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Rolequeerness and Felt-Consent have escaped the filter bubble

08 Jul 2015 at 17:09

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R. Foxtale found the loveliest thing! :) In a /r/Anarchism discussion of Liberating Ourselves in the Boudoir: An Anarcha-Feminist Perspective Against BDSM, user ErnieMaclan put together this fabulous overview of some key ideas in rolequeer theory, with excerpts and everything I’ve already covered how the ideas in one of our earliest essays, consent as a […]

According to their customer records, FetLife is a porn site, not a social network, whose paying customers are 13 times more likely to be rapists than non-paying users

23 May 2015 at 13:47

maymay

Politics of sex

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There was a predictable outcry from pro-BDSM bloggers like Rebecca Hiles when the “FetLife Meat List,” a simple spreadsheet cataloging the FetLife usernames and basic profile info of 30,000 users who identified themselves as female and under 30 years old, was released. But as usual, all Social Justice Warrior rhetoric condemning the list was shortsighted […]

Remember, remember.

01 Apr 2015 at 19:18

maymay

Personal history, Politics of sex

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I met Staci Newmahr shortly after I turned 18. At that time, the pseudo-public playspaces and “dungeons” of the early 2000’s S&M subculture defined “young” as “anyone who was not yet 40 years old, or 35 at least.” Despite being about a decade my senior, Staci (who would go on to author a widely acclaimed […]

Invasion of the Spicy Vanillas

27 Feb 2015 at 17:49

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Community, Politics of sex, Stupid dominants

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rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: themerrymisnomer: rolequeer: I am dying with laughter. Wasteland, Europe’s biggest fetish party that advertises as ‘the wildest party on earth’ halted the sale of tickets for their 2015 party to keep out ‘housewives in jeans who read Fifty Shades of Grey’. Their public statement that their party is about ‘a lifestyle’ that […]

It’s not about you: beyond “kink-shaming” (via FeministCurrent)

04 Nov 2014 at 18:22

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BDSM in the media, Myths and misconceptions, Politics of sex

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feministcurrent: Letâ€™s just start by saying this: I really donâ€™t care about â€˜kinkâ€™ or about â€˜kinky peopleâ€™. It just doesnâ€™t interest me. I donâ€™t give a shit about your leather fetish. Really. But because I recently dared to suggest that RCMP officer Jim Brownâ€™s sadomasochistic behaviour might, just might, be related to the fact that […]

How to have hot, kinky sex with other Submissives without inviting a Dom

06 Sep 2014 at 15:23

maymay

Personal experience, Politics of sex

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FRIEND: Reading the blog posts [about rolequeerness] have also given me a glimpse into the problem I have with so much of the BDSM Scene. Like when I hear one submissive say they couldn’t play with another submissive because they wouldn’t take the lead. I always asked myself, “wait, what? Why?” ME: Oh that was […]