Posts Tagged ‘culture’

Rolequeerness and Felt-Consent have escaped the filter bubble

R. Foxtale found the loveliest thing! :) In a /r/Anarchism discussion of Liberating Ourselves in the Boudoir: An Anarcha-Feminist Perspective Against BDSM, user ErnieMaclan put together this fabulous overview of some key ideas in rolequeer theory, with excerpts and everything I’ve already covered how the ideas in one of our earliest essays, consent as a […]

A short etymological exploration of consent, or, Contractual consent and the privatization of experience

I was curious about the etymology of “contract” after remembering that the etymology of “consent” is actually literally “to feel together,” itself a formulation of the Latin “con-” prefix (meaning “with”) and “sentire” (meaning “to feel”). Contract, perhaps unsurprisingly, is much more direct. It is from the Latin “contractus,” which means exactly the same thing […]

Remember, remember.

I met Staci Newmahr shortly after I turned 18. At that time, the pseudo-public playspaces and “dungeons” of the early 2000’s S&M subculture defined “young” as “anyone who was not yet 40 years old, or 35 at least.” Despite being about a decade my senior, Staci (who would go on to author a widely acclaimed […]

Let’s get one thing clear: Predator Alert Tool is not run by nor does it support sadomasochists.

Note: I originally wrote this as a reblog of the post quoted below, but I want to ensure it shows up in Tumblr’s tracked tags and search results, so I’m cross-posting it from my blog using Tumblr Crosspostr, again. birdsy-purplefishes: Seeing a “predator alert tool” for social media sites run by kinksters is like seeing […]

What happens when a healthcare company’s employee takes down a rape survivor support site?

No, really. What does happen when an employee of a healthcare company attacks a website used by rape survivors to support one another? It’s not a hypothetical question. That actually happened. As I wrote earlier: Due to a deliberate and sustained denial-of-service attack by a FetLife user, the Predator Alert Tool for FetLife reporting mechanism […]

“Consent as a Felt Sense” is not about law, so why does everyone keep talking about The Law?

I want to clarify something. But, since every time I speak publicly certain people deem it their personal moral crusade to deliberately misinterpret and decontextualize what I have to say, I’m going to let this other blog post written by this other person clarify for me: My friends Unquietpirate and Maymay wrote this controversy-provoking article, […]

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