Posts Tagged ‘BDSM’

Dear Lori Adorable, regurgitating sex-positive cliches is cowardly denialism of abusive BDSM

theotherside-205 asked: (1 of 2) I want to say thank you for your commentary on the post pathologizing survivors who engage in kink. I started following you yesterday because I’d been triggered by a lot of posts on my dash about how kink is inherently problematic, sometimes adding, “But I guess I don’t hate survivors […]

Exposing corruption requires the ability to see patterns

There’s an interesting discussion happening over on the rolequeer blog called “Decolonizing Kink?” in which a few folks who are sick and tired of the overt racism and other bigotry teeming from within the rotten core of the BDSM and fetish “community” are talking about what, if anything, can be done about it. Regular readers […]

HowTo: Download a complete copy of any FetLife user’s posts, pictures, comments, and other activity using the FetLife Export wizard

Quite a few years ago, when I was much younger and still naively believed the BDSM, fetish, and leather subcultures deserved any respect, I saw the writing on the wall and wrote an essay titled “FetLife Considered Harmful,” in which I argued that this subculture’s digital poster boy, FetLife.com, was “the worst of both worlds” […]

Invasion of the Spicy Vanillas

rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: I am dying with laughter. Wasteland, Europe’s biggest fetish party that advertises as ‘the wildest party on earth’ halted the sale of tickets for their 2015 party to keep out ‘housewives in jeans who read Fifty Shades of Grey’.  Their public statement that their party is about ‘a lifestyle’ that […]

Some unsolicited advice to dominants [power can not exist in a vacuum]

rolequeer: rolequeer: I don’t believe ethical domination is possible. But if I had to give a dominant who absolutely refuses to quit the game one bit of advice about how to make domination less unethical, that one piece of advice would be: DON’T. DATE. SUBMISSIVES. Seriously, submissives are people who are willingly vulnerable, who face […]

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