Posts Tagged ‘abuse’

You might be a rapist if it never occurs to you that rape is something you’re capable of.

perksofbeingaqueermo: You Can Take It Back: Consent as a Felt Sense « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed “We also consider how our relationship to consent changes when we acknowledge that whether a person actually feels violated is more important than whether they expected to feel violated.” So relate to this. It’s really rewarding to see references to Consent […]

Do you feel safe around people who adamantly deny the possibility that they could ever do abusive things?

emotionalexhib: On Rolequeerness – “sharpening the blade” maymay: I originally wrote the following as a reblog/comment on rolequeer‘s post, “On Rolequeerness – “blunting the tip”, but since apparently beyondthevalleyofthefemdoms is still using the #rolequeer tag despite saying they were not going to anymore, and since reblogs do not show up in Tumblr’s tracked tags, I […]

“D/s dynamic” is BDSM code for “be grateful when I rape you”

Stripped of its cultural dressage, identifying as a sadomasochistic “Dominant” (a “Dom”) is, at its core, a claim that you expect others to be grateful to you for violating their consent. While there are certainly some situations in which gratitude may be a legit reaction someone has to experiencing a consent violation, presupposing that this […]

“Submission lies at the heart of what makes sex good. It’s possible to have sex without domination.”

If Alice uses Bob for her sexual gratification, there is nothing she can do to make that objectification right. Bob and Bob alone has that power. In my mind, submission isn’t just some kink that some people have. Submission is the voluntary use of one’s own power to become the means to someone else’s end. […]

The creep checking out your dating profile is a cop who used DMV records to see your home address

Dating on Duty: Officers Accused Of Screening Dates Using Police System: [Court documents] alleged that both [Fairfield Police Officers] Ruiz and Glashoff found women’s profiles had been browsing women on dating websites like Tinder, eHarmony, and while working at the investigations bureau office of the Fairfield Police Department[. …T]he officers then used a police-issued […]

“Consent as a Felt Sense” is not about law, so why does everyone keep talking about The Law?

I want to clarify something. But, since every time I speak publicly certain people deem it their personal moral crusade to deliberately misinterpret and decontextualize what I have to say, I’m going to let this other blog post written by this other person clarify for me: My friends Unquietpirate and Maymay wrote this controversy-provoking article, […]

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