Posts Tagged ‘abuse culture’

More on “The Match Percentage Fallacy, or, the influence of rolequeerness on the Predator Alert Tool project”

thebrightobvious: idlnmclean: maymay: […prior discussion truncated…] It deconstructs reified institutions and intuitions by applied and analytical philosophy. Very quick, very informal comment: let’s connect the “social justice as melodrama” concept to game theory. My explication probably will be flawed, so feel free to critique it. Interacting in mainstream society can be thought of as a […]

Jian Ghomeshi is irrelevant. What matters instead is continually denying that BDSM is abuse.

fieldofyellowdandelions asked: Do you have any thoughts on Jian Ghomeshi? I’ve had two conversations in the past week about him. In the first, a friend and I were talking about abuse and consent violations within the BDSM community, the “it’s not BDSM if it’s abuse” mentality and BDSM being a fertilization of abuse. In the […]

Brainwave [discussing one problem with “Social Justice as Melodrama”]

cool-yubari: maymay: [This post and previous discussion truncated.] since I make clear that they can not actually cripple me with self-doubt, they do everything they can to cripple others with self-doubt. This forces me and mine to defend not only against the infliction of direct challenges to our senses of self, but to (over-)extend ourselves […]

It’s not about you: beyond “kink-shaming” (via FeministCurrent)

feministcurrent: Let’s just start by saying this: I really don’t care about ‘kink’ or about ‘kinky people’. It just doesn’t interest me. I don’t give a shit about your leather fetish. Really. But because I recently dared to suggest that RCMP officer Jim Brown’s sadomasochistic behaviour might, just might, be related to the fact that […]

“you don’t have to contribute the parts of your story that are yours and no one else’s”

If you’ve been following the development of a communal space for discussions about rolequeerness, you will probably have seen some very public conflict. It’s sad but not surprising that what began as a space for Submissive solidarity and radical collective healing action quickly came under explicit and implicit attack by the blunted tip of familiar […]

Do you feel safe around people who adamantly deny the possibility that they could ever do abusive things?

emotionalexhib: On Rolequeerness – “sharpening the blade” maymay: I originally wrote the following as a reblog/comment on rolequeer‘s post, “On Rolequeerness – “blunting the tip”, but since apparently beyondthevalleyofthefemdoms is still using the #rolequeer tag despite saying they were not going to anymore, and since reblogs do not show up in Tumblr’s tracked tags, I […]

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