in a small privately owned field visible to the road in broad daylight.Near Ithaca, New YorkJuly 9th, 2012 in the early afternoon
12/5/2016 3:17:454557549RIGedSevereForced to accept unprotected vaginal and anal sex, after repeatedly being told no, and safe word used. When brought up later and was upset about the incident I was gaslighted and told that I had been wanting it, was just being a crazy selfish girl. Was warned later that if anyone was told about the incident that they would spread nude photos that were taken while I was tied up and unable to stop him from taking.Houston, TexasSept 2013
12/13/2016 3:39:554557549RIGedModerateImmature dom that just wants someone easy to control!
Manipulated and cheated on! Stay away!
Katy, TXApril 2014 - Nov 2015
1/4/2017 8:47:521279573RitchiecunningSevereNovember 2015, had a fight with this person, went to bed this person tried to initiate sex and was told no. I woke up to me being pinned chest down, with his knees on the backs of my legs, my head into the pillows and he was penetrating me. I left but was stupid and went back to him. In the end of July , this same thing occurred again, this time there was physical abuse on top of the sexual assault.
Two people saw me a few hours before the last incident and then saw me the morning after and both remarked upon the bruises on my face. I have images that were taken to the police of the abuse.
east bay of SF bay areaMid november 2015, July 25 2016
1/4/2017 8:48:301279573RitchiecunningSevereNovember 2015, had a fight with this person, went to bed this person tried to initiate sex and was told no. I woke up to me being pinned chest down, with his knees on the backs of my legs, my head into the pillows and he was penetrating me. I left but was stupid and went back to him. In the end of July , this same thing occurred again, this time there was physical abuse on top of the sexual assault.
Two people saw me a few hours before the last incident and then saw me the morning after and both remarked upon the bruises on my face. I have images that were taken to the police of the abuse.
east bay of SF bay areaMid november 2015, July 25 2016
1/12/2017 7:02:191279573RitchiecunningSevereit was at a play party, and he would not stop when I told him to. He had me bound and then started to penetrate me even when i screamed my safety word. san francisco,caJan 8
1/17/2017 11:09:306957273ChosenPrincessModerateDont bother messaging her, frigid cuntO1
1/17/2017 11:21:524001166xProbablyXMaybexSevereFake profile. Probably run by a 50 yo fat dudeonline2016
1/17/2017 11:24:025162561JaninaSilzkeSevereFake profile. online2016
1/17/2017 13:03:536302091MrsSunstormModerateIn case you want to blackmail this little slut:
2/1/2017 8:37:436992196belmont1978Minorrape threatsonlinejan 2017
2/5/2017 6:39:46911Anna Dawn BrechtSevereBe aware that Anna is not only a prolofic contributor to this database, she also emulates other people's posting style and / or copy pastes content from further back in the database, from or from people's blogs to try and implicate them in having reported people. Anna's aim is to start stuff between the people she puts on here and the ones she wants them to think put them on here. Known to use similar tactics with sock accounts. Possibly UK's #1 shit-stirrer who will get someone assaulted sooner or later because she set them up. If somethng on here looks bent, it's got Brecht written all over it. :(This databaseLast 5 years to present. Really.
2/6/2017 14:01:214001433TrainingthesubSevereHave your very own wall of shame now you retard ¯\_(ツ)_/¯aa
2/8/2017 8:46:404001433TrainingthesubSevereWatch out, he's a nazi racist
2/10/2017 3:10:196955746LikemaybeSevereThis is niko black.
41 year old. Posting as a younger girl to manipulate, blackmail and threaten for money.

Please do not engage in this profile.
California 2012
2/10/2017 17:54:506729169jehSICKahSevereShe knew I was sexually assaulted by my dad & spread a lot of lies about it to a lot of other people. She does this to anyone who disagrees with her in any way, no matter how minute. She is a known child abuser, coke addict and if you get to know her she'll tell you negative things about all her past relationships. What she won't tell you is she will claim they are abusive when they're not & exploit law enforcement and court system to her own selfish ends. DANGER DANGER be careful with her. If you're reading this you can't say you weren't warned. She destroys people's lives routinely. in a private residence Over time
2/22/2017 23:11:35Orin GanOrin GanSevereRAPISTDC2016
3/6/2017 11:01:236154018KittiDarling AKA KATELYN ZUGEL or KATELYN KENITZSevereMultiple domestic violence incidents with criminal convictions (8th District Court Michigan), multiple stalking incidents with criminal convictions (8th District Court Michigan), multiple consent violations, has outed people to law enforcement as a revenge tactic. Has outed local community locations to law enforcement when she is banned.

3/31/2017 0:55:47801288PaddonSevereHello all! I'm Paddon, but my friends call me Sam. I'd like to take this opportunity to confess that I rather enjoy having sexual relations with high school students, despite being over ten years older than they are. You may see me prowling high school grounds around the time when school gets out, and sometimes when I'm feeling like having something more mature I'll carouse college campuses for freshmen. I don't have a face picture here, so feel free to check out my LinkedIn page at or

Any further questions, please do email me at [email protected]. If that fails to reach me, you are encouraged to give me a call at (410) 790-5961.

Also, I'm looking to rent out a room in my home in Elkridge, Maryland to a starving collage student or runaway teenager (15+ female only).
Baltimore, Maryland2010 to present
3/31/2017 13:35:1622222222ORONN GAHNSevereRAPIST; KIDDIE PORNVirginia2017
4/3/2017 12:29:15 found me on fl and we are having nice conversations until meet up when he picked me up and shove my face into his crotch and try to put a dog collar on me.

He took me to his friend's house and proceeded to slap me and choke men with the collar.

I was crying and telling him to stop but he wouldn't and overpowered me.
TorontoMarch 30, 2017
4/14/2017 13:31:035935472greatexplorer465MinorIt's not "asshole" behavior to tell someone "no." This person has repeatedly contacted me and I've nicely inquired as to WHY each time. Responding to my firm stand that they stop, because they never explain why they are reaching out, does not warrant abusive language. "Minor" offense or not, people need to learn that being told no is not offensive...and that we are not out of line for putting limits.Online12::00 April 14
4/21/2017 8:00:046783887She-VenomMinorI'll try to be as brief as possible.

The account here is fake, the user behind it is real.

After speaking for some time we agreed to meet, some 15 times or so, every time she backed out. Had a reason not to meet.

We had skyped so I knew there was a real person behind the account, however, lies were told.

She lied about her name–and later admitted it.

I reached out to her Fet friends to find that others had been duped by the same ploy.

I was told she was Ana Pavlovic–from russia–studying in Oxford. She is not. I am in Oxford and she was not here for term time nor does the college she claims to attend, Trinity, have any record of her attendance.

I feel that catfishing people on FetLife must be some kind of violation and I would hate for others to be duped.

I suspect this user to be underage as well, her Facebook account hide her friends and age and she never produced any verification of her age. I suspect her to potentially be an admitted student to Oxford for next year.

I hope that you can do something about this clear violation.

I can provide evidence from our conversations.

She has sense blocked me so I wonder what other accounts were caught in her catfish and later blocked.
OxfordThe past two and a half months
4/29/2017 14:26:457202022Mina95Severefake user00
5/9/2017 22:55:14804287KinkyFrequencySevereThis user tried to use his position to intimidate myself and my friend into ignoring safety measures that we institute in a group in order to verify member's ages and that they are who they say they are. He threatened to delete our posting and kick us out of the largest groups for our fetish if we didn't allow him to remain in our group unverified and thus put all of our other users in danger. As he is the owner of two of the largest groups in our fetish and has access to many impressionable individuals I would not be surprised if this was not the first time he used his position to extort non-consensual services out of users especially young women. I would be happy to provide screenshots.KikToday
5/11/2017 20:56:4126771Master_vitoModerateMaster Vito verbally and emotionally abused the submissive by yelling and berating her on several different occasions when she had a question or needed to negotiate. Twice she was hysterically crying, not engaging with him verbally and he did not stop for up to 40 minutes.

He demanded lifestyle protocols from her before she gave consent, and threatened to end it with her if she did not comply.

Berated her for wanting to connect with someone when she was in subspace for the first time ever, after her first public scene with him.

He gaslighted the submissive by blaming her for things she did not do, would not let her make friends when she wanted to connect with other females.

Told her she would not be able to talk to or spend time with established friends anymore.

Told submissive her submissive acts did not count (like walking through a snow storm to see him) because she wanted to do them.
New York CityOngoing from Dec 2015-April 2016
5/19/2017 9:58:35934745phootfreekSeverePhootfreak and his 'play partner' kept on messaging me trying to get me to go a swingers club in Toronto to play with him.

TorontoJanuary 2017
6/4/2017 8:39:554874963Velveteen44Moderate"Yes I'm sorry that I thought you could have a mature conversation. It's hard for me to find doms not because of crass language ( funny when your "gf" has eat my pussy on her bio, classy) but so many ( like you) are doms because they lack confidence in themselves or their masculinity. I have not the time for either. Or they want someone like your girlfriend who is clearly a whore who will write " eat my pussy" on her profile and likes to get gang banged at the age of 19. In the world we call that a whore and no respectable man will marry her but maybe you will because she prompts up your lacking masculinity, you little boy have a lot to learn about the world. Like if your going to lie, make it a lie that can't be easily shown to be such.
No I don't dislike your " gf" or any other girl who's only value is her pussy. I feel pity for them.
I have nothing further to say to you, since I think your account is fake anyway and probably put up by your " gf" so she can say she has a boyfriend. So be well, get tested for std's and don't contact me again. I don't want to have to block you."
OnlineJune 4
6/5/2017 13:47:444882153-DragonsLair- aka TheIglooModeratethe DragonsLair is the same people as the Igloo who a couple years ago thought it would be a bright idea to invite a news reporter to their party without knowledge of the other guests and conducted interviews and took photos and it ended up in the newspaper, painting BDSM in a very negative light. They made a new account as if it would wash away the stain of what they have done.

The owner has a record for criminal assault and abuse
Baltimore Maryland2011 +
6/18/2017 3:37:11422381Dungeonmaster1SevereReal name John, who lives at 39 Neil Crescent, Durham, DH8 4QX. John is such a nasty piece of work that he is banned or unwelcome from most events in the North East and has has had to travel increasing distances to find venues that will put up with his shit. John has now taken the classic banee abuser route of starting his own event.North East and North YorkshireOver a protracted period
6/18/2017 3:38:17619567ThebondagemanSevereReal name John, who lives at 39 Neil Crescent, Durham, DH8 4QX. John is such a nasty piece of work that he is banned or unwelcome from most events in the North East and has has had to travel increasing distances to find venues that will put up with his shit. John has now taken the classic banee abuser route of starting his own event.North East and North YorkshireOver a protracted period
6/25/2017 10:52:29Oronn GannOronn GannSevereRAPISTBaltimore 04/2014
6/25/2017 10:52:42Oronn GannOronn GannSevereRAPISTBaltimore 04/2014
6/26/2017 1:39:374634249IloveTeethMinorThe guy takes over 'fuck or pass' games and if any male goes after him, he instantly posts again right after you and every time he says "not so hot". Most people, to promote a positive community, when faced with having to choose hot or not or fuck or pass with someone of the same sex that they're not attracted to, says nfm for "not for me". It's a polite way of not having to put them down.

So the guy clearly doesn't even look at profiles but just replies again and again until he gets a female to reply after him. It's a small thing, in a petty game, but that's almost what makes it worse. This community is so supportive that it manages to have these otherwise totally demeaning games and turns it into something supportive and nice.

These actions show signs of behavior and a disregard for community that I fear could manifest as much harsher offenses against women. Especially because he so blatantly plays up that hes a dentist and I fear any scene in which he is putting a woman under with the gas.
Drenthe, Netherlands, onlineContinuously but most recently June,26,2017 between 2am-6am
7/2/2017 22:42:22321977jonbravo3ModerateThis man was my Dom of 4 years. The last 6 months he was very abusive without consent. I ended up calling the police twice of obstruction of breathing. The second time, he spent 3 days in jail and has to go to court. This happened 2 times in a month and he also threw me across a room and flipped me over in a chair. I also have cancer, and he was supposedly my caregiver. I don't want anyone else having this happen to them.Dover Plains, NYMay 24, 2017
7/11/2017 6:04:076661855whatsshakingMinorSeems to have put a lot of thought into crafting a message that sounds personal but is actually just generic enough that he can copy paste it to anyone. The fact that within a 48 hour window he was dumb enough or was doing this so rampantly that he could manage to hav forgotten that he sent me that same message literally the night worrying. It's super lame at best. new york city07/10/17
7/14/2017 0:55:391767901Marko3Moderatei told him anal was a hard limit. he stuck something in my ass anyway, while i was tied up, and then told me that it was my fault.chicagooctober 2013
7/17/2017 6:35:0226243Lord_BravenSevere

Open Letter

You’ve been an active member of the Vancouver BDSM community for many years. Many of us have been in your home, or engaged with you at parties. MVK has rented space in your home to host classes. But in light of recent allegations, and particularly your response to them, MVK is terminating its professional relationship with you.

When recent allegations were raised, MVK and other community organizations tried to work with you to address them. Although the original posting contained unsubstantiated claims, in the aftermath, many people came forward with claims that are substantiated, including first person accounts of consent violations, outing, and other serious complaints. Some of these complaints are known to you. Some people choose to remain anonymous, and we respect their wishes.

When confronted with consent violations, you have denied knowledge of the violations, denied being informed of the violation and refused to accept any accountability. You have continued to demonstrate a serious pattern of denial, with no apparent desire or ability to accept any accountability for your own actions. Because of this pattern, MVK will not work with you or recommend you in any professional capacity.
Why an open letter?

Different organizations operate in different ways. We choose to write an open letter for three reasons:

• Due to the severity of the situation, we want to explain our decision-making process to the community to which we are accountable.
• Our concerns about your behavior are serious enough that we cannot in good conscience keep them secret.
• We believe that transparency is the best way to prevent harmful rumors from spreading.
The allegations are serious, credible, and numerous

We have heard numerous reports of problems. Rather than a comprehensive list, we will give representative examples of the allegations. Each of these anonymous sources have been known to us for years and have a history of service in the kink community. We have carefully interviewed them and consider their stories to be credible. In each case, the allegation that you haven’t seen is similar to but more serious than the one you have seen.

• By your own admission, you outed a former partner as kinky to her family, and broadcast her personal and health information to your email list.
• By your own admission, you invited a minor into your home for a BDSM-related discussion. This put every adult in the space at legal risk and violated each of their consent.
• It is alleged that you negotiated for non-sexual service but pushed for oral sex once the person was in a service headspace.
• It is alleged that your mentoring has perpetuated abusive behaviour by teaching abusive behaviour to your mentorees.
• It is alleged that you are running a script on Fetlife to target young women who are new to kink (or collecting this information by some other means that produces the same results) – reaching out to them at their most vulnerable in order to perpetuate the cycle of “fresh meat” through your doors.
• Individuals, particularly inexperienced young women, are being abused at the parties by both yourself and other attendees.

These are serious violations which represent more than simple misunderstanding or miscommunication.
Your responses have been evasive

Members of the community have asked you both in public and in private to address these concerns. Your responses have not been transparent and have not answered the concerns.

Any path to Restorative Justice requires that all parties recognize the issues, admit the problems, and work toward change. We have not seen that in your responses to date. We have seen you make administrative changes to the way you run your parties, but these changes - in particular collecting and holding information on attendees - raise more concerns than they answer because of your history of outing.
What happens now?

MVK is not the kink police, we are a community non-for-profit organization. It is not our place to stop anyone from playing a your home, or with you. But:

• We will not present you or your home as safe for the community;
• We will not rent space in your home;
• We will not allow you to promote your events in our forums;
• We will not allow you to volunteer or teach with us; and
• When asked about you and your events, we will refer people to this letter.

We remain open to Restorative Justice in the future if you decide you’re ready to address and fix the pattern. It’s not enough to look at individual items. We’ve seen and shown you that there is a pattern, and it’s that pattern that must be changed.

We urge you to do the hard work of understanding what went wrong, making it right, and ensuring that the pattern of behaviour changes.

The board of MVK
Vancouver, BC, Canada2000 to Present
7/17/2017 6:39:566842034Braven_ManorSevere

Open Letter

You’ve been an active member of the Vancouver BDSM community for many years. Many of us have been in your home, or engaged with you at parties. MVK has rented space in your home to host classes. But in light of recent allegations, and particularly your response to them, MVK is terminating its professional relationship with you.

When recent allegations were raised, MVK and other community organizations tried to work with you to address them. Although the original posting contained unsubstantiated claims, in the aftermath, many people came forward with claims that are substantiated, including first person accounts of consent violations, outing, and other serious complaints. Some of these complaints are known to you. Some people choose to remain anonymous, and we respect their wishes.

When confronted with consent violations, you have denied knowledge of the violations, denied being informed of the violation and refused to accept any accountability. You have continued to demonstrate a serious pattern of denial, with no apparent desire or ability to accept any accountability for your own actions. Because of this pattern, MVK will not work with you or recommend you in any professional capacity.
Why an open letter?

Different organizations operate in different ways. We choose to write an open letter for three reasons:

• Due to the severity of the situation, we want to explain our decision-making process to the community to which we are accountable.
• Our concerns about your behavior are serious enough that we cannot in good conscience keep them secret.
• We believe that transparency is the best way to prevent harmful rumors from spreading.
The allegations are serious, credible, and numerous

We have heard numerous reports of problems. Rather than a comprehensive list, we will give representative examples of the allegations. Each of these anonymous sources have been known to us for years and have a history of service in the kink community. We have carefully interviewed them and consider their stories to be credible. In each case, the allegation that you haven’t seen is similar to but more serious than the one you have seen.

• By your own admission, you outed a former partner as kinky to her family, and broadcast her personal and health information to your email list.
• By your own admission, you invited a minor into your home for a BDSM-related discussion. This put every adult in the space at legal risk and violated each of their consent.
• It is alleged that you negotiated for non-sexual service but pushed for oral sex once the person was in a service headspace.
• It is alleged that your mentoring has perpetuated abusive behaviour by teaching abusive behaviour to your mentorees.
• It is alleged that you are running a script on Fetlife to target young women who are new to kink (or collecting this information by some other means that produces the same results) – reaching out to them at their most vulnerable in order to perpetuate the cycle of “fresh meat” through your doors.
• Individuals, particularly inexperienced young women, are being abused at the parties by both yourself and other attendees.

These are serious violations which represent more than simple misunderstanding or miscommunication.
Your responses have been evasive

Members of the community have asked you both in public and in private to address these concerns. Your responses have not been transparent and have not answered the concerns.

Any path to Restorative Justice requires that all parties recognize the issues, admit the problems, and work toward change. We have not seen that in your responses to date. We have seen you make administrative changes to the way you run your parties, but these changes - in particular collecting and holding information on attendees - raise more concerns than they answer because of your history of outing.
What happens now?

MVK is not the kink police, we are a community non-for-profit organization. It is not our place to stop anyone from playing a your home, or with you. But:

• We will not present you or your home as safe for the community;
• We will not rent space in your home;
• We will not allow you to promote your events in our forums;
• We will not allow you to volunteer or teach with us; and
• When asked about you and your events, we will refer people to this letter.

We remain open to Restorative Justice in the future if you decide you’re ready to address and fix the pattern. It’s not enough to look at individual items. We’ve seen and shown you that there is a pattern, and it’s that pattern that must be changed.

We urge you to do the hard work of understanding what went wrong, making it right, and ensuring that the pattern of behaviour changes.

The board of MVK
Burnaby/Vanouver, BC, Canada2000 +
8/3/2017 11:41:42TonKerXXXTonKerXXXModerateRepeatedly said no to unwanted sexual contact and he would not listen. He was so intoxicated he had a hard time even balancing. I was also backed into a corner until I was finally able to escape. A get together at their houseJuly 2017
8/3/2017 21:17:51Lust298Lust298ModerateI was hit at the outside party entirely too hard and She did not discuss any limits!outdoor eventJune 24th 2017
8/4/2017 4:39:37WorcesterSadistWorcesterSadistSevereRapeMAAug 1 2017
8/10/2017 12:14:367663248_Sonata_ModerateShe and her friend keep being rude to people and are reporting guys just so they could laugh at themfetlifeaugust 10 2017
9/3/2017 0:35:111585649damnestSevereMy ex which ended our relationship in March 2017, now in September tries very aggressively, manipulatively to come back together. She is threatening me and my family. She broke into my account around two weeks ago without my permission and is trying to ruin my life here also. Stuttgart, Germany24/08/2017
9/30/2017 10:28:102881821MP_PhotoSevereDoes not listen to no, violates consent, etcOregon2016/2017
10/2/2017 8:15:227443789Michael1028SevereMade contact with several personal friends and family not familiar with the lifestyle and outed me and my fetishes to them.
This was done after I confronted her on several instances of cheating.
10/3/2017 23:34:5461962CharmingPredatorSevereHe has recently been publicly outed on fetlife for rape. The post was reported and taken down by fetlife. But before it was, he began publicly shaming the survivor and attacking and publicly naming anyone he could who was supporting the survivor- using full legal names without consent among other bad behaviors. He lacks any humility or accountability and is unsafe in multiple ways especially when challenged.Western Pennsylvania2015
10/31/2017 13:32:2891219GreywolfeModerateGreywolfe will use his persona as a community leader to intimidate people. He will ban new people (women) because they won’t bow down to him. He also posts nasty writings about them. He has also used members real first and last names to other members of the community. Windsor Ontario 2016
12/4/2017 15:39:507813811hairyandrogynbwMinorOpenly transphobic and intentionally misgenders and uses abusive language towards trans women.OnlineDecember 4, 2017
12/19/2017 8:17:562548710LittleMaussMinorMet this individual and played with her at DVS. She was seriously inebriated and did not inform me of this at any point before, during or after play. When I contacted her to let her know I had dropped really badly and needed to discuss that before being open to playing again, she ghosted me. I would really advise tops with any kind of standards to avoid this one.LondonDecember 2017
1/22/2018 4:30:57671952Belle-Moderateme and my friends have attended several of belle's classes. she's poorly prepared. she gets frustrated with questions in class and don't respond respectfuly. she verbally abused me after class for just speaking up. she should not be teaching several places2016-17
3/20/2018 16:29:047575120ssejerehSevereThis one will pretend to be a CD but is actually a punk with friends that is looking to assault potential dates. He will send limited identical photos of an apparent CD/TV but it is not him! The game is to lure you to a part of town by inviting you to a hotel and changing plans.
OttawaMarch 2018
4/14/2018 8:43:410Professor_OniSevere(The accused individual was on Fetlife for a decade. He fled Fetlife when several abuse allegations came forward, but is still active in the community. The following story is available to read on the Fetlife profile of Celestial_Woman.)

I was in an abusive mentorship.

I met my former mentor immediately as I was in the process of leaving a 2-year abusive relationship. What I see now that I failed to see then is that our mentorship was simply another abusive relationship. Unfortunately, he was my first point of contact in the kink community, and for so long, I had no other experience, perspective, or kinky friends to help me understand what was right and wrong. It is clear to see now that this “mentor” exploited my ignorance, insecurities, and trusting nature, and chose me to be his “mentee” because, in my vulnerable state, I was extremely easy to manipulate. I failed to see that not only did he abuse me, but his association with me and inviting me to tag along at events also served a valuable purpose for him: as a young woman, I was a credibility boost, a stamp of approval, that increased his access to victims, namely, other young women.

When we first met, we had a four-hour meet and greet and discussion wherein we outlined the goals of the mentorship. He told me directly that he was attracted to me and would like to have sex with me. I told him I very much appreciated his honesty, but that I didn’t find him attractive, and that I was interested in a purely nonsexual mentorship. He said it would be good for his “growth” to have a nonsexual mentorship, and that other Dominants would have tried to make me their submissive as a way of mentoring me, but that he wasn’t like other Dominants, and he didn’t believe you had to be a submissive before being a Dominant. I was relieved. He very much appeared to accept all boundaries and I felt secure, because I had never felt so free being able to talk about attraction, or lack thereof, without feeling any pressure.

Despite my clearly defined boundaries, my “mentor” spent every day of the next 2.5 years trying to have sex with me. He would use negotiated teaching times as an opportunity to push for breast and genital contact, and when I would get upset, he would lecture me that BDSM should be like playing the saxophone (we both played the alto saxophone), and that the best play was that which was “improvised”. Although I was not interested in him sexually and continued to say “no”, I did not understand my right to my body. Looking back, I see that each time we spent any time together, he would push me farther, past a previously stated boundary, then congratulate me on my progress of moving past “shame” and “vanilla" attitudes.

For example, I would say I only wanted to bottom for ties completely clothed. He would push for me to take off my top, then the next time my pants, saying that rope required nudity and that shame was preventing me from taking my clothes off around him, a trusted friend. He would also touch my nipples without asking and then say it was “vanilla” to see these touches as sexual. I was open with him about both my past and recent trauma right off the bat. Due to him accepting the position as my mentor, I felt safe to share, and figured he would take any information with my best interests in mind. Simply put, I trusted him completely, based on how validated I felt during our very first conversation. I continued to trust him, even as I felt terribly the more time we spent together, because he would give me hugs and smile knowingly and say my breakdowns were a sign of my own “growth”.

In addition to not understanding the rights to my body, I also struggled to parse the difference between teaching moments and play because he said sex and kink were always mixed and those who thought otherwise were in denial. I was turned on by playing with others without sex, but then at other times a nonsexual scene wouldn’t turn me on at all, and this confused me. The more time went on, the less nonsexual play turned me on. He would chastise me for being “romantic” and “picky” and encouraged me to mix sex and kink more and to do as much pick-up play as possible. He said that if I was really a kinkster, my turn ons would come more from the power exchange itself and/or from the sex itself versus the connection to the other person… that “the part of [my] brain that lights up during sex should light up during play”. When I fell “in love” early on with a cute submissive, I declared to my mentor that sex was special to me and that I only wanted to mix sex and play with my submissive. He said that was “dangerous” and recommended I sleep with other people regularly, for my own good.

I told him so many times I did not want to be sexual or intimate with him in any way. I even told him I saw him as a father figure. But as he would continue to ignore my boundaries, I began to figure that I just didn’t understand something about the way this all worked, and he would use his status as a sex educator to undermine my intelligence and play into my self-doubt. He would say he was doing what was best for me as a friend and because he spoke about consent and safety all the time, I would blame myself for “communication failures”, i.e. his sexual assaults of me.

He said being “sexual” was who he was and that not allowing him to “express his sexuality”—in the form of teaching moments going beyond what was negotiated, making sexually and racially offensive jokes, and being naked around me whenever possible—was me acting like “everyone else” and discriminating against him for being “authentic” and “sex positive”. He would also say I was being mean to him for saying I didn’t find him attractive. “Oh come on”, he would complain. And whenever he would say something that would offend me, he would then backtrack and say he was “just a silly old man”. Coming from a relationship of bullying, I see that he played into my fears of not wanting to bully or accidentally discriminate against someone, and used my fears against me in order to get away with disrespecting me.

Now that I am older and have more experience, it is easy to see that instances I chalked up to “miscommunications”, which would leave me in hysterical tears, were carefully orchestrated events by an experienced Top, who used his status as a sex educator to wax poetic about consent and safety, meanwhile doing everything possible to push my boundaries, violate my consent, and, when his frustration mounted, outright sexually assault me. I was a 21-year-old woman with symptoms of PTSD, running from an abusive relationship. He was a 49-year-old sexual predator who saw his chance to mold a puddle of mush into his plaything.

For example, on one instance, approximately a month or so after I met him, I agreed to being shown two specific ties, and to act as bottom for these specific ties. While I was immobilized with my hands and arms tied, he then began “improvising”, and he peeked inside my underwear, tied my genitals, and pulled out his. He then began performing a sexual act that I told him about a few days ago—an emotional confession about this sexual act that I said I enjoyed with my submissive, but also made me feel ashamed. I was completely tied up and said nothing as he moved silently; I later blamed myself for not reminding him once more that I didn’t want to be sexual with him. Then, he re-enacted something that my previous abuser had done to me, which I had also recently shared with him—a confusing instance, I had said, of feeling turned on even as I was being abused. I thought he had asked about my past sexual experiences because he cared about me and was trying to help me do “emotional work”, like he said, but I now realize that he sought this information only to use it against me when he thought my defenses would be down.

After our improvised “scene”, I went home in a dissociated fog. When I returned to his place later, hysterically crying, in a full breakdown, I begged to know why he did that to me. He said I needed to learn to “let go” and submit to him, since that was what it “seemed like” I really wanted. When I fought back, insisting that this feeling did not feel good and that I was not a submissive, I wanted to learn to be a Dom like I had always said from the beginning, he finally admitted that he took advantage of me and that he could tell I was confused, in an altered head space, and didn’t know what was going on. But, he said, “coerced consent is still consent”. He also said that people consent to “the space”, as opposed to specific activities. He said BDSM was like a dance and that the top should move freely and if they step in a way the bottom doesn’t like, it’s up to the bottom to stop the scene. Though I held it against him throughout the duration of our mentorship, when I would confess to others about what happened, I would blame myself. “Personal responsibility”, I would state, parroting my former mentor’s words. When people would express concern about how he responded to my pain over this incident, I would say, “I’m an adult and my ‘fefes’ aren’t anyone else’s problem”, like he taught me to say. He would bring up the incident around others and tell them my response to it was an example of “emotional maturity”.

Looking back, at this time, I reflect on my trauma, how little I knew about consent, and how aware he was of this. I also reflect on how what happened was never supposed to be anything but a negotiated teaching moment; it was not supposed to be play in any way, shape, or form. I reflect on how aware my former mentor was that I was a complete newbie, who didn’t know that things were not supposed to be re-negotiated in the middle of scene. However, things were not even re-negotiated; my former mentor would simply involve breast and genital play silently while I was immobilized. He also did not discuss a safe word at any time. He never taught me about “green”, “yellow”, or “red”, even though he had secret intent to play and have sex. I also reflect on how, one evening, at a hotel during a convention, after I told him "no" several times, I woke up in the middle of the night to find his bare hand grabbing my genitals. I was so used to his violations as simply a fact of life that I just pushed him away. The next morning, he chuckled and said, “Sorry I molested you”. I thought to myself that it wasn’t real assault because if he really wanted to, he could have overpowered me and touched me more anyway. I reflect on how this “mentor” knew I was a forgiving and wounded person, and how he knew that my brain would not see his actions as abuse due to the nature of the abuse I just escaped from.

There is no excuse for a Top and sex educator with 10+ years of experience to behave this way. With this information, can we say, with confidence, that he “means no harm”, as he says in every apology? What if I told you that he has had allegations of sexual assault following him in every city he has visited for the past decade? What if I told you he was suspended from his day job and ordered to take sexual harassment classes for allegations of sexual harassment? How many “miscommunications” with how many different people can someone be given the benefit of the doubt for? Would you be surprised to know he is still teaching about consent and safety all across the world?

For my association with him, I can’t begin to say how sorry I am. I see that he used traumatic bonding early on in the mentorship to attach me to him and take the place of my former abuser, while positioning himself as my savior. Thankfully, finally experiencing actual love and care in a new relationship with an ethical Dominant helped me see that my “mentor” was manipulating me. Seeing his behavior with two other newbies and their subsequent breakdowns was also very illuminating to me, and helped me see that this was all part of his abusive pattern and has helped me feel less ashamed.

“If I’m a rapist, then I’m the best rapist ever, because they keep coming back.” –my former mentor

Please note: This is not the whole story that spans across 2.5 years. It focuses on his sexual abuse specifically, although it does not include all instances of sexual abuse by him. It does not include all of his extensive mental and emotional manipulation. It does not include anyone else’s experience with him, though I am aware and have spoken to three of his other victims, and know of six other reports against him. The true number of cases may be much, much higher.

I was in an abusive mentorship. Now, I am free.

Albuquerque, New Mexico, USAMay 2015-October 2017
4/25/2018 1:28:177375375374534975sjhgdjojvpMinorskdhfdosaho vvodhg hsoiaghoahdfshgw13/12/2020
5/9/2018 11:39:49305209XenitH_686SevereFormerly Xenith_Sanguine.

He outright says that some play needs to non-negotiated because it's the only way for bottoms to learn certain lessons. He says that consent can “get in the way” of teaching someone something.

I don’t want to give the personal details of my story because I don’t want to be identified. But I was new to BDSM when I met him and he used my ignorance to manipulate me into thinking I didn’t have a right to hard limits…and that Doms decide what hard limits a submissive should have because “Doms know best”. He also used subtle put-downs and passive-aggressive statements to lower my self-esteem. He was easily offended too and I had to apologize to him several times for not respecting his Domliness or having too much of a personality, or having too many opinions of my own that he didn’t agree with.

When I twould try to talk about things with him, he would belittle me and reference PRICK. For example, when he violated my hard limit, I said “That made me feel really angry” and he smiled condescendingly and say, “I didn’t “make” you feel anything. Own your feelings.” “This is what personal responsibility means”.

He claims to use “mental bondage” on people. He also claims to know the “one true way”. Like many abusers in this lifestyle, he is good with words and hides his abuse behind life philosophies and intellectual exercises.
5/9/2018 12:09:004406622al_laiSevereThis couple tricked me into being part of their threesome. Things started off ok and sexy, but I was a little nervous because it was my first time and told them so. The male partner seemed angry that I wanted to play with her instead of him, but I thought maybe I was imagining that. Things changed drastically when the male partner went for anal sex. The woman said it was hurting her and yelled at him to stop. He became extremely angry and left the room.

The woman then told me she was in an abusive relationship and begged me to save her. She would scream and kick off her partner, who would leave the room in a huff, then return and penetrate her some more while she cried. I asked her what her safe word was and she said she didn’t have one.

I was completely freaked out and didn’t know what to do except stay by her side and participate in the scene to please the male partner. She begged me not to leave her. When he was out of the room, she said she was trying to escape the relationship but didn’t have any friends or anywhere to go.

He eventually didn’t come back to the room, and went to sleep on the couch, at which point I left, promising the woman that we would make a plan. I told her I had been in this kind of relationship before and that I would help her.

The next day she texted me saying sorry things got "weird", but everything was consensual and it was all part of their consensual non-consent fantasy. At no time did they negotiate kink play or consensual non-consent play with me.
Albuquerque, NM2016
5/10/2018 11:50:388257618KnotSnowWhite AKA KittiDarling AKA KATELYN ZUGEL / KATELYN KENITZ / KATELYN HIGGSSevereMultiple domestic violence incidents with criminal convictions (8th District Court Michigan), multiple stalking incidents with criminal convictions (8th District Court Michigan), multiple consent violations, has outed people to law enforcement as a revenge tactic. Has outed local community locations to law enforcement when she is banned.

User has created a new account to attempt to evade reports. Old user ID 6154018
Michigan2010-2017 Ongoing
5/13/2018 12:13:03XD DSevereHis method of operation is to meet very young women, usually on vanilla dating websites. He wows them with consensual talk and negotiations and builds trust because he comes across like one of the good guys because he’s a sex educator. He then gets them to agree to a nonsexual rope scene or offers to show them some neat shibari. And vanilla women are eager because they’ve never heard of or done anything like this before or been around a man who seems so safe.

He then gets them into advanced rope ties and/or suspensions for prolonged periods of time. This is where everything goes wrong/according to his plan. Because the women get disoriented due to being tied for hours. And since they’re inexperienced, they don’t know their limits. He exploits this. When they’re confused and woozy from being upside down, etc he takes advantage of them.

Or they get lost in subspace which they don’t understand because they’re inexperienced and also because he conveniently doesn’t tell them about it. Using subspace as a cover, he takes advantage of them.

Or they have a trauma flashback—because he likes to play with women that have been previously abused—and that is when he takes advantage of them. He later will say he was trying to help them work through something.

I walked in on him making sexual advances on someone (total newbie- first timer, first event, first scene) who was shaking with tears down her face because she was having a flashback of her rape in the middle of the scene. He looked like the person that had raped her. She said out loud she was having a flashback and he pushed for the scene to continue instead of stopping it immediately.

He will tell any lie or make up any story after the fact to cover for his behavior. Do not believe him. He is a smooth talking liar and knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s a divorced alcoholic who hides behind his fake “Professor” persona and takes his insecurities from erectile dysfunction out on women. Even his friends say he is an abuser.

I do not doubt he plays with some people consensually and/or nonsexually. He plays properly with women who have been established in the scene for some time and know better and/or with women who don’t meet his requirements for sex (he has a list of preferences required for women he has sex with- for example- must have piercings, tattoos, be a B cup, be a certain height and weight- this list used to be posted on Fetlife).

He literally has dozens of accusers coming from all the places he’s taught at. He is the BDSM version of Bill Cosby and his time is up.
Florida, USA2017
5/13/2018 12:40:27XProfessor OniSevereHad to repost because name didn’t copy.

His method of operation is to meet very young women, usually on vanilla dating websites. He wows them with consensual talk and negotiations and builds trust because he comes across like one of the good guys because he’s a sex educator. He then gets them to agree to a nonsexual rope scene or offers to show them some neat shibari. And vanilla women are eager because they’ve never heard of or done anything like this before or been around a man who seems so safe.

He then gets them into advanced rope ties and/or suspensions for prolonged periods of time. This is where everything goes wrong/according to his plan. Because the women get disoriented due to being tied for hours. And since they’re inexperienced, they don’t know their limits. He exploits this. When they’re confused and woozy from being upside down, etc he takes advantage of them.

Or they get lost in subspace which they don’t understand because they’re inexperienced and also because he conveniently doesn’t tell them about it. Using subspace as a cover, he takes advantage of them.

Or they have a trauma flashback—because he likes to play with women that have been previously abused—and that is when he takes advantage of them. He later will say he was trying to help them work through something.

I walked in on him making sexual advances on someone (total newbie- first timer, first event, first scene) who was shaking with tears down her face because she was having a flashback of her rape in the middle of the scene. He looked like the person that had raped her. She said out loud she was having a flashback and he pushed for the scene to continue instead of stopping it immediately.

He will tell any lie or make up any story after the fact to cover for his behavior. Do not believe him. He is a smooth talking liar and knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s a divorced alcoholic who hides behind his fake “Professor” persona and takes his insecurities from erectile dysfunction out on women. Even his friends say he is an abuser.

I do not doubt he plays with some people consensually and/or nonsexually. He plays properly with women who have been established in the scene for some time and know better and/or with women who don’t meet his requirements for sex (he has a list of preferences required for women he has sex with- for example- must have piercings, tattoos, be a B cup, be a certain height and weight- this list used to be posted on Fetlife).

He literally has dozens of accusers coming from all the places he’s taught at. He is the BDSM version of Bill Cosby and his time is up.
Florida, USA2017
5/13/2018 12:41:08XProfessor OniSeverePROFESSOR ONI

His method of operation is to meet very young women, usually on vanilla dating websites. He wows them with consensual talk and negotiations and builds trust because he comes across like one of the good guys because he’s a sex educator. He then gets them to agree to a nonsexual rope scene or offers to show them some neat shibari. And vanilla women are eager because they’ve never heard of or done anything like this before or been around a man who seems so safe.

He then gets them into advanced rope ties and/or suspensions for prolonged periods of time. This is where everything goes wrong/according to his plan. Because the women get disoriented due to being tied for hours. And since they’re inexperienced, they don’t know their limits. He exploits this. When they’re confused and woozy from being upside down, etc he takes advantage of them.

Or they get lost in subspace which they don’t understand because they’re inexperienced and also because he conveniently doesn’t tell them about it. Using subspace as a cover, he takes advantage of them.

Or they have a trauma flashback—because he likes to play with women that have been previously abused—and that is when he takes advantage of them. He later will say he was trying to help them work through something.

I walked in on him making sexual advances on someone (total newbie- first timer, first event, first scene) who was shaking with tears down her face because she was having a flashback of her rape in the middle of the scene. He looked like the person that had raped her. She said out loud she was having a flashback and he pushed for the scene to continue instead of stopping it immediately.

He will tell any lie or make up any story after the fact to cover for his behavior. Do not believe him. He is a smooth talking liar and knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s a divorced alcoholic who hides behind his fake “Professor” persona and takes his insecurities from erectile dysfunction out on women. Even his friends say he is an abuser.

I do not doubt he plays with some people consensually and/or nonsexually. He plays properly with women who have been established in the scene for some time and know better and/or with women who don’t meet his requirements for sex (he has a list of preferences required for women he has sex with- for example- must have piercings, tattoos, be a B cup, be a certain height and weight- this list used to be posted on Fetlife).

He literally has dozens of accusers coming from all the places he’s taught at. He is the BDSM version of Bill Cosby and his time is up.
Florida, USA2017
5/13/2018 18:57:104882069CountryGirlCDSevereAsking for opiodsonlinemay 13
5/27/2018 8:26:558421869MistressCrow20Moderatefindoms are banned from FL. so kick her out of here. FLMay 26, 2018
6/29/2018 11:14:02Professor_OniProfessor OniSevereIs now posting revenge porn on Twitter of some of his victims who reported him.USA2015, 2016, 2017
7/22/2018 11:32:09679683ExhumeMinorHe did not physically harm me because of distance but you're asking for a geographic location. We are close friends and had been discussing BDSM. I'm afraid he would hurt someone because he believes slaves aren't allowed to have safe words and in that way doesn't practice SSC - Safe Sane and Consensual.WisconsinJuly 22, 2018 at 12:30 AM
8/12/2018 12:48:088342519nerdydom2Severei was lured under the guise of a friendly meeting and i was drugged and rapedpalm coast floridaaugust 8th at 9PM
9/2/2018 14:56:55124773MisterViciousSevere- coerced submissive(s) to engage in activities that were clearly stated as hard limits
- stated that he "wants to feel like he is killing his submissives"
- intentionally drugged (a) submissive(s) before intense bdsm scenes
- intentionally crossed boundaries that he and a submissive previously agreed upon, and shamed the sub for "not having stronger boundaries" after he violated them
- anally raped a submissive in a scene during which the sub was fully restrained, intoxicated, clearly dissociated, and the discussion before the scene included NO mention of or consent to the sexual act
- refused to participate in aftercare, and verbally shamed his submissive when asked to do so
- during a conversation that was a NOT a bdsm scene, he verbally abused a submissive until they cried and then choked them out while they were hyperventilating. he ignored all safewords and continued choking, because he was angry at the sub for not performing sexually and for being emotional
- when confronted, tried to diagnose or accuse his submissive of having a mental disorder, to avoid responsibility for his actions
- describes himself as a "predator" in what appears to be a joking way, but truly is quite literal
- seeks to re-enact his own childhood abuse by abusing submissives in the same way he was abused, as a compulsive attempted coping mechanism to escape from his ptsd symptoms/to transfer his emotional burden onto unsuspecting people who mistakenly trust him
Portland, OR2015
10/3/2018 19:05:08Professor_OniProfessor_OniSevereProfessor Oni is the audiologist Brad Ingrao. Worldwide10+ years
12/4/2018 6:30:554317453Cepheid_VarModerateI was discharged from a psych hospital about a week after a serious suicide attempt into this guy's care. He coerced/manipulated me into sex within days of my discharge (basically saying that I was depressed because of my sexual hangups and I'd feel better if I got over them). I was a virgin at the time. Also made me watch him have sex with my friend leading up to this-- stopped me at the door when I got up to leave the room and insisted that I stay (I lost my housing when I tried to kill myself and was completely dependent on him). He also pinned me down and shoved his erection in my face in this time when this hadn't been previously discussed... he knew I had had previous sexual trauma. The day after he coerced me into sex, I came to him to tell him I was going to kill myself, and he went through my plan with me to make sure it wouldn't get him in trouble, then told me he wouldn't stop me.New JerseyNovember 2015
12/12/2018 0:17:5498308-TopJoshSevereThis man was convicted of assaulting a child. He pled from sexual assault of a minor to an assault conviction of a minor. FetLife only takes action if convicted of sexual assaultIn a school in Maryland2015
1/8/2019 14:57:595281903Tanyawrestler1SevereHad a private conversation. Photos were obviously of different people. When asked for specific poses/facial expressions could not provide them.

Was asking to "wrestler her man without meeting her and then win her." This is a predator who is trying to trick guys into meeting him and being physical with him.

Looked at other postings this person had done and others reported similar experiences of a fake.
Lancashire, UKJanuary 8th, 2019
1/21/2019 13:08:117314991silvertroubadourModerateI contacted this person for a one-time online play session. During pre-scene discussion, he got the impression I was interested in a relationship, which I was not. After declining, he began to throw subtle insults at me. After I got tired of the games he was playing, I told him not to contact me and blocked him. He then proceeded to harass me, sending me half a dozen emails. I told him I was not interested in anything to do with him and to leave me alone. He then began to threaten me. screenshots of the emails.
OnlineJan 22 2018
8/16/2019 13:40:059751911SirDominusDModerateLied about age. Didn't establish safeword/was gagged after safeword established without physical "stop" sign being set. Consensual non-con was not established, so "no" and "stop" meant exactly that (also due to lack of safe word). Denied requests to take a break from rough scene.San FranciscoJuly 2019
8/23/2019 2:56:46000Professor OniSevereProfessor Oni is Brad Ingrao, the creepy photographer behind INKEDividuals. Beware everyone, this predator has NOT left the community, he has just taken a new name!EverywhereOngoing