Posts Tagged ‘kink shaming’

Invasion of the Spicy Vanillas

rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: I am dying with laughter. Wasteland, Europe’s biggest fetish party that advertises as ‘the wildest party on earth’ halted the sale of tickets for their 2015 party to keep out ‘housewives in jeans who read Fifty Shades of Grey’.  Their public statement that their party is about ‘a lifestyle’ that […]

It’s not about you: beyond “kink-shaming” (via FeministCurrent)

feministcurrent: Let’s just start by saying this: I really don’t care about ‘kink’ or about ‘kinky people’. It just doesn’t interest me. I don’t give a shit about your leather fetish. Really. But because I recently dared to suggest that RCMP officer Jim Brown’s sadomasochistic behaviour might, just might, be related to the fact that […]

“you don’t have to contribute the parts of your story that are yours and no one else’s”

If you’ve been following the development of a communal space for discussions about rolequeerness, you will probably have seen some very public conflict. It’s sad but not surprising that what began as a space for Submissive solidarity and radical collective healing action quickly came under explicit and implicit attack by the blunted tip of familiar […]

How to have hot, kinky sex with other Submissives without inviting a Dom

FRIEND: Reading the blog posts [about rolequeerness] have also given me a glimpse into the problem I have with so much of the BDSM Scene. Like when I hear one submissive say they couldn’t play with another submissive because they wouldn’t take the lead. I always asked myself, “wait, what? Why?” ME: Oh that was […]

“D/s dynamic” is BDSM code for “be grateful when I rape you”

Stripped of its cultural dressage, identifying as a sadomasochistic “Dominant” (a “Dom”) is, at its core, a claim that you expect others to be grateful to you for violating their consent. While there are certainly some situations in which gratitude may be a legit reaction someone has to experiencing a consent violation, presupposing that this […]

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