Posts Tagged ‘BDSM is abuse’

Let’s get one thing clear: Predator Alert Tool is not run by nor does it support sadomasochists.

Note: I originally wrote this as a reblog of the post quoted below, but I want to ensure it shows up in Tumblr’s tracked tags and search results, so I’m cross-posting it from my blog using Tumblr Crosspostr, again. birdsy-purplefishes: Seeing a “predator alert tool” for social media sites run by kinksters is like seeing […]

Sensation, Story, and Felt Sense: Rolequeer and BDSM do not mix

I was very pleased to see that the 8 colorful Venn diagrams I made explaining how BDSM is, by definition, rooted in abuse quickly spread across Tumblr. Predictably, however, a lot of people who objected did so on the basis that their special-snowflake BDSM relationships were not abuse and how dare I suggest such a […]

It’s not about you: beyond “kink-shaming” (via FeministCurrent)

feministcurrent: Let’s just start by saying this: I really don’t care about ‘kink’ or about ‘kinky people’. It just doesn’t interest me. I don’t give a shit about your leather fetish. Really. But because I recently dared to suggest that RCMP officer Jim Brown’s sadomasochistic behaviour might, just might, be related to the fact that […]

“you don’t have to contribute the parts of your story that are yours and no one else’s”

If you’ve been following the development of a communal space for discussions about rolequeerness, you will probably have seen some very public conflict. It’s sad but not surprising that what began as a space for Submissive solidarity and radical collective healing action quickly came under explicit and implicit attack by the blunted tip of familiar […]

Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid now warns of abusive dominants, like Jian Ghomeshi

I am happy to announce that I have just released an update to the Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid, bringing it up to version 0.5.3. This version fixes a few bugs in its auto-update functionality and, importantly, adds new red-flag questions to the default questionnaire in order to help users better protect themselves against predatory […]

There’s only one thing you need to know about the anti-rolequeer backlash

Here is the most recent example of how the “anti-rolequeers” talk about abuse: these [rolequeer] people are dangerous abusers pushing an interpretation of the acceptability of violence that only serves abusers, using rationalizing language that in my experience is exclusive to abusers, and whatdoyouknow they have a history of being accused of being abusers (Emphasis […]

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